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Maybe heās gay and doesnāt know it. But he might need to see a Dr to rule out other things. As for you focus on being healthy mind body and soul. Eat right, exercise, meditate.
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Girl, u know whatā¦ as much u longing and needing, just love yourselfā¦ be a mom to your kid/s and LOVE YOURSELF.
ok, he told u exactly how he feelsā¦show him that u will accept that, make/dress urself sexier at homeā¦take pride in being YOU. and whether he comes around or not with the way he feels, you will surely be content with it bcoz u will have confidence in urself and by not pressuring him into changing the way he feels about you, will hopefully make him wonder and want uā¦
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Sexual therapy! Talk to q doctor. He might have something going on with his testosterone!
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The symptoms of a porn addiction.
Dang I donāt understand young people. How you gonna have a baby with a woman and then, BAM, no more intimacy?!?!? Thatās on him! Heās getting off to porn, so it aināt broke! Iād be mad. Love isnāt like that. If youāre bound & determined to stay, make him get help. He probably has an addiction to porn. Just calling it like I see it.
Listen to yourself talk. This man is a selfish pig. You are probably a large part of his financial well being. Of course he stays with you! He has to!
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The joker is a LOSER; dump the zero; get you a hero; that loves you unconditionally, and for you my dear.
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The relationship isnāt healthy anymore. All itās going to do is bring you down. Iām not going to throw the assumption that he is seeing someone else, but in my personal experience - that deemed true.
Iād leave. Or get him to. Itās not healthy for you, or yāallās child to be in a āheavyā environment like that. Youāre now lacking self esteem and feeling insecure when itās not you at all.
Build yourself back up and find the happiness within. Let him go. The idiot will either miraculously be sexually attracted to you again the moment he realizes he is losing you, or someone will come into your life and love you through EVERYTHING.
Never give more than you can. If your partner is constantly only giving 20% and youāre trying to constantly fill his glass, then youāre draining your own going to his level.
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Communicating both ways about it, and lots of support and reassurance together, find other ways to solidify yas relationship
Take care of yourself Sexuallyā¦ it sounds like heās conditioned his brain to pornā¦ its too easy to doā¦ (just trust me) either way its 3 options. Split or do it yourself or watch it togetherā¦ also donāt frown upon him as in the age of technology itās too easy for this happenā¦ Iāve seen it several times among friends. They werenāt pigs, or trash, or bad people, they had just conditioned their minds to certain pornā¦ donāt hate him. But also you donāt have to stay. There are options. 
good luck sis.
It would be over for me. Yes I can say that confidentially because I will not tolerate any less than I deserve. Leaving is so scary but NEVER let anyone treat you any kind of way.
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Not to mention he sounds like a f***ing moron.
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Some men struggle like that after youāre their childs mother. Itās a psychological thing. If you really love him you will be willing to stay and work this area out with him. Sex does not equal love. ATTRACTION does not equal love. Yes they add like frosting on a cake but you might not physically be able to have sex at some point in your life. Or he may not be attractive to you at some point and then what have you got NOTHING. Relationships are hard workā¦let me scream it to the ones in the back RELATIONSHIPS ARE HARD WORK. ā¦if a person doesnāt want to work than they donāt truly want a relationship they want a fling. Just my 2 cents
Get out. Make yourself and your kids happy.
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Its not youā¦ He is either gay or isnt IN LOVE maybe just loves you as the mother of his child. Dont beat yourself upā¦ Move onš
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My ex and I,had the same problem.It led to me saying bye bc it got to the point,I felt unloved and just didnāt want to feel that any more(no sex,no holding hands,no love and it felt like roommates)I am now with someone else and,its been amazing.I would ask him what some of his fantasyās are.Maybe(Iām sorry to say this)hes not attracted to women.Just let him know that,thereās no judgment at all.
I agree with Brittany statement above, time to see a DR and have some lab work done
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Prob sees you now as a mum not a sexual partner 
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Could be hormone related or if he has any kind of trauma, sex repulsion is a real thing that comes in waves both me and my SO go through it and some times we line up and sometimes we donāt. So many of these comments are why men are afraid to express their emotions smh.
