They bought it and they had the right to open it without you.
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Your feelings are valid I feel that way and I have 3, the other day at play group one of the babies that a mum watchs for her friend started stepping and I was like has mum seen her do this? It would be sad if she hadnât but bub had been doing it for awhile thank goodness no mum should miss out on any firsts
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Hey you can be upset as a first time mom⌠BUT remember their first time grandparents too. Also, youâll look back on this and laugh at how upset you were and that this too can be a memory.
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Total normal to have these feelings because it is the 1st time but let it go. Your baby has a ton of 1sts coming so focus on those. Trust me!!
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You are still going to have her opening her first gift from you. I get being sad you missed out on the event, but I doubt the grandparents did it on purpose. Iâve been a stay at home mom with my daughter for two years and I realize that even through all that time, I have first that I missed. Itâs just part of life and we canât be there every moment.
Itâs going to make ur Christmas better cause you both can be home Christmas Eve and open more gifts
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Shake it off mama. That was nothing. Only reason its hurting your heart at all is cause it was âa firstâ. There will be enough firsts to go around the world and back so take a deep breath and laugh at it. Think about it! It is funny that you would get so uoset about it, right?!! 
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Working parents miss allot. Parents didnât watch mine. But I missed the first day he took a couple of steps. Try not to be upset not even close to Christmas yet. Doubt it was opened by the 7 month old. So basically just a gift that 7 month probably wonât remember who it was from. So just try to look beyond Tell them next year you would appreciate them bring the present over for the opening of presents. So you and Daddy can see her open too. At a year and half will be more fun anyway.
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I wouldnât let it bother you. There are bigger things to worry about Iâm sure. My daughter is 7 months as well and if her grandparents did that, I would just be grateful they got her something 
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Donât be upset. You have a right to be but its not the real thing. When you watch her eyes light up on Christmas day because of something you did for her, it will be worth it. You cannot control what family does but you will be present when it counts.
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Itâs normal to feel this way but you get over it.
She wonât even remember it. I wouldnât get too upset over it.
She is 7 months old sheâs not even going to remember.
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She will forget by Christmas
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She is 7 months ,yes you are over reacting
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I would be upset, but then just move on. Donât hold on to it.
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Girl you need to pick your battles and that is not one of them
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As a grandmother, I wouldnât even consider doing this to my daughter.
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Get OVER YOURSELF. THAT WAS A GIFT FROM YOUR PARENTS. YOULL HAVE YOUR MOMENT WHEN SHE OPENS HER GIFT FROM YOU
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I give my grandkids whatever i want and when i want! If it wasnât for your parents, you wouldnât have that child! Appreciate them while they are here
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Youâll have now a little over 17+ years to open presents 
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You are going to need thicker skin, you have a long way to go.
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I would be upset to like That is your child not theirs my daughters grandparents never over stepped they always made sure it was okay and if it was not they would be fine with it dont let these other people make you feel bad for how you feel you are the parent of your child and you can deside what makes u upset or not nobody has the right to tell you to grow up or tell you your feelings are wrong cuz how you feel is how you feel
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She wonât remember it tomorrow and honestly she probably didnât even really open it herself. So yea just donât worry about it
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Seriously ?? At 7months she will have me recall of it.
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Donât sweat it. Itâs really not a big deal to make them upset over such a minor thing is not worth it
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Iâd say get over it. Let the emotion come and go. Not worth staying upset over.
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Id be upset too. Doesnt matter if the baby isnt old enough to open it themselves. My mom tried the same thing. I put my foot down and told her no. You have to set boundries.
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I wouldnât get overly upset. Disappointed yes. But if my mum was to do that. Iâd ask for videos IF she does it.
You sound kind of childish! If you, and your husband both work, you both will miss a lot of firsts! Appreciate the fact that your parents watch her, and that sheâs safe, and loved.
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This reminds me of my old neighbor who gave my first born her first taste of ice cream when she was around that age, I was a little bothered by it but the next day we went out to eat and her Daddy shared his ice cream with her (I hadnât told him about the neighbors) it was so amazing to see them share that experience of her âfirstâ ice cream and to know that so many people love my child. Sheâs 10 now.
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At 7 months did she even open the gift herself? Or did your parents open for her?
