Consider he may be gay
Donāt put yourself through that
Run my daughterās dad did this it was a mistake every time until I had no choice but to let him go and think about myself.
He wants you and other people.
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The sooner you kick his ass to the curb, friendship and all, the sooner your broken heart will mend. Out of sight, out of mind. Boot him.
Heās a narcissist and doesnāt want to let you go so you can move on. 
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He wants an open relationship
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I think he just wants ābenefitsā and youāre heading for a heartache
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If you got no kids togetherā¦Please hold on to your shattered heart and run!!
He donāt care about the mess your heart and head are in and you need spaceā¦
Hang with YOUR friends and do things youāve been wanting to doā¦
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If he doesnāt want a relationship then tell him that you canāt be just friends with him. Tell him it hurts you more because youāre still in love with him. Tell him itās all or nothing
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Nope. He is trash and just using you. run. Fast
Thatās because he doesnāt want anyone else to have you but still be able to do what the fuck her wants. Move on, girl. Be happy!
Its called co dependence ā¦he doesnt want you but doesnt want you wanting anyone elseā¦hes playing with your headā¦up to you to keep this up or find someone who really wants you
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Deeply caring for someone & being in love with someone are 2 very different things, he obviously would rather still have you in his life as a friend rather than out if eachothers lives, he still cares for you ā¦ its better than someone you love walking out of your life for good
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If it hurts you, donāt do it.
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Get your space from him so you can heal. Be friends later.
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Nope. Move on. You are plan B, a back up ā¦ a safe bet. You deserve better
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Heās just stringing you along
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Sounds like he just wants you as a friend with benefits. My friends donāt kiss me on my lips
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He just wants you as his bit of fun with no cominment he dont give a shit about your feelings block him and move on
Stop hanging out with him
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Cut that shit off. He wants to know you still want him but that he can do what he wants.
Walk awayā¦ allow yourself to move on and find someone who actually wants you!
You deserve better.
He wants to make sure youāre available to him whenever he is ready to use and abuse your feelings. Let him go he is using you
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Cut All ties! Dont Keep Being available. It Fucks with ur Head Big time Especially when ur still in Love with the person.
My thoughts
Thats sounds like heās seeing someone els
But still wants you
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Stop hanging out with him, block his number and cut all ties, heās stringing you along so when heās done having fun with other girls youāll be right there. He either chooses you or loses you completely. Youāll find someone who loves you and values you.
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Block his fucking ass. Period. He is using you for physical intimacy and as a place marker and taking advantage of the fact that youāre still in love with him and also keeping you from grieving from the ending of your relationship
Donāt do it n donāt be friendsā¦they are exes for a reason
He hasnāt found anyone yet ā¦ when he does heāll move on
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Cut him off! He only wants to have all the benefits of being with you, without the commitment! Itāll never work! You will only get hurt!
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Heās having his cake and eating it. Donāt put yourself out, you need to limit contact to heal because heās going to hurt you otherwise xxx
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Sorry to say this but your his back up plan! Wants to make sure he still has you to come back to when or if everything else fails!! Walk away!
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sometimes letting go is for a good cause.
Control he doesnāt want you but doesnāt want anyone else to have you
Cut all ties and run sis
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A Head Fuck At Itās Finest! Donāt Do It To Yourself Cut That Off It Will Hurt But Will Be Better In The Long Run x
Nice little string heās got you on
He doesnāt want you to move on. He doesnāt want you romantically but he doesnāt want you to be with anyone else so he sticks around so that you will still have feelings.
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Youāre being played. Heās letting you torture yourself.
Youāre torturing yourself by doing this. Stop.
stop making yourself available he wants it both ways - single life but a call on girl too
Distance yourself from him. You are bring used
I think he wants to keep you around as plan B, best of you close this chapter and put thoughts on self love and moving forward 
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Ditch him he doesnāt want to burn that bridge just in case the new chick doesnāt work out!
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Donāt see him Block him on everything
It sounds like he doesnāt want you to move on with anyone.
You need to move on donāt let him control you
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Yourl broke up for a reasonā¦ Play safe and leave it there 
So many dumb posts today.
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Iād cut him out. Donāt put yourself through that.
Iām in the same boat still going like this on off 9 years, they want no commitment but donāt want to let us go either, very selfish x
Hes using you for his needs cause he knows you wonāt say no & you still love him, be friends yes but cut everything else out, your making yourself look easy.
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He cares for youā¦ but he doesnāt want to be with you. Take it for what it is. He is being nice. He wants to be your friend. Take it as thatā¦ if you canāt be his friends because it making it hard for you to move on then cut those tiesā¦ I donāt think he is trying to keep you on a string or trying to make it where you canāt move onā¦ he wants you in his life just not in a relationship. Iām friend with pretty much everyone I ever dated, not because I want to keep them on a sting but because I care about them.
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Iād say he is a bit of a control freak. Move on,and stay away from him. He is playing with your head! Do be used anymore!
You are his back burner,move on
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Stop allowing this and cut him off. Youāre just convenient to him. He may still care about you, but heās being toxic and youāre letting it happen. If heās not in love, heās just using you as his rebound.
Move on heās playing games an your now his back plan
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Set your boundaries and cut it off
Donāt see him for a bit.
If you wanna be friends in 3 months, reach out. If not, better left and get on with it xx
Donāt do it. Just think about the future when he starts dating someone else and you are still just the friend. You are setting yourself up for heartbreak. Go out and meet someone else. I think deep down you think itās going to change but more then likely you will just stay the āfriendā . Best wishes for you.
