Do I have a right to be upset at my sister for telling people about my pregnancy?

I would still tell them and remind them in front of your sister that you were afraid the babies would not make it to term. Tell them you wanted to make sure they would be alive and healthy. Let them know that you wanted this to be a secret until them and look dead in your sisters eyes so she knows she wasn’t supposed to say anything. Tell her you wished she would have respected your wishes. Say all of this in her presence and make her feel the heat for her lack of respect and in front of everyone. Kindly tell them that you are going to need privacy during the remainder of your pregnancy and if anyone wants to know what happen they can come to you directly and that unfortunately you are unable to share important information with your sister. Don’t forget to look her in the eye again.

It it likely she opened up because there was a possibility that something could have happened to you and she was scared. Just saying. Might not have been malicious intent. You should talk to her and ask why she shared your news. Some people are calling her toxic. So you got to ask yourself. Is this really worth losing her over? She should apologize for telling your news though.

You still be happy, tell everyone you mostly out of the woods and baby and mama are doing well. Always choose to celebrate. Your sister and mama should have waited but they were excited as well.

Yes you have the right be mad. My mil did the same thing. We told my mother and my husbands mother first and before we had the chance to put anything together to tell the rest of the family, my mil already told everyone. She just likes the attention for herself. :roll_eyes:

That’s not their news to share, they’d definitely be the last to know in future!!!
We told some family members very early on with our first pregnancy and got a lot of pressure from one who wanted to announce before our 12 week scan, thankfully they reluctantly agreed to keep quiet as we lost the baby the day before said scan. After that we kept our second pregnancy to ourselves until we’d had the scan and our 3rd pregnancy was a secret until we knew gender about 15 weeks, I’m pleased to say I now have an 18mo and am 33 weeks, but regardless would never tell before 15 weeks if we had any more :grimacing:

Try to move past this, they love you and we’re excited for the baby news.
I just wouldn’t trust them again with valuable information.

Don’t stress over it. You have enough going on. Just know you can’t trust her with secrets in the future.

You absolutely have the right to be upset. I’d be very hurt if I were you.

Learn a life lesson. Dont share with them. Keep ur good news to urself til u r ready to share. Very mean and petty of them knowing ur past experiences.

You can and should be upset! However, don’t let it ruin your pregnancy!! Enjoy the time, the food, and the feeling!! Life’s to short to spend it mad over loose lips!! :woman_shrugging: Now you know, what to tell them, when to tell them!! End of story, and life goes on!! Good luck!! :purple_heart:

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I mean you have the right, but seems like more stress to dwell over it🤷‍♀️

No one else would know a thing until you announced the birth yourself. But maybe I’m just petty :woman_shrugging:t3::woozy_face:

i was extremely upset when my mom told everyone in town. i had a miscarriage before my rainbow and when i found out i was 3 weeks pregnant, she told everyone in the town we were in the next day and i had communicated with her that i wanted to wait until i was 14 weeks to tell people. i was so extremely upset. of course, she was super excited and it got the best of her but i was still really upset. i totally understand what you’re going through

Over reacting since you chose to tell them. The only way to keep something secret is to keep it to yourself.

Enjoy your pregnancy!! Don’t get involved in unnecessary drama.
I have never been able to understand little family dramas, about who said it first or who is happier than the other.
Just relax and enjoy your pregnancy!!!

I would be upset. No one should be the person to tell your good news. Its not theirs to tell. Telling people you are expecting is such a precious moment, mothers and fathers are rhe only people who have the right to choose when other people should know. I see where you coming from I would be upset if I wasn’t the one who got to tell people about my pregnancy. It was inconsiderate of them. Congratulations babies are always a blessing. Praying for you,baby,and safe delivery

I’d just be thankful that baby is ok and relax and dont stress

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You don’t tell them jack shit from here on out they’re the LAST to know everything Bc they can’t keep their mouth shut.

Yes you can be mad… my exs sister in a whole Nother state wanted to announce my pregnancy on her fb page before I had even told my own parents and family. I was like negative not your place to speak. So when it came time to have her. I wouldn’t send them pics or let them takes pics in the hospital because I didn’t want them posted before I could

Dah. Sure easy to get upset. Not like you can hide it. May have just been happy for you.

I’d be pissed right off.

You have every right and you know to keep Special things to yourself untill you anounce it, if they get butt hert just tell them the truth, neither van be trusted to reapect ypur wishes about your personal info.
Also when you twll people say I’m sorry that mom and sis runied my spcial suprise but now that baby is safe we can celebrate it. I wont make that mistake again.

Excited or not it takes selfish person to take that special moment from a mom!! Espically if they had lost baby and made the parents go through telling eveyone.
That’s traumatic, they had no ides the outcome, again super selfish!!

Yes it was none of her business telling anyone about your pregnancy. Some people can’t keep their mouths shut and have to spoil the moment, not her place or anyone else’s at all. Same goes for the delivery, some people can’t help but post before the parents, it’s ridiculous.

