Nope, somethings not right here.
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You all are a truple now
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Always trust your gut.
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I WAS married for 16 years ā¦ 3 days before Christmas 2019 I caught my ābest friendā of 12 years sleeping with my husband! Her husband and my husband were also best friends and worked togetherā¦ Trust NOBODY!!!
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He should of gone to bed with youā¦ that aināt right get rid of her and save your marriage ā¦ they might of not done anything but there could be feelings there
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In a previous relationship my at the time boyfriend, his guy best friend and I were all drinking. My boyfriend got drunk and fell asleep on the bathroom floor. His best friend fell asleep in our bed. I went to sleep in the spare bedroomā¦ the āI was drunkā excuse is bs.
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She should of left your house the second you said that you are going to bed or he should of went to bed with you. They are screwing each other and will lie and deny it but you know the truth in your gut feeling.
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Lie lie lie. Do not believe them. Go WITH YOUR GUTā:broken_heart:
Confront both together. Sort it out now. Youāll know
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I think you need to lay boundaries out and no more sleep overs.
Maybe you should speak with your friend and get her thoughts on what happened
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Oh hell no. Nope. Not happening in my house. I wouldnāt have gone to bed while she was still there tho. Thatās just me and Iām crazy. Lol
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Donāt let that happen again
What was her excuse??? He always holds your hand but head to headā¦ a real effort was madeā¦
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Have you just asked them
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Noooo way! Iād be LIVID. She would no longer be a friend, and Iām not sure if Iād even be able to trust him again to stay.
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Behave as usual, leave them in the house for a while alone - and, you must secretly have an eye on their movements; youāll be able to precisely confirm the situation.
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How could you overthink that? Omg I wouldāve flipped out.
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Absolutely not
Trust your gut - this has happened to me too - twice
Always follow your gut.If you feel something is off it most definitely is.He should have taken his a** to be with his wife and this āfriendā needs to go
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Awww this is so wrong I have so much anxiety about seeing these posts about men all the time but what about the ladys its there folt to lol
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No
Put an end to trusting the 2 of them
Elizabeth Thomen your thoughts?
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I had a BFF of 19 years once. She shacked up with my then husband and got knocked up 
#TrustNoB**ch
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Husbands may cheat but besties just wow. Million of other offers our there but never your besties man ever. I understand alcohol can blur a line but honestly I believe if there was no attraction it wouldnāt have happened.
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I had a best friend my whole life. She would come over spend the nights our kids played together. Turns out her and my fiance were sending naked pictures to each other. Said nothing ever happened but I still think it did. They had too many times of being alone for nothing to have happened. I hope your situation is different.
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Trust your gut! Itās not going to lie to you.
Yeeeep trust that feeling for sure!
Trust your gut. Iād set up cameras (hide them) and see what they do when youāre out of the room when sheās over.
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Confront. Confront. Confront them together. The reaction will say it all.
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Um no. No best friend of mine would of even accepted staying to get drunk with my husband after I went to bed. Much less wake up and be on the same piece of furniture together holding hands. Nah this shit is not ok. Trust no bitchšÆ
If this ever happens again, take pictures so they can see for themselves. Invest in some spy cams, I definitely would. And yes, this is not right one bit. They definitely were up to somethingā¦ that so called bf should have left when you went to bed. How weird and awkward.
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So u go in your bed and leave them aloneā¦ They prob was cold 
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Iām sure they did more then that
Maybe you and your guests shouldnāt drink enough to make for awkward situations that are hard to figure out 
just a thought, not trying to be rude, just logical.
Iād never leave my man drunk with the opposite sex
When you went to bed she should have left
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Whoās watching the kids while you are all pretty drunk is what Iām concerned about
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Why didnāt he go to bed with you ?
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Why didnāt she leave when you got sleepy? Why didnāt you tell her to leave?
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When you have that feeling itās true theyāre messing around
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I hve to admit, I would like to see how this turns out. Please keep us updated and I agree with the cameras. Also if something did happen, you should be able to tell the next time youāre all together.
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Your best friend needs to bring her guy next time or not come over at all.
