He will never change. He has a problem. Move on
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It’s just porn ma’am he’s not cheating, calm down
Your feelings are valid. I am on the side of watching porn isn’t a bad thing. However, he seems to know your feelings about it and the sneaking around is the real concerning part.
Close this chapter. Get rid of the man w excuses
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Forget what everyone is saying. If you have a problem with him watching porn then that needs to be addressed. If you consider it cheating then it is cheating. It is very possible he won’t stop, have a conversation with him. If he wont stop you need to think if you can compromise or get over it.
Sounds like he can’t be trusted! You deserve better!
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I never thought my hubby watched porn but a couple years back he told me he did. No problem. I use to too! Doesn’t make him a cheater, makes him a horny male. He doesn’t “have a problem” he’s normal. But the whole he doesn’t want to be with you is a whole nother issue
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Stop being so insecure. Masturbation is normal…it has nothing to do with cheating
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This is a porn site not a dating app do im confused what he did wrong… Watch it together you’ll love it
You have the right to be upset, because it hurt you. Your feelings are valid.
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It’s his thing and I know because I’m going through the same issues right now and FK that he can take of himself and I’ll do what I need to do.
Girl better porn than another person. My gf probably watching it at work 
I personally have an account on PornHub lol mainly so I don’t have to constantly scroll through thousands of videos to find what I’m looking for if I’m in a hurry 
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Pornhub is a website for porn. Being a premium member means you get to watch the full videos. The ads can take you to sites to meet other people, but premium members don’t get ads
Wow.
I see these posts all.the.time.
Watching porn isnt cheating.
I feel like im listening/reading a bunch of teenage girls diary entries of their own insecurities.
Porn stars are actors and actresses,playing a role/part, getting paid to do a job!
Just like s€x scenes in movies.
Humans are visual, doesnt mean im cheating on my partner because im perving on men playing football, or because a s€x scene comes on in a movie!arent we all grown ups?i went to the male strippers TWICE in the past 2 years, and my partner was fine with it (even offered to pick us up to make sure we got home safe), went with a group of female friends whom are all married or partnered up, thats also not cheating!change your pesperctive on it.porn isnt going anywhere!you can definitely have distaste in it, but watching porn is not cheating!and if your partner is actually cheating, you cannot prevent that by demanding him to not watch porn.someones going to cheat no matter what, whether they watch porn or not has got nothing to do with it.us women may lose interest in doing the deed after having our babies and our bodies change not to mention tbe hormonal changes that brings on with it but our men still have the same ‘drive’. Persercuting him for watching porn is lame.
Give him up hes making you unhappy unloved unappreciated undervalued leave him to his porn n find a man who dont need ’ extra’ to satisfy him
Most men these days has a “porn hub” account
At least he isn’t cheating with a website
Remember it doesn’t matter
Where he gets his appetite as long as he comes home for dinner
It’s a site for porn. It’s honestly a healthy outlet for him without actually cheating. Men are, by nature, very stimulated visually. It’s normal. Have u asked to view it with him to find out what he likes? If you treat it like something to be ashamed of then, yes, he will continue to hide it. Try being more open minded and explore it with him. You might find it could be fun and stimulating for both of you
Literally every man I’ve ever known watches porn tho
If he said before that he didn’t love you then you shouldn’t have ever gotten back together with him. My ex used to watch porn and it didn’t really bother me as long as he wasn’t doing anything with anyone else he would just watch it for his own needs sometimes which didn’t bother me because he didn’t try to hide it. If you have to worry about what he’s doing or watching then it’s not a healthy relationship.
Some of y’all shouldn’t be allowed to give advice
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If he is on there to watch porn who cares? Let Jim
Watch it with him
If he is on a dating site then complain but it’s just some porn lighten up
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Screw that he should only be getting off by u not some smut site …kick him to the curb …don’t lower your standards …u deserve to feel like ur number one
Some men need a visual in order to perform. Doesn’t mean he doesn’t love you or isn’t attracted to you. If he’s doing it 24/7, it’s disturbing your life or he’s spending money then yes there’s an issue.
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Pornhub is a porn site and as far as I know you can’t actually contact anyone it’s just used to watch other sexual videos people have posted. I just want to roll my eyes and shake my head at this entire post.
Boundaries!
We all have them.
He can respect them or get lost!
Some people are okay with it and others aren’t!!!
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Point hub is a Porto movie site ots pretty nasty
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Pornhub is a free site. When I looked it up it says it’s hard core videos available. Talk to him about it.
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Men are so stupid he needs help
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…mmmmm…have you tried watching porn yourself? Seriously you might actually discover things about your own interests and desires you wereny even aware of…that alone could promote a healthy discovery between both of you.
