Advice pleeeease!
My sons father doesn’t want him to be around or pretty much doesn’t want anything to do with him at all anymore.
I used to have to argue with him just to watch our son for a bit even then he would leave him with anyone else in his house and be gone for hours. He won’t acknowledge our son in public even when he screams and cries for his dad.I want to change my sons last name to mine instead of his fathers. Should I? And should I put his father on child support? He doesn’t have a job or even a highschool diploma. He wouldn’t afford to pay it.
And what’s a great Father’s Day gift that me and my son can do for his dad (my s/o who loves and cares about him unconditionally.)
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I always get my dad something with sarcasm on it for fathers day or items that go along with his sense of humor 
Any personality traits that you guys could get a coffe mug or t shirt of?
I would help your son make a card, with his painted hands on it or something like that, and I would ask him if he want to adopt ur son, give him his last name, if the love is so unconditional he would be thrilled and in tears, very moving from my perspective, and I wouldn’t let the father be in his life, if he doesnt want him is his loss, he can see ur SO as his father instead.
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If he really is not interested in being a dad, maybe he would agree to terminate his parental rights. I’d get some legal advice before you do anything.
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Look on the Michael’s carft store website. They have a father’s day gift class that’s only 3 dollars. I think the age is 3 and up so I don’t know if your child is that old. But if they are you should check it out.
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“Put him on child support”? Sorry, but that bugs the shit out of me to hear women say!! Of course he should be paying child support. But not because you are mad at him. Because it’s his child and whether he wants to be around or not, he still has a financial obligation.
Take him out on an adventure, a hike, a picnic, a hot springs…for a gift. As far as the deadbeat goes yes change his last name and yes apply for child support. He helped bring the child into the world, it’s his responsibility. He will have to grow up and get a job at some point, dont feel sorry for him or his situation, he put himself there.
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Put him on child support!
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You can’t force someone to be a father… they don’t deserve that love, child support is a must because fuck him for thinking he can make kids and not pay. And if you have someone who loves your baby. Walk away from the dead beat. Like seriously why are people always forcing their kids onto someone who will not love them. Like he don’t want to be daddy… let him be known as the donor
A new wallet/ belt, tennis shoes, new razor something useful for him but personal also.
Don’t change the name but do put dad on child support, there is work out there he just has to go get it and the courts can make him unless he likes being locked up but as for a gift for new dad, something from the heart that he can show off.
I’d say just cut the bio dad out of your life. It will be less stress and frustration for everyone involved
Fathers day gift? He is a sperm donor. Perhaps being slapped with child support could make the stunted boy become a man. His life is too easy. Walk away. No. Run.
You can file for child support and aid and they will go after him to pay it or they will arrest. Him u will still get aid to help you .It’s sad that he wants nothing to do with him.
Change his last name to yours and just get on with life since he don’t want to do anything