My parents watched our daughter when our work schedules overlapped the other day. We are first time parents. She is seven months old, and they gave her her Christmas present early, without letting us know they were going to do that. We missed her opening her first present. Is it wrong that I’m bothered by it? It isn’t even the fact that it wasn’t a gift from us that is upsetting. I’m very grateful and knew what they had gotten her, but it was the first time she got to open her own present.
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Seems like not a big deal at that age , let grandparents love them extra ! Merry Christmas
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Honestly, in a year you won’t even remember it. It’s not a big deal.
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Just know they had good intentions. I would be upset at first but over it quickly they are your parents and love your child 
I really wouldn’t think about it. She won’t remember it
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Wow and now the world is coming to an end!
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You’re going to be hurt over so much more, sweetie. pace yourself.
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Omg your kid won’t even remember this moment! Forget about it and share the moment with her on Christmas Day. 
mannnnn you’re making a mountain out of a molehill
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She probably didn’t open the gift herself, you didn’t miss anything
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Uhm a right? Yes. But are you being dramatic? Also yes.
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At 7 months not possible
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just be proud she got something
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You have a right to feel however you want, but it’s not fair to be mad at them… Pick your battles… Plus christmas wasnt even fun with my daughter until she was 5…
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Petty at finest. Be glad that your parents gave your child something at all. She is 7 month and won’t remember any of this. Your parents are good loving grandparents. Some Grandparents don’t give anything and don’t watch children
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There will be plenty more to open.
Be thankful that your child has grandparents that want to be involved. Your LO will not even remember this Christmas, or probably even next. Get over it and be thankful that you have support
Brace yourself now for all the things your going to “miss” during your kids childhood. Believe me. There will be lots. Lots more important things than that. Missed my sons Christmas concert yesterday because of work, such is life
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Your going to miss out on so many firsts! Don’t get caught up on what you miss…cherish what you are a part of 
being there for her first Christmas is more memorable than watching her tear her first piece of coloured paper
It is also maybe their first grandchild to see if their first grandchild open the gift they gave her when you give your daughter her first Christmas gift you will watch her open the first gift you gave her
It’s not even that serious
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She’s 7 months old you will be able to see her open her first presents with you
Nah. Let this one go. Her next Christmas is where the moneys at. She will be actively excited next Christmas rather than bored this Christmas.
Pick your battles. Worse things than this will happen. Your daughter didn’t open the gift nor will she remember it. Do yourself a favor and take a picture of her “opening” your gift if you’re concerned. This will be my sons second Christmas and I can’t even remember for the life of me what we gifted him last year let alone other people. Breathe and be grateful for the blessings you have. Don’t stress before the holiday especially about something like that.
Crybaby! Grow up girl!
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She’s 7 months old for god sake , she won’t even remember opening her 1st gift from you , I can understand you being angry but put it behind you the baby doesn’t have a clue and won’t have any memory of this
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Eh let it go. Not worth getting upset about. You’ll get many other firsts.
I love seeing new mums like this as it makes me realise how silly I was
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My children don’t get to see their grandparents cause they passed away, id love them to have that opportunity…
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I was the same. Now he’s 2 and I look back and feel so dumb. Hahaha
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I can almost guarantee she didn’t open the gift herself. At that age it’s someone opening it 99% and then baby might rip it the other 1%. I would t be mad at all personally if just be happy that family is able to babysit and cared enough to get my kid a gift.
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It’s life. You gonna miss a lot more. Be bothered but keep it to yourself. Then get over it like you will about all the other things you’re gonna miss.
Yes. You do have a right to be upset, but be mindful in how you react. That is key. 
No , I’m sorry but that’s REALLY REALLY PETTY!
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It isn’t Christmas, therefore it wasn’t a Christmas present.
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You will miss many first. Don’t let this bother you as long as she knows she can always come to you. Your her first mama, that’s all that matters.
Your feelings are totally valid! I missed a few firsts but I quickly realized even though I missed it the first time…the first time I got to see it was just as special.
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At 7 months she cant even open the gift herself probly play more with wrapping paper than the toys. Christmas is in 2 weeks and then she can open her first Christmas present because it would be Christmas then!
She’s 7 months old. Did she REALLY open her first present?
Also, she doesn’t remember what happened this morning. So when you give her a gift it’s still going to be brand new to her
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I wouldn’t be upset there’s tons more Christmas s coming and she’s so young she won’t remember so that’s just me I wouldn’t be upset at all and it came from her grandparents
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My ex MIL did several things like this. And it really upset me at the time. I felt like I had really missed something important. She’s now almost 19 and it made 0 difference in the long run. You’ll be ok.
