Listen to your gut. Something happened there. All the signs.
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If you have to ask, the answer is yes
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Someone would have got they ass beat 
Nope not over thinking it!
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I woulda been throwing hands tbh
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Sit them both down together and talk about it. Ask questions. See what their reaction is when together. Tell them how you feel.
Everyone saying that youāre jumping to conclusions is just naive. You obviously do trust him, or you wouldnāt have left them alone. I sure wouldnāt expect to wake up and find my husband or bestie in that position.
Unfortunately your instincts probably have some foundation here.
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I think you know the answer already bc even if he thought,she knew
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Maybe not drinking so much that yāall donāt have recollection of events, start there.
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No just ask ur know the way they answer
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Nah, he knows where his bed is. Something weird was going on and they fell asleep.
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I would sit down with both of them and talk. Honestly they could have been sitting there talking and fell asleep if yāall was as drunk as you say. I get comfortable I aināt moving and since yāall hold hands it could just be muscle memory. But honestly there is no telling unless you talk to them and listen to your instincts if you feel they are lying then address it.
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Oh no girl somethingās wrong with that what the hell
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Personally, if youāve never had an issue or concern about it before, and you trust them both. I would sit down and talk to them. I do agree itās a little odd but itās also possible they were just drunk, hanging out and both passed out. The holding hands is odd but if he was drunk and asleep, it may have just been a force of habit and neither of them realized.
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LISTEN TO YOUR GUT!! End of night SHE LEAVES but NEVER LEAVE ALONE
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Trust your gut feeling!!!
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Yes I would have weird feelings about it too
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Cut her off donāt allow her to come to your house anymore
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Hell my sister went to bed w my husband
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Not overthinking at all
Follow your gut
Yes and no. Stay sober, limit visits Stay awake. Wait and see Under the circumstances when liquor was involved
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Hell no. Iād ask. Just because sheās your best friend doesnāt mean she wonāt do it to you ā¦ Iāve learned that the hard way about 3 times nowā¦ trust your gut.
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Oooh trust that gut feeling
Not acceptable at all I would b fighting a bitch if she ever held hands with my husband idgas who she is a friend, my sister anyone that shit will not ever fly with me my husband comes to bed with me weather Iām ready to lay down or not
Whatās your gut tell ya?
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Bye bye best friend and husband
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My question is how they ended up laying together like that though? Like personally, if I was at a friends house and was drinking and their husband passed out on a sectional, Iād be sleeping in a recliner, crawling into bed with my friend or putting my feet towards my friends man. Idk, just me. Iād feel weird about that too. But I would talk to your friend and your man about it and see what they have to say about it.
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Oh hell no Iād ask her too
Thatās disrespectful
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If they had just fallen asleep on the couch together at opposite sides thatās one thing. But together and holding hands. Thatās weird
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Next time pretend your drunk and go to bed and let them think your asleep and see if he thinks it was you again 
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Even your BEST friend will stab you straight in the back. Believe me. Trust your gut.
Are you that global drunk or not you know who she was
Iāve been blackout drunk and never once climbed into bed (couch, whatever) with someone elseās SO. Thatās weird.
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Have her come over have some drinks.Just watch how much you drink act like nothing is wrong.Sit back and watch.
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Donāt trust NO woman around ur man. NO WOMAN OR MAN THESE DAYS. 
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Alcohol or no alcohol involved my husband would of went straight to bed with me.I know you thought you could trust her with her being your friend that long. But let me tell you some so called friends aināt nothing but snakes in the grass and they would be the first to strike and bite. But always trust your gut this is fishy just my opinion and me personally my butt would of probably already been in jail. I hate you are going through this. I hope it all works out.
Lay on his chest and ask him about it. If he gets nervous or anything his heart rate will go up same thing if you and your friend lay on each other (not sure what best friends do nowadays cus I donāt have one) but it couldnāt hurt to try. Itās disrespectful on her end and I feel like he could be telling the truth.
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Wtf? I would raise hell!! Thatās a red flag right there. You know damn well youāre not in bed with me & holding this other bitches hand? & laying with her? Fuck that! Get out! 
Trust your gut! If that were my husband and best friendā¦you better believe it would have been WWIII in my house that next morning.
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Donāt close your eyes, always be alert.
End all that !! Before you regret itā¦
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Yeah something is definitely wrong with this situation. You are right, something happened. Start making plans to leave
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Sheās been your best friend for over 15 years. Donāt you think she deserves some trust? No harm in asking either of them, but I highly doubt anything went on.
