Hey, I need some advice or someone to talk to, and I don’t want to talk to family or friends—just people I don’t know. I have one child, and my husband has three teens. I’ve always wanted to have a baby with him. Now, at 34, I’ve been off birth control for four years and still haven’t gotten pregnant. I’m scared of having another baby. What if I regret it? What if I’m not a good mom and regret only having my one child, who is 14?Don’t get me wrong, I want a baby so badly, but I second-guess myself. I have one child and three stepchildren who stay with us 50 percent of the time. I worry about the future and don’t want my child to be alone when I’m gone. I really want a baby, but is it too late for me to have a second child? My husband and I are pretty free since our kids are in middle school and high school. They’re rarely home, staying with friends or at the other parent’s house.Should I just give up, get my tubes tied, and cherish my one child and my three stepchildren? My husband and I have been together for 10 years and don’t have kids together. Will I regret this in the future?
There no way for us to predict if you’ll regret it. That’s a decision you need to make for yourself. But it should be a mutual decision between you and your spouse. He may enjoy not having any small kids or he may not want to start all over again. You’ll need to have these discussions with him to best make a decision for yourself.
I’m going to be 34 in September. My husband and i are trying for another one. Our son (first and so far only) has down syndrome and we don’t want him to be an only child. I had him when I was 32 so no. I don’t think your too old at all!
I just had my 4th child in June. Turned 35 in July.
No one can answer this, but from what you’ve said it sounds like you will regret it if you don’t have one more. And no it’s not too late. I have a 22 year old a 7 year old and a 6 month old. I just turned 40. Mine have the big gaps not by choice but by infertility issues, but I always knew I wanted one more after my first 2 and would have been so sad if I didn’t get that chance.
I’m 37 I had only 5 kids when my current partner and I got together we weren’t having any together well a few years in and we have 1 child together and twins on the way definitely my last
If you want one have one. I had one and I’m so sad I didn’t have another one and she’s an only child. If I could I’d definitely have another one but I’m not married and it’s hard doing it alone. Your baby will be alone like mine since yours are older but I’d definitely want a lot one with my husband.
Don’t second guess yourself! It’s not too late to have another but if it’s been four years with no form of birth control and you haven’t conceived you and your husband should visit with a fertility specialist. Good luck!! 
I’d bite the bullet and have one !
I think it’s the hormones talking… and yes, I think you may regret getting pregnant !!! I would talk to your husband. Does he want to be tied down for ANOTHER 18 years ??? Do you ??
My mom had me, a first baby, at 45. I had my kids at 32 and 35. All fine. My mom and dad lived long enough to see their first grandchild graduate from high school. Did you enjoy having & raising your 14-year old? Why wouldn’t you like having a baby? Line up your “village” to help so you won’t get too exhausted in those wonderful, sleep-deprived early years. Is your hubs helpful? Will he take turns getting up in the middle of the night? How are you enjoying his teens? If you all get along OK they should welcome a sweet new baby.
If you’re having trouble getting pregnant, see a fertility specialist, though they can be expensive and sometimes not covered by insurance. You may also want to ask about genetic testing for birth defects, etc. if there are any risk factors on either side.
My friend did a coffee colon cleanse and swears that helped her get pregnant after 40. Get in good shape with diet & exercise and take vitamins to help and go for your baby! Of course as long as your husband agrees and it won’t be a financial burden to take on another child.
I’m in DC. We wait to establish our careers before getting pregnant, sometimes before getting married too. There are a lot of older moms. IVF clinics do a booming business. 
Always have enough of your own money to be able to leave. Hopefully you never have to, but it’s peace of mind.
I had a child at 39 and I am a better parent now than I was with the child I had at 33. It sounds like you’re off bc and letting God decide. Trust that decision and maybe don’t focus too much on whether it happens or not?
It’s not too late. It’s also great to share one child together. My husband & I have “his, hers, & ours”. Ours is almost 23 yrs old now!
Definitely not too late. I had my last baby when I was 37. Also, the fact that you’re worried if you’re not a good mom, tells me that you ARE a good mom and you only want the best for your family.
For sure not too late. I would have the baby
My advice is to cherish all your kids and whatever happens happens, if you don’t end up having one then that’s what is meant to be. If you do have one then that’s what is meant to be. Just love your life and try not to think too much about it. The birth control might’ve caused some issues with conceiving but don’t stress yourself out about it. Everything will work out how it’s meant to 
I had my daughter at 44. She is my greatest blessing and keeps me young.
I had my only child at 42, I am much healthier now. Sometimes it’s really tiring but well worth it
It’s not too late! I had my first at 35. We tried for more but I suffered 2 miscarriages and an ectopic. We sort of figured we were “one and done.” At age 43, I became pregnant and gave birth 13 days after my 44th birthday! She’s eight now and perfectly healthy. She’s a ball of energy and I do get tired but she’s worth it! Her brother is a great babysitter too, BTW!
me personally… I wouldn’t wanna deal with diaper bags or bottles let alone getting up every few hrs to feed… I would enjoy the freedom & enjoy the child you have without restraints of a baby…