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At 7 months old, she isn’t opening anything on her own, nor does she care about presents.
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Yeah … you’re in for a world of disappointment if that’s something that bothers you bad enough that you need to ask total strangers how to feel about it.
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Sounds like a first world problem.
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Having lots of people in her life that love her is more important than who gets to be first in anything.Take a deep breath and let the anger go.
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Shit I wish my kids had grandparents who cared. My mom’s a toxic ass person who I don’t allow near my kids , I don’t know my dad and my husbands parents passed away🤷
You’re gonna get so many firsts, momma. They really aren’t so big a deal on things like this because it’s not the first of it that’s magical, but the joy they’ll have each time they do it. And you’ll always have the first time you see baby open a gift, and that’s the thing to focus on because i promise baby isn’t going to remember this at all
Yall are some Bit**** js.
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My daughter first “Christmas” gift was given to her by her grandparents and I can promise you she was like “what the he’ll… ohhhh toy” let it go it’s not that big of a deal
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She didn’t actually open her present on her own. Relax lol it gets better as they get a little older and can actually do it on their own. Let it go. It’s not worth stressing over
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Be thankful your parents are in your child’s life! Your baby doesn’t even understand what a present is at this age.
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Ask yourself this. Will it matter in a week, a year, 10 years? This is the question I ask myself every day when I feel myself getting upset, frustrated etc. This question has saved me from many arguments with my hubby, kids, and family. Try not to see the bad but the good. A lot of kids don’t have loving parents let alone loving grandparents. Your child has both.
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I missed my middle child saying “mama” for the first time. Her daycare teacher got to hear it. Missed her first steps. Again, daycare got to see it. You’re going to miss a lot of firsts. And you’re also going to get mad at a whole hell of a lot as a parent. This, while it could have been prevented, is so minuscule in comparison to everything else that will upset you as a parent. I understand you want to be present for everything, but one of the hardest things we have to accept as parents is that it’s impossible to be there for absolutely everything. You of course have a right to be upset but don’t let it dictate what you do next. Also, take heart in the fact that there’s a high chance she didn’t even do the opening since she’s only 7 months. The holiday and family are stressful enough on their own. Pick your battles because I promise you this one isn’t worth it.
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She opened it all by herself with no help no coaching…
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There are kids who won’t be opening any presents this Christmas. Get over it dude…
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Get over it. She won’t even remember it as her first. They were rxcited.
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My family lives 1800 away. I’d be happy to have them here in my kids everyday lives opening gifts with or without me around. Don’t worry momma. A 7 month old won’t remember any of it.
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It’s not even Christmas why are you upset? I deff wouldnt be
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I think you are over reacting. They gave her their present. It wasn’t intentional to take away FIRST present. At her age, it is not a first anything. You give her her First present on Christmas Eve or morning take a picture. Done
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It’s not wrong. But it’s really not a big deal.
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I doubt she even really opened it. Most likely they did. NBD
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She’s not even going to remember opening any of her presents for a long time
You will get to see her open her first present ON Christmas
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I’d give ANYTHING for my kids to be able to receive a present of their nana! My mum passed away before all 3 of them were born. Count your self lucky and stop sweating the small stuff. Count your fucking blessings ffs!
Get a grip. there will be many,many gifts to unwrap.
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She’s 7 months old. She probably didn’t open anything herself.
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Some of you guys are being rude for absolutely no reason. What’s the point in putting down a fellow mother for simply asking for advice/support? It is perfectly normal for a mother to feel bothered when missing first times. Especially when you have to work, it does get to you no matter how minuscule it may seem. Momma, you’re allowed to get upset. Even if she couldnt technically open the present all the way by herself, it is still a moment you would have cherished. But, there will be so many more:heart: maybe just open, polite communication with the MIL could help, or even your partner if you’re not comfortable going straight to MIL. Hope it all works out babe, you got this 
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God this thread makes me so disappointed in how quickly women are ready to tear down other women and be nasty. This is what y’all are teaching your babies and that’s so sad for the next generation. You do all know that you can say the same message & your opinion without so much hatred and judgement in your tone, right??
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Yeah…you’re going to miss a lot. That’s life… Put a positive spin on it!
Be happy your parents got to share that moment with her. A great memory for them as grandparents.
