I agree yes he could have told you but he is grown and his decision
You’re definitely entitled to your emotions. Just don’t hold onto it for too long.
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Your father is entitled to his own life. Life is short, try not wasting time being mad.
Do you have the right to emotions? Is this real
Totally understand how you feel, but it’s done and nothing you can do about it.
Mad not really… Hurt feelings/sadness would be understandable for being left out. In the end it was up to him/them though. Can’t go back and change it. Throw them a party.
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No… it’s his life! Adapt!
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No…be happy for dad!!
I would be mad if he married someone I knew like an old friend of the family. If they are a complete stranger I wouldn’t have any problem with him remarrying.
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Sounds like he did it Because he didn’t want to deal with his children interfering with his choices. Be mad if you want. But I’m sure you have already pushed him to the point of not caring if you like or dislike his choices. If you do anything other then congratulate him. You might get cut out of more of his life.
I wouldn’t be mad, I’d be hurt that I wasn’t included.
Our dad did the same thing because he knew we didn’t approve of her .fast forward a few years my dad got sick with cancer and had passed we also found out she had cheated on him while he was sick the guy she cheated with my dad did not like we knew something was up when she wouldn’t let anyone into the house after my dad had passed because this guy was also married at the time needles to say his wife found them in bed together and my dads wife got her butt whooped
I don’t think I’d be mad … rather I’d be disappointed that they didn’t let me know. But maybe they just wanted to do something intimate and romantic … and spontaneous!
He’s your dad. Be happy for him. You & your siblings could throw your dad & stepmom a reception party, if it would make you feel better.
Parents aren’t required to inform their children, or ask their children’s approval, of any of their life decisions. They are adults. Take a step back, and see your dad as a human being, not just “your dad”. Be happy for him.
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You want us to tell you it’s okay for you to be mad at someone for doing something that made them happy? 
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If you don’t dislike her than what’s the problem, sounds like you are all grown adults. I wouldn’t be mad I’d be happy for him and that it didn’t cost me monies to attend lol
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I think , he is selfish. I am going to get married with out letting my children know? Terrible.
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It’s your dad happiness not yours. Celebrate them. I’m sure it’s not easy to get married after your first love passed away and easier to remarry in private.
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No he’s an adult. Deserves to be happy.
Y’all sound about privilege 
I see why he didn’t tell y’all nothing 
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Doesn’t sound like you guys are very close so it shouldn’t of been too surprising…otherwise he would of told you.
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Be happy for your dad, he might have been afraid of how you would react. Remember he is not replacing your mom just trying to find a bit of happiness
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My grandfather got remarried and it was honestly the worst thing he could have done. But, it was his choice to make.
My dad and I are very close and when I was in 8th grade I went to my moms for the weekend and saw wedding photos of my dad online! I called him and he said he knew I didn’t like her and that’s why I wasn’t invited. They had selected very few people to be there because no one liked her. I was shocked and pissed he married her in the first place. I would of stopped that wedding. They’ve been divorced for years now.
He is your father not your child… He is a grown man who does not have to answer to you… Weather y’all were mad or happy that he moved on weather y’all liked or dislike her that’s their life not yours … don’t focus on the things you cannot control… be happy for them…embrace your her welcome her to the family …, live love laugh
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Get mad all you want. It isn’t gonna change that he’s an adult who is fully able to make his choices. Getting mad over someone else’s decisions only slows down your happiness…
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Are you an adult child? Do you have your own family?. Yes, it’s ok to hurt a bit…but mad no. You dad is an adult and can make his own adult choices. (My dad did the same thing) I understand where you are coming from…but it’s his life and he deserves happiness.
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No, you have no right to be mad if your father eloped. Disappointed yes, mad no
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I wouldn’t be angry. I would be hurt.
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Honestly, doesn’t matter if you like it or not. Your father is a grown man and can make his own decisions. He doesn’t have to consult his children on who he wants to marry.
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The way my dad explained it to me is that my brother and I are grown with our own spouses, kids, and lives. He said that it’s his choice who he decides to spend his life with. Your dad shouldnt have to ask your permission to get remarried just be happy for him. He will do what he wants and you will regret it if something were to happen to him while your holding a grudge for something like that.
