The little back story I got pregnant with my three babies, but I was really high risk that the doctor was shocked my son made it as far to the pregnancy without problems. But the doctor was worried he would not make it out alive and that I was putting my life at risk with this pregnancy, so I ask my sister and mom not to tell anyone until I know the results of my pregnancy and because I didn’t want to be the one to tell everyone that my baby didn’t make because I know it would hurt me more to say it out loud. But they already told everyone before I gave the okay, and now that we are out of danger, I feel like I can’t enjoy the moment of telling my whole family because they already told them, so do I have the right to be upset or am I over reacting?
Right to be upset for sure. But don’t let them take your joy. Congrats!!!
Lifes too short.
People can suck.
Have a safe uneventful pregnancy and focus on the beauty in life.
You have a right to be upset. They should have respected your wishes. With that being said, just enjoy every moment 
Sure, you have a right to be upset. But why let it ruin things for you? Why not make an announcement anyways on your own?
I would be flipping
I threatened my whole family I would never talk to them again for telling people and that’s part of the reason I am no contact with his mom is that she can’t be trusted. She told my best friend that because her friends didn’t have a Facebook it was ok to tell
I was supper high Risk the whole time and her heart rate was dropping and we had a very bad delivery they induced me early in fear of still birth 3 appointments a week and yeah it was bad. N let’s just say I wasn’t happy about being pregant to begin with as I didn’t want children.
But now that I have her i wouldn’t trade her for the world and j don’t talk to his family because after that I can’t trust them and way more but that’s the start
That’s ridiculous. Not their business to tell. I’d tell them they won’t be told anything else since trust is broken.
Don’t dwell too hard on it. What’s done is done. Enjoy it and congrats!
You have every right to be upset 
, my husband and I told nobody about my daughter untill we where absolutely sure, I didn’t trust anyone. Everyone was surprised when we showed up with a big belly lol
Be upset with their actions, absolutely. but don’t let it ruin your pregnancy 
Right to be upset, yeah. But why let them steal your joy. You can’t control others. You can only control your response to others actions. You can choose to be miserable about it and bring you down. Or not.
You have every right to be upset I would be for sure not their business to tell
I’m not sure why your asking if you have the right to be upset 
your an individual and can feel any way you wish about any situation regardless of how someone else feels about it. It was definitely not right for them to tell others you trusted them with the information. I know others know and it was not you that told them, but I bet they will still be just as happy to help you celebrate you little one still and I wish you the best and a happy and healthy full term pregnancy 
. Congratulations! I have 4 children a my son is 20 one of my daughters is 3 she was born at 34 weeks and I have an angel she is forever 16 weeks. I dont plan on other children but if I was I dont think I would share the information with anyone till I was almost at my due date or I had the baby.
I’d be pissed and not tell them anything the rest of the pregnancy. But I’m a huge grudge holder.
You have every right to be upset but you still should make your own announcement! Try to see it as they are just as excited as you are that they lapsed judgement on keeping quiet. Try not to let it ruin your excitement or upset you too much. But congratulations on your pregnancy and I wish you well!
Right to be upset. Yes. But what kind of outcome and behavior would you like out of it for yourself and your family? You can’t control your families behavior and have now learned you can’t trust them to wait to share in your joy. So maybe express how you feel to your mom and sister your disappointment. Hopefully they will apologize. I think they need to give you a sweet baby shower. I wish the healthiest safest uneventful pregnancy. Take care hon.
10000% you have every right to be upset, try not to let it ruin your pregnancy though
Just be grateful that baby and you are alive and well. Stop picking up pettiness. Life is too short for that.
I would be very upset !
