For those of you who have gone to couples counseling before, about how many sessions in did u begin to see progress or decide to quit? I realize every couple is different im just curious.
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It took us one. I thought he was the issue. It was me!!!
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It helped the first time but not the second.
Depends honestly. If your partner is a narcissist or abuser it wonβt make a difference except helping them find ways to hide what theyβre doing to you more. Theyβll put on a facade acting like they changed till the couples counseling sessions are over then theyβll wait a little while then go back to their old ways but itβll be much worse than it was before.
But if itβs for a partner that isnβt abusive in any way and not a narcissist then thereβs a chance it will help.
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We did a 6 week trial. We learned so much! Make sure you find someone you can connect with. May take a few tries. Good luck!!!
Weβve taken about 8? Very helpful, even for healthy relationships. Everyone can use help communicating
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Yes, it helped me and my husband so much!
Yes. We went for 8 months and we both agreed it was stupid at first but ended up helping alot!
We did optional premarital sessions with the pastor and his wife about a month before our wedding, so 4 sessions. Weβve been together 12 years and married 11 years. My husband said if itβs what you want we will do it, I donβt think we needed it as something like how most do counseling after the fact of something going bad but it was and is a good tool to have in our back pockets.
It only works if you are BOTH committed to making it work. If one of you is going because you are guilty into it or feel you βhave toβ itβs not going to work.
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Me and my ex did it for a year. Both parties have to have an open mind and are able to see the whole picture of why your in counseling. For us it was a mistake. My opinion is if you have to go to counseling then your marriage is over with anyway.
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It worked bc we both wanted it to work. We went for a little under a year but still use the tools we learned then today (we went about 10 years ago).
Had our first session in March, we agreed to once a month to see our Therapist together. Next session is the 20th and we are both equally optimistic on what we could get out of therapy together!
It only helps if both parties are open and communicative.
if both try and want it to work.
I say if your both willing to go then yes. Because then itβs more about you both want it to work. And will try
Yes! 3 sessions in with my husband of 6 months been in an on/ off relationship for 10 years
Itβs worked wonders. I canβt recommend it enough. We do Regain, which is through Better Health
Depends on the couple. It only works of both parties want it to.
Yep. We both knew what issue we specifically wanted to discuss and we just needed someone to help guid us as we talked through it. Could we have done it without the therapistβ¦ sure but having someone who could guide us and ask questions that we hadnβt considered or help when we couldnβt put into words what we wanted to say was helpful. We worked on it around 3 months due to the husbands work schedule. It was difficult but worth it to make it happen.
But yes both people need to be able to be honest with themselves and the therapist, be willing to apologize and truly reflect on their wrongdoings, and work hard at therapy. The only time you shouldnβt attend therapy with a partner is if they are abusive. Couples therapy with an abuser will never work.
Yes. If both are really interested and willing to do what it takes.
My priest told me to dump the bastard after one session.
My husband and I need it but is not willing to at all. 
If your individual therapist feels bringing your partner into one of your sessions will help, Iβd take that advice.
Jist dumping 2 people without any individual therapy history into couples therapy doesnβt work no.
Really helped us see things from the other personβs point of view as we had different personalities and different communication styles. Half the time when we argued we didnβt realize we wanted the same result/outcome because we were coming at it from two different directions!
Really helped having a third party guide us as thereβs no history or personal feelings about the professional, so itβs easier to hear what theyβre saying as an objective person and to heed their advice.
Ultimately it didnβt save our marriage but did make life better and allowed us to divorce amicably and weβre friendly enough decades later. Counseling also helped us understand other people better in general. Grateful for what I got out of it. We went for years to different counselors to work on lots of issues.
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Try the Love Dare and the 5 love languages sometimes to find common ground as a reset. Resources to use when not in counceling 
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A few times until the counselor said she knew about his multiple affairs. She said he needed individual counseling. Not marriage counseling. Been divorced now 11 years.
We went once a week for almost 6 months. It was very helpful. We still ended up divorced but it helped us not be as angry and hurt before it came to a close.
We didnβt get much from it. We went maybe 2 months worth.
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In my opinion will help if the couple ( both ) really want to save the relationship and if they still love each other, if one is β coerced/ pressure β to it , will never work and the couple should see a lawyer instead
I donβt normally post on this page but seeing this made me think. I believe 100% therapy works wonders for both marriage and individual. It all depends on what youβre purpose of going. Whatβs your goals? What are the underlying issue? Etc. Iβve seen a therapist before to work on individual issues after going through a traumatic situation. Best decision I ever made. Good luck.
I went for a year and a half with my ex husband. It helped me open my eyes to how terrible he truly was. I kept going because with each session, the more confident I was that I was making the right decision and helped build my confidence in myself. I then quit therapy, left my ex, filled for divorce, got full custody of my kids and never looked back.
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If both people are serious about it.
Weβve taken about 8? Very helpful, even for healthy relationships. Everyone can use help communicating