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If he’s just watching videos and not talking to people on there it can spice things up. He could have you watch with him and be honest on what you might want to try. But if you think he’s cheating on you move on.
Rather him be watching videos on pornhub than banging his coworkers
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Girllll I’m on there everyday, does not mean I don’t enjoy my partner. Just means I need visual stimulation to finish 🤌🏻 move on, do some self healing cause this is toxic on your behalf.
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Some people are just very visual. I watch porn. I’m still highly attracted to my partner. The membership is free and its mostly to bookmark your fav videos.
Porn is destructive to him & you. He doesn’t respect you or your boundaries.
Sis bring your toy, turn on PH with him, tag him in !!! YOUR IT!
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I would tell him okay since you’re going on all these p*** sites and you’re talking to female co-workers then I’m assuming it’s okay for me to do it too so you have female friends it’s okay for me to go get male friends right, watch his tone change.
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I had a husband u was crazy about porn! Not trying to preach but just had a young friend who found her husband’s phone had a bunch crap on it! She forgave him and moved on! She just found out she is pregnant two days later she got a call from another woman! The other woman had just found pictures of him and his wife on FB. He had been on a dating site and found the lady! So, I was looking up what the Bible says about cheating. It said if a man looks at another woman with lust it is cheating! I mean you can’t stop a bird from flying over your head, but u can keep it from nesting in ur head! So, he might find a woman attractive and look away, but when he is going on porn sites he is building that nest! Good luck!
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I have an account on porn hub… It’s so your sexual preferences become suggestions🤷♀️ its handy honestly
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Be happy he’s just jerking himself and not another lady. Watch it with him.
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Therapy for the relationship and individually for yourself. Your worth is not tied to your partner at all! Those relationship issues from before are way more important than your husband masturbating or pregaming sex. Way more important! Seems like the house is on fire and all you can focus on is the drapes. But PH is free. He has the right to look at and do with his own body what he chooses. If you do not want a relationship with someone who looks at pornographic images/videos then in therapy you need to make that clear. But also realize he doesn’t have to agree to that and the relationship could end.
There is nothing wrong with casually watching pornography. I never understood why some women make it about them. It’s not that deep. Why would you leave your man for that? Seems like you’ve been looking for an excuse.
Men are very selfish, it’s getting to these days you have to ask them what their preferences are before you can be in a comfortable relationship. Some say there’s nothing wrong with this but I disagree to the point that if it makes you uncomfortable then there’s something wrong with it. Let him know how you feel and just how strongly you feel, if you stay in this relationship feeling that way you’re just going to make yourself more miserable.
Pornhub is a free site. I dont see a problem with him watching porn. As long as he comes to your bedroom what he watches shouldn’t matter
I did not realize there were so many women surprised men watch porn and somehow personally offended by it. It has nothing to do with you. It’s rare a man doesn’t watch porn ever.
Porn is cheating. These assholes telling you to grow up clearly haven’t been cheated on emotionally or hell, even physically. The account he has he has to pay for. Not just free or whatever, so it’s paying for porn and special access to the account that other people wouldn’t have.
Honestly I’d rather him watch the videos instead of actually cheating. My husband was always watching porn his sex drive was really high. We made our own personal video because I was also insecure about the way I look compared to some women that do porn. We also now watch some together when we can. Some times it gets me really going watching porn. I’d talk to him and tell him how you feel about it.
My thoughts…Divorce him! Watching porn says he would rather have sex alone and he is possible a narcissist. You already gave him a second chance with his co-worker. You deserve better and have have taken this emotional abuse too long. Stay Strong!
I watch with my hubby sometimes, and we watch alone as well.
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While I don’t promote porn and think it’s disgusting I feel like there’s worse things that he could be doing.
Watching porn is not cheating so let him have at it.
He told you he didn’t love you anymore and you went back? Did he just change his mind and decide that he did love you 
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Men’s sexuality is linked a lot to their sense of sight, more so then women. Nature made it that way so men would notice good breeding partners. In fact they have found out women are less visual about sex because they are after a life time partner in the wild, while the man in many cases is mostly interested in just sex. Now if he starts comparing you to the woman, or ignoring your needs while looking at pics I would be against that. But just to look is biology.
This is the difference between men and women. Men are more into visual stimuli, women are more into emotional stimulation.
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If his choices are affecting you this poorly, than it’s in your best interest to leave. It’s not fair to mentally and emotionally hurt inside, because of his choices, lack of communication and lacking in agreeable behaviors. You have every right to have specific, agreeable expectations of your spouse/partner when it comes to intimacy. I know a number of men who do not need or desire pornography to have a true intimate relationship or marriage, it’s not unfair for you to desire the same. Pornography is an addiction, a desire, not a NEED.