I was upset with my mother for voicing it to family member/s I no longer concern myself with . One of Said family member is in contact with an ex of mine who caused me to lose two babies, and said family member is also very entitled and I very much tell her what it is and isnt. When I found out, I was mad, my min was asking me for like bump pictures, ultrasound pictures, and I didn’t think anything of it, I’m like ok here you go, because I’m thinking she wanted them because she was there when they were taken. While part of that is true she was also group messaging the news to her sisters and mother, (my grandmother), I wasn’t upset about one of my aunts I truly have no problem with but the others and my grandmother, we have had our battles and I cut the toxicity. I got over it as time went on because my mother was just happy, I didn’t voice this to my mother because I didn’t want her thinking she was wrong because ultimately she wasn’t, it was just my preference because I don’t associate with said family members.
I’d be livid. But enjoy it anyway… And throw in an “I really wanted to be the one to tell you, but I guess that’s not happening…” Just to jab them here and there. Lol
I’d be pissed and careful with what you share with them from now on.
U have the right to be very upset that’s your story to tell does she not have her own life story to tell
Absolutely. We waited til late for personal reasons and I would have been absolutely livid if the few people we told had spread the news. Family or not. It’s up to you guys to tell people, no one else.
You have every right to be upset I would be!!
Be upset. It’s your body and baby NOT their’s or their story to tell.
You have the right to be upset. It’s YOUR life. YOUR babies. They have no right to know about anything in your life. You chose to include them, and asked them not to tell anyone else. They disrespected your wishes. So from now on, don’t tell them and just post/share any news with everyone when you’re ready. I know it may suck but for me, I’d rather just not tell anyone if I knew the one person I told would tell my “secret”.
I’d be pissed , & they both sound TOXIC !!!
Your feelings are valid. Can’t change it, but you can tell them it hurt you and ask for an apology, which you deserve for sure!
Totally out of line! I’d be angry too. They made YOUR pregnancy & baby about them.
I’m a little confused though. Were you pregnant with triplets? You say 3 babies then you only refer to 1 son.
Your sister betrayed your trust by sharing your news, knowing that you were not ready to share it. Tell her that you are hurt, and disappointed in her. Some people are not capable of keeping a secret. You now know that your sister is one of them. My husband has a heart of gold; and, he too cannot be trusted with info that I do not want shared. Live and learn. Wishing you a healthy outcome for your baby. Don’t hold bad feelings in. That is not healthy for you.
Awe so sorry. I know how you feel on risks . I did not have to wait a long period of time. But 2 times now I have continued the trend of not telling people. The whole time . The only people who need to know, know. The rest can enjoy the shock anyway I would be pissed .
Yes you do. I’m sorry girl hugs
So from now, … a lesson, unfortunately, learned, … tell them nothing,!! If questioned in the future…tell them your, story to tell!
I was livid when my friend told everybody and anybody and I was the shy 19 /20 yr old pregnant person who didn’t want the whole world to know and since she told people right in the beginning…after a while I forgave her… still hurts though I couldn’t tell people when I was ready
I was upset too when my surprised was ruined by an in law. Felt stupid and disappointed. It took me awhile but at the end I had to stop holding grudges. What’s the point, It was upsetting my mood and baby so I had to let it go. It just shows that you can’t trust those people to a certain extent but still be nice in other ways. If u can tell them how you feel than after that let it be. U speaking ur feelings will def make them see. And to answer ur question yes you have the right to be upset.
You specifically told them not to and they did not respect you. You have every right to be pissed!!!
I’d be furious and they wouldn’t be updated on anything else until I was announcing the birth of my child. If it’s your baby you have no right to tell anybody anything
Yes you have every right you trusted and asked them to not say a word. Me and the hubby know to not tell any family members cause they will ruin the surprise I even mentioned should we let the grandparents at least know the night before and he said nope they find out when others do because specially one of them will call and tell everyone before we even get a chance…
My brother found my ultrasound Picture and showed my whole family with my first pregnancy… I was 18 and scared but excited at the same time… my mom still says I tried to hide being pregnant (when I literally had the ultrasound the morning of my birthday and told her the next day for her to say “I already know your brother showed me”)
He just wanted to kill my boyfriend at the time and was hoping my family would give him permission… he was also 17 and not an adult who knew better
You have a right to be mad, but don’t let it ruin your excitement
You always “have the right” to your feelings, but at this point, what does being upset do? Nothing. I am sorry your family took that moment away from you but how you move forward in your feelings matters. You have more joy coming so at this point just let it go and move forward looking forward to the next special moment.
