She got to spend a day with your parents. They had their moment with their grandbaby. They do have some rights too. Let them have some joy. If something happens to them tomorrow, will you still be angry? Be lucky that they are people that love you an your kid. In today’s world, it could be worse.
Your daughter is 7 months old! She doesn’t even know she opened her first present! I’d say you’re being extremely petty over this. You’re lucky enough to have parents that will help you and you’re complaining about something so minor! Choose your battles and be great full for your parents.
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Get a grip… really!!
I don’t think they did it out of malice, just excitement, relax, if you work this will not be the only first that you miss, be grateful they are there to spend these days with her and make memories, that’s what is really important
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All you self righteous individuals need to shut up since you can’t say nothing nice. Your mothers must be real proud knowing you’re tearing a FIRST TIME MOM down.
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Be grateful you have them! Your daughter will not remember that present, but your parents will. If you make a fuss over something as slight as this, your making a huge mistake! Coming from a grandparent! Gheez, she’s 7 months old! She didn’t unwrap it🙄
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First present ever… meaning they have never seen their child open a present before and to see what their reaction would be. Especially on Christmas. So yeah, I’d say she has a right to be upset, especially since they didn’t ask first or tell her. That they didn’t think about how she’d feel about it.
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Just pretend it didnt happen because technically its not christmas yet. So she really didnt open a real christmas present
I don’t think you are being petty. I think you’re a mom who just wants to be included in all of your child’s firsts. I doubt all these people would be so insulting if it were a first haircut for example. No one has the right to tell you your feelings are invalid. Even if these strangers were kind, they are strangers and what they say isn’t important. But I am sure the grandparents meant no harm and were just excited to give her their gift early. I hope when your child receives their gifts on Christmas from you that it’ll make this little pang of hurt go away. Best wishes for you and yours. 
Get over it. I’m sorry but that’s life your a working parent so I’m sure you know some where in the back of your mind you know you cant very there for everything. It’s a fact of life that if your a parent you can’t be all the time, I’d be more concerned over who is watching your kids and leaving a lasting impression over a present that kids will never remember, let alone you never talking about again.
If you both are working your child will do many first you will miss out on. If you think your child or anyone watching them will stop its first step or first tooth or first time saying a word so you can be there, you need to be more realistic. Why would you think a special moment between your parents and their grandchild should always include you? Do you think they put baby on a shelf when your not around? Sadly you are expressing a childish jealousy moment.
Well, I mean your child is alive and obviously loved.
I think youre over reacting a little bit hun
too young to even open it herself…
Omg she probably doesn’t remember you can redo this moment lol
Omg…I can tell this is your first baby…if this is your biggest problem with your baby and parents, be thankful to God. Take it from someone that has 2 grown kids, smile and give your baby and your parents a hug and tell them you love them, then call it a night. You’ll have much bigger and better things to be pissed at your parents for later. Lol
Stop being so selfish…
Get over it you are a wimp
I understand… my husband fed our baby his first bite of food when I wasn’t in the room… I cried& was pretty dramatic about it:joy:… looking back it wasn’t as bad as big of deal as I made it out to be… but I do understand how you feel!! I’m sure they didn’t mean anything by it at all! I would just try to let it go& take a picture of her opening her first Christmas present on Christmas day! 
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As working parents, you’re going to miss a lot of your child’s “first moments”. I would just be grateful that my child has such loving grandparents. Everyone’s child doesn’t get that.
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Is the problem the “first present”, or is the problem your parents? Personally, I dealt with a similar situation and my biggest issue was the overbearing attitude that my mother-in-law had. She wanted to be involved in everything, felt her family traditions were priority over mine, disregarded my opinions and carried on however she wanted. I was so angry with her passive-aggressive attitude that every little thing she did pissed me off. Everything felt like a threat or some sort of attempt to display dominance over the family.
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To be honest my child is going to be 4 the day after Christmas and I don’t even know what the hell she opened first on her first actual Christmas. 🤷
Pretty dramatic. It’s a gift. Not a big deal. Lol it’s not like they cut her hair or fed her real food for the first time or took her to see santa for the first time without you.
