Every relationship has different boundaries. For some watching porn is okay and for some it’s not. If you aren’t comfortable then your feelings are valid and there is nothing wrong with being upset about that.
5 Likes
If you kno it’s not realistic why are you making it a real problem?
8 Likes
From all men watching , we will jerk off to a nipple if there’s time . Jesus just blow him or let him nut on ur face ffs . You really think he’s going to stop watching porn 
3 Likes
Porns fucking nasty and contributes to the sex trafficking of women and minors. I would have a problem with it. But honestly don’t feel bad about yourself, he might just think it’s weird to jerk off to your pics since you’re there.
ALL WOMEN ARE DIFFERENT AND HAVE DIFFERENT EXPECTATIONS! Do not let women tell you if you’re in the wrong or right. Society now days makes everyone think that porn and that stuff is totally normal and we should all accept it because no one is physically touching another person etc.
Some women are okay with it and some are not okay with it.
Communicate your issues with your partner. You two decide what is best for each other and the healthiness of your relationship.
And NEVER let other women bash you for your thoughts and feelings.
It’s true you’re not in control of his thoughts and actions. He is. And if you vocalize what upsets you and how it makes you feel it is his decision on what he does from there. But don’t ever feel like you have to deal with something if it’s damaging you.
18 Likes
Absolutely everyone has the right to feel the way they do. There is no right or wrong way to feel, especially since it’s not like you consciously have a choice on how to feel. Anyway, your feelings are valid, there isn’t a right or wrong way to go about things. Having a respectful conversation about how pornography makes you feel, is definitely acceptable to do. I do hope you both can come to a compromise in which you’re both comfortable and satisfied with the outcome. No one here can tell you what will work for the two of you.
5 Likes
I can see why it bothers you but just remember that it doesn’t mean he isn’t attracted to you or doesn’t love you. It’s just something guys do sometimes. It doesn’t have anything to do with you mama I can promise you that 
1 Like
Porn isn’t cheating… I watch it, my partner watches it… not together but hey ho:woman_shrugging: I get some people are ok with it, some arent, down to personal preference, but he won’t just stop at your demand. Its nothing aimed directly at you, its natural, it’s what most men do. Your feelings are valid, but if he doesn’t want to masturbate over you dont take it personally, I would prefer my partner not having those sort of images or videos to go flaunting as they could end up anywhere. Never know:woman_shrugging: Get yourself to Ann Summers/Victoria Secret, buy lush lingerie, rapid rabbit, and pleasure away at your own expense hun, meet your own needs too 
4 Likes
She should have discussed this getting into the relationship, not because she got self conscious that’s not fair.
5 Likes
Porn is fine and he should be able to use it especially while u recover. But I do suspect u might be going through a bit of post partum depression. Nothing wrong with going to therapy for yourself.
4 Likes
No, I feel the exact same way. When you’re in a monogamous relationship and you’re not doing it together, neither should look at other naked people or masturbate to other naked people. That’s call respecting your monogamous relationship. By looking at AND masturbating to another naked person other than your SO, IS CHEATING!!! At least to me it is. I’m dealing with the same thing right now… it also makes me feel like I’m disgusting, ugly, not good enough, and like I am unattractive and never going to be pretty enough etc. Its not ok to do that without your partner, especially when your partner has specifically expressed this
10 Likes
I didnt know men were allowed in this group
3 Likes
I know others feel differently but I feel like they shouldn’t be jerking off to other women. I agree with OP on this.
12 Likes
I feel its controling. Especially during a time you can’t and don’t feel like having sex.
Porn is not a problem unless they get addicted and effect your intamcy.
Its honestly not fair to ask your partner to not do something they enjoy, don’t see a problem with, and have been doing since teenage years. Porn is fantasy and usuly vastly different form their partners and half the time stuff they wouldn’t even do.
Its not about you, Its fantasy.
If inscurties are causing the issue then that needs to start with self care first.
We can’t control others. All we can control is what we are willing to live with and how we react.
4 Likes
Some women are okay with their man watching porn and some aren’t, this is a tough subject because all based on a matter of opinion. This is why it’s important that certain expectations are set out early in the relationship. The fact of the matter is, a man is not going to be able to resolve issues with self image, that’s why it’s called self image, it’s all on you. You’re gonna have to find a way to get past your insecurities and learn how to love yourself and your body for what it is now. Motherhood changes us, some more than others, you can’t compare yourself to other women and you can’t set expectations for yourself based off of how other women look, it’s a losing battle. I hope you figure it out and get past it.