I would be upset as well but now that theres no taking that back, maybe do something special your own way celebrating that your baby is healthy and telling everyone the good news. Whether it be a belly pic to share or a zoom video baby shower. Just make the rest of your pregnancy stress free and joyful
You have every right to be upset. They should have respected your wishes, plain and simple! I’m sorry girl. But so glad to hear you are out of the danger zone.
Yes, yes, and yes. Your baby, your pregnancy, your news
Yes. You have the right to have your feelings. But le it go for the sake of not stressing the already high risk pregnancy.
You probably have the right to be upset since you asked them not to tell people, but it won’t do you any good wasting your time being upset with your sister. If there is a next time, you know you can’t trust her with the information.
Yes. You have every right. That makes me sad for you. My mom did this once and I lost it. It takes away something you can’t get back.
You have the right to be upset. You trusted your family and she did what you asked her not to do. Unfortunately this is a huge risk of telling anyone but I’d be PISSED if my sister did that to me.
You have every right to be upset but try to let it go. Don’t stress while pregnant.
Yes of course you do they should not have told anyone without you specifically telling them they could. In the future i wouldn’t tell them anything important until you are ready for everyone to know if that is how they are going to act.
This is why we don’t tell anyone on my partner’s side of the family until after the 12 week scan as they can’t be trusted to not spill the beans! Or pester us daily asking when they can ‘finally’ start telling people, like it’s there news to be telling 
Im so sorry this happened. There is nothing worse then someone else ruining what should be your special moment xx
Well they already told so you’re high risk so you don’t wanna stress over this. You just learned a lesson in life , your best kept secret is to keep it to yourself congrats and sorry they told chin up
Yes you have a right to be upset. That’s what is wrong with humans. Loose lips sink ships.
Yes you have the right to be upset but hey enjoy ur pregnancy journey… simply don’t tell anyone ur baby s name till baby born! 
Oh I would be p!ssed. That’s not okay. I’m so sorry that happened to you
You’re the momma. This is your pregnancy/baby. You have a right to be upset.
You have the right to be upset. But maybe focus on the positive that the baby is ok. I would say In the grand scheme of things it is not something to stress about. Tell them
You don’t appreciate them going against your request hurt you and maybe draw some boundaries. They need to know what you feel but focus on the good and maybe give a little distance for awhile.
I would be very upset. From now on I wouldn’t even tell them anything about the pregnancy, not even the gender or what you’re going to name the baby. If you’re going to do a gender relieve I would just ask the doctor to put it in Ana envelope, give it to you and you personally give the envelope to the bakery or balloon store. Don’t invite anyone, record the event with you and hubby and if you want to upload the video to social media you can, if you don’t want to, then don’t. If anyone asks about the gender, you can say you want it to be a surprise at birth.
Yes it would only be normal human emotion to be upset idk maybe they don’t know when his arrival comes? 
Congratulations 
I’d be upset . Super upset. It isn’t their news to share. And now in the future I just wouldn’t tell them anything before you are ready to tell others.
It’d be the last time I trusted them with confidential information ever again.
someone in my family posted on fb after I’d had my youngest and I was furious, it’s at your discretion? And if you have told people they should realise it’s your choice when to let fb know? X
Yes you do have the right to be upset you had asked them not to say anything and they did it anyway so I would be upset too.
Yes , if u told her to keep it to herself yea but not forever tho
no you are not thats messed up and not their place to tell others
He’ll yes you ask them not to say anything and they had no respect for what u want
I think you have heightened anxiety over this pregnancy and understandably so, I would be angry too if it was me, but don’t let her actions ruin the next few months, rest enjoy and chill and I hope all goes well
You do have the right to be upset
You have every right to be upset. You specifically asked them not to say anything and they did anyway. Especially since you were concerned about the survival of one of your children.