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Yes you have every right to be upset. That was supposed to be your moment but they took it away from you. Sending prayers for a safe rest of your pregnancy & delivery. The moment you hold your baby the upset will fade.:heart::pray:

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Yes, that wasnt they’re news to share. You’re supposed to get the joy of that moment. I can understand people wanting to share their concerns and give others heads up with certain situations. But this isn’t one of those times. I’m glad to hear everything Is ok, God bless you and your babies :sparkling_heart:

Not the same but the same :sweat_smile: my sister (one i dont talk to anyway) announced all over Facebook about the birth of our second (she was in the group chat with my other two sisters and partners parents) and told the entire world that my son was born even after saying we weren’t telling anyone because it happened to be my partners sisters anniversary of her baby that died so we were waiting before announcing anything… sure enough she caused a scene… :roll_eyes: and instead of enjoying our son to the fullest it was even more overcast by partners sister (who wished him dead btw) for stealing her special day to remember her dead child and how dare we let this child be born on the same day

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I’d be pissed and tell them they will be the last to know anything from now on. In saying that, don’t let it ruin your moment. Your still pregnant and having a wee little one so just focus on that. Do you know the gender? If not when and if you find out don’t tell them. Let them find out on their own after baby is born.

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When I was pregnant with my first son somebody told the news before I even ha da chance. I was pissed personally I think it was no one’s place but mine and my partners

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I have alway felt no one has the right to put someone else’s business on social media but themselves. Family or not, not their business to tell. God Bless.

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the right yes, but why stress yourself and baby especially when your pregnant. Lifes to short…sounds like they were excited, I understand your side as well but thats the past not worth bad feelings with people you need the most…share the happiness and move on.

You have every right in the world to be upset with your mom and sister. Maybe sit down with them and talk about the situation and let them know how you’re feeling about them right now. Then let it go. Also I wouldn’t tell them anything important until you are ready to tell everyone at the same time.

You have a right to be upset BUT I’d say… unless it was a devious act… let it go & you’re in the green, the pregnancy is established, celebrate it & ppl are going to be just excited as if they first found out when they see you glowing with excitement.
I’d make my point with the sister that it wasn’t cool that she did that but holding a grudge isn’t going to change it. :woman_shrugging:

I guess I dont know why ypu cant be just as happy to yell everyone that the baby will be just fine. Your happiness should now be on planning your life around your family.

I would be upset. I would tell them they broke your trust. But then I would let it go because in the long run your baby is healthy and that is that. Don’t trust them again though.

I mean sure you do… but at this point what’s done is done… no use making a big thing about it… just wouldn’t charge anything with them that was sensitive like that again, they’ll get the hint :woman_shrugging:

Of course you do. They went against your wishes and took away your right to tell your news. It wasn’t their announcement to make.

Yes you have a right to upset. That was nobody’s news to tell but yours.

You have every right to be mad and upset! First off its your body, your baby, your news to tell. They had no right to go tell everyone.

They broke your trust. You set a boundary and they broke it. You have every right to be upset.

You have the right to be annoyed but I wouldn’t dwell on it/ stress about it.

You have that right to be upset. It wasn’t their business to tell

You have every right to be upset i had mine ruined too You be as upset as you want to be but try not to hold on to it too long

remember there is always chance someone will repeat whatever say keep to yourself.

let it go just dont tell her anything you want to keep secret for a while x

Your feelings are absolutely valid. Now you know you can’t rely on or trust them. :pensive:

It was up to you to tell people that you are pregnant

Id be upset. Maybe to get some of that joy of telling feeling you can do a gender reveal :woman_shrugging:

Yes, they shouldn’t have said anything.

Let’s it go don’t let it consume your life just in joy your family and let it go

They betrayed your trust. Tell them why you are upset. Good luck.

Just go with it. Enjoy your baby

Yes it’s not hers to tell…

It was YOUR news to tell.

That’s why it’s personal information and you don’t tell anyone so that’s technically on you for telling them you lived with them you should have known that was gonna happen I’m glad you’re out of the woods if you have another baby keep it to yourself next time until you are ready to tell people I didn’t even tell my mom with my second one bc she has a big mouth and it’s no ones business if I’m pregnant or not ya know

No they are family, forgive.

Nobodys business, but yours to tell anything about your babies.

Oh be pissed! Be very pissed! Cuss her out like a raging bitch and then blame it on hormones! :wink:

You have every right

The news was yours to tell.

You have every right to be upset but let it go. Just know that you can not trust them to keep anything to themselves and decide what you want everyone to know and when, in the future! Have a safe, happy pregnancy!!

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Praying for you and your baby :heart: she was probably just excited and couldn’t keep it a secret any longer

Yes. I don’t plan on telling anyone of my next pregnancy till I know all is OK.

People may have been commenting on your looking different or weight gain? If not that then they had zero right to utter a word it was extremely selfish of them to do this

they are just excited. you are not retelling the news you are celebrating the good news!! so send out invites, announcement cards, put announcements in the newspapers, call them… just enjoy that it’s your wonderful news and let people drive by ringing bells on a Thursday to ring in the blessings to come. Fill up the scrapbooks and enjoy this. ( they didn’t take anything away or out of this…they are just supper excited and let em give you a few baby showers even if you have to use zoom to open up the gifts…celabrate!! get them involved and get em busy they would love to have something to be part of all of this!)

You have every right to be upset. But its done and theres nothing you can do. Celebrate your child and let the rest go

They should have respected your wishes. But now that you and baby are safe celebrate that!! You don’t have to explain yourself to anyone. But you can always let them know how much they betrayed your trust and how much it hurt you that way you can put it behind you and enjoy the celebration!!!

Your story to tell not anybody else’s… Sorry you didnt get that JOY!!! heartless people… :disappointed_relieved:

Yes. Every single right to be upset.
Not only is it your news to tell, but they should have been respectful of you before thinking about opening their mouths.

Forgive and enjoy your life. Unforgiveness robs you of your life not the people who hurt you. God bless.

Shes just excited for you. Try not to b too mad