3 Likes
It amazes me when someone puts no bashing and it’s just non stop rude shit on here. Honestly though maybe get a counselor for you two. I get some women are super insecure almost all of us are some hide it better than others but nothing you can do but to be open and honest. I never had a problem with porn my husband and I watched it together and we got super bored of it so we both stopped I hope everything works out hun 
good luck
You are 100% allowed to feel the way you do. Dont let anyone tell you otherwise. You’re going through a very psychically and mentally hard time and are still healing !! He should be accommodating YOUR needs right now and finding ways to pleasure YOU. Congrats on the baby 
5 Likes
Your partner is allowed to do what ever he wants with his penis and always will be. How about you stop asking him or confront him about when he masturbates ? Sounds to me that you are creating your own issues being nosy. Also, im sure you are pretty in your way, most of any other girls are. Start having some confidence instead of insecurities, thats a major turn off. Didnt meant any of it in a mean way
You feel the way you feel, the fact that it doesn’t bother him that it makes you feel like shit is whats troubling. Maybe he has an addiction 🤷🏽. But you have every right to ask him not to. And maybe Break Up With Him.
To me you sound controlling to me over this issue especially now. When it sounded it didn’t bother you before having a baby. Yes your feelings are valid but so should his be. But honesty after having a baby most women don’t want sex. And he has needs as well. But maybe come to a decision together on something together.
3 Likes
You’re a control freak and quite honestly that’s where problems start
8 Likes
He’s going to watch porn. It doesn’t mean he doesn’t love u or want u. My ex husband just had this conversation today. We’ve been off and on for 21 years. We were in sex store today picking out items for our rendezvous. 
1 Like
There is nothing wrong with watching porn. He is not cheating on you. That should make you happy. But he will of you keep this up. If you dont let him do his thing he’ll grow bored with you. I’m sure he knows it’s not real most people do. You are going to ruin your relationship. And it sounds like you need to grow up a little bit.
3 Likes
Honestly he probably is still watching porn and just thinks he is protecting you by hiding it. It isnt a big deal. I understand you feel insecure but he knows its fake just like you do. Its just something for them to see really quick to bust a quick one. Reading into it is only going to drive you crazy and cause problems that may not even be there.
He probably still is.
1 Like
I masturbate to porn and still have a healthy sexual relationship with my husband. Who cares 
1 Like
You will bounce back and feel gorgeous again. There’s plenty of new potential boyfriends who would love your video once you become happy with yourself again.
2 Likes
Too controlling lady, besides, don’t you have sex?
Your problem is serious.
Sweet heart what your going through is normal all woman have insecurities about their bodies especially after having a baby. It’s normal for people to look at the opposite gender and admire their bodies. I have a personal saying that I live by: You may look at the menu but you can’t order off of it!! Meaning that if he does decide to masturbate to a picture or video you know nothing will come of it because that’s the extent of how far it will go. Those women are air brushed and made to look certain ways. Look at Barbie even she has curves. Give it time and you will start to feel better, you did after all give him a child. A few suggestions that won’t hurt if your breast feeding: drink a an 8oz glass of water with lemon before each meal and it helps curb hunger. Each morning take a teaspoon of apple cider vinegar that helps with metabolism, hair , skin and nails. If you can’t swallow the vinegar they sell vinegar tablets. I know it’s hard being a mom and sometimes it’s just easy to grab a snack and go but if you can walk after dinner and not eat after 8:00pm that helps too. Not every body is the same you have to find what works for you. Your going to be ok it’s not that bad but what the hell do I know my youngest is 15 and I haven’t been with a man in 9 years!! Yes that long!!! Lol!! All by choice though! Oh the lovely little curb balls life Throws at us! Every night after putting baby to bed spend quality time with each other make sure you tell each other how much you love and appreciate each other and try not to go to bed mad at each other.
These are your boundaries. He has a choice to respect them. You have a choice to respond to his choice. That may be to re-evaluate the relationship.
6 Likes
All these people saying it’s wrong for you to not want your man looking and thinking about other women in a sexual way… I don’t think it’s wrong but reverse the roles and see if he cares if you touch yourself to other men I bet most of your husband or boyfriend’s would change their minds
5 Likes
Depends on the guy. Mine started doing it in public under the table when he saw another female. Restaurant family get together it didn’t matter. I could get him to stop. After I left with my son he got arrested so many times. Finally ordered to get a test. He was schizo. Put on medication.
1 Like
It’s not controlling and a lot of women feel self conscious when it comes to porn but I do think ur wrong for not allowing him to watch porn when ur not in the mood, he should be allowed to watch porn as long as he’s not choosing porn sex over having sex with you, ur worrying to much over something small, if he’d rather watch porn then have real sex with you then u have a problem but until then let the guy watch porn, better yet watch it with him, it might help you mood as well, also there’s a big verite of porn that won’t make you self conscious about ur self, you just have to find what ur into