. Sheâs 7 months and really doesnât know what the hell is going on. I seriously doubt your parents meant any harm. I wouldnât even count it. 1) Itâs not on Christmas Day and 2) Like I said previously they probably opened it for her. You will have SO MANY first, I wouldnât dwell on this.
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Itâs not even christmas yet. Geez.
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If you feel upset thatâs how you feel, itâs not wrong. I donât know them but they probably didnât even think it would make you upset. It was probably one of those things they just did and donât even realize it would be an issue. Itâs ok to be upset but I probably wouldnât make a big deal out of it.
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Iâm sure, Iâd be pissed, but Iâd get over it. I work full-time and I was a full-time student so I missed literally all of my sonâs first I remember my mom gave him his first solid foods and I flipped my lid because she couldnât wait 20 more minutes for me to get home.
I guess thatâs the price you pay for free babysitting
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Of all the problems in the world, you are mad over a presentâŚ
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You are an ungrateful brat
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Yes itâs ok, NONE, NOT ONE SINGLE PERSON ON THIS THREAD has a right to devalue your feelings, and how it made you feel missing out.
If you felt donât upset thatâs ok, if you felt anger thatâs ok.
But I will say donât get upset at your parents Iâm sure they didnât mean it in a malicious way, have a chat to them and just let them know that in future youâd like to share your daughterâs firstâs with her and if theyâd like to do one to have a chat to you about it so you donât miss out 
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Iâd be upset honestly as parents there is things you want to experience with them especially it being your first baby and honestly first holidays and birthday are more for the parent then the kid they wonât remember it but you will and definitely want pics and memories of that moment I missed my oldest first steps me my mom and sister were sitting on the floor with him working with him but I had to pee and not even a minute later I hear them freacking all excited sucked but but hey it does happen I let it go I mean itâs ok to be upset but donât hold on to it
My mom did it with my first child when she was 10 months old. She was babysitting, bella got fussy, nothing was working and grandma pulled out a present at 10 months old bella thought the wrapping paper and box were the best things ever she didnât even care for the new toy . I doubt the grandparents meant anything by it 
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Id say get over it as well. Especially if they took pictures or a video.
Sometimes firsts happen without us⌠but the first time you see it⌠is the first⌠who cares if she opened a gift at grandparents⌠or took first step at daycare while you worked⌠when you see it⌠it will be a first⌠dont sweat it.
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Its not even Xmas yet so doesnât really count! You still have the moment of first Xmas present at Xmas, but do put boundaries in with her grandparents and donât let them undermine your authority!!!
You will get SO many firsts. Give them one. Let it go.
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Be glad you have help babysittingâŚ
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Honestly she has most likely already forgotten about it. I wouldnât be upset. Iâd be grateful that your parents got her a gift and grateful they are available to help babysit her while you work.
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Are you for real!? If they came Christmas morning maybe but no youâre being stupid
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If itâs st their house their gift not your call
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Its not Christmas, youâll have the chance to give her presents to open
It wouldnât bother me at all honestly
It wasnât Christmas that is an important day for mom and dads. As this was a special moment for grandma and pappy so why wear that shade of green? That was their special moment youâll have yours ! Please dont make this an issue with your family because jealously ,rudeness and pettiness can ruin a family dynamic and the holidays.
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Sorry, you feelings are hurt but honestly you are going to miss firsts that feel important and get first that you wouldnât know that they would be important but really are. Let it go!
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At 7 months old babies donât really open or get that theyâre opening presents so really donât sweat it.
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Hope this is a joke.
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Omg get a grip⌠The reality of being a mom is that youâre not going to be present for everything they will experience. The sooner you realize that the sooner you wonât be heart broken over every little thing.
Let it go. Be thankful they cared enough to get her something.
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Itâs not wrong that you are upset, but it also wasnât wrong of them to let her open her gift. I donât think it would cross most peopleâs minds, let alone grandparents to ask if they can let their grandbaby open a gift from them.
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She SAID they are first time parents. All of the babyâs âfirstsâ seem important. Some of yâall are rude!