If he really wants to work on things, will you guys do couples therapy?
Have you had an extreme change in your appearance? I know most people will feed you the bs lineā well if he loves you he should love you no matter whatā but thatās not it. If I was with a man that looked a certain way and as we continued dating he made a drastic change in the not so appealing side Iād know I love him but not be sexually attracted. So with that being said if it is that why not try to dress up some, exercise, do things you did when yāall first started, I believe that will help the relationship. Just a suggestion, good luck and God blessā¤ļø
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Both of you should go to marriage counseling together & try to figure out why he feels this way. If you both love each other then itās worth a try. Also he may have erectile disfunction which is common in many men. He could also have emotional or mental issues that can be resolved. Together yāall can figure it out through counseling. If he refuses to go then he obviously isnāt that interested in fixing the big problem in your marriage. In that case you go to counseling by yourself & decide what route is best to take for you & your family. A counselor can help you with your self esteem & also a realistic approach to whatās truly important to you in your marriage & what is not.
He probably watches a lot of porn. If he gave that up it would make a difference.
Go to counseling and stop the porn and masturbating right away. He is fulfilling his physical needs with mastemasturbating and having unrealistic ideas through watching porn. He might be unconsciously not able to see you as a sexual partner now that he sees you as a mother and counseling will address that.
Sounds gay he wanted a baby and got it and now is done with you sorry thatās what it sounds like.
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Have him get checked by a Dr and if there is something wrong then no heās not a loser or a pig because he canāt help it. If there is nothing wrong then he truly is not attractive to you in a sexual way but he can still love you and he is telling you and it might be the truth. But he needs to go see a doctor
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Depends on if heās saying he isnāt sexually attracted to YOU but he is other women or just not sexually attracted to anyone.
He is a liar
He has someone else @ like a man can stay without it 
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Iām sorry but its over! 
we all have needs! If that attraction is no longer there it wonāt be long before he is looking outside your relationship to satisfy his needs.
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Look into porn addiction and what it can do to guys
Something isnt right here. If hes only into porn that could be a reason. Porn addiction can lead to erectile dysfunction and before anyone comes at me look it up. Sounds like he may be in this boat. He needs therapy and needs to take a break from porn.
Get him to go to therapy so he can find the root of the problem. Also lab work. Sounds like he loves you. Men donāt just stay and go without sex if they donāt care.
Omg all these comments 
See a doctor and also a sex therapist. People have plenty of hormonal or trauma related reasons that can absolutely kill a sex drive. It doesnāt have anything to do with the loss of love sometimes.
He should see a Dr., you can also try and spice up things, flirt with him, wear sexy PJs to bed, and if all else fails then buy yourself a vibrator and use it in front of him, if nothing works then you have to sit down and talk seriously about this situation, I wish you luck.
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He needs to see a doctor and a therapist.
Heās lieing and you are believing it
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Madonna/Whore Complex! Google can explain it better than me!
In short, couples and individual counseling.
He needs to go to a doc
It could be a self image thing. Did u gain weight? He could just need more in the bedroom. Try new things too turn him on that you are comfortable and ok with and do it safely in a safe environment. Make sure all parties are consensual. For example threesomes, swinging, toys, porn, try a sex game.
The last part about him only being able to do it to porn could be something he might benefit from a professional opinion, like a therapist.
Did he watch you have the baby what I mean is did he see the baby actually come out ? Some men canāt get passed the vision of that ā¦ a good friend of mine lost her marriage because of it ā¦ itās pretty common
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Is it possible he is gay?
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Start dating someone else or start talking about another man in a really nice way as though you are attracted to him.
From the time another man starts showing interest in you heāll want you even more than he did before.
Youāll see how fast that no attraction is out the door.