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My dad did that about 10 years ago. We just wished them well 
They’re grown adults, and there’s a such thing as 
eloping let it go.
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You can be mad but he has every right to do it and it’s up to him when/if people are told anything about what he does.
Just congratulate him and move on if your really not mad about his new gf
No, your dad is a grown ass man !!
I can understand hurt feelings, but I don’t understand the anger.
It’s his life & im sure you want him happy again…
It’s his life he’s grown and so are you too - no one can take away what he had with your mom -
Just maybe he doesn’t what to go into his golden years alone
You have the right to have feelings and be hurt for not being invited to a very special day of your father’s life, but don’t have anger.
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Just don’t invite him to yours 
Yes, but he is allowed to not care if your mad
You have a right to be mad just as he has the right to live his life as he sees fit.
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You have a right to be mad but why are you mad? I am sure you’ve done lots of things in your life without telling your parents.
I can sure understand you feeling hurt and excluded. Maybe just talk to him and tell him you feel left out. I hope you can all heal.
You may feel upset but it’s his life.
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It’s his business. As long as he’s not neglecting you and the rest of his children for his new marriage, it shouldn’t matter.
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That depends are you young in school and living at home or are you guys grown adults .if you are kids than yes maybe he should of told you .if you guys are adults than mind your own business and let him live his life
I Don’t know if I would be angry. Hurt, disappointed, dismissed, uncared for… all of that.
You have a right to feel whatever emotions you feel. However, with that being said your dad, or anyone else doesn’t have to do anything about your emotions.
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It’s not really any of y’all’s business, being that he’s GROWN and all… Be happy for him and move on
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I would definitely be startled. I would be worried. But I don’t think I could let it break up the family. I would try to understand. And be there to help pick up the pieces if it doesn’t work out.
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He’s a grown man. Live and let live!
He’s an adult…. The answer should be obvious…. No, you don’t have the right to be mad
Well, eloping without notice is definitely on the table for you guys should you choose but whats more important than his marriage is that he found someone healthy that you guys like
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I would be disappointed more than mad.
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How old are you ? Maybe they just loved the idea of eloping. Didn’t want to deal with a wedding, the cost, reception and everything that goes along with it. You said you don’t dislike her so you should feel happy that your dad has someone who loves and cares for him. Have you talked to him ,maybe they plan on having a small reception down the road.
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I never understand these do we have a right to feel some kind of way question. You didn’t feel whatever kind of way you want there is no right or wrong.
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Maybe he wanted to avoid this exact drama you’re bringing to him. Let him be and mind your business.
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I would say you have a right to be upset but nor mad. I would talk to him about it maybe he has reasons he did this
Absolutely. And the fact that he hid it means he knew he was fuckin up. It’s his life but it’s intertwined with yours
You have a right to feel what you feel, but just because you feel it doesnt make you right. Like it or not, your Dad is a grown man and can do what he wants. I’m guessing you are all old enough… do you love your dad? Do you want to have him in your life? Then you need to find a way to past it. Tell him how you feel, listen to his perspective. Then let it go. Whats done is done, dont let negatives ruin what time you have together. When hes gone you will miss him not his getting married.
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You might have the right to be sad that your Father did not include you in his plans but it might have been because he did not want to have to go through the usual marriage celebration and just wanted to have a quick private quiet marriage service. He is old enough to do what he wants todo.
Being left out of a major event in the lives of our loved ones is disappointing and hurtful. I eloped so I understand that some people prefer a private marriage ceremony but it is reasonable to expect he would tell his kids after the fact and not wait for them to just figure it out. Being mad he eloped is unreasonable, being mad he didn’t tell you about the elopement is justified.
No. If that’s what he wanted to do, let him be happy and be happy that he is happy. After all the drama and fighting at my first wedding, I don’t want to tell anyone if I get married again at some point. You don’t know the reasons and he is an adult and can make his own decisions. Respect it and let it go.
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Have you ask why? Maybe he felt it would be better? Maybe he didn’t want to explain himself? Don’t be made be happy you have him hope he is happy for the rest of his life! Life is to short enjoy your family…
He made a decision, now do you love him unconditionally or not? No need to get mad when you know you are OK with her and you love him. It might be a disappointment. If you want a party you could throw them one to show how much you support and love him.
