Send a registered letter telling her to cease and desist or you will turn her into police
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Itâs most likely family members that believe âshe has a right to see her grandchildrenâ giving her the pictures. Make sure no one has taken the baby to see her on the sly! They will do that!
This mindset infuriates me. NO ONE HAS A RIGHT TO YOUR KIDS!
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You canât reason with a narcissist but I would definitely tell her she has no right posting these pictures.
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Find the person/friend that is showing her or sending the pictures to her. Then block them too.
Just make all your social media private and donât send photos to anyone who might share with her. If you confront her, she got the reaction she was looking for. Just lock down tighter.
How she supposed to ask to see her grand kid if u guys have her blocked?
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Make amends with your MIL. Life is too short. Your child should know her grandma. It doesnât matter how sheâs getting the photos in the grand scheme of things. What matters is youâre family and children are products of their parents. Teach your child family values and let her know her grandma. Be the bigger person. Be the glue that mended this mess. Life is too short to be wasted on fighting with loved ones⌠good luck prayers for you all 
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You can report to Facebook. I had a ex-family association that was doing this and FB took it right down.
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I say ignore it. I have had similar situations with different family members that have nothing to do with my child and yes itâs annoying and yes itâs obnoxious but your peace is more important. Ignore it and it changes nothing in your life. The closest people to you know the truth and thatâs all that matters.
If I were you I would say something but in a respectful manner. I donât know what the falling out was about but life is too short to let things keep a grandma from her grandchild and a mother from her son. If itâs something that can be worked out you should. On that note if the fact she is posting pictures is bothering you so much as her nicely to please stop and then offer her to come visit her in a neutral place with you there and she can take a picture or two then and post that. Then she could feel included and you could feel like she isnât intruding on things she wasnât a part of.
She doesnât have a right to do that.
I would give her the opportunity to meet your kid tho. Ask her if she would like to come over and meet her grandchild. Unless you are worried about your daughter getting attached and then grandma falling back out of the picture.
If no response or she says no, then tell her she doesnât need to be fronting for social media as if she has anything to do with her.
If sheâs blocked how do you know sheâs posting them? If itâs because youâre keeping up with her profile then Iâd say you are searching for drama. If not then certain family members are letting her know, Iâd start there. Donât post your childrenâs pictures for the time being on your social media or make your profile private. You can also set photos to block some of your friends and or family who may be sharing them with her. Iâd personally not care. Because people like her as mean and much as they deserve their own medicine, are really just hurting. They donât know how to be mature and fix anything so they overstep boundaries to get your attention. It may be a desperate attempt at making contact with your family. Thereâs no need to tell her to stop because she may just want the negative attention. Try harder to contain your leak and if it doesnât stop Iâd stop posting the photos all together. Youâd be surprised what family members may seem to be on your side but are actually the biggest problems.
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You have to decide if you want to deal with the drama it will causeâŚhonestly, i would let it go, because i wouldnât want to deal with it. Or make your husband do it. After all, it is his mother.
It doesnât matter what the argument was about or even if the parents are in the wrong. Someone is sending grandma photos and she shouldnât be posting them without permission. I saw someone say to send her a cease and desist letter. That is probably a good idea. And yes you can report the pictures/her profile too
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Are they pictures you guys have posted to social media!? Not saying itâs right but anything on here is fair game for people to do stuff like that
She using someone on yalls friends list just block the pictures from being show to certain people
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She is probably getting them from one of ur mutual family members i would make sure they know that shes not in thier lives and not to pass photos to her
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Wow. Alot of people on here dont know what itâs like to grow up in a toxic situation and have to make very hard decisions about family members. To those that truly dont understand- youâve been blessed and alot of us wish we also didnt know.
That being said, stop hating on the original poster, you dont know what she may or may not have had to deal with.
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Iâd tell her to knock it off and find out who on your list is sharing them⌠And as just settings so they canât see your pictures.
I have a Restricted list.
Makes life simple bc even if they scroll my page, they donât see them.
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This is probably not going to be a popular opinion, but maybe use this as a time to try to mend things within the family. Obviously I have no idea what transpired or if things are even fixable, but life is so short. I just lost my MIL in June, and now she is about to have two great grandchildren that she will never meet! Regret is a very powerful word! Maybe she feels some.
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id probably report the situation to an authority or ask what you can do. many support the " well theyâre blood so therefore they have a right to _____" as if they the parents. also you can go to the profile and have fb remove photos by providing proof youâre the parent on each one
Just leave her be, I am sure she has a lot of regrets. Go on with your life you are getting angry over something you canât control and anger controls you. Ignore and move on.