Talk to them both separately and tell them how you feel and see how they act about the situation. I had a āfriendā that was hitting on my husband and trying to get with him before we were married while we were on a break and she was doing it all behind my back. I believe him that nothing happened but kicked her to the curb for good
I had a best friend of 12+ years. She started sleeping with my then boyfriend/father to my daughter before I gave birth. After I had my daughter, I would call it a night early some nights. He would stay out in the living room to play video games and she would stay for a bit. I never thought anything of it because I trusted them. Turns out that while I was in the next room sleeping with our daughter, my boyfriend was shacking up with my best friend on the other side of the wall. He would always find excuses to leave the house, usually saying to go to the gym. I even tried to stop being her friend at one point because of drug issues, but he told me to stay as her friend because she needed someone. Iām not saying your husband cheated, but I would address the situation and be as damn nosey as you want.
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Ask her and hope she tells you the truth!!
Two words, āspy camā
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Iād be more concerned that you were all getting sloshed whilst your kids were around tbh.
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This is something to talk to both of them about. I wouldnāt think anything about it if it were my husband and best friend. However, if you are now uncomfortable - talk to them.
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Who tells their best friend to leave drunk? Yāall horrible. She SHOULD be able to trust them. Talk to them apart then sit them down together and talk. Feel secure about it or learn the truth
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Red flag ā¦ be aware ā¦
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Go w/ ur gut. Gut doesnāt lie.
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No. Heās a cheater. I have 2 best friends and would never think that this would be ok. Staying up together maybe but laying on the couch holding hands?? No way. Time to wake up
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Lmao this is why I have no friends!
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Bring back jerry springer he would know the answers
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Its like sometimes the women are asking for trouble. 3 of url drank till url were piss drunk, u called in early and left them alone in their drunken stateā¦ 
you invite trouble and then when its knockin on ur door, you wana question it
Who did she think he was when she held his hand back?
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Hand holding points to a certain level of intimacy, so if it isnāt a physical affair yet, itās definitely an emotional one. Way too many marriages are destroyed due to affairs with spousesā BFFs. You canāt ignore the red flags. 
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If you have a husband and a best friend the youāre damn straight something is going on
I feel like this is all around weird! Idk if itās just me. But Iāll be damm if I let my husband stay up with my BFF. Idc how long Iāve known her. Boundaries boundaries!!!
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Maybe you should just not encourage your best friend to come over and hang out with you and your husband for one thing. Everyone drinking together is definitely not going to work. It couldāve even possibly be in a mistake just donāt leave the opportunity for it to happen again and keep your eyes open. Anything else suspicious happens itās time to go.
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Your kidding right??? Address the elephant in the room sweetie!!!
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Come on peopleā¦they were sleeping head to head,not cuddling together. Maybe it was innocent. I would keep an eye on them, just to be sure,but itās probably nothing. They were pretty drunk.
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Yes it happens very offen.
Your gut feelings never lie.
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Definitely talk to your husbandā¦this was wrong in so many ways! Have to have trust! And Iād be careful picking out best friends . Best friends donāt do that. Have them put themselves in your place! See how they would feelā¦address the elephant for sure!!
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Drinking can cause inappropriate behavior it happens.Go with your gut feeling !My hubby had a woman friend at his work ,I trusted him but NOT her,she was also married !We went out as a foursome a few times I watched her closely !I talked with my husband about my gut feeling that SHE was interested in trying to steal him from me !I asked him to break their friendship!Luckily he listened to me.5 months later this Same woman broke up another marriage and married that man!It could be innocent but it wouldnāt happen in my marriage I can tell you that!Be most careful !Weāve been happily married for 53 yrs,I always go with my instincts!
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Yeah no thatās not ok!!!
Intuition doesnāt lie. Invite her over again. āgo to bedā and just listen this time. Thatāll be your answer. Or read his phone. Set up cameras. Thatās your husband. Figure it out but get proof first before you ruin two relationships.