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Sheâs 7 months lol, I doubt she actually did any of the opening lol. If you are a little bummed I mean thatâs how you feel you canât help that, but I donât think they meant any harm by giving it to her. They were just trying to be nice and they were babysitting her so I mean thatâs something to be grateful for. At the end of the day, this is not a big deal and nothing to get super upset about. Come Christmas morning you can watch and help her open all the presents lol. I wouldnât make a mountain outta this mole hill
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Dont even stress hun. Shes 7 months. She wouldnt have opened her present herself. My 9 month old everything he touches goes in his mouth. I can imagine thats what she tried to do too. She wouldnt have understood what was going on just that she was holding something that makes noise. Your the one that gets to experience all the important firsts.
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Find something worth bitching about then start grow the f up
I missed almost all my daughters firsts because I went back to work when my daughter was only 2 months old⌠was I alittle butt hurt over it? yes. Did I make the people who got to witness her firsts feel like dicks? No. You have so much more to look forward too. Be happy that she has people who love her and want to be in her life.
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Please grow up !!! Its not the serious .
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You know what, itâs okay to feel upset or disappointed about what happened. Just like what you said you re first time parents, it is normal that you want to see ulall of your babyâs firsts or get emotional over little things. I am a first time mom and Iâve been through those situations myself and learned not to hate myself for feeling that way. Just donât get mad at your parents because of that. They may not be aware of it,maybe they were just excited to give their presents to your baby. But I advice you to let it go and just look forward tou your babyâs other firsts!
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I wouldnât be upset about it. Let her grandparents enjoy their first Xmas present from them. You still have the first Xmas present from you to do
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I wouldnât worry about it. Sheâs 7 months. Iâm sure she didnât open it or care at all.
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I get what everyone else is saying about âsheâs only 7 months old, she wouldnât have unwrapped itâ, but yeah Iâd be pissed as a first time parent. My mum would never have done thatâŚbut she knows how pedantic I can be. Iâm sure they were just excited and there was no malice intended. These âfirstsâ feel like a big deal for the first kidâŚbut if youâre planning on having more-trust me, it gets less of a big deal. Plus-Iâm sorry to say, there will unfortunately be plenty of other firsts that you will miss
How your feeling is understandable but step back and look at facts- sheâs 7mo old- she wonât remember or barely know whatâs going on, your kids loved by your parents not every child gets to have that- you can grumble and be angry or be productive and handle your feelings calmly. You got enough to stress about im sure- just simply and nicely say that youâd appreciate to be included in that stuff inthe future. Or record it and sent to you if they have a cam phn.
I love being a part of my kids first things to pieces! So I definitely hear you, but learning whats a battle thatâs worth your time and how to effectively respond without being hurtful is going to be a useful skill. Especially with a little human watching you closely now⌠Find peace girl trust me
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The good news is⌠she will probably be extra excited about gift #2 and youâll get awesome pics and enjoy it just as much as her 1st.
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Let it go. As a working mother you cant have it all ways. Be thankful that you have family support to help care for your child and not paying for daycare. As a working mum of 25plus years full time this is the first of many things that you will miss out on. Deal with it. Your daughter will never remember it. Learn to be a working mum with grace and style, or stay at home.
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Iâm just gonna say this is ridiculous. Iâm sorry, but this is not a real problem. Iâm just shaking my head right now.
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No it was wrong of them to give her the gift when you were not there to experience it with her. Talk to them.
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You have every right to feel whatever way you feel. With that being said, take a deep breathe and try to move past it. She is so young that she certainly wont remember it and xmas is very soon and you will get to see her open presents then and it will still be a first for everyone and you can take pictures and do all that fun stuff. Itâs okay to be upset about it but do not dwell on it because in the grand scheme of things, its nothing.
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Think of it as "practice " for her first gift with you. Iâm sure your parents meant no harm. Your feelings are understandable. You are first time parents. Be open about it with them but dont let it hold you down.
Youâre fine. I would be upset as well. But also be sure to be thankful that they care about you and your little one enough to buy her something for Christmas. I have to do that with my MIL all the time. She bought his first Christmas outfit without asking me, and his first birthday outfit too. Sheâs taken many, many, many firsts from me but I try not to let it get to me because she loves him and just canât help herself lol
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Donât ruin everyoneâs Christmas because of this.