My now ex’s sister, posted pictures of our firstborn on fb before i had the chance to announce i had a child. I was livid!!
They are dicks. You’re right. They are wrong.
You are overreacting. If you didn’t want it told then you should have kept YOUR mouth shut and not told them
Yes you have aright to be pissed. Cause you trusted them w something of importance about you. That could’ve had a diff outcome. Silver lining. Karma’s a witch. You get to do it to yur sister
Yes cause that’s a personal this and I can relate my sister told everyone soon as I found out in hospital inwas so embarrassed and so a shame at the time idk why she did that smh so I can relate
Seeking the support of your family and asking them to wait until you were both safe, isn’t to much to ask for. Say something and then forget to tell them anythjng more. As you know they can’t be trusted
Enjoy the rest of your pregnancy and look forward to a healthy baby.
Prevent them from coming to the delivery room and ban them from your house from seeing the new baby. Block on social media.
She’s an insensitive bitch for doing that, but let it go for now, momma.
Definitely have the right to be upset
You absolutely have the right to be upset!
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Yes it was your news to tell, however they were probably so excited, they didn’t think. Enjoy your good news, and blessings to you and your family.
Don’t let it ruin the miracle of this baby!!! That little boy needs to feel the love from EVERYONE In his family!!! Who cares who said what when???
I’d be upset. I’ll never understand why people feel the need to ruin someone else’s special moment. 
You are right to be upset , but my advice will be to focus on the fact that you and your baby are safe. Let that feeling go away , and enjoy your pregnancy ! 
I get how you would be hurt. That is definitely news you should have been able to share!! But try not to let it get you down or stress you out. That’s not good for you or babe. If I were in your shoes I would just try to focus on the fact that you have hit the point where things are looking good for babe. Look forward to what is to come in the pregnancy and to the birth.
It’s okay to be upset just don’t blow the situation up in my opinion. I just went thru something similar I was keeping it a secret even from my husband because one I thought I was having a miscarriage and 2 because I also wanted to surprise him if not. But he figured it out on his own and decided to tell everyone and then I ended up miscarrying and had to go tell everyone it was a miscarriage.
Of course you do but don’t let it ruin the fact that your baby is safe. That alone is something to celebrate. Shout it , sing it , say it , HAVE a big party. Do something to celebrate.
My MIL did the exact same thing now with my current pregnancy. Yes you have the right to be angry, its a clear sign of disrespect esp when She asked permission to share another family members news but never once said how can I tell so n so. It maybe my husbands only child so she has definitely robbed us of being able to share that joy when we are/were in the all clear.
You have every right to be upset, that’s only news you and your significant other should be telling. No one else has the right to
You have a right to be upset. I wouldn’t tell them anything else from here on out. (Like gender or name picked) til you tell everyone at once however you choose to announce it.
You have every right
Yes! This was your moment and they ruined it!
My mom did the same…
Suck it up buttercup. Lire is more important than complaining. Have some gratitude gees.
You have every right to be angry. I was also unable to enjoy the joy of sharing the news with people because of my mother 
I told her not to tell anyone (because we were still under the 12 week mark) and she told my oldest brother…well he is like a teenage girl…so pretty soon after that everyone in our family knew…
Heck yes you have every right to be upset!!
They should have respected your decision to not say anthing. I would def be upset.
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Hell yeah I’d be pissed!! Wasn’t their business to blab!
Something similar happened to me and I was very upset by it. In the excitement of a new baby people tend to forget about the mama in the process. I’d express this to your sister, tell her you are hurt and be careful what you tell her in the future. Sorry this happened to you. I’m so glad you’ve received good news about your baby though, best of luck with your pregnancy
I’d be furious. They wouldn’t know any other update. Wouldn’t be there for the birth… after the birth… Probably wouldn’t see us in a whole year.