Definitely not something to get your panties in a wad about.
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Her first present isn’t till the actual day. Ull get to see her open one on Christmas which isn’t far away. She won’t b opening gifts like a pro in a week. They prob didn’t expect it to be a big deal to u. Give them some slack…
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First of all she is only 7 months old.
Second of all be grateful that the grandparents watch the kid while you work.
3rd of all , did you state this to them or just assumed they knew your wishes?
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Well technically it isn’t Christmas yet so technically she didn’t open a “Christmas “ present. 
She basically just opened a gift. 
I’m sad for y’all. And here’s why. For your parents to know it would be a first for your child to do and for them not to include y’all but to plan the occasion without y’all to be there, is really quite disrespectful towards y’all and my feelings would be hurt too. Perhaps THEY feel a little ENTITLED since they babysit or whatever the reason may be. As a grandmother myself, I would never intentionally try to be the first to experience a grandkid!s first and cause pain in their parent’s heart from not being there. Would YOU as a grandparent? If your parents don’t know how you feel then you could tell them and see how they react ; they can’t negate your feelings.
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They wanted to see her open the gift they got her. I’d be happy they got baby something and leave it at that. Your fortunate to have loving grandparents for your child.
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Omg it’s not the first from you!! Your gonna miss alot of first working.
She’s 7 months old… I doubt she ripped that present open and screamed with delight. Nothing to be dramatic about.
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Of course you have the right to your feelings BUT I don’t think they did it out of malice. I promise you didn’t miss much, babies don’t really rip presents open. So have your feelings, then let em go and move on:)
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She is not going to remember any of this.
Let them enjoy being grandparents. At least they are excited. One day they wont be there anymore.
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Wtf is wrong with u people? This page is shit with all ur comments. Firsts ARE important. It doesnt matter the day or the holiday or whether or not ppl should be greatful. Its not only the first for the baby but a first for them as parents. I documented everything from my first child because i was excited. And none of you have the right to say that it doesnt matter.
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This mother asked for your opinion, not to be bashed or ridiculed. These comments make me want to unfollow this page, might be petty but I don’t want to be a part of a page that has people on here that make you feel so small.
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I’d be upset to tbh . My son is gonna be eight months right before Christmas , and he’s my very first baby after 5 losses . If I wasn’t there to see it , I’d be upset too . It’s the same as them crawling or talking or rolling over for me . Although I’d have kept it to myself that it hurt , I’d still have been truely upset .
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Its just a present. There will plenty of first for you to experience. Be happy the grandparent Want to be there.
If it was a present from you, I would say yes, be very upset. Considering it was a gift from them, I don’t see it being a big deal. Most parents don’t keep track of baby’s first time opening a present. Baby’s first birthday, baby’s first Christmas morning, yes. First time opening a gift, no.
Be grateful for grandparents who can watch your little one!
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I dont even remember what my sons first christmas gift was… let alone the opening of it. I think this is a bit dramatic. Take it from me, two kids in one is three, this Christmas, his third, is going to be much more memorable than his first one was. Don’t sweat it.
Personally I would be upset! I try to see as many of my baby’s firsts as possible. I didn’t get to see his first eye exam and I was in tears. I have really bad postpartum depression and anxiety as well.
My child was in daycare 5 days a week from 4 months old until 4 years old. Pretty positive I missed a lot of firsts. The difference is, our baby sitter never told me. LOL. I did miss her crawling for the first time but my mom videoed it. You can be a little sad but just be glad she has grandparents who care and care enough to buy gifts for her.
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Oh there will be a lot more things to be upset about in the future. Don’t waste energy on this sister 
I would be upset too, but I would leave it alone. You’ll have many more firsts that only you will see. Let the grandparents have this one
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I would be upset too but I wouldn’t make a scene. I really value memories like that, especially firsts.
