Getting mixed messages, what to do?

5 years ago I met this girl we talked for a few weeks then we met up and slept together pretty much as soon as it happened we stopped talking years have gone by and nothing! Then one day she sends me a message asking how I am! We hit it off again just talking she told me she has a baby and is due to get married soon! We speak all day through message! She sends me photos of what she's got on! And calls me names like babe and honey! I'm getting mixed messages what do you guys think? Thanks
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It could be she doesn’t wanna get married or getting cold feet and you are a way for her to escape I would just tell her that you could be friends and not more for right now

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I suppose it would depend on the context of the text. Where I live people use babe, sweetie, hun etc to strangers often.

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Leave her alone before you get put in the middle of whatever she’s about to cause

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Stay away. She wants attention because she’s feeling down or worried what ever she feels she needs outside attention besides from her significant other. Whatever her situation is stear clear you definitely don’t need that drama. You had you’re fling and hit it off she ghosted it is what it is. There are better women out there wanting a committed relationship don’t sell yourself short with this.

Dont be that person…would you want someone to be doing that to you in a relationship???

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I would definitely say that we can be friends but it’s inappropriate to do anything more or continue talking like this if she’s getting married

Avoid that shit show at all costs! Personally, I wouldn’t wanna be in the middle of drama.

Yeah, definitely cut it off. Would you wanna be the fiance in this situation? I’ve been cheated on, both physically and emotionally and neither of them feel very good. She’s either unhappy or just loves attention, either way, tell her you’re uncomfortable and move on. Even if you two would end up together at some point, you’ll never trust her.

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She’s up to no good, if you go for that just know she’ll do it it to you too

If you were her fiancé, would you appreciate her behavior? She’s enjoying the attention you’re apparently giving her or needs an ego stroke. I’d think about blocking that one, while you go find someone a little more single.

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Lmfaoo if she’ll cheat with ya she will cheat on ya. Gtfo!!

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Maybe she’s not happy and us thinking twice about getting married but she’s going about it the wrong way and if you ever decided to get with her she may do the same thing to you I would leave that situation alone

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That girl is trouble. Run, don’t walk away

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Cut her off. You don’t need that drama

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Sounds like she wants a last fling, before wedding.

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Sounds like she wants one more fling before she ties the knot. Be a man and turn her down. Her fiance deserves better.

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Shes engaged and has a family my guy. Leave her alone. Shes trying to play games for your and his attention. And its not ok. Dont feed into her bullshit.

She could be looking for something on the side of whoever she is marrying but at the same time I call literally everyone hun/honey and I know people who call everyone babe even if they’re not interested in them in any way sexual/wanting relationship. Could go either way. Just don’t let it go too far since she is with someone else.

She’s getting married and having a baby…you need to run

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I think you should block her, maybe even tell her fiance what she’s up to

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If she is doing this while engaged, she would do it to you too. There is nothing even established but already there is not any trust. Save yourself the grief, move on

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How old is the kid lol

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Why would you even entertain a taken woman?

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Run! Run! Run! Why would she get a hold of you right now even she’s having a baby?! Sounds like she’s not happy with herself

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She’s already emotionally cheating so she will do it to you run fast

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It really doesn’t matter what message she’s sending you. She already told you all she needs to know, she’s taken. Don’t he a home wrecker. Move along.

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If she does it to him, she’ll do it to you.

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Sounds like she’s a cheating ass hoe!

sounds like a straight up hoe

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Yes she is sending mixed messages don’t fall for it you need someone better

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She’s not happy in her relationship. Using you to make herself feel better.
I would just drop her and leave her alone. Dont respond or anything

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You need to block her

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:sparkles:Track down her fiancé and tell him everything, show the texts too :sparkles:

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How is it that people cannot see the shitty shit they’re doing?

She’s testing the grounds baby seeing if the waters are cold lol she wants to see if you’ll be her side piece :woozy_face:

She’s pregnant n about to get married ummmm don’t u think thts ur answer stop msging her n leave it b truly ur the one tht will only get hurt from all this

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Need to find out how old her kid is first then work out if it could be yours and that’s why shes contacted you, or it’s all harmless and she calls everyone babe and honey lol.

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Unpopular opinion. Maybe she wants out, misses you and wishes you will step up and be there.

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Tell her man. He deserves better too. You guys can have a bromance :grin:

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You’re the one she couldn’t stop thinking about and she settled finally.

Sounds like she is playing head games to me

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Just block her and move on.

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Sounds like she’s looking for a step daddy for the kid.

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I would ask her what’s she is upto