Don’t give up just yet. You’ve got 3 children whose lives will be changed forever if you divorce.
Talk to a therapist together; one whose stance on porn is similar to yours. Not all share your values.
Be frank with him when the kids are in bed, after his favorite dinner, and ask him what he likes when you two are intimate -
Don’t point fingers - chose your words carefully but do let him know that when he is with other women, if only in his mind, he is cheating on you.
You and I do not know each other, but if I may say this, too many women let themselves go when it comes to appearances once they marry or the more children that come along … Guys are turned on by sight. Too, guys need a woman who appreciate them - their hard work, being a good provider, etc. Romance him like you did when you were dating.
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It’s a tricky subject. I personally watch porn (sorry tmi lol), and it doesn’t make me less attracted to my partner. It’s the same for them. It’s just a visual for alone time. If he’s watching right before being intimate then I can definitely see how that would be hurtful. If he’s obsessively watching/addicted then that’s a different story. At the end of the day they’re just women on a screen. If he’s not cheating, I personally don’t see anything wrong with it. It’s you who matters in the end, and I’m sure he’d prefer you, the real thing. Talk to him calmly and explain how you’re feeling and how it’s makes you uncomfortable. Just my two sense, everyone is different. Good luck 
Girl watch it with him!! Spice it up in the bedroom
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You need to lighten up! A L O T
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Not every man or woman watches porn 
and if it a boundary she has put up he should respect that and if he can’t you should move on .
Porn is no reason to be upset. Its not a big deal… alot of men watch porn and some women. Sometimes we arent around when they want sex. So they watch porn no biggie. Unless he’s watching some nasty sh** or like talking to women or having an affair I wouldn’t worry about it. Its nothing against u… It doesn’t mean he doesn’t love u or he’s not attracted to u or ur not satisfying him. It’s like a secret pass time or alone time lol
Watching videos does not mean cheating UNLESS it is a boundary you have set and agreed upon with your partner. If it was an agreed upon boundary then you have every right to feel upset by the betrayal. If it is not something y’all ever previously discussed, then it would be a good time to have a calm, adult conversation regarding setting expectations/boundaries about this topic.
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Your feelings are valid.
I feel like you need therapy!! If you feel unloved and you feel like your worth depends on a man then you should reevaluate your situation. Talk to a therapist and be emotionally strong and then make a decision.
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Geez it’s porn I don’t understand posts like this. Why is it a big deal if he’s watching porn? And he’s probably telling the truth about wanting to spice things up my partner and I have gotten lots of fun ideas from watching porn together
Doesn’t matter where he gets us appetite as long as he eats at home. Lighten up
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You’re thinking of leaving your husband bc he watches porn? Wow.
Your hubby should run like the wind. My gut tells me he is smothered.
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First off, whatever a man does should not affect how you feel because you are a queen and should tell yourself you’re gosh dammed beautiful everyday especially when you don’t feel like it because woman should never care how a man sees us. We have to love ourselves first. And second, its a porn site. He might be wanting to try different things behind closed doors but doesn’t know how to tell you.
Yall forgot that not everyone is a nasty selfish person. Not everyone needs to look at naked people all the time. Not everyone thinks people should just show everything to everybody all the time. A marriage is a commitment to everything of you to the other person…and that person only. THAT is the reason why young people end up divorced nowadays. Because if you let it happen anytime; it will happen anywhere. There is no respect for the other person when you need to see someone else. Complain all you want about my opinions but don’t forget, the reason you get divorced is because you thought it was ok, till it really happened.
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I’m amazed that people would laugh at this especially bc this woman is expressing her feelings in here! HER FEELINGS, not ours smh!! Also that soo many people are basically telling her to get over it? Did y’all read the whole thing? The part about them separating bc if another woman and him saying he didn’t love her anymore? Her feelings are very valid! Us women need to empower each other not laugh and put each other down!!
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It’s pretty clear that you and he are simply not entirely compatible its not right that you ask him to be something hes not, that’s not what marriage is
Lying…or hiding…not okay. Offer to watch with him. Be open! It may just change your whole sex life.
The bitches laughing at this are ccuunntts… ignorant…
You women who get offended by porn and consider it cheating have a mental illness. A serious one. And you should all seek help for that before you try to have a relationship with any man. Because they all watch porn. And if they tell you they don’t they’re liars.
Your little voice speaks to you for a reason. Listen to it. It never lies.