No it’s not reasonable to resent that. As parents we want to be present when our offspring does their first anything. Well take itnf
U can be bothered by it. But some people won’t understand as such. My MIL and FIL cut my daughters hair one night while they were watching her for a date evening. We came back and her bangs were shorter. She was 11 months old, our first child at the time, her first hair cut and they didn’t ask or see it as a big deal when I said “u did what???””” I balled my eyes out in the car on the way home that night telling my husband how f’d up it was. He was upset too but couldn’t interpret that to his parents apparently. Ooooooo 10 yrs later I still hold a grudge to it lol. They never saw why I got upset about it.
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It’s not that big of a deal. They were just excited as grandparents and they helped her open it.
If you want to see her first time everything you might want to quit your job. You being a working mom you’re going to miss out on alot of “first’s”.
Listen you’re entitled to feel whatever way you want about anything regarding your own child. I get it, you’re first time parents and don’t want to miss a thing. We’ve all been there. I’ve 4 kids, 19,6,4,18 months. My family gave my son his first taste of icecream and I was a little put out if I’m honest. In the grand scheme of things it’s a little blip. Focus on the fact that your daughter has grandparents still around to share these times with.
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Seems to me this problem is more than this incident. But it’s bothering you, so acknowledge your feelings and delve a little deeper. You might not fix everything but get to the root of the problem.
Awwww some one you ladies should be ashamed of yourselves. This group is a place for moms to come and ask questions and some of you are being alittle cold. She states she is a first time mom. There were a BILLIONNNNN things i did or got upset or worked up over with my first kid. And didnt think twice about with my 2nd and prob. Less with this one i’ve got cooking.
I think maybe she is prob. Feeling guilty that she is working (maybe not) and maybe thats why shes so upset. Maybe she has postpartum depression and everything is over dramatized to her. Maybe shes fine and is just feeling upset. Its not wrong for her to feel upset. She should try to let it go and breath. I was was there for every first with my daughter and i dont remember what her first gift was. Its okay to be upset but dont let it take over you. Be upset for a moment. Talk it over with your parents if you still need too and my advise is move on. Its okay. Just relax. No one is a perfect mom, youre gonna miss stuff, screw them up. Esp. Your first one. Just try to take it easy dont be so hard on your parents, or yourself. It’s alright. As for the rest of you harsh, not so kind ladies. Not everyone is like you some people are more sensitive than others, you should be a little kinder when telling people they’re being dramatic.
I get what you’re saying and although you are entitled to feel how you feel… It really is not worth getting really upset or making it an issue. Like someone said, you’re working parents, it’s very likely you’ll miss other firsts.
It’s easy to feel like you were robbed your first kid around. Not everyone has the chance to be (or even a remote desire to be) a stay-at-home parent and be there all the time. Even SAHP miss moments (look, we have to pee and shower sometimes. It happens). It’s exciting to see something new, especially when it’s new for the other person too.
My advice? Breathe. You can be upset, but you also need to try to keep things in perspective. It might not be their first gift ever, but you still get to watch them open their first gift from you. There will be many gifts and other experiences to come. It’ll be fun and exciting many years to come. You still have the first time they get REALLY excited about a gift. You still have the first time they get excited about giving a gift. The first gift they make.
Your parents have already gone through all of these with their kids. It’s easy for them to lose that perspective, especially if it’s their first grandkid too. Now, without being there, idk if there was any malice involved or not. Odds are there wasn’t, however. They probably assumed you knowing about it would be the same as you being okay with it. That happens so often.
Your feelings are valid. Your experiences are valid. Just try to keep your actual response proportional so you don’t lose something without need.
Like others stated, as a working parent, you’re going to miss alot of “firsts”. Just think of it as her first opening gifts with grandparents. She can still open her first gift with you. It’s really not that big of a deal, either. She’s 7 months old. She’s not going to remember it.
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She is 7 months old she didnt open that present, she wont even know what its all about, I wouldn’t worry about it at all
They give her a present, how in hell they do something wrong?
She wont remember… lol