I totally understand how you feel. I would figure out how she’s getting the pictures. Go through your friends list on your social media and see if there’s a fake account following you or if someone in your husbands family is showing her. That would infuriate me as well acting like she’s a grandma or something not uhhh
Help a mama out and respond anonymously on our forum. Estranged MIL is posting pics of our kids on social media
Report her to Facebook for using pictures of a child without permission
Or reach out and try to fix things……
I’d contact her and ask her not to and if she still does then I’d make a police report about it
Give me her name I’ll report her also! That grinds my gears. Don’t act involved when you aren’t.
Report them. Reaching out will only bring arguments
Fix things with her. Life’s 2 short and u will be sorry when she’s gone
Re-evaluate your friends list. Someone is sending her the photos. And I’d also report all the ones she’s already posted plus send her a formal email or letter that she does not have permission to post photos of your child
Unfortunately once you post any picture on Facebook it no longer belongs to you . Id stop posting pictures yourself and I’d get in touch with her asking her to stop posting pictures she already has access to. Having the conversation might even start in helping to build bridges too.
How is she getting them to post. My mil was doing that. So, I made my profile private and then unfriended her. She can’t see anything or steal my pics anymore.
Report her to Facebook.
I’d stop sharing pictures on social media. She’s getting them from some where/ someone. Tell your friends and family to not share either.
Reach out, ask her to kindly stop, see if you can’t find out who is giving her the pics, because clearly someone is and they’re in your camp. If that doesn’t work, report the photos and have them removed that way.
Find out who her flying monkey is and block them too.
I’d contact her and tell her she is not allowed to be posting pictures of my child without my permission I have a very set in stone type rules when it comes to this. You never really know who people truly associate with and I don’t want random people seeing pictures of my kids
How bad is it that you can terminate a relationship? Is she really that evil. You adults should have fixed this ages ago.
It’s still her granddaughter
Someone is definitely sharing them with her. She’s being a petty witch. Good luck.
She is probably getting them from the same person who is telling you about it
If she doesn’t have permission to have those pictures and she is posting them without your permission isn’t that also considered child pornography?
Maybe she would like contact but doesn’t know how to mend things . Reach out to find out. Even if you don’t want contact yourself. When my son was born my mother and I hadn’t spoken for many years. I let her visit slowly and things worked out all around. The reason I let her was my issues were not my children. What if time passes and so did my mum . My kids may have issues with me for missing out on their Nan . Ask her take it from there xxxxx.
No pics on social media cause someone is a rat. Feel bad for you because some people just want pity instead of actually caring when they are supposed to.
She’s getting pics from family I am sure! Reach out if she’s not toxic to your daughter and make her and your daughters relationship happen … it’s not about you and mil or mil and husband’s.
And lock your pictures down and your page
Go to JustNoMIL on Reddit. She’s getting pics from “flying monkeys” or other people stalking your social media
I’m so sorry but someone close to you is now placing your child in harms way. I’d say no more real time photos, limit your child’s face and photos on your fb page. This is awful and I don’t understand how someone (a family member at that/estranged or not) can do that. Social media is public and the bottom line is that posting and child’s photo can put them at risk. I’d be furious!
I’d report her & try to go through my friends list to figure out who it could be or delete & block anyone that has anything to do with her… I have a MIL that very similar & she has nothing to do with us & I normally don’t post pics of our boys on Facebook because of this reason right here but I finally did & I did state that if I ever found out anyone took the pics of our boys without our permission & sent it to someone once again without our permission then I would block them & they would be taken out of our life & im not even playing. I’m tired of her putting us & our boys on the back burner but expecting us to put her on the front burner I’m not doing it anymore it’s time for US to be happy for once & thankfully my husband even agrees I hope that you can figure out whose doing it so you can it to get stop but until you figure out who’s doing it I wouldn’t post anymore pics of the child of Facebook so she couldn’t get anymore.
