Has anyone else taken a break from your s/o? Did it benefit y’all’s relationship or make things worse? How do you take a break when you have to keep contact for the kid(s) ? This is our last shot to save our relationship after a very serious a calm conversation about how we are no longer getting what we need out of this relationship but there’s still love there and we don’t want to break it off completely and dive right into being single. This is confusing lol
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Yes, a break did help. He focus on what he wanted. I focus on what I wanted and we officially met in between and what we both wanted so yes, it did help on the other hand. No, it didn’t help because him and I were living in two completely different places and I was raising her full-time and he was focusing on work so my answer to this question to this anonymous poster is you need to find the happy place in both situations will you’ll be happy will he be happy will both of you be happy like I said it’s not my situation so I really can’t tell you but it did help, it didn’t help because we weren’t living together but it did help because when we weren’t together, he was helping me more with our daughter . 
Hard one sometimes really, depends on the relationship now tbh.
Maybe try spending time together, going out on little dates together just to the cinema or something or just for walks, even just sit together watch films at night before bed…
A years break worked for me and my partner, we broke up when I was pregnant with our eldest, got back together a year later and we are still together with a 6 year old nearly 7 and a 2 year old
Unless you both do a lot of work on yourselves, the problems you have now will be there when you get back together.
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My husband and I took a year break he moved out and it helped tremendously. We are now back together and it’s better than ever.
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Someone just asked me the other day, how I’ve stayed married 45 years. For 45 years, mad, happy, sad, confused, lovable, ugly, we always come home.
End it if that’s the situation it sounds like one of y’all just want to be single
Are you ready to rekindle your romance with him if he put his 
in someone else or vice versa… def not a situation I’d want my worst enemy to go through cuz we are worth more than a 2nd thot
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If You have to take a break from each other , what’s the point in being together ?
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Depends on your age. Depends on if kids are involved. Depends on what you’re trying to accomplish from taking this break and if you truly intend on reparing your relationship and becoming stronger from it. Think about both of your intentions. Statistically, short term breaks from each other leads to end of relationship all together. But this is definitely not the case for all relationship. In my situation, a break did us good… we were also in our early 20s and had mixed feelings about what we wanted in life, regardless of how we felt about each other. We remained good friends during the break and supported each other while apart. We’ve been together 10yrs now. It helped us grow as individuals and as partners. Good luck on your journey 
My kids and I went on a two month cross country trip without my husband the last two years. It really helped our relationship to not have to be in the nitty gritty of it all. There were no socks on the floor or things forgotten. Of course I came home to the most random projects half finished and the socks from the laundry that was clean when I left still unmatched in a basket. But it helped me to appreciate what he does and for him to recognize he wants us here every day. And, we had an amazing time. Win win!
I never understood taking a break. Good luck
We tried several times to take a break. It would be good for a little than right back to how it was. Sometimes you are better off friends than a partner. My kids dad & I still argue sometimes, but we are so much better off co parenting than we were together. The kids are happy to. We make it about the kids tho.
If you’re not getting what you want out of the relationship, focusing on yourselves won’t help. If you guys still want to be tg, work on what each other needs while tg. There’s no need to split to do that.
You can split and still be friends. Not every relationship needs to end badly. Sometimes people just grow in different ways over time. I’d work out who was keeping the house and who was leaving. Don’t set visitation schedules. Whenever the other parent wants to see the kid(s) they do. Tell each other plans they have with the kids, do things as a family just not as a couple. Sometimes things just don’t work as a couple but still are amazing as bestfriends
Didn’t work for me. He just agreed so he could have a “Hall Pass”
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