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Wait what - MAāAM - Noooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo
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Always trust your instincts. 
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Stop. Do not listen to all the negatives. You KNOW your friend. Youve been friends for 15 years. Do you think she would do that to you? You also know your husband. Clear your head and put your thoughs together rationally.
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Ask him you can always tell if someone is lying 
watch and listen to how he reacts and answers you the question. But then you said you was all drunk he might not remember or her either
Your mostly likely correct
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I say keep a closer eye on them that is not normal if he had got that tired he would of went to bed with you so yes something is up with them both sorry to say but trust is earned and hard to keep .
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It may have not looked sexual but that sure is emotionalā¦ be done with both of them
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I was at a party with my bf ( now ex ) he fell asleep on the couch ( it was a small couch) so I took the other later than night his step bro joins me ( I was already asleep ,had no clue) bf woke up saw us and woke me up this was around 2am ,we took a bus home immediately ,some time later we broke up and I come to find his step bro was interested in me ( he had the right call to leave the party)
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Ummmm uhhā¦as a friend I would have followed you to your room and fall asleepā¦would never be in a room with someone elseās husbandā¦idc how close we are ā¦that is when accusations happenā¦I think something happenedā¦
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Am i the only one seeing the āwe drink hang out and let the kids playā? They all got so smashed that this happens but where them kids at with all u drunk adultsā¦
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Confront them both! Right then and there and ask how long itās been going on?
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Well you are playing with fire leaving another woman in a room with your husband. That isnāt normalā¦
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Yes, you are over thinking it.
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U are not overthinking. Donāt let the trust u have for them prevent u form seeing the truth! I had a similar thing happen. Best friend and my bf . Trust them both. She stayed w us that night. I woke up and they were both in bathroom. One on toilet other shower they said. I just knew something was off. Fast forward months later I never gave it another thought. We were all drinking and partying one night. Him and I had sex . I get in shower forgot my soap I grab a towel jump out , being very loud btw, walk in the room both butt ass naked screwing. She had just slept w her bf a few hours b4 also. Ya we didnāt talk after that. Karma is a bitch bc she left this camera in my car. Back when we dropped our film off. Weāll it was full of pics of them doing the deed. I sent them to her bf. Lol donāt ever trust another women w ur man especially if ur drinking or smoking .
If i was u Iād confront the friend and say he told u everything already u just want to know how long its been going on. Even if he thought he was holding ur hand what ab her? Thatās bs girl. Seems like they also have a bond like u and her. Hand holding is personal , emotional. Itās more than sex. That is what is scary ab it . Itās not just sex there are emotions tied in. Cut ties w them both. Let them have each other and then karma will handle the rest.
I think you are overthinking, though I would be super upset by this situationā¦ but if you have trust in your friend & your husband then other than addressing the hurt feelings, I wouldnāt over think it too much.
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But why didnāt he come to bed??? And why not sleeping in different places? No I would have second thoughts too.
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Soā¦ what was the explanation on their parts? I need detailsā¦
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Definitely not right , he easily could have come to bed , holding hands ? Very very odd ā¦
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As your friend. I would have been in bed with you and he would have been on the couch aloneš¤·āāļø Trust your gut. 15 years or not.
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Thatās super weird and I would definitely be upset and went off on both of them and would talk to both of them separately. But the relationship would never be the same and I would not have her over anymore or drink with her. This is not okay as for your marriage itās your marriage. Also I would never have left them alone or told her letās call it a night guest room or couch and tell your hubby itās time for bed.
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Iād ask them both sitting in front of me so I know if theyāre lying and they canāt rehearse things
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Nope this woman is not who you think she is. No self respecting ābest friendā would ever do something like this
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Confront them. 
Youāll know if you feel comfortable with their responses or not.
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Nah wouldnāt happen in my house, Iād sit right there and make them both explain. That isnāt right, he should have gone to the bed where he knew you were, not on the couch. Me and my guy hold hands to sleep and I definitely know his from other peoples, even drunk he should know. And if you are all that drunk for this to happen, who was there for the kids?
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I would question them both together. Calmly. You should be able to trust your husband and your best friend but in todayās world stranger things happen. Put it all on the table with them BOTH in the same room. Express how now when youāre all together you arenāt sure if you can trust them together.
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Nope. Confront them both.
Thatās how most affairs startā¦ā¦ the trusting wife leaves her best friend alone with her husband.
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Trust your instincts. You are better than me because they both would have been woken up by me being raging mad.
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That wasnāt a smart decision on your part ,but none the less it is over.Cut the cord with bestie and work on your marriage.Alcohol and outsiders do not mix.Actually you being a drinker yourself, should certainly know.Wake up.
