We are a blended family. My two girls got married and put their step siblings in their weddings. when it was their turn to get married neither put my kids in their weddings. I feel so disappointed and hurt (my kids too). Do I give up my Brady bunch dreams now?
Yes. Focus on having a healthy, happy family. We cannot control what other people do, let it fall off your back & try not to internalize things like that. I donât think that they did it to intentionally hurt you, donât let it get it to you, youâre an awesome Mom Remember that & tell yourself that everyday ! You win
If your kids are upset they need to discuss it with the siblings. Itâs not on you, itâs not your fight of theyâre adults. Heck, my sister didnât want me in her wedding because Iâm too fat. đ¤ˇ
If thats all you have to be upset about, then you are winningâŚ
Yes each person is allowed to make their special day theirs how they see fit and they saw different . Let it go and move on
Yes they arenât obligated to return the favour!
Iâm sorry but just because your children put their stepsiblings in their weddings doesnât mean the stepsibings are obligated to do the same. Each are entitled to make their wedding special to them even if their family isnât directly in the wedding. It doesnât mean they donât care about eachother. Iâm sure feelings were hurt, but ultimately, the choice of whoâs standing by them is up to them.
I understand the hurt. But its not your battle if your kids feel some type of way they need to speak up. They are adults love.
I get that youâre upset. But theyâre not obligated to put them in their wedding.
This happened to me honestly and I was and sometimes still am so hurt but no one else is so Iâm just hurting myself itâs best to let it go. It isnât worth it to hold onto it because itâs already done and thereâs nothing you can do now. Iâm sorry
Donât let it bother you, my half sister who I grew up with and never once referred to as half growing up when she got married my other sister and I felt like outsiders she did pictures with his side of the family and didnât do pictures with any of our side we werenât included in her planning or getting ready and completely ignored the whole evening
No, itâs not your battle and you can control what they do. They are adults and capable of discussing it with one another if they choose to. I wouldnât let a couple events hurt your family where you give up on them, because sometimes people have reasons behind what they do, even if you donât understand them.
None of my siblings had me in their weddings đ¤ˇ
Everyone makes their own decisions. Since theyâre getting married it must mean they are adults. Donât let it bother you. Nothing you could have done. No time to be hurt, just move on.
No one is obligated to have family siblings or not in their weddings itâs their day their choice so no you have no right to be upset because itâs not your choice itâs not your wedding and itâs really none of your business
May as well⌠I wasnât invited to any of the 3 weddings my step sister had lol shows you where you stand with blended family members
No because maybe the step kids already had lifelong friends and some family members they were closer to. I donât think itâs that big of a deal. And I donât really think anyone should have a discussion about it. Just because youâre now a relative of someone because they were married into the family doesnât make you someone entitled to be in a wedding. Thatâs just being realistic.
I can kind of see why youâre upset, however, your step kids are not, in any way, obligated to include your kids in their wedding. Iâm sure they still love your kids just the same, they may just have other friends that they want to be apart of their wedding. Itâs THEIR wedding(s). Itâs not as dramatic as youâre making it to be. I included my SIL in my wedding and I was not asked to be in hers and I was okay with that. She wanted her sisters to be apart of it. I donât have sisters and didnât have many friends, so it worked out pretty perfectly.
I wouldnât take it too personally. Some people donât have their siblings in their weddings at all as they have best friends they choose instead.
Your feelings are valid but ultimately their wedding is not about you or your kids.
They have a right to make their day exactly as they want it.
When I got married my sister was my maid of honor and my friends were upset with me because they felt it should have been them for their various reasons. In the end I chose family as to not rank friends over each other. But it made it very stressful having to worry about everyone elseâs feelings about MY day. NOT THEIRS
If I put Everton in my wedding that Iâve been in a wedding for the party would be stupid
I think yâall taking it too personallyâŚjust be happy for them and move on. The problem with society today is everyone thinks everything is about them when in reality, it has nothing to do with them at all. If you look for a problem youâll find one every single time. Itâs not worth it
I understand why you feel that way. Itâs hard to watch kids not treated the same. But as mentioned, there are other factors. Lifelong friends, maybe their no mom would have taken issue with it, etc.
My best friend wasnât even gonna put me in her wedding (because I have 3 kids with very little help ) but shit hit the fan with the girl she put as the maid of honor⌠needless to say I wasnât the maid of honor (because she knew I wouldnât be able to help with planning ) but I was a brides maid! I also had one thing none of the girls had 20+ friendship with her so I was in the family photos professionally done of her wedding⌠sometimes itâs not about the rights to be ⌠sometimes people think of the burden it will be on that persons lives⌠(even if itâs not meant to be a burden having to much to do can become a burdenâŚ.
So youâre all adults, right?
I can understand how you feel
But at the end of the day
Its their wedding
And their choice as to who is in their wedding party
You are still a blended family
Nothing will change that
You donât do things from the heart looking for the same in returnâŚyour children planned their weddings the way they wanted them let them do the sameâŚ
Itâs their wedding day⌠let them do what makes them happy.
I dare someone to tell who must have in my wedding
You have the right to feel your emotions because they are your emotions.