And Christmas morning you can have your memories with her opening her presents. She won’t remember, but you will. Merry Christmas to all 
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If you get angry over that… There will be alot more anger to come. Just breathe it’s all good. Be thankful she gets presents and love!
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She is how old?..
Stawwwwwp itttt 
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LMAO… ohhh boy… better relax or motherhood will kick your ass… it’s no big deal… your child has no idea and probably no real reaction to it…
I get wanting all of the firsts to belong to you. You’re mom.
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Get over it she is 7 months old seriously
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Don’t worry, I’d be upset too! Firsts are always exciting and it sucks missing them.
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I understand being upset. Are they first time grandparents? Maybe they wanted to have a first with her. You are going to miss out on things as you won’t be with her 24/7. Don’t get too upset about it as what’s done is done.
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Honestly its not like she will remember and you can take pictures at Christmas, no one will know the difference. Really no reason to get bent out of shape.
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I would be bucse you could have taken pictures and put in a family album or her baby book
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Terrible to shame a mum!
You are absolutely entitled to your feelings. We are all different and while one thing may not bother one person it may really upset another.
I don’t see the big deal but perhaps you were looking forward to this. Sometimes things don’t go how you plan them.
You will feel better! You have many many other firsts to come.
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Damn some of you women are so rude. Honestly, I would have been a little upset too. Don’t listen to these negative Nancy’s. You’re allowed to feel how you feel. Just don’t let it ruin your day mama. There will be so many presents in her life that you will see her open. I know that’s not the point it’s the fact that you want to be their for the first everything.
At 7 months she cant even open a present by herself. They had to open it for her you are not missing anything
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Honestly I’d feel some type of way too, but I’d just keep it to myself. She wasnt doing it with the intention of you missing it.
I totally feel you mama, I’ve had similar things happen and have been a little salty, but I wasnt going to let something so small start a big fight or arguement.
You women are really riding my nerves today. And I thought I liked this group. This momma had a right to be upset and you all are being rude.
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Fckn mother is this for real
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Unless you told them that you wanted to be there for her first present opening then no, move on, there will be a lot more 1st things you will miss
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Aww that’s understandable mama it’s a first and we love to have that experience with them
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It’s not Christmas day.
Is everyone here on the fucking rag? Like seriously? going to leave this group soon.
I’m a grandparent and my daughter is just like you. I just didn’t think certain things were a big deal. Remember it’s exciting for grandparents too. I would just tell your parents this. They probably aren’t realizing they are doing anything wrong.
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I get why you are upset, I have a 7 (almost 8 month old) as well and I would probably feel sad if I missed her first time opening a gift as well, just seeing the smile on her face being allowed to rip the paper, but she wont remember, and christmas will feel like her first time all over again, so be a little sad, but remember in the long run it’s just a tiny thing.
You’d never even know if they hadn’t told you. It shouldn’t be a big deal. Just enjoy watching her open her first present on Christmas.
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And you will see her open your 1st present, just my opinion but this is so trivial!
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You have every right to be upset! She’s your first child and it’s one of her firsts. I was like this with my first daughter. Others would do firsts with her and I got so upset by it, I was suffering with ppd which didn’t help… you need to let them know how you feel about it and then if they don’t like it then they can get stuffed! It’s your child your feelings! Don’t bother listening to those that tell you different stick to your opinions and stick up for yourself!x
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If your that pressed dont leave her. You should be grateful for your parents enjoying your children.
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Petty. It’s petty as hell.
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You can be upset. Noone can control your emotions. But… what is being uoset going to do? Its how you respond to your emotions.
But… you cant keep your child in a bubble. Realize she is surrounded by love and you may not always be the witness to every first.
This was their gift.
Make your own traditions with your daughter
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I’d be upset but consider on Christmas Day opening her gifts can be her first real Christmas gift on Christmas you can be there to see I’m sure it was unintentional but I totally would be upset! 
Lmao. First world problems.
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It’s silly to be upset.
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Okay I used to like this group. And in the rules it specifically says if you can’t say anything nice don’t say anything. But A LOT of you mothers are being really fucking bitchy. This is a first time mom who has every right to be upset about missing a first for her child. You may not find it important but it was to her. So can we stop being a group of bitchy mothers and support one another. You ladies are realing bring this group down. And its such a shame the admins do nothing about it. Smh. Fucking shitty people.
Shes is going to have that same reaction on Christmas morning shen she opens your gifts it will be ok pleanty of first to still go
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