Hi mums. How many of you decided to be alone when you give birth in the hospital (I mean, without husband, sister or mother in your same room)? Did you regret of it?
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Why would you not include your husband? It’s his child to. The rest I can understand though.
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Why wouldn’t you let your husband in? Selfish as fuck. It’s his baby too. Smh
It doesn’t matter if someone else will regret it! You might not. If you want to be alone that’s totally up to you. Labor Is your journey and you got this!
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It’s your choice momma!
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My first birth I had my aunt, mother in law,sister and husband in the room. It was to much for me, to many people. My 2nd was just my husband and I. Much better experience and I love seeing his facial reaction when the babies first come out. It’s a bond between us I’ll never forget. I couldn’t make it thru labor and delivery on my own without him.
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? This is my 1st grandbabie I dont know if I’ll be welcome in there I’m afraid to ask how do i ask I will stand in the corner n not say a word
Yup all 4 births just me and those required… didnt have a show to make them… didn’t want a show when they came out… I’m glad I did it like that… no one else besides the drs held them kissed them and made life promises to them… I dont regret it at all!!!
I didn’t have anyone in the room with my for my first because I was in a hospital over an hour away (I was 33 weeks they had nicu) and they didn’t allow anyone to stay over night with me. I had her early morning and gave birth 10 minutes before my mom and ex arrived. I refused to let anyone in the room with my second because I didn’t have anyone there with the first… I now realize that was stupid thinking 
. baby #3 my husband,mom and father in law were in delivery room and #4 just my husband because emergency c-section.
Now looking back on baby #1&2 I regret not letting my mom come in to support me for baby 2 all because of me being stubborn . there wasnt anything I could have changed from the first birth
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It’s your choice but dad should be allowed… Dad and i weren’t together so i also allowed his girlfriend there to support him.
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It is totally up to you other people may regret something you dont and vice versa if you want to do it alone then by all means but I will say labor is hard and it’s not fun, having someone there to distract you is a good thing sometimes
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Tell ya what i went into the operation room with out my partner and it was the loneliness thing ever. I was taken our kids on hoilday part ner couldnt get time off i went alone. My waters broke so i was suck at a hospital 9 hours away from home. Hospital said they werent going to deliver down there and try send me home. So on the sunday i told partner to take the kids home. 1 hour later i was told i need an emergency csection, partner turned around and came back. But we couldn’t wait him to get back to deliver baby. I wish i had never send him on his way home. Its the scariest thing i felt been in that room alone then to have my baby whipped away to Nicu because he was very sick and born early
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With my first kid I had both my sisters , both grandmas , and dad in the room. With all the other baby’s with my now present husband it was just him and I. I couldn’t do it by myself.
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I’ve done it alone. And let me tell you what, that was the best decision ever. Baby’s dad is not in the picture, so if my sister was there during birth after that I think I would be ashamed to look at her.
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I was going to be at my sisters last birth. Whilst my other half looked after her boys and our little lady, but it didn’t work out and sge had to give birth alone. She hated not having anyone with her.
With my son, his dad was meant to be there, but couldn’t due to other responsibilities, i asked my sister and although nervous ( before she had her beautiful children) my lil sis came with me. It was the best deciaion i made. When they rushed him out of the room, not breathing and purple, i was all over the place, my sister was amazing, she was so supportive and comforting, thank goodness tgey got him breathing!
I think if you can, make sure you have someone there.
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Sadly a good friend of mine was alone, and she was very scared she called me and I jumped up and threw on my Cubs jersey and grabbed my baseball mit and my cubs ball cap !! I ran in the room and was. Like ok here we go I am ready to catch girlfriend !! It’s really up you but having a good support system is critical if God forbid something goes wrong !! When I had my little girl there was like 50 people in the room ( she was very early !! Barely 31 weeks) she came out screaming !! One of the doctors said " you gotta be shitting me !! " There was clapping and a lot of high fives !! I was still so very scared !! I was really young as well !! It’s up to you but I would have some one with you just in case !! Much love my sister and good luck !! 
PS. Mommy bragging !! She is now 20 years old and in medical school already !!
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I can understand just having you and your husband in the delivery room, I would prefer it that way, but I could never take that moment away from him and say I wanted to be alone it’s his child too and he deserves to be there to hear the first cries, see the first breath etc. Not to mention, my husband is a HUGE emotional support for me, and in those vulnerable moments of pain and emotion there is no way I could do it without him there.
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I just had a c-section all by myself, 6 days ago. We didn’t have a sitter our son. Plus our c-section was delayed by 6 hours. It was a long Day, I was really glad I did it all alone because my son was happy at home with Dad. But I’m not 100% OK with it because my husband wanted to be there! So its kind of bittersweet.
I only allow my husband & Mom only (my Mom couldn’t make it). So I’m completely fine with how it turned out. But it would of been more special if my husband was there last Friday.
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I had my mom, mother in law and my partner in the room during contractions once it was time to start pushing I was very clear that I wanted everyone to leave except my partner. I was so weak I couldn’t even hold up my head let alone my legs so it was nice to have him there coaching my through it and helping to hold my up. Once our baby was out he wasn’t breathing properly so I sent hubby to go find our baby since we had no idea what was goin on . Just having a baby and being completely alone in a room not knowing if he was going to be okay or not was the loneliest I’ve ever felt in my life. Looking back I wish I would’ve let my mom come back just to sit with me even though I couldn’t and didn’t want to talk, the company would’ve been nice . Our baby boy is healthy and happy now but I would still recommend having someone with you if you’re worried about being alone. Only if that’s something you think you would want though, don’t feel pressured it’s your body. Good luck! Hoping you have a safe and easy delivery! 
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I had my mom, mother in law and my partner in the room during contractions once it was time to start pushing I was very clear that I wanted everyone to leave except my partner. I was so weak I couldn’t even hold up my head let alone my legs so it was nice to have him there coaching my through it and helping to hold my up. Once our baby was out he wasn’t breathing properly so I sent hubby to go find our baby since we had no idea what was goin on . Just having a baby and being completely alone in a room not knowing if he was going to be okay or not was the loneliest I’ve ever felt in my life. Looking back I wish I would’ve let my mom come back just to sit with me even though I couldn’t and didn’t want to talk, the company would’ve been nice . Our baby boy is healthy and happy now but I would still recommend having someone with you if you’re worried about being alone. Only if that’s something you think you would want though, don’t feel pressured it’s your body. Good luck! Hoping you have a safe and easy delivery!
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My first it was my husband and my mom. Second was just my husband and the doctors. Having him there made it so much easier
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I havent done this. But I can tell you, I needed my husband more then anything. He kept me going and if it wasnt for him I dont think I could have made it through. 
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It is an amazing experience for you and anyone else that gets to part of you bringing a new ba y into the world I have had a room full of loved ones every ba y and one I had about 8 emt students it is your decision but make one you will not regret and ps most people are not all up in your business they are just there to celebrate what life and to praise you for the amazing thing you are about to do
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Should atleast have your husband there 
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First one i had my mom and my husband. Second one was just my husband. I honestly loved having just my husband there. It was just us and it was the best feeling because it wasnt as crazy as my first
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First one i had just my boyfriend and plan on doing the same with the second. It’s such a special moment and I really loved having him there to encourage me and see our little one being brought into this world.
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