Actually go on her fb and report the pictures over and over again untill her account gets deactivated
The poster asked about the photos, not about reconciling. None of us know what happened. It’s unfair to tell her to rebuild bridges.
Someone from my “friend’s list” is sharing my children’s photos with my parents. Who post like they’re a part of their life. FB doesn’t do anything about it.
Why does it bother you so much? Can you imagine never seeing or holding your grand baby? People are so petty.
Remember you’re only hearing one side of a story! Life is short, quit having fallouts with family!
Yes you should reach out to her.and try to repair the relationship. You be the bigger person,its not easy but probably will make things better for all.
I went thru this. I blocked that entire side of the family for years.
stop your issues with your MIL is NOT your child’s issue too. You don’t realize the damage you do to your child by keeping grandparents out of their lives. STOP MAKING YOUR CHILD A VICTIM OF YOUR ISSUES AS ADULTS.
Unfortunately when you post pictures on social media they are no longer private or yours… if you don’t want them to be shared don’t post them
Maybe she wants to meet her and have a relationship with her? You should probably address her directly about this, unless she is unsafe or criminal.
maybe work on yourself
Grandparents have a right to see their grandkids and their photos and post them.Stop the cruelty to the people who had you,raised you and still love you.Hate has no right in families.Stop all the hate .Love all the family and include everyone for the children teens sakes.
Report her on fb. How do you know she’s posting if you blocked her?
I have a certain album I post my kids pictures too. Everyone from his family is blocked and anyone I believe that associates with my husbands birth giver is blocked from all post or my fb is general.
Okay so I’m gonna be the one, Was whatever she did to make you angry worth taking her grandmother away from her life? Maybe the grandmother doesn’t feel safe or comfortable talking to you?? (Asking) with no context of what the issue was its hard to say much on this. Because that is her grand daughter, I feel like regardless of what happened between you and the gma that’s not right for her to be cut out of her grand kids lives unless her being in their lives puts the kids in some kind of danger physical or otherwise.
That would annoy me but I would ignore it. Don’t post pictures you don’t want shared.
Hide all her pictures on FB. Whoever messages you asking why you aren’t posting her or where they went, is the one sending them.
You could always put a “watermark” on the picture. That’s what a friend had to do because her mother was doing the same thing
I would reach out to her and ask why she feels that she can post pictures of your child. This may be her way of trying to fix whatever went wrong between her and your husband and she truly wants to be a part of your family’s life.
So many gross responses from fellow women in this group…. Wtf
Someone on your page is friends with her or she has a fake account
So many MIL issues in this group.
What you should do is try to fix the relationship between your husband and his mother first. And maybe she’s talking and asking a family member about her granddaughter and asking the person to please send her some pictures and that’s why she’s posting them because she may not feel comfortable asking you because her son your husband and her do not speak.
Here’s an idea: don’t post pictures of your child on social media until you get everything sorted out with your MIL. You don’t have to document your entire life on social media. If family members want pics, send them to the directly.
Definitely ask to stop. Maybe just start with a google search, every states laws are a little different. Idk if stealing pics on social media has any value if it’s pics of a minor or not but definitely try and do some research. My moms a manipulative, narcissistic, alcoholic, rich hidden monster whom I haven’t spoke to in 11 years, never met any of my kids or even know their names. So I get it.
As a nana I’d be so heartbroken if I didn’t see my two grandchildren ( thankfully I’m very close to my daughter ). Perhaps this falling out should try to be sorted. Perhaps she is so proud of your little girl despite not meeting her that she just wants to be apart no matter how small. It’s Christmas after all.
Sorry your going thru this, but most likely she’s getting the photos the same way your getting the info on her posting them. Someone is watching on your page for her just as someone is watching her page for you
You can report the posted photos.
If you have friends in common on social media that may be how she’s seeing or and getting them.
Also please keep your child’s best interest at heart and put that first.
