Depression after baby

I had a baby 4 months ago and already was battling depression I think it's gotten worse but not in the best situation to ask for help because I don't want my kids taken or to be bad mouthed. Is there anything I can do online to help or any tips. I am exhausted mentally physically emotionally everything and in tired of crying
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Thereā€™s online counselingā€¦ I think itā€™s called betterhelp or talk space. Maybe try that, you could also find a mom group to help get you out of the house and help you focus on something else. Donā€™t worry about being judged, a lot of woman go through this so I would definitely recommend talking to your doctor. Ask for help!! Your child is top priority but he/she needs you to be healthy and happy.

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postnatal depression is 100% normal , just seek help from a doctor to get medication be a huge help

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Talk to your doctor!!! Your kids will not be taken away because you are getting help for depression. No one even needs to know about it unless you tell them! Please get help. There is no shame it. Itā€™s actually much braver to seek help than to let it go.

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Ppd isnā€™t something to take lightly. You should talk to someone and not worry so much about what others think. This is your life. Donā€™t spend it being sad. Good luckā¤ļø

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Please see a dr for help. Depression is nothing to play with. They will not take your kids for seeking help. I lost custody of my daughter because I didnā€™t seek help and it got so bad I attempted to take my life. After I lost custody it was a downward spiral for over a decade. If anyone has anything negative to say about getting help then you need to cut them out of your life. Surround yourself with people who support you not belittle what youā€™re going through. Hugs. Youā€™re not alone

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I didnt suffer with postpartum till my third child. I tried to deal with it on my own. Thought there is no way you canā€™t handle this you have three kids refused to ask for help. Was more worried about my husband who had been involved in a fatal pedestrian car accident. Thought maybe if I put my attention on his well being and the kids that Iā€™ll just get over it and the postpartum will just go away. Savannah was 11 months the night I laid in bed that night and thought of different ways to kill my self and which one wouldnā€™t be so Traumatic for my family to find. The next morning I got the kids off to school and Ryan left for work. I went to breaux bridge with Savannah and on my way home I was crossing a bridge and thought what if I just drive off the bridge. I told my self I had lost my mind. My kids are my world. I got home put Savannah down for a nap and sat in my bed and balled my eyes out I had officially lost it. I did what any daughter would do I called my mom at work balling my eyes trying to explain everything through the breathless sobbing. As my mom sat on the other side of the phone trying to calm me down so she could understand what Iā€™m saying. Finally I calm down enough to explain everything. She said you need to call your dr right now. So I hung up and did. Got a appointment that day. As I drove to the dr I called Ryan and told him that I was going get help and what had happen that night. After about 30 minutes of telling my dr Iā€™m going crazy I have lost all control I canā€™t do it. She told me that I had postpartum psychosis. Which is where you have postpartum but it goes untreated for so long. She looked at me and said I have to call your husband. I begged her not to tell him everything itā€™s only gonna make him more worried. She said I have to not only for your safety for the kids as well. My biggest thing was Iā€™m a mother I love my kids to death I would never hurt them. As she walked out to call him I lost it again how could I fail as not only a mother but as a wife this bad. I didnā€™t find out till two week later as we sat in another drs appointment as the medicine was only making things worse. That when he got the phone call he thought I had really done something horrible as my dr asked for Mr.bonin and said this is such and such with Saint Martin and he said he went numb. During the first three months of treating this I remember nights him sitting on bathroom floor with me or on the steps outside because everything around me was triggering and I was trying to keep control. And me telling him I donā€™t blame you if you decide to take the kids and leave me. People that never deal with postpartum or postpartum psychosis will never under stand.

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If you speak to a doctor as long as you are not suicidal or homicidal they will not take your children itā€™s all about what you say to the doctor choose your words wisely good luck

ā€œI donā€™t want my kids takenā€.
MAMA STOP!!!
You need help, you deserve help. You can AND WILL be the best version of yourself for these babies. But you canā€™t do it alone. And trying to hide it ā€œfor the kidsā€ will make it worse.

If itā€™s not for anyone else, talk to a doctor for them babies.
But most importantly, do this for you. :black_heart: if you donā€™t want on meds, they can send you to a specialist or therapist.

Idk the details or any info, but if you need someone, message me! :slightly_smiling_face: Iā€™m here for you!!

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Talk to your Dr. And see about therapy. There is also alot of online support groups. Just because you have ppd doesnā€™t mean your kids would be taken

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Honey, itā€™s bigger than you!!! Please seek professional help!!! You need to take care of you! Your Dr. can lead you down the right path. Iā€™ll be praying for you!