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Yea if you believe that your nuts n the only part I read is holding hands and thought was you o no hell naw
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Umm express your concern for sure
Trust your āGUTā it doesnāt lie
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omg id go crazy u better confront the situation how the hell can he think its you, so that means he could of done more with her if he can say he thrt it was you, donāt drive urself insane just address it
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and why the heck did he not come to bed coz he apparently thought it was you too?? i call bullshit
Nah girl. Thereās something there. Maybe no one has acted on it or intends to but there is an attraction there. And Iām assuming they are friends or friendly. Do not leave your drunk husband and drunk friend alone together. When you go to bed so does he.
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Ok even if he thought it was you and it was an innocent accident on his part, what about her? Whatās her excuse for holding your husbandās hand and not telling him to get his ass in bed with you before it looks like something its not? I would have a very direct and transparent conversation with them both, separately and together while more so watching their reaction/body language than just the answers theyāre giving. I personally would never keep a friend around who disrespected me or my marriage. Your husband should reconsider ever drinking again if he canāt tell you apart from another familiar woman.
R u for real. Nooooo this cant be. Imagine if your kids saw that! Does she have a husband. Maybe u too could lie on the couch asleep and hold hands lol. What a joke. She could sleep on the couch was he really that lazy and drunk he couldnt walk to his bed ewww the whole thing is just wrong sooooo wrong.
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The fact that they were laying on the couch together would have raised enough red flags for meā¦
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I agree with what someone else suggested. You can know the truth with your very own eyes and ears.
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Were they fully clothed? s
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Boundaries.
How important that we establish them in our relationships.
Using stealthy means to find out means a lack of honesty and trust in your relationship.
Figure that out.
Good luck.
Ah, you know what you knowā¦ sorry
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They were naughty! For sure
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I would not be ok with this at all
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Thatās a bullshit excuse. Why didnāt he come to bed with you? What were they doing laying next to each other on the couch ? Why did she continue to hold his hand ? A lot more than hand holding couldāve happened while you were sleeping, Iād definitely be talking to both of them.
Your friend knew that she was holding your husbands hand. Thatās not your friend. Thatās a woman who wants your husband/already had him.
never trust another woman even your best friend will turn on you when it comes to men
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This is just wrong on so many levels
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I think maybe it depends on other factors. I would hold a friends hand if theyād been going through a really tough time and needed a physical connection in a non sexual way. Has she had any losses or anything recently?
She isnāt your best friend. Iām sorry but if she was she wouldnāt dream of it full stop. Iād personally get to the bottom of this and never have your friend near you again 
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Absolutely unacceptable. Youāre not overthinking it.
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He was drunk, heās probably telling the truth.
Something happened It may have been innocent and not intentional, but something happened. He should have just gone to bed. Your intuition is screaming at you right nowā¦ It is 100%correct 100%of the time, never question itā¦ If you live by it you will never be led astray from your morals, values or heart. Your intuition is a gift you were given to keep you straight and protect you from Fuckeryā¦ Please donāt ignore itā¦
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Why would u trust them alone?
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Wellā¦.if you trusted them as you said, you wouldnāt have these questions. Maybe you donāt trust them as much as you would like to think. Did you say anything to them when it happened? (Iām just curious).
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Oooh no. Something is def up.
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I would have a talk with both of them together and tell them how you feel. They both crossed the line. She should of went home or sleep and he should of went to bed when you went to bed . Your husband should of never put himself in a situation of being alone with your freind like that. She is your freind not his. They would feel uncomfortable if it was you who did that . This is how affairs happen .I would lay out the boundaries for them both . Good luck . They both broke your trust and disrespected you 
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If I woke up the next morning after a big night and my partner and my friend were asleep on the couch holding hands i would totally loose my shit and be done.
Completely unacceptable and your not overthinking it 
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Uh no I woulda kicked both their asses definitely wouldnāt be still having her over either like ever again
Hmmā¦ well he āthought she was youā what was the friends excuse?
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never leave your husband vulnerable
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Iāve been friends with my bestie for 20+ yrs. Though I trust her with every fiber of my being, I hope sheād trust me the same. Cause no way in the whole universe would I ever touch her man. Idc if I was plastered to the moon & back. That is girl code 101. Smh. Iād be having a long talk with both and that would change the friendship.
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