With that being said they have the right to choose who they have in their wedding. Putting someone in your wedding does not require them to put you in their wedding.
I was in my âstepâ sisterâs wedding as a bridesmaid (Iâve known her since age 3 and am 3yrs older), but not a maid of honor, she had her 2best friends as maids of honor and I felt that was completely fine, because itâs HER wedding, she felt like those 2were able to help her more with the details, throw her bachelorette party, etcâŚand she was right! I wouldnât have had the time, energy, etcâŚto do that for her even though I wouldâve loved to!(I have 2young children and she lives 8hrs from me) I was a bridesmaid and was so honored for her to include me at all! She was thinking of not only her day, but her family and friends and our feelings/pressures/situations as well! Also, her actual half sister was not a bridesmaid either, and I was, but thatâs because her sister was busy planning her own wedding at the same time! Sometimes things are not just about one thing⌠thereâs sooooooo much behind it you need to think!
Well, I only had a friend be in my wedding and not my sisters. While my sisters had all of us in their weddings.
not your wedding,
not your choice.
âDo I give up my Brady bunch dreams now?â⌠wth does that even mean?
The only wedding we have control over, is our own. Donât be so dramatic.
My husband was in his cousins wedding but I wasnât I also wasny in my brother and sister in law wedding but my sis in law was in mine you need to let it go they will be close on there own terms I have 6 kids total brady bunch they all stick for one another but they have their picks on you they wanna be around you have to let them do that
Their wedding, their day, their ideas, their rules. Sorry.
Grow upâŚits their wedding their choice for their special day
Iâd be upset about it but not much you can do. Itâs there wedding. And if your children have a problem they should prob let the step siblings know and Iâm sure something could be worked out.
If all of these kids are married you are well past the Brady bunch.
If petty was a person you would be them.
Your feelings are valid. Donât let anyone minimize your hurt. Yes, it is their choice but I can understand your disappointment
Growing up in blended families Iâll tell you this, if you are going into it thinking thereâs going to be Brady bunch type dreams you are setting yourself up for failure for sure. Itâs their wedding, their day, their rules. Thereâs no reason to push your idea of a family on to them at all. Grow up.
Whatsâ done, is done & the whole family now has 2 deal with the ripple effects Sorry.
Did someone guilt your two daughters into asking their step siblings to be a part of their wedding?
I would feel the same wayâŚesp after putting them in mine smh. Thats terrible
Just cause your kids put them in their weddings doesnât meant he are required to do the same.
You can be upset but itâs up to the people while plan the wedding since itâs their wedding.
Mehhhh I get it but itâs not your day
the Brady bunch is a fantasy on tv⌠youre in reality, that is real & unfair⌠stop expecting people to do things you feel are right, youâll be disappointed & let down every timeâŚ
Never expect anything, have no expectations because then you canât get hurt. I am getting married next year, and I donât expect or care if Iâm in any of my bridesmaids weddings after they are in mine. I mean I would be honored and happy if asked, but I donât expect to be because I know they are closer to other people in their lives then me. I really wouldnât take it personally. Your feelings are valid, but if you have expectations, be prepared to be disappointed. Such as nowâŚ
So what youâre saying is that because your children chose to have their step children in their weddings your step children are somehow obligated to have them in their weddings? Just because someone makes a choice doesnât mean that the other person has to make same choice or return the favor. You & your kids sound entitled to me. Thatâs probably why your step kids donât want them in their weddings.
I completely understand you being hurt. But weddings are extremely special. Just because you are a blended family and just because your kids had them in their weddings doesnât mean their obligated to have them in theirs.
I would probably be a little upset to. But typically people ask people they are closest to. Maybe the stepsiblings have friends they are closer to then their steps?
you didnât say how old all the kids were when the first weddings happen, Were the other kids , just kids.??? Or were they all close in age? Your kids are obviously older & how long between the weddings, were they.? Now since everyone is grown ups, everyone should be grown ups & let it go. This is all the brideâs choice, not yours or anyone elseâs.
Just because the step sisters didnât choose your children to be in their weddings doesnât mean they donât love each other. There may be financial reasons, there may have been pressure from the other side of their family not to, there may have been closer friends they wanted, there may have been a friend group your kids didnât click with. Donât read too much into it. And let your children handle it the way they choose.
I only chose the people I feel the closest to. My sister. My best friend and my cousin. I really donât care what anyone thought. I was having the biggest moment of my life and wanted to be sure I was comfortable and free.
When did weddings become returning favours? itâs their day, let them be happy with whatever decisions they make.
I mean, I had my bonus girls in my wedding, and that was pretty nice I donât think Iâd be offended if my girls werenât included in the other mamas, weddings are hella stressful, and honestly itâs just nice to have everyone you love there
I would be hurt. I would feel if Iâm not important enough to be in their wedding why did they say yes to being in mine?
No that makes there discussions to include them in the wedding conditional not out of love. Itâs thier own wedding not yours. Keep it separate, itâs not personal.
I only talk to my step siblings and not my real ones so⌠yes I think you should leave your kids alone. Siblings can be dicks
I would def be upset. But maybe their mom or other side of the family put pressure on them. ???
Just leave them out from now on. đ¤ˇ