I love all these holy people saying “fix things” blah blah blah. My husband and I don’t talk to his mother and there is a list of reason as to why. I’m glad all of you have perfect Disney lives where everyone gets along but that’s not reality for many of us and it’s no ones place to tell someone that the solution is to fix the relationship when really the MIL shouldn’t be posting the pictures and if she wanted the pictures she could/should reach out to her son etc.
I would try to find the person sending them to her. See who your mutual friends are and either delete or limit what they can see that you post. Good luck!
Y’all got a fox in the hen house. She either outsmarted you on social media or she’s got an ally.
Ignore it. Why give it attention? Obviously she has no concern of what you guys think or maybe that’s her way to get you guys to reach out… I don’t think her posting photos is hurting your daughter or you guys. Maybe she wishes she knew the little girl, sounds like she may have “ruined” that opportunity but what does posting pictures do negative in your life. If you don’t plan on mending things then don’t waste your time being angry or reaching out. It’ll just give her attention and clearly you sound like you hate her.
So many judgemental people in here. PSA: Family doesn’t always belong in your life! In fact, it is sometimes in the child’s best interest to not have certain people in their lives. Particularly, when the family member is narcissist. There is a reason the woman’s own son doesn’t speak to her. Instead of judging her without knowing the backstory, try offering sound advice.
Report any photos of your child being posted. She doesn’t have permission from either parent. She hasn’t reached out so she can’t cry she wants a relationship.
Also everyone telling her to mend things umm no if she thought the woman was bad enough to cut her out of her life then she has that right ! And if she is bad for the husband and her she sure as hell will be bad for the kids
If she doesn’t see them and doesn’t bother to or want to then she shouldn’t be doing it full stop. Maybe ask her to make an effort before she posts pictures of your children, and if not then she can stop. It’ll be other family members or she has a fake account etc.
You can report the pictures to Facebook and they will remove them ….
She could get the pics from family members or friends you have in common. She can also have made a fake fb profile to view your pages and then saves the pics she can see you post of the kids/family.
She may be wanting to be in your life posting them she is showing you she is heartbroken and loves them. If That happened to me though that would be the reason
Anyone who says they should allow the MIL into their daughter’s life is missing the point and enabling an abuser.
You want to protect your kids… I totally understand it…
Without knowing why you fell out… Id ignore it and be slightly more careful when I post…
Unless you can Bury the hatchet and move on… Sometimes that’s not possible tho.
It does probably mean its someone on your friends list sharing the photos? Maybe?
It also sounds like someone’s stirring up trouble for u… Id want to know who’s forwarding the photos x
I’d be more concerned with find out out who is sending her these pics and cuss them tf out. Then handle her.
I think maybe talking to her directly and working towards trying to mend the relationship for the sake of your child, would be a great step towards grace on both sides. I think if she isn’t a truly toxic presence, having grandma around could be a blessing in disguise. Growing up I’d have given anything to have my grandparents present and active in my life. Whatever the beef was/is…is it worth carrying it around and letting it permanently erase her from your lives? I don’t know the answer to that, but I know it’s beneficial for your child to at least try. Let it go if it’s not really causing you pain
Are y’all not reading the whole post? Her husband and MIL had a falling out. Quit telling her to fix an issue that was not her doing.
Sort it out. Every child needs a grandmother. Tell her you would like for her to be a part of your kids lives and to respect your wishes to not post pics of them without permission. Hope you all work it out for the kids sake. Blocking her is a bit childish.
I have had this happen to me but not with my MIL, I found out who was sending the photos and I removed them from my fb
Report the pics. And don’t allow any of her family to see pics anymore as they obviously send them to her
You’re estranged so just leave it be. Let her front for the gram lol you guys know the truth.
If you have her blocked, how do you know what she’s posting? Blocking works both ways, so once you block them you can’t see their stuff either.
I’d be the one who comments under the pic the truth!! So social media can see what she posts and how little she has to do with them!
I’ll bet she made a fake profile to gain access to those pictures.
I’d be pissed if my biological father did this. She has no right. She absolutely needs to take them down.