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Heās either got another woman or questioning his sexuality. The only reason I mention the second is from the vagueness but and seemingly honest love still there
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Dress up get a wig lol
Heās doing somebody else
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You mentioned he gets off when he masterbates to porn. What type of porn? If itās other women then thatās one thing but it it is menā¦he might be gay and just doesnāt know it yet.
Google the Madonna complex. Some men go through that when the woman they love have their baby. Good luck.
Sorry but it sounds like heās got a sexual interest in someone else. Woman or man.
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The masturbation is the problem,once a guy gets used to it he gets addicted to it , he needs to get professional help
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He already has someone else, always remember this :if heās not getting it from u, heās clearly getting it from someone else!
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Does he think the child is not his ??? As you said he thought he couldnāt have children? He may feel you cheated on him. ???
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Does he have depression, Howās his cholesterol levels? If he is addicted to porn thatās your answer. Maybe try putting porn on for him and dress sexy. If that doesnāt work Iād move on. He could love you but not be in love with you.
He needs kicking into touch and get urself a real man that finds u attractive and sexy
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Might be gay or might just have some issue with his testosterone tell him to c a doctor if this first isnt the case that dont work then he either hates u and just cant admit it or hes banging someone else
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This guy has a screw loose and your trying to understand him face it this is who he is you need a normal guy have a nice breakup and move on
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It doesnāt matter why. It is what it is. The question you should be asking yourself is whether you want to give up sex for the rest of your life or if itās time to move on.
He should see a Dr get his levels check and maybe see a counselor as well. Could be a physical or mental health issue as well.
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Heās crazy you need to have him leaveā¦
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Time apart let him get that āwant/miss uā feeling back. Or thereās obviously always the thought that hes cheating. Men can be sneaky. He may not want to break the family up so he stays but cheats. Or something physical like hormone levels are off.
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Might be that you had his baby. Some men freak when you have their kid and suddenly cannot see you as a sexual being any longer.
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A lot of people are saying heās gay but she said heās had lots of girlfriends and sexual partners which Iām assuming are also female so that doesnāt really check out.
More likely, heās having trouble with the whole mom thing. Thatās actually common. Itās also common for people to not feel attraction in real life situations when they watch a lot of porn. The op says he masterbates to porn too.
It could be a combination of both or neither but his lack of initiative in finding a solution speaks volumes.
Also the fact that he said he canāt be with another woman because heās in a relationship with her speaks volumes as well. He could feel trapped.
Someone mentioned sex addiction and that would make sense too. Sometimes people with sex addiction find themselves being less attracted to their spouse.
Regardless, he needs to do the work to get to the bottom of it.
Sounds like some therapy would be warranted. Sex can be an addiction. Also intimacy challenges usually mean there is something underlying.
Is he on any different medication?
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Sounds familiar, he most likely sleeping w someone else sadly.
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Wowā¦hard callā¦either he DOES have another girl somewhere or he needs to see a doctor ā¦ and one he will open up to.
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Maybe itās because you became pregnant with his kid, he might look at you differently because of you being pregnant and having a baby
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Heās either cheating on you or you need to spike his mashed potatoes with viagra and see if that changes anything
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love doesnāt create based off attraction you rushed it! there nothing wrong with you you created a life together and think you both confusing that with love! you may want something he isnāt capable of giving respect the honesty if that what he giving and start focusing on yourself and child! because a child can not create,heal bonds! save yourself pain your gonna create by forcing this
2 years and yāall aināt done anything? Why you even still with him? I wouldāve sucked him off, hopped on that dick and made him my slut. The hell you talking about??
So just like women go through different hormonal changes in life so do men!!! He may be experiencing low testosterone, depression, or any number of other health concerns. Stop assuming that just because he has no sexual desire that he doesnāt love you, or cheating. Why is that always the go to assumption?! Talk to him and maybe get him to see a doctor at least and see if hormones play a part.
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Are you 100 percent sure heās not gay ? Maybe wanted a child , wanted to be a daddy so badly he tried but now he just canāt fake the sexual part ? Not being mean or trying to start drama but I did see this very similar situation happen to an lady I worked with at one time.