Has anyone had an affair happen in their marriage (whether it was you or your S/O) and you got through it?
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Yes me and husband it’s been 7 years since we just put as him being young and dumb time has passed he’s more mature now we got together when he was 18 me 22 and been together 8 years now it was a big struggle thou it a long hard process to be able to trust again and grow up from that kind of situation but I didn’t give up and we worked passed the issue it can be doable but it’s super hard honestly it’s up to you if you want work on that trust and if you are able to let go of that kind of situation
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I think it can with a lot of work, from both,
I hard it has made a marriage better!
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Absolutely. 100%. No. That is where I draw the line.
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Got to figure out why they did it to start with ( what they were missing in the relationship ) and see if you can get through it together with coucilling and fix the thing that’s missing. If you can’t do that then it’s a hard no you can’t get though it
Cheating isn’t always just about physical. If there’s an emotional reason for cheating, cut those losses and leave. If there’s emotional tending and care, cheating for emotional reasons won’t happen. If it’s physical, that’s usually a character flaw that can’t be changed.
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Divorce for me. Had someone around my kids while I was at work. More issues than just that. But that was something I could never regain trust after.
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My marriage went through it. It took a lot of time, energy, prayer, ect ect ect… But here we are 
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Honestly , I wouldn’t even try
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Nope. It ended in a divorce for me.
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Yes i 1st & 2nd time but the 3ŕd time i kicked him to the curb
we’re divorced. absolutely will not tolerate that disrespect.
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Absolutely not!
I got a divorce for that very reason.
Once trust is broken like that I knew I’d never trust him again especially since it happened while he was working.
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Nope. Divorced and better off without the cheater
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I’ve never been through this but here is my advice……I think it depends on the person who was cheated on. If my husband had an affair I would live in a constant state of fear that he would do it again. It would make me crazy to a point that I would have no quality of life. People make mistakes (we are human) and I feel like they shouldn’t have to live in misery for making a mistake. But if I was married to a man who had an affair I KNOW I would make his life miserable and I don’t necessarily think that is fair. So in the end I really believe it depends on the person. For me it’s a hard NO. I don’t want to live in misery and I don’t want to make another persons life miserable for making a big mistake. I hope that makes sense. Best wishes to you.
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Hum !!! Someone is cheating / have cheated on her husband 
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No, once a cheater always a cheater
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What matters is you. Doesn’t matter what someone else has done. Some do and some don’t.
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Yes… but it takes a lot of work and will to want to make it work. That being said… we are 31 years married… and 36 years together.
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Not mine and we were married for 30 years
Nope. It was one of the reasons we got divorced because he continued to cheat even when I thought we had gotten over it.
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I don’t think I could get past this cause the trust is pretty much gone best thing is to go your separate ways and go on with your life but don’t curse all men for one man’s infidelity cause there’s still some good honest loyal guys out there
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The affair is not ever the problem you can get through anything if you get to the root of the real problem.
Yes but only because of God. If He hadn’t taken my anger and my husband hadn’t become a totally different person I would not have been able to continue.
I had an emotional one …texting emails only never met up …almost destroyed us hurt my husband so bad I regret it all I was in a weird place…but now our relationship is the strongest it’s ever been …that was 5 years ago
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Just leave the cheater to their own life and move on with yours. It never gets better like people say because it wasn’t a “mistake”. It was many decisions they made to cheat on you and then have the balls to turn it on the person they are/were with? So now you will try to change for them to not cheat again even though you were just being yourself, they clearly don’t want you. You go back to your natural state and the cycle repeats.