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No…mind your own business…there is obviously a reason he didn’t tell you…
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He’s still you DAD you think he still wants the best for you!
Yo… your dads a grown ass man. You can be upset but at the end of the day he didn’t want a wedding, maybe didn’t want the drama 🤷🏾♀
To be honest, I didn’t want a wedding for that reason. We had a big wedding and a lot of bullshit drama. Say congrats & live your life
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Oh man. Not invited is whatever but not even told? I’d be hurt.
No. Mind your business! He is grown.
You feel how you feel but I don’t know why really. It sounds like you like the lady and they must be happy together. Be happy he found someone that’s not a terrible person.
I’d be very dissappointed!
I did this, our ex’s were still alive even though the
Kids liked both of us, We felt it might turn into a drama event. I think some of the kids would have liked us to get back with the ex’s; I know at least one of them wanted to try again, so we celebrated on our own and let everyone know later. People elope all the time, you won’t have your dad forever so don’t hold grudges especially if he’s happy.
Nah, my approval isn’t needed and neither is yours.
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He’s an adult- he is entitled to do as he pleases. Don’t look for things to be offended by Be happy that he’s happy!
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So what is your problem? Just welcome her and be glad he is happy!
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You have a right to you’re feelings but I wouldn’t be a jerk about it.
No. If they wanted it to be just something for them then that’s their choice. Now if they had some big wedding and didn’t invite you then yeah but if it was something private then no. He’s a grown man and everything won’t be all about you. He deserves a life as well.
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He made his choice an is happy . Be happy for him …
You are an adult and he is an adult. Stay in your lane. My dad went and got married 2 years after him and my mom divorced. I really didnt care. Their business. My mom keeps trying to make me choose sides and get me to hate my stepmom. Have nothing against her. She has never done anything to me and is nice when around. Be an adult and be nice unless she gives you reason not to be nice anymore. The end.
His life leave him be and let him live for his moment. You have no right at all to be mad or upset. Be happy he’s not alone
Yes it hurts my dad done the same with out telling us but she was a bitch.
He probably knew how you’d react and it’s easier to ask for forgiveness than to ask for permission.
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He didn’t mention anything??
Yeah, I’d feel some kinda way. That said, I’d talk to him. I wouldn’t cat him out or anything.
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You have the right to be hurt, but not mad. He’s a grown man, and it’s worth asking him why he felt the need to sneak off and get married instead of letting his family share in his joyous day.
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Disappointed maybe, but its their love. Not yours. Let them celebrate the way they wish and worry about your own milestones.
Rude to make.them feel any ways about how to commemorate or celebrate their own relationship.
Live your life.
Love them anyway.
No you have no right at all to be mad. It’s not about you. It’s about his happiness and obviously he is happy. You have no right to tell him who to love or who to spend his life with. I think it would be very selfish for you to say or do anything to upset his peace and happiness with his new wife. Have some compassion that he was probably very sad and lonely after losing his wife and now he’s happy and alive again. I’m sure he probably detected some sort of uneasiness among you that prompted them to elope rather than feeling awkward at a gathering or maybe they just wanted a private and romantic get away…what ever the case may be, it’s really not your business. Be kind and respectful so you don’t loose your Daddy too due to your own selfishness. He deserves to be happy in this short life we have. 
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He’s a grown man . It would’ve been nice if he told you but he doesn’t have to answer to you .
Disappointed yes. Mad no
He may of not told you because he could of thought you guys would be mad he had moved on since loss of your mom
Hes a grown man…you absolutely have no say in what he does…
I’d be hurt. Mad at first, but hurt for a while.
other than what age you are…he and HER did the wrong thing if you liked her.How offensive not to let you know or let you attend their wedding. Yes you have the right to feel excluded and left out of the picture. Maybe best to let your dad get on with his new marriage and not include him anymore…theres no excuse for their actions in this
It’s not about you or your feelings 
It’s called Eloping and maybe they are just at the age they don’t want all the drama that goes along with wedding. To answer your question sure you have a right to feel how you want but not really be angry with him.