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Cease and desist letter, written up by a lawyer. Can cost about 500 dollars, or less. Just depends.
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Report the pictures to fbâŚ
Maybe itâs time to work for healing and not a continuation of the drama.
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Comment on the picture and say why are you posting pics of your granddaughter youâve NEVER met or care to meet. Iâd call her a joke of a grandmother and report the picture!
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If itâs that important to you then I would have your husband reach out to his mom and tell her to cease and desist or he will report her to Facebook & the police (if you can do that). I donât know how you would do it but if you can somehow find out who is sharing the photos with her Iâd reach out to them too. If you canât find that out you may want to just post on social media and say something like whoever you are you need to stop now, itâs not okay that you are sharing pictures of our children with someone who hasnât been in our life for 6 years and who hasnât even met our youngest child so that they can post them on social media!
I would leave it alone itâs not even worth tormenting yourself over it. Those are her grandchildren even if you donât like her so sheâs not doing anything wrong or hurting anybody. Is there a restraining order? Is there something that really bothers you about her? If so you should address that 1st because one thing I have learned as a mother stepmother is that you cannot control what other people do. You will drive yourself crazy thinking that you can actually stop it. Donât create your own storms just leave it alone. There are gonna be many women on here and courage and you to take legal matters but I say itâs a total waste of time and money. That fallout is between your husband and his mother and those children are her grandchildren so leave it alone is my best opinion for you.
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The only thing that we control in life is how we react to each situation we face. Save your energy for more important things. Focus on your family and yourself.
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A word of advice. If you post pictures of your kids on any social media platform anyone with internet can access them, distribute, post, or share. privacy settings or not.
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Letâs normalize cutting off toxic people. Family doesnât exclude you from being cut off for toxicity and the âsheâs her granddaughterâ and âgrow upâ comments are whatâs wrong with this damn world.
I would let it go personally.
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Stop sharing pictures of your children on social media.
Too many weirdos!
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Briana Davis sounds like one of our crazy mother in lawsâ:roll_eyes:
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Ok yall need to be the bigger person and forgive her she is most likey trying too reach out to yall in her own way believe me if something was too happen yall would not forgive yall selfs and i know what i am talking about bc i had it out with my mother and when i let her back in my life it was 2 late i had 6 months or so with her before she passed and my daughter had it out with her father and has not spoke to him in years and he has tried but she will not forgive him we r not together anymore but i have tried talking to her many times to tell her when he is gone there is no going back so it is christmas so just for give or it will control your whole life
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You should be thankful she even thinks of her grandkids. My MIL has never once posted pics of her 2 grandkids and hasnât been to our house in over 2 years (even though she lives 40 min away). Instead of being spiteful, be the bigger person and reach out. Sheâs obviously thinking of her grandkids and thatâs why sheâs posting pics of them
Or stop posting pictures of ur child online in the first place. Alot of weirdoâs online so safer to not post ur kid. Just a thought.
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You both probably have mutual friends, and that friend is letting her save the photos. Itâs frustrating, but I wouldnât bother. Confrontation will just cause more trouble than itâs worth. If you all are estranged, try not to let it bother you.
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Figure out who your mutual friends are so then youâll know whoâs sending her the pictures.
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You could make a post about not sharing pictures of your kids to people who donât know them. you donât have to name names.
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Maybe stop sharing pics of your kids on social media first. Then report all the pictures to fb and tell her to stop posting them if she has no intrest in meeting the child and being a part of her life
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Maybe she made a fake account by carrying another female name an profile picture an sent u a friend request an u accepted it unknowinlyâŚ
So thatâs how she got the photos.
U can report it to Fb.
Lord I have same issue with one âfamily memberâ in Social media. Annoying af
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Tell her for the kids safety not to post them
Iâd get a lawyer that is crazy and would not be okay with me.
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Ask her to stop. If she refuses, thereâs always the option of suing her for copyright infringement if you actually created the photos she is posting.
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How does she get the photos, from folks you
Both know. If I were you I would stop posting pictures of my child on FB completely. Both my daughters and sons family stopped posting photos of their children years ago.
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Curious how she gets themâŚmutual family? Her other children? Maybe block all mutual family she might get them from, and edit new posts so only certain people can see. If you see sheâs still getting them, maybe now you know who is sending them to her.
For the most part, Iâve seen that happen so much. My ex step kidsâ mother went MIA for years, and still stole pictures from our social media and used them as her own to make it seem like she was still consistent in their lives.
