Has anyone gotten a divorce or separated and still lived in the same home? Pretty sure that’s what was set in motion last night but everything is still an emotional mess.
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Yup, been doing it for over 5 years now.
Yes. For a year and half we were separated but lived together. He slept in another room but eventually we got back together after a lot of talking and working through some stuff. We still have things to work on but we are trying.
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My mates done this and all is great
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In this day and age with sky high rents and the cost of living I could actually see myself considering this if I were in that situation. I would probably stress the importance of working opposite shifts. Like I would work days and he work overnights. And everyone would have to agree ahead of time to who pays what and who’s on childcare duty.
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It depends on the situation
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If you can get along it makes sense to share
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Sounds like the most functional when your thinking affordability. However, mentally- the cost is much more. You’re committed to separation. Living together may ruin whatever patience you have left for the other person and end in a even worse outcome. If you’re leaving, leave in peace and figure it out. Don’t leave, and stay and make life harder.
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Yes I did that until I sold our house.
Yes have been doing it for 2 years but will be moving out soon and filing the divorce papers finally. Co-parenting can work under the same roof
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I have. it gets harder to move on if your there… me n him wrkd it out lol
If you can get along under 1 roof may as well stay married. Might be old fashioned tho.
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Come join this group there’s plenty of support from people going through much the samething. Lot of great advise.
Yes, a couple of times. My daughter’s father is staying in a camper in my backyard right now. He stayed out in the garage for a few months as we were separating. He and I have been off and on for over 20 years now. During this time, he and I lived together for almost 3 years, just strictly as friends and roommates. No flirting or “what if” talks or entertaining "just tonight " ideas. From my experience, it can work well if both people have moved on from each other and don’t have any interest in getting serious with someone else. Most other guys consider it is basically a joke to talk about a relationship with them when your ex lives in the spare room. My ex and I got along great, however. Now, living together during the parting of ways was a complete nightmare, and my kids witnessed some scenes that I wish I could erase from their minds. Breaking up is hard, no matter if you want it to happen or not. Having to live with the other person makes it almost impossible to actually accept the breakup. It keeps the household in a limbo state. Which makes it basically impossible to heal. I do not recommend living together during the separation phase. Sending much love and light 
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My grandparents were divorced for 45 years but still lived together up until my grandfather’s death 3 years ago.
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It turned violent when i finally decide to move on even though his ongoing affair was the reason we were separated
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It’s the worse thing you can do ever me and my ex husband lived in same house while going through a divorce to keep my daughter in her home and it was the biggest mistake of my life. It was the hardest thing ever cause you feel like your walking on egg shells with each other and you just end up not getting along causes alot more issues. I wouldn’t recommend for anyone to do.
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be very cautious, a man with hurt feelings easily turns into a dangerous man
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terrible decision for everybody i know who’s done it. it makes it extremely confusing for your children.
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I separated and let him stay, but it only lasted 2 months. I felt bad because it was the holidays coming, so I let him stay, but then it got awkward
Nope, put all of his stuff out on the porch and changed the locks
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No but I had a friend that did…they divorced in their late twenties and had 4 kids together…they divorced he moved in to the spare bedroom and they still live together 20 years later and they both date etc…she has even had live in boyfriends…
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My parents are divorced and recently moved back in together due to my special needs brother, health issues and to save money. I think it’s hard at times, but they make it work.
My parents separated when I was born, 27 years ago, they still live together and are bestfriends lol.
It’s called separate but living together it’s common here you’d have your set sced with the kids or house so you are not bumping into eachother and set sced to leave when you have company over with the price of everything it’s more common then you think.
My friends did and still live together
It’s very common. I’ve known a lot of people that have done this.
I think if you can parent together and keep it civil it’s a good way to go with the way expenses are going
With his current wife and my boyfriend all in the same place then we moved right next door to was a duplex
I’m not sure how healthy this is for kids. But who am I. Either choice is tough, so what is best for you and make sure best= mentally healthy for everyone!
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I’m currently separated from my husband. We still live in the same house, until I can find a place I can afford.
In my situation, it isn’t easy. It’s not healthy, either. If you can avoid it, I suggest doing so.
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I know a couple who does it successfully. They remodeled the house so they have separate living spaces. One is in the basement, the other on the 3rd floor, and the kids are in-between. They had to do a lot of personal growth to make this work, and it isn’t always easy. Their lawyers and therapists were very skeptical, and how pleasantly surprised. It usually doesn’t work, but they’re able to make it work. Both were in their 40s when they divorced.
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When me and the father of children separated we lived in the same house for the first few months due to finances. It worked only bc in the mornings I was at work, then when I was done he was at work till real late.
Currently me… DON’T DO IT!
We separated for a year an a half, well two years, but I moved out for a year and a half. I fell for everything and gave him another chance about a year ago. Here I am, back in the same exact crap I left. We’ve been together. Separated, been roommates. Been together, just in separate parts of the house. Now, idk what we even are. It’s just not healthy. DON’T DO IT!
Mentally that is very hard to do!! Please get everything in a court order. It can turn ugly really quickly.
Oh yeah… and It’s really uncomfortable
Did this with my ex for 5 months til i found a place (ky has a trial separation requirement, & it took me an additional 2 months to find an apartment) it was emotionally draining, he was mad because i wanted him to take the couch, we only had 1 bedroom & i was the sole one getting up during the night with our son who was only 10 months at the time, he wanted the divorce & i sure af wasnt sleeping on the couch. 
If you can’t get a long i dont recommend doing it. Oh & he was also made to pay the divorce cost/fees& security deposit on my apartment as well as the deposits on utilities because I’d stayed home with our son after he was born & i had no income at the time. The attorney said he was causing a hardship since he didnt want our son in daycare the first year.
Yes. 2021; lasted March through end of august/early September and he went from not caring to every form of abuse. It’s only good if no one gets involved in your situation or if neither of you are “doing better”
Than the other from my experience.
Why in the Sam Hell would anyone agree to that? If the judge did, it’s on him if there are subsequent charges at the location/household. I would NEVER trust an ex that way.
My ex husband and I lived together two years post divorce. We discussed divorce during a February, divorce was finalized in July, and I was still there until May two years later. That was our arrangement since I went for no spousal support or alimony. I had to get on my feet, we had pets etc. We were always friends first so it was fine. We maintained separate lives, while also being able to get along. We’re still friends. It’s really situationally dependent. Only YOU know if that’s possible between you and that man.
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