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If you fell over and suspected your leg was broken you wouldnā€™t think twice about getting seen by a doctor postnatal depression is just another possible symptom of pregnancy not every woman gets it but the one who do can then add to it by not getting seen to, although itā€™s natural and woman have been doing it forever it is still a massive and sometimes traumatic thing for a body to go through ( depending on how difficult the birth ) your hormones are everywhere and and causing this chemical imbalance that makes you feel depressed , this doesnā€™t make you any less of a woman or any less of a mother it makes you human , the hardest thing to do is to ask for help and youā€™ve already done that once on here so ask at your GP and you will get what you need , to help feel yourself again :kissing_heart:

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Thereā€™s nothing wrong with asking for help. Please talk to your doctor.
In the meantime, do you have a friend that can help with the kids so you can get some rest? You need to take care of you so you can provide for your children.

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Please call your psychiatrist or your gynecologist. Postpartum depression can and will turn into something worseā€¦(psychosis or bipolar depression in some cases.) Nothing to be ashamed of. Good luck momma!

I had it bad with my first. My husband at the time wasnā€™t helpful which made it worse. This was 21 years ago, but I almost pushed my baby under the tub water to make him stop crying. He always cried, i never could sleep, and i was breast feeding, but the moment I thought it I picked him up wrapped him up and passed him to dad and left the house. I had no help. Alcoholic husband, and no support. This is absolutely why I canā€™t judge mothers who go and actually lose it in a brief split sec. Iā€™ve been there. I knew enough to not. However, shortly after the hormones back in sync and got rid of the husband. I became better. Now I have 8 children. Not once did I ever have depression like that again. There is help. Donā€™t lose hope. Best medicine is to take time for you. Go do something without baby. Take a class, or anything constructive.

Youā€™re already at a higher risk for ppd Bc you have ā€œregularā€ depression. Talk to your dr. Theyā€™re not gonna take your kids away Bc youā€™re struggling.

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Please please get helpā€¦i too, have had ppd and it was so bad that i was having ā€œout of body spellsā€ and other things. At that point, i knew i needed help. So i called my dr and was honest with him and my therapist and it got better and now we r a year on the other side and its still a struggle but i am ssssoooooo much better

Go see your doctor! Theyā€™re not going to take your children. They want to help you!! :two_hearts:

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Just talk to your doctor. Itā€™s not a stigma, itā€™s a medical condition that should be treated by an experienced physician. Put your fear aside and talk to them. They canā€™t take your kid away unless youā€™re a threat to them or yourself. Please donā€™t play around with depression, your baby needs you.

There is nothing wrong with asking for help. Talk to your doctor, see someone at mental health and do therapy :grinning: I canā€™t promise it will be easy but it will be worth it in the end. You have got this muma :heart: my inbox is always open x

Not getting help can have worse outcomes.

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Your dr can do a mental health plan for youā€¦in meantime have you tried talking to beyond blue or one of those assiactionā€¦life line is anotherā€¦or similar

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Ask for helpā€¦ your kids wont get taken because you have depression but a case might be opened if you stop taking care of them or the house because of depressionā€¦ i went through having depression with my first and glad i got the help.

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I started having anxiety immediately after having my daughter. Please talk to your doctors ā€¦ get a therapist it helped me a lot! No shame in that all at!!!

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You not getting help and then them finding out could make things more worse and put your babes at risk. Nothing wrong asking for help. Iā€™m in the same boat as you and its hard. I know how you feel. But with help I already feel better. :two_hearts:

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talk to your OB/GYN, they can help you & direct you to the right help, even a PPD therapy group. If you need meds, you need meds, get on them. No one gets their kids taken away because they are dealing with PPD,

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Your kids wonā€™t be taken go to the doctor

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Sorry youā€™re dealing with this mama. Iā€™ve suffered with ppd with all 3 of my kiddos. I immediately called my obgyn and they got me in the next day. Thereā€™s a huge amount of resources available to you. I promise theyā€™re willing to help! Unfortunately several women go through this. You are not alone. Sending hugs. :heart:

Donā€™t feel bad about yourself. Talk to your doctor he will refer you to get councel. There are support groups and other resources.

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I have been there, it is so difficult. If there is anyone around to help with the daily chores and tasks please ask for that help. You are not walking through the desert alone. Your main focus is your baby. Breaks and adult only interactions are key. Your feelings are justified and okay. This season will pass. Identify what you need and ask for it.