There’s clearly a lot of toxic MILs in this comment thread
Report the pics and block anyone she’s connected to. This shows that it’s all about image and reputation, not an actual relationship or bond with her granddaughter, and shows she’s narcissistic. Blood means nothing when it comes to your peace. You are not obligated to fix a relationship you didn’t break nor is she attempting to create.
I’d talk to all friends and family and tell them that if they’re sending pics to her they need to stop cause she is not apart of their lives and I’d report any pictures that she posts to have them removed
Let it go…save your energy…dont add fuel to the fire.
This is so sad to me. Her falling out with you doesn’t stop her from loving her grandchild. What is it hurting for her to post pictures of her granddaughter just like you post pictures of your daughter. Let her be, stop stalking her profile, you blocked her but yet you have access to what she’s doing . She already doesn’t get to see her own grandchild physically and has to resort to having other people giving her pictures of her, the least you can do is allow her to love her from far away. I can’t believe you want to take that from her. She hasn’t bothered y’all as I’m sure she feels y’all don’t want her around or maybe she doesn’t feel the need to talk to you all but like I said, doesn’t stop her from loving her grandchild and wanting to be a doting grandmother from afar. I could never imagine feeling this way even if we weren’t talking or whatever. There just pictures of her own grandchild geez. If I wasn’t talking to any family member I seriously would not care about them posting pictures of there own family member on there profile. It’s ridiculous.
Find out who sends her these pictures and tell them to FO
Make sure your profile is super private!!
Flying monkeys are taking your pics and sending them to her. We are estranged from my MIL as well, and family on fb take our pics and send to her. I have them on my restricted list, can’t see new posts or pics.
Ok I love all these people saying try to fix MIL and SO relationship. Same situation here haven’t spoke to Mil in over a year. This year she goes to the rest family telling(we have a great relationship with everyone else) them they need to talk to us so things can be fixed. She is a true narcissist. It is not your place to fix this. All u can do is support your man. Sometimes boundaries need to be set and if people can’t respect that then the hell with them.
I guess it depends on why they “had a falling out”. was it because of something petty, or something serious? Some people have kids & then try using them as weapons to hold over others heads, if you’re doing that you should reach out to the grandparent & see if she’d like to meet your daughter. If something serious happened, your husband should contact her and tell her to stop posting pictures of his daughter
Do you think just maybe she would like to see her grandchild
You can report her profile for it.
The amount of people more worried about being nosey & sanctimonious it’s astounding. It doesn’t really matter why grandma isn’t in the picture, know why? It’s not her child! It’s the parents right to decide who is in their child’s life. My youngest daughter’s grandma isn’t allowed in her life because she let her boyfriend abuse & most her father & his siblings as children. Ever think maybe dad has a good reason?! Momma- start weeding through your people because you have a snake on your midst reporting back to her.
Without knowing the history of what happened, it may be her way of showing she is ready to be part of your child’s life. I have issues with my kids too but its not the babies fault. I would die if they took them babies from me. We deal with our shit and put it all aside for the little ones.
Id call her out. If she doesn’t have permission and has never met your kid then she has no right
Narcissists do that to create the illusion of a happy life.
Report the photos. Do not reach out. Check everybody on your friends list. Someone is sharing them.
Children should not be used when adults can’t get along y’all need to find a way to fix this
She has no right to the pictures she didn’t take of the grandchild she has nothing to do with. My mil is a piece of work. She wants nothing to do with 2 out of 3 of our kids. She literally only interacts with the 2 littlest ones when she wants a picture of them. Usually a selfie, so she can post it on her fb and say what an amazing grandma she is… its disgusting.
I would tell her she needs to stop! She has no right to do that
I definitely would!
I would just say I would appreciate it if you not post pictures of our daughter on your social media we do not know who your friends on social media might be and who are seeing these photos and are not comfortable with our daughter being exposed on line.
I feel like this is very inappropriate. My mother who I have an OK relationship with ask me before she post photos I send her.