Okay so my blood family is a pain. My grandma has been trying to push me to tell my blood mother about my three month old son and eventually agree to let her see him. Long story short, my mom’s in prison and won’t be allowed around children when she eventually gets out. I don’t want to let her near him both for that reason and the fact that she broke almost every promise she made me over the years… I don’t want my son to go through the pain I did of wondering if she’d call or show up. My grandma and her husband were told at the beginning of my pregnancy that I didn’t want her knowing about it. It took all of two months after he was born for her husband to ‘forget’ (blamed it on old age + bad memory) and tell her… My grandma has preached forgiveness to me… And has been guilt tripping me by saying she won’t be around for much longer and wants me and my mom’s relationship to be fixed… Am I overreacting by telling them the only way I’ll allow my son to see them via vid chat is if they respect my boundary of not telling my mother about him?
Perfect solution you found. If she is not permitted by law to be around children tell grandma that you cannot do that due to the law. Also, tell grandma to quit guilting you, It is Mama’s own fault. You are doing great and are a great parent!