I think heās doing this so you wonāt move on. Just my opinion
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I will give u the best advice u will get ! Play not intrested say NO donāt accept his calls, go eat, b his friend.STOP that! Men want what they canāt have.b unavailable, tell him u have a date even if u donāt, if u do this & start hanging out w the best looking guy u or he knows it kills them.let him know what HEāS losing! Ur worth itā¦Make him want you!
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Side piece he can run to for affection when someone else wont give it to him. Trust me. Hes fooling you. Leave him be.
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Date someone else then see how much he wants to be your friend. Things will change real fast
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move on cut ties .
hes just using you
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Find someone that wants the same level of relationship that you do. 
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he is wasting your time , move on
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Keep going as you are, He probably wants to as well.
Heās using you until he finds someone new, once he does he will ghost you completely. Just let him go
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Move on and begin healing. Heās messing with you, for whatever reason.
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Your basically his friend with benefits on his head just move on ex are example of why we left.
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Heās using you , no other thought. Itās clear as day. He is letting go on his own time and still dipping his chipā¦.
āDate someone elseā¦say thisā¦do thatā. It is like people treat love like it is a game. Just tell him exactly what you think and feel. You are either together or you are not. You are either friends with benefits or you are notā¦it is all up to you both. Just communicate. If you want a relationship and he doesnāt, then move on girl. Life is too shortā¦be with someone who knows they want to be with you and acts accordingly.
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He just wants to be able to bang other people without cheatingā¦ just my opinion sorry
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Hes stringing you along.
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He may love you too, but right now it seems like he wants the perks without the commitment. Sometimes a little space gives a couple time to appreciate what you had or proves you really want to move on. As much as it may hurt you to cut ties, you will probably both be better off in the end. And who knows, he may come back to you and say he made a mistake. And you might decide he isnāt what you want anymore after some breathing room.
Seems like your convenience right now try seeing if he misses you as much as youād miss him
Why did you guys break up?
People can still be friends after break ups. If the tables were turned what would you want? Time for some boundaries. If youāre not ready to see him like that be honest and take some time for yourself to move on.
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Leaveā¦ girl I did this for 8 years on and off. It was torture and he was just keeping me around to not be alone. Donāt do that to yourself.
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He just wants to keep you around,but doesnāt want to commit. You know this deep down,you just donāt want to accept it. You have to be willing to let go, because if it was meant to be, you would know. It will hurt,but it hurts you now,so u need to make the break.
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You will never get over him if u keep seeing him out of sight out of mindā¦ cant be just friends if your heart belongs to him even though you want to see him and feel like you are in cloud 9 when u are with him you are only hurting yourselfā¦ please end this.
Itās just going to make it harder on you to move on. Take a break from talking and hanging out for your own sake
I think when a man or woman tells u something like they donāt want a relationship or they jus wanna be friends u listen n thatās how u treat them. Kissing them is not treating him Accordingly. He can not have a relationship n talk to whoever he wants n still get to love up on u. Y would he want to be with u??
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Being friends with an ex right after breaking up is very very hard, especially if one of you still has feelings for the other like it is in your case. I can tell you as someone that has always remained friendly with exās that the only way it works is if your romantic feelings towards one another are no longer there. My ex husband and I went to therapy, tried to make a conscious effort to make the relationship work, and found that we just simply grew apart and out of that relationship so we are able to remain friends. But thatās only because there were no unresolved feelings left whatsoever. With you still being in love with him, and him saying he would only like to be friends, you are setting yourself up for hurt because when he moves on heās going to say you were no longer together so you have no reason to be angry with him. I know you are hoping that keeping a friendship will make him see you should be together but that is most likely not going to happen because you are letting him have a no strings attached relationship with you right now. Iām sorry youāre going through this, I would try to have an honest conversation with him about how you really feel and tell him your willing to put In the effort to make it work. Other than that I would say to try and move on without him and once your over it to try at a friendship.
Cuz you let him do all that
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Some Exās can just be friends,some want a side chick for sex.
For a back up chick.
Only you can decide what you want,you know him no one else on here does.
Itās manipulation. Heās playing games with you and he will not care when you end up hurt.
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He doesnāt really want you finding someone else. Kissing and hugging on you, keeps your feelings for him active. While he wants to remain "friends " so he can look for someone else. You decide if this is the life for you. I strongly believe you already know what to do. Leave him!
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You are delaying the healing process by remaining friends especially as his still kissing you etc and you are entertaining it so his getting to have his cake and eat it im sure his well aware you all have feelings for him.
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He is stringing you along knowing how you feel so he has you as back up. He is not worth your time, stop spending time with him, stop talking to him and move on.
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Just like in football there is a āfriend zoneā at each end of the field, put him in yours or heās gonna keep scoring points at both ends, heās playin ya
He wants to keep you around as an option and someone he can hook up with whenever while he also is āallowedā to see other other people
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He is just making sure you donāt move onā¦
And thatās not fair, Either be all in, Or all out!
Allowing your feelings to be played with is going to end up in more hurt and frustration.
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If heās kissing you and wanting sex, heās using you.
If youāre still in love with him and he wants nothing to do with you other than friendship, heās kind of a jerk for leading you on. Unfortunately for you to heal from this, youāre going to have to cut him off, because youāre going to constantly hope for more, and heās going to eventually move on while youāre still in this emotional placeā¦
Please leave. I have been there, itās only going to hurt worse when one of yāall actually do move on. Heās holding on to you right now because youāre willing to give him the time and affection heās craving but without the stress of a relationship. It may be making him feel better but Iām sure itās only confusing you and hurting you worse.
He has the problem and he canāt decide what he wants the only way to help him is not to have anything to do with him so he figures out what he wants the way itās going now is know ware let him go donāt answer phone
Thereās nothing wrong with staying friends however donāt lead YOURSELF on
He has said he only wants friendship so you need to set boundaries