Frustration, but those who truly matter and know your family, already know how involved she is/isnât.
Unless itâs really personal stuff, I wouldnât sweat it too hard.
But definitely weed out who is sending her what! Thatâs just what I would do for piece of mind.
Yes reach out! I had a similar situation happen and I spoke out. My grandmother then blocked me and hasnt posted anything. My sister knows not to send her any photos of my children or even update her. I felt disrespected. She could post and make âlovelyâ captions on them but when it came to me wanting to visit her and check on her with the kids âaye, I dont want to be around screaming little s****. I raised my kids and their kids. I need money, not kidsâ. And this has started arguments in my family between her and others since she would never say it to me personally. Sheâd just come up with an excuse as to why I couldnt visit, or why she couldnt make it to a party.
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Some toxic ass people on this post man 
Fake account or another family member is getting the pictures to her. On another note just because the son and mom had a falling out does not mean she loves her son and grandchild any less he will always be her son and she will always be the grandmother to the child. Just because of a falling out does not mean she loves him any less and also he only has one mom maybe try and put everything aside and try to mend the relationship
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Ok here is a sad cry from my elderly grandmother she has 4 children 3 live in the same town only 5 mins each apart the 4th my mother lives 5 hrs away from her mother those 3 that live in town donât bother with her at all my mom 5 hrs has taken the bus every 2 weeks cos I work my mom retired goes to take care of her mom cos those 3 selfish ones donât wanna my grandmother has 12 + grandchildren me being one also 5 hrs away takes care of her everyday and financial while she can enjoy whatever time she has left sheâs been a widow since 1998 she has a grandchild intentionally moved in beside her same building will not even say a good morning to her point is make amends let the past be the past u never know until its to late now this is horrible my grandmother calls to the other 3âs houses just so she can hear their voices she does leave a message saying" just letting u know if Iâve ever done something to offend u Iâm sorry just know I love yall love mom "
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Once you post pictures online they are NEVER private ! Iâm sure sheâs either got someone sending them or sheâs got another account !
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Report it to Facebook or which ever you post on , you can say they are being shared without your permission
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My estranged father used to do this with my daughter and unfortunately in my experience thereâs not a lot that can be done about it. Just try to make sure that any of your friends and family who might post photos of her have their privacy settings locked down, I found out that my biological father was getting his pictures from my ex-FILâs page which was public.
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If she is blocked, She cant get anything, And no one can send her anything, Even if someone saves pic as she still cant get anything, Once you block someone that cuts all ties,
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You can report the photos on Facebook. You have to submit a notarized document stating you are the childâs guardian and have rights. Then they take it down.
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My EX and his family used to do this. Havenât seen or spoken to my son in at least 2 yrs some 4 yrs. A mutual friend let me they were posting recent pics of my son saying they miss him blah blah. I immediately contacted my lawyer who drew up a letter and sent it to my EX that stated there was knowledge of stolen pics that were posted online without permission. If they werent removed immediately they would ALL be charged. Thatâs ALL it took.
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Unblock her. Restrict her view of your account.
Then proceed to block all mutual friends even if family.
Keep her on restrict view fro a few months
You can edit your post to everyone expect ___.
I had to do this to see how someone keep getting my pictures
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The best way to stop her from doing this is stop posting your childrenâs photos on social media, if you want to share them with close friends and family email them. It is not safe to share photos of children online, it makes it easier for sick people to kidnap them. When you take photos with your phone your location is imbedded in the information that is attached to the photo. You can file charges of child endangerment if you want to get nasty.
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Donât ask shit. You tell her to cut that crazy stuff and quit acting like sheâs a part of her life.
K ill be the odd one out here.
I think its sad and maybe an opportunity to reach out 
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Maybe itâs just me, but I think itâs whatever. My grandma does it all the time, and though itâs annoying, Iâm not going to blow it up and make a huge deal⌠it is their family too.
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Great example of why you yozrself should not post your kids on social media.
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Thereâs a back door that they go through by ways of any friend of you having their profile public with visible friends list. Have everyone change their profile to private that she knows of and hide their friends list. I knows this because had my ex is blocked and he went through a family member of mine that was public and got pictures off my page. If they want they will get them and know ways.
If your not going to reach out for anything else, leave her be. They are her grand children she clearly still takes an interest. If you have her blocked you shouldnât be able to see what sheâs posting, it works both ways.