I was afraid of the same thing, Iā€™ve had PPD with 2/3 babies. Talk to your OBGYN! They wonā€™t take your babies, they will schedule you asap if you tell the appointment line whatā€™s wrong and they will help you. No family/friends need to know. As for things that helped I wish I had an idea :gift_heart:

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Andrea Yates drowned all five of her children due to PPD. Just go to your Dr. and you will see that itā€™s quite common. Better safe than sorry. :heart:

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Post natal depression is nothing to get your kids taken.away.
Please go to.your gp

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Girl, this is very common and you wonā€™t get your kids taken away! Talk to your doctor ASAP. I am pregnant now and going through all of that, my doctor put me on anxiety meds. Iā€™m also worried about having ppd since it has been so bad already so Iā€™m glad to have this medicine now. They also told me to call a mental health specialist. Get help girl!

Having PPD is not your fault. They wonā€™t take your children for it, they will treat it and help it go away. Itā€™s unavoidable, it can happens to any random woman who has a baby. Itā€™s just how it goes. Not treating it and letting it run rampant is where YOU put your child at risk. Please see a doctor mama! I know itā€™s scary but Everything will be okay :pleading_face:

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Momma your kids will not be taken for seeking help. Please talk to your doc. Itā€™s more common than you think.

Please get help
Youre children wonā€™t be taken away because you seek help for your mental health but they might if you donā€™t
Get to the Drs and get referred to the mental health team asap.
You cant cope with this alone and untreated you will get worse :heart:

Give yourself a break. You just need to see your Dr. see what he or she can do to help you. This too shall pass. Good luck to you.

They canā€™t take your kids because you need help. Get help before it gets worse.

Who is going to begrudge someone struggling with mental health proper care?!? A terrible person. So do what you need to do to be healthy! I know how hard it can be to struggle. Please do call your doctor, use BetterHelp (Iā€™m utilizing them right now). Anyone who badmouths someone for getting help doesnā€™t matter theyā€™re a worse human being for wanting suffering in someoneā€™s life.

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First of all. This is perfectly normal for a lot of women. A lot of us have been there and it sucks. Help yourself. Speak to your dr about it. Donā€™t trust the internet to help you. Being able to happily hold your crying baby makes a world of difference. Depression is real and is not something to take lightly. In your healing process, set small goals. Ones that you can achieve and feel good about. Simply getting all of the baby blankets washed and put away can give you a sense of accomplishment. If you breast feed, allow that time to be calming. Take your naps and by all means have a good cry. You earned that cry and the ability to let it out. Your hormones are kicking your butt right now and a little help
From the dr can go a long way. Set an empowered play list. One that will lift your spirits and that you can sing a long with. You are not alone in this, go to a parenting group. The hardest step is the first step and you have already done that by acknowledging what may be.

I left mine untreated and now 6 years later I still have episodes. Please please! go seek help instead of trying to troop on! Itā€™s not worth it to always be scared and hurting when thereā€™s resources out there to help!! :heart::crossed_fingers:t2:

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could be post partum

You wonā€™t get your kids taken away. Just be honest with how youā€™re feeling and your doctor will work with you to find the best medication for you.

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Go to the doctor and tell them you feel you have post partum depression. This happens so much! Donā€™t suffer through thisā€¦ when you can get help and feel better. Itā€™s okā€¦

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I just want you to know that you are not alone even if you feel that you very much are, and that there is help available. Mental illness is a liar. Itā€™s a disease that so many of us struggle with and not enough of us talk about. Please know that you are in my prayers. I pray for your peace, and sanity, and ability to rest. <3 https://www.postpartumdepression.org/

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Ask friends or family to help you watch the kids, & go enjoy yourself for a couple of hours. Take a break

Please talk to a professional. You are NO less of a mother just for asking for help. Donā€™t be scared or ashamed. You donā€™t deserve to feel the way youā€™re feeling.

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Call your doctor. Today! My daughter was the same way. They will help you. I promise. Please donā€™t suffer any longer! Sending prayers!!

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You arenā€™t alone. :two_hearts: asking for help is the best thing you can do for you and also your baby. I had post partum with my son and I just had my daughter 2 months ago and got diagnosed with it again. Youā€™re strong! Please talk to someone. <3

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Girl. Postpartum depression can last up to two years after you have a baby please get help it has nothing to do with you as a mother or anything to do with you being a bad person it is just something that chemically happens to womenā€™s body when they have babies and itā€™s something that us women have to endure constantly but we do overcome it. Please do not feel like youā€™re weak or somehow broken in any type of way, talk to your childā€™s pediatrician and they will guide you in the right direction.