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Bye bye to both! Been there done that and my instinct came out to be right! She shouldnāt have even stayed once you said you were going to bed!
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He might be used to holding hands all night but sheās not , she should have felt something strange and woke up and fixed that situation. Hmmm?
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Well I would ask her straight out " did you and my husband make out on the lounge 
this is no friend " friends donāt do that " 
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I would ask them both separately just to settle my mind. Youāll know them both well enough to know if theyāre telling you the truth
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Talk to them both at the same time and randomly about what happen. Just invite her over as normal and then out of the blue ask them both. Donāt leave the room till you have heard everything.
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ALWAYS trust your gut, itās telling you what your heart tries to disguise. That would not be okay with me at all
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Just ask them? donāt think the worst. Iāve done plenty of stupid stuff when drunkā¦ I donāt think holding hands whilst asleep, fully clothed and not spooning is a red flag at allā¦ well maybe a red flag for them to not drink THAT much again but Iām pretty easy going though.
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No you need to confront both of them together
Talk to both of themā¦ tell both of them that youāve already talk to the other so you know the answerā¦ theyāll spill
What a crummy situation. First, Iām sorry that you have to navigate this.
Do you and your hub often fall asleep on the couch? If no, how can he not know it wasnāt you. But know heās on the couch. I know I never sleep well on the couch.
Is she married?
Invite her over and ask them both directly. If she has been your best friend that long, you know her vibes. If they seem off, Iād say something most likely is. Personally, I know my head would know it wasnāt right, but my heart would try to justify it to make it seem perfect sense.
Sending love and light.
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Trust your intuition
First mistakeā¦I went to bed early and left them alone, drinkingš¤£
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Definitely not over thinking it and drunk or not, he KNEW he wasnāt IN BED, next to his wife. They probably didnāt mean to fall asleep. But they definitely meant to hold hands. Also, it take TWO to tango. They bothhhhh did it. Not just him.
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My husband wouldnāt stay out if I was going to bed. And no matter how much I had to drink, I would still know how uncomfortable a couch is with another person and notice that person ISNāT the person Iāve slept next to every night since weāve been together.
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I would never sleep in the same place as a friendās significant other, Iād be sleeping where my friend is, even drunk I would have gone to bed with my friend if their husband was on the couch. I find it super fishy that they just fell asleep like that, if they were chilling on the couch they would be in different places on the couch (would have probably ended up foot to face) I would be talking to them separately then together, watching for any cues to if they are lying or their stories not the same/adding up. I would have told my husband its time for bed and if she wasnāt able to go safely home she would have been out on the couch alone. I would no longer drink together as a group, just you and her or not at all.
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Best friend or not I wouldnāt have left them up alone once I tired itās time for him to come to bed and her to go or she couldnāt drive then he wouldāve just had to come to bed
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Hell-to-the-no red flag red flag trust your gut
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Totally inappropriate. He should have gone to bed when you did. Where was her SO? I would never do anything like this again. Drinking does nothing but create problems. Iām 70 and know what Iām talking about.
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Quit drinking you fools. What a great example you are setting for your children. Wake up before itās too late.
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Or the fact they sleeping head to head next to each other and not laying opposite sides of the couchā¦like āwe canāt cuddle but we can lay as close as possible to each other and hold handsā ā¦lol
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Itās sad you believe him. He cheated.
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Nope not cool at all with either one of themā¦drunk or notā¦
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If he was gonna fucking cheat on you, I have a hard time believing he would be so blatant about it. Idk. I trust my people 100% though.
Youāre better than me. I love my friends, but Iām not leaving any intoxicated female alone with my husband. That is just asking for trouble. Just ask them what happened after you went to bed. You should know them well enough to know if theyāre lying or uncomfortable discussing it. They may not even remember. I could see his side if the two of you hold hands when you sleep, but why did she continue to hold his hand? Iām sure she felt her hand being held. This would upset me, too. If it was the first occurrence, I would probably not make any drastic life changes over it; however, Iād limit their interactions for a long while.
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In the 15 years youāve been married has he ever gave you reason to suspect that heās been unfaithful? If the answer is no, then itās very likely that heās being honest with you now. On the other hand if the answer is yes then you have reason to think he may be lying.
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They wouldāve spooned if they had sex not hold hand head to head you guys are grown woman breaking up a marriage with kidsā¦ EuwšÆ
If you have to ask you already know
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I think more happened than you want to accept.
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āI thought it was youā Really!
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