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I havenât spoke to my mom in years. She has never met my kids and wonât ever. But she did this same stuff. I have my social media set where only my husband, my dad (theyâre divorced and hate each other), and my brother can see my pictures of my kids. These are YOUR kids. If you donât want her posting your kids, she has no right to. We went through the same thing. As far as we have decided to go get protection orders for both kids so she canât contact them or come close to them. Thereâs more to the story as to why, but ultimately, theyâre my kids and itâs my choice. Same for you
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I would just ignore it and go on with your day. Itâs very annoying yes, but at the end of the day there are people out there that need their 5 mins on social media to make them feel better about themselves.
U are spending ur life with her kid thn why she canât even post a pic of ur kid 
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I would unblock her just to comment and ask âWhy are you posting my daughter when you havenât seen her since she was born?â And the after 24 hours, block her back.
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Block anyone who is on your friends who is giving her access to the pictures
Maybe that is her way of reaching out to you?
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Look at see what friends you have in common and block them all from your posts since iâm sure it would be hard to pick who the rat is.
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Itâs time to go thru your mutual friends and delete or stop posting pics
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Donât call her itâs her lost.
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Report each of the photos to Facebook since she doesnât have permission to post them 
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Obviously thereâs someone in your inner circle whose send them to her, I would report her for harassment!]
There is no point cause if sheâs anything like my estranged MIL does this when her and her own son hasnât met my daughter. Posts on here all the time how I keep my daughter away from them which is the first best from the truth I deleted anyone I knew had contact with them so idk how she kept getting pictures when my wall is private so I had to stop posting pictures of my kids I send them to people who care about them and take them for myself but I donât post them anymore cause I confronted her and she still does it to this day.
Report her pictures and have them taken down.
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Make sure when you are posting your pictures you look at privacy settings and make sure they are not set to public
Report it to Facebook.
As for her getting them, there is someone on your friends sending her stuff.
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Talk to her and make a Mends. Life is short. She must wanna be part of sheâs posting.
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I think she is trying to reach out to you. Hopefully you all can work this out for everyoneâs sake.
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Comment on the picture if youâre able too. Thatâs what Iâve done. Thereâs no âeveryoneâs sake, her sake, the kids sakeâ no. Thereâs toxic family too and you donât have to tolerate it if you donât have too. Someone is clearly sharing the pics of them to her. Iâd delete family from ur social media
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That might be her way of wanting to make peace. Call her and see where she stands and if there relationship can heal
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MY that a rech out call if what she done is major i understand but if it not she is reaching out
Or dont post pictures
Can u comment on said posted pics bc i would comment right up on there and make it known she psting pics and never even met the child or aksed about the child dont play grandma if u dont want to step up and be one but thats just me
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Someone is giving her the pictures most likely. Iâd message her and request her not to. You can also get a cease and desist order by a lawyer. My husband also had a Big blow up with his mom. Luckily sheâs shown no interest any of our children.
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Maybe this should be an opportunity for you all to figure a way to make peace,our kids need all that love and support they can get.It takes a village to raise a child.Ig at all possible,get it figured,set a proper example for your babies.
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So. I have a similar life situation. I no longer speak to my bio dad and havenât in almost five years. He continues to go through whoever her can to find pictures of me. My sister and my kids and post him saying he is a proud father a papaw 
after this and some serious safety issues (him trying to get mutual friends to lure my kids to their house so he could get to them. ) I went through all my mutual friends and even publicly posted that if you are friends with my father due to security reasons I will have to remove you from my social media. Everyone was very understanding and those who I assume werenât simply didnât respond and I deleted them. In the end this people werenât close to me anyway and obviously didnât care enough. So in the end their loss I guess. I rather keep my peace safe. I wouldnât message her. Anytime I tried that it created drama. If you have no intention of seeing her.
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Same here. My mil hasnt seen my daughter. She is almost 4. She never talks with her. But always asks her video from her son.
Court order: Cease and Desist.
You can have them removed from whichever site she has them on. Itâs a pain but doable. Also really think about how in your life could be a flying monkey for her. Personally Iâd set up a test and send one picture to who you think it could be and go from there.
Maybe it is her way of saying she wants contact. Figure out what is going on. Itâs the kidsâ grandma. Maybe she doesnât know how to say Iâm sorry properly. I grew up not knowing my older sister and brother because of my motherâs issues⌠Anyway, thatâs lost time with family.
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Make your pictures private un shareable
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Time to unblock her and let her be part of the family for the sake of everyone. Beter to love one another
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It didnât say WHO created the falling out! Sometimes parents have to dish out tuff love and the child (grown or not) doesnât like to hear NO! Not saying this is the issue but it could be the other side of the story! Who knows? People alway want to find fault with the MILâs without hearing the REST of the story! JS