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Being depressed isnt going to get your kids taken from you
UNLESS you are at risk for harming yourself or your kids

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Take prenatal or multivitamin for women. More natural Sun exposure even if itā€™s cold walk outside any outdoor activity sitting outside park etc will help. Also exercise really does the body & mind so good.ā€˜start off slow. If that doesnā€™t work after putting your best effort into it seek help w Rx.

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See a doctor. I struggled horribly after my children. You just need to find whatā€™s right for you. Seek help! For your baby and for you.

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I went away to the looney bin for a week. Still have full custody of my kids. And full blown ppd. Get help. Your kids need their mom.

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I went through it with the 3 of my kids .they are all grown up now and I still have it .Not easy .talk to your doctor and get help

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Please talk to your doctor. I eventually did, got an Rx to help. And it sure did help. My hormones were exasperating my already existing anxiety/depression. I eventually was able to wean myself off them. And if itā€™s winter where you are, shorter darker days donā€™t help. Youā€™re certainly not alone!!! Hugs!

If you have a ymca nearby try to join! They have child care. They have a family rate itā€™s like 70/family or you can do individual. It will have things for the kids and you can take yoga/other classes, work out, swim- you will feel better doing something for you! Please donā€™t feel bad momming is so hard!! Find one by you and ask to do a trial

I have a Complete Book of Vitamins. I have learned that vitamin D3 is a natural antidepressant. My husband lost his job thru injury and lost insurance. He was talking about suicide. I looked for help naturally and read that vitamin D3 is a natural antidepressant. He has been on it 10yrs now and I havenā€™t heard him whisper anything depressing or made any comments about suicide. I noticed this after 2 weeks after taking it. Ask your Dr about a vitamin panel and see how low it is pregnancy really sucks all the nutrients out of our body. God bless and Congratulations on the new one.

Go see your ob. They wont take your babes, super common. Good for you though reaching out, thats the first step and hardest. Hang in there mama :heart::heart:

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I had severe prenatal depression. Yes prenatal. Get help. No one will take your kids. Donā€™t struggle!

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Ask for help, we had a lady in my state ask for help and I guess no one believed her and a week lady her baby was gone. Post partum depression is real and canā€™t be helped by yourself for your kiddos sake

I went through that and the same feelings. My husband was the first to notice so I talked to my ob and that was a game changer. She gave me something for depression and a low dose anxiety medication. Donā€™t be afraid to ask for help!

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Go speak to your Gp ā€¦ I had pre existing A&D
I struggled with postpartum depression and anxiety from the day she was born because she was a 10 week premie and I blamed myself even though I got preclampsia and fluid retention.
The depression was while I was in hospital, it took my partner and parents an hr to get me to go down to see her. I was monitored in a room for 4 days after she was born, basically strapped to a bed so I couldnā€™t moveā€¦ and when I could finally go see her when I was cleared and moved up to the ward,I couldnā€™t bring myself to.
but they organised a social worker to visit. Then it was mainly the anxiety.
The places my mind went were so horribleā€¦ not only that but when she finally came home I didnā€™t leave the house for a month with her.
Iā€™ve been seeing a psychologist for 3 months now
Been diagnosed with over-catastrophing thoughts
And have felt SO much better
My 7month ā€œcorrected age - 4 1/2 month oldā€ daughter had her first sleep over at my in-laws last night ā€¦ their place is on the other side of Sydney
Roughly 1 1/2 drive
Would have never done anything like that 2 months ago.
But itā€™s also about finding the right person to talk to.
Youā€™ll be okay mumma!

Donā€™t be afraid to ask for help that means you care and they wonā€™t take your children because of that you should do it before something does happen where you canā€™t manage

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There are apps now . Like face time , medahealth therapist. It started getting really big during look downs last year and a a few great ones. So you can see a therapist from comfort and privacy of ur home on your phone or computer

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Baby, go get on medication for depression. Nobody will take your children for getting help that you need. I actually had a cps worker tell me I needed to get on it. She was right. It helped me so much. Good luck sweetie

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Please get help then you will soon feel better for the sake of you and your children

Please see your physician. It is incredibly important that you seek help. Mental health is no different than having a broken bone, you can not fix it by reading something on the WWW. I no longer have my daughter because of post partum depression. PLEASE GET HELP.