I sure would be upset
Did I read this properly? Youâre parents are watching your child & buying them gifts & youâve still got something to whinge about? Get over it & be more grateful
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No this is a small thing to be getting so upset about⌠For one the baby wouldnât have even known it was a present or that is was their first present or anything like that⌠Yes itâs a xmas present but even on xmas day which is only weeks away, the baby still isnât going to care too much about presents⌠As first time parents milestones are a big thing FOR YOU⌠Try not to get caught up in what a important for you and whatâs important for the child⌠The child has grandparents that love it and want to buy it gifts⌠Not every one has that⌠I think you need to pick your battles as a parent⌠I have kids that I have to share with bio father and his family and my family so thereâs lots of opinions and things to constantly be trying to keep on top of⌠my biggest piece of advice is if thereâs other people in the kids life that love and adore it, then THATâS all that matters⌠I donât agree with some things my 1 year olds father does but he loves my son, and he has his family around that also love him and I am just happy that he is growing up with so many people in his life that actually give a shit about him⌠My oldest son has never met his dad or his dadâs family through no fault of mine and Iâd prefer a family that sometimes steps on toes than none at allâŚ
She 7 months she wonât remeber who gift she open first she can have a first with them
And you enjoy your baby enjoy family and have a merry Christmas
Yep, you are being silly.
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What they did isnât great. However, in the grand scheme of things your daughter wonât remember it. Ask yourself will this matter in 12 months time? If so, speak to them. If not, move on from it.
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She wonât even remember it. Try not to fuss over the little things. There will be many more âfirstsâ to come.
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Wow. I am and will forever be greatful for my parents for EVERYTHING they did for me and my children. They were the ones there when I was working the night shift, they were the ones there still taking care of my kids while I got some sleep in order to go back to work each night. They were as much a parent to my kids as I was and I would never be angry with them for doing ANYTHING pertaining âa firstâ because for one, while I was working, they were thereâŚ
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1st world problems eh?
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At 7 months old I can guarantee that grandparents did all the unwrapping! Itâs not a big deal, let it go.
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- You have supportive parents
- Your daughter has loving grandparents
- Your daughter will receive gifts from both yourself and grandparents this Christmas.
I donât think you realise how lucky you are and you should stop creating drama out of nothing. There are children out there who have nothing to eat and youâre moaning because you werenât there when she received a present from your parents? Jeeeeez. Grow up
As a ftm also, I understand where youâre coming from, mama. You are not wrong! Your feelings are valid and you have every right to feel the way you do. You are also lucky that you have such loving and involved parents. I would, too, be upset, but like others have stated, your baby is 7 months and wonât remember this. Take some deep breaths and let this one go. Sometimes weâve gotta choose our battles. Is this really worth fighting over?
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Parents do annoying things, but itâs not something to get upset about. At 7 months old, that baby probably didnât even open it, your parents did. I donât think this is worth even asking opinions on FB.
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For Godâs sake itâs not the end of the world be grateful
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I get where youâre coming from my LG dad took her into her first doctors appointment whilst I was in the chemist I was devastated I missed it even tho it was just an appointment itâs just the first you want all their firsts to be with you as youâll never get them back. But even so she wonât remember it and it wasnât like it was Christmas morning you missed she wonât even remember it and the pictures on Christmas will be what she looks back on
No you do not have a right to be upset. Life is hard and tough. This is a very petty issue.
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Donât sweat the small stuff. Some will have NO GIFTS.
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Yes, you do have a right to be upset. What the fuck is wrong with people. If youâre okay with your parents stealing important moments with your kids, why not just sign over rights?
I would be upset too. Especially because itâs common sense to not take firsts away from parents. I doubt they meant any harm by it, but that doesnât make it okay. And the fact they watch your kid doesnât make it okay.
You are being petty. You are also being ungrateful. Give her another present and sheâll do it again. After youâve done that, take a moment and be thankful that THIS is all you have to worry about. I worry about how many more Christmases my health is going to allow me to have with my daughter.
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Grow up and be grateful.
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You have every right to be upset. This was a first for you and they should have been more considerate.
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The things people complain about 
Talk about first world problems. People need to get a grip. Do you have a precious child? Is that child happy and healthy? Do you have lifeâs essentials and people who are loving around you? Then stop complaining about nonsense!
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I agree, she has a lot of living yetâŚ