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Get therapy locally. Iā€™m depressed and you wonā€™t get your kids taken unless you arenā€™t seeking help. Donā€™t seek help and you will get them taken

Find a telehealth therapist

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See your obgyn. Postpartum Depression is very real and they can help you. Please donā€™t battle this alone.

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Talk to your OB. They will not take your children from you, they can refer you out to get you the help you need. Feel better mamašŸ’•

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Why would your kids be taken? Talk to your doctor or obgyn. They are trained to help moms. Hell you can even tell your kids pediatrician and theyā€™ll refer you. Just say your having PPD and need resources.

Please talk to your doctor. I struggled with PPD with both my kids and the faster I got on medication the faster I felt like myself again. Itā€™s ok to feel this wayā€¦

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Talk to your ob/gyn and get some therapy. As longs as you are getting help and taking care of things you wonā€™t lose them. I has postpartum depression for 2 years after my daughter. Therapy helped alot but one day I woke up and it was gone. I was back long road but I made it and you will too.

Zoloft is very helpful, and there may be support groups in your area.

Sweet mama. Your health is so important, not for just your, but for your babies as well. Healthy mamas = healthy babies. Thereā€™s so much support around you. Seek teleheath. PD is extremely common although hardly discussed. Therapy and maybe Zoloft will help. Iā€™ve been on Zoloft for three years ā€” through my first pregnancy and now through my second. It really helps. So does talking it out. You got this.

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Talk to your Dr. It happens momma.

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Noone is going to take your babies go see your dr.they will prescribe you something thst will help your hormones just did a 360.everything is different because of the pandemic.and your a mom and you are trying and probably doing a wonderful job.could be as simple as vit.defiency.theyll figure it out.your most important job is to take care of yourself so you can take better care of them.pprayers for you momma(mom of 5 foster mom to 2).

Reach out for help mamas!! Thereā€™s nothing wrong with needing some support. I had really bad PPD with my first son and I wish I had reach out sooner. Iā€™m now about to have my 2nd son and the moment I see the signs Iā€™m planning to reach out. Iā€™ve also talked to my doc so we can be prepared for it. Theres no need to struggle on your own if you donā€™t have to :heart: sending you all the love.

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Talk to your dr. Prescription helps a lot.

Sooooo same ! Except they put me on 50mg for Zoloft , now 100 mg and Iā€™m still the sameā€¦. I got the iud too same time I started that

I understand your feelings. 100% valid. But for the absolute best interest for your child please talk to your doctor. Post partim depression is different than the depression you were facing prior to having your baby. Please, please, pleaseeee talk to your doctor today! With the help of your doctor it will take time, but know that it will get better. PP is one of the scariest things I have ever gone through!

Post-partum depression is real. Please get help for the sake of yourself and your children. I had it after my daughter was born and had to ask for help or I wouldnā€™t have survived. Your children will not be taken from you for asking for help. Also, join some mom groups in your area or go to story time for the babies at your local library if they have it. I met several moms through going to events at the library that Iā€™m still friends with and my daughter is 11 now. Getting out of the house and being around other moms helped me tremendously, but I did take medication for a while too which was so helpful. Donā€™t feel ashamed or embarrassed for asking for help.

Go to your doctor honey. Thatā€™s what theyā€™re there for, they will not judge you or take your child, they will only do that if you tell them you want to harm yourself or others. :green_heart:I had horrible postpartum with my first, and before I was due with my second I went to the doctor and got a prescription of antidepressants to prevent it happening again because I was incredibly scared it would. It didnā€™t. Stay strong mama I know these days are so long but you will get through them and come out stronger.

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See a therapist. Talk your Dr. This isnā€™t uncommon. Depression wonā€™t get your children taken.
YT has videos for Tai Chi & meditation. Use them.
B12, improve your diet & light exercise, even stretching for 10 mins can help release your happy hormones.
One day at a time momma! :smiling_face_with_three_hearts:

Talk to you Doctor sweetie. It happens and doesnā€™t make you a bad mother. Get yourself better. Prayers your way.

Mandated reporting is about abuse or neglect: hitting, insulting, pushing, failing to feed or house or bathe, etc. Depression is a very common brain disorder, and people get treatment for it all the time :smiling_face_with_three_hearts:

You definetly need to reach out , they canā€™t take your children for seeking help