Like why would she say that ? Where did she even hear that from, that literally hurt my feelings.
My 4 yr old out of the blue said " mommy you don't love me" ..
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Help a mama out and respond anonymously on our forum. Has your kid ever said something like this? - Mamas Uncut
My kid does that all the time. Mainly when sheâs in trouble. It hurts my heart 
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My 4 year old will say that sometimes when sheâs mad at me 
So young to make a choice like that on their own, Iâd guess they heard it from elsewhere
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My eight year old constantly tells me I donât love her or care about her. Itâs just a kid thing.
Both mine say that when they get in trouble and our mad at me. It hurts but i always tell them i love them no matter what.
My 6 year old says that to me and my other 3 kids said it to me at that age too
All of my kids minus my 10 month old have said something similar. Donât take it to heart. They donât mean it or even comprehend what it means.
kids just be sayin shit. donât let it get to u
My youngest says it a lot when she doesnât get her way. Sheâs 9 but emotionally closer to a toddler. Little ones donât fully understand love, so they need lots of reassurance.
Buckle up, youâre in for a bumpy ride⌠Kids can be jerks.
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My son woke up in the morning 2x last week and said mommy dead. And that scared me so much. He watched sharks on the Disney app before he went to sleep. So I hope to assume it has to do with that.
My child says things Iâve this along with I hate you or ur the worst mom ever ⌠it used to get to me but she only says this when she is in trouble or canât get her wayâŚshes 5
Normal behaviour for a child of that age. As a mum of 7 and also an early childhood educator working with this age group, its normal. They understand love as you show and tell them you love them. They are unable to completely understand their emotions or express them. Itâs very common. The child doesnât understand the consequences of the statement which is hurting someoneâs feelings. You are doing great. Itâs not you Itâs just kids that age.
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Ask why they feel that way, and try to understand their feelings or why theyâd think that.
My son for the longest time was saying ânobody likes meâ, and would cry, it broke my heart. Not really sure where he got it from, but I reassured him that we love him and he hasnât said it for a while. I think he picked it up somwehere because I reached out to his teacher and she said he has no trouble playing with friends and such. Sometimes kids just pick things up somewhere and then see what happens when they say it.
My 3 year old says this when sheâs in trouble or doesnât get her way. Itâs either âYou donât love me mommyâ or âWell I donât like nobodyâ while she stomps up the stairs 
Sometimes she even says âGet out of my houseâ Lord give me the strength 
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Family is about love, support and encouragement!
My son is almost 9 next month he has sever autism and intellectual disability and looked me dead in the face with all seriousness and said no more kisses. It broke my heart But at bedtime i got my sugars anyways.
I get âyou love daddy more than meâ⌠weâre separated. she is with me 100% of the time sleeps with me and is an only child 
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Yeh and he also said he doesnât love me. It hurts but try not to take it personal. Kids go 0 to 100 with feelings because they are still learning. Even teenagers are still learning their emotions so Iâm sure there will be times when they said that as their older too. I would just tell my son what makes you say that? Then tell him Iâm sorry that I hurt your feelings, thank you for telling me. Just know I will always love you no matter what.
My boy came home from daycare, and told me, âI donât care about youâ, sad thing is, his best mate said it to him and laughed. So my boy thought it was a funny thing to say.
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Mines the other way around, Iâll ask my two year old if he loves me and his response is, " not yet."
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Weird to see this,
I was talking to my little ones & my 4 year old just said no you donât.
I read books with them, sing bedtime songs every night⌠color with my girls, build blocks.
Cuddle with them when they want.
Made cupcakes with them that they decorated less then 2 weeks ago.
Spend a lot of time & was talking to my girls about how much I love them & I asked my 2-1/2yo you know I love you & she said yes 
I said you think your baby brother knows I love him (little man is 4mo & smiles & laughs all the time) they said yesâŁ
Then I said to my 4yo, you know I love you & she said no you donât.
I talked to her & said Iâd do anything for you, why donât you think I love you & she just smiled an evil grin to me.
I didnât expect that response but when I got it I was really thrown because I put my life around my babies.
Tonight when I put them to bed she said I love you mommy but that was the first time she said I didnât & it kinda broke my heart to even hear that.
Itâs totally normal. At that age they donât understand that saying things like that hurts others feelings. I donât remember all the hurtful things mine have said because it wasnât often that those type of things were said but I do remember being told they hate me when they were in trouble. Try not to take it to heart. They really donât mean it even as they get older and understand what they are saying.
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My kid (5) told me the other day mommy why do you hate me? I said what? He said you yell at me when im bad. That means you hate me.
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My 6 yr old says it when she gets in trouble or when I tell her no to something she wants etc
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My daughter was about 3 and I was putting her down for a nap. Of course she was emotional and didnât want to but as I was walking out the room she says f you. I just turned and looked at her. She stopped and layed down. Turns out my neighbors teenager was playing a video game and while rage quitting dropped from very choice phrases. Never happened again.
Itâs a generational thing I swear
My son just turned 5 and he has been saying things like that for the last year. âI donât love you momâ âyouâre not my best friend anymore momâ It stung bad the first time but I try to remind myself that he has the same big emotions that we do as adults but heâs in a smaller body and lacks the self control to regulate them. I tell him âI know you really donât hate me bud, I love you even when youâre angry. And itâs okay to be angry. But itâs NOT ok to be mean.â Usually when heâs calm, he will come tell me heâs sorry for telling me he hates me and give me a hug. I donât make him if he doesnât want to but once heâs calm I remind him that words can hurt peoples hearts just as much as hitting them can and we need to be careful with our words especially when we are angry.
This is a good book for kids that age I Love You When Youâre Angry Amazon.com
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My oldest⌠The things he said, hurt my heart!
What I learned was to âallow the feelings and talk about themâ
I remember saying ~ Iâm so sorry you are feeling that way. Please know that I love you alwaysđ
Learned to redirect/teach ways to like/love âselfâ.
Then years later, my Mom said to my child, youâre so handsome, he said âI knowâ (
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My Mom accused me of raising a conceited child.
No Mom, thatâs self confidence (because he didnât/doesnât take it overboard)
Kids are emotional terrorists. They are very good at making us feel bad when we hurt their feelings even when done unintentionally.
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Just say âI sure doâ and leave it at that. Kids test words and phrases to see what kind of reaction they will get. If it gets your attention, and they want attention they will learn this and use it over and over again. The less you react, the easier it is from them to not make a deal about comments like this or comments like âI donât like youâ. They do it because they are smart and want to see your reaction and how to use it for the future. Just causally answer âI sure do â and let it go
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Lol constantly. U donât love me, u hate me, u wish u never had me, just kill me So you can finally be happy! An so on. He has never hugged me or ever said I love u. Heâs 8 and aspergers anxiety and sensory.
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My kid at that age said, âI want to k-ll myself because in church they said if you die you go to heaven.â He also said that âno one loves him because heâs a boy.â Kids donât understand these things. 
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My 12 year old says some things that hurt me too
Sheâs giving me a whirlpool of emotional bliss
Her older sister was pretty chill so this is all kinda new
My sonâs new one when heâs in trouble I donât like you leave me alone
Itâs totally normal. Just assure her that you do and sheâll get it.
Kids think theyâre attention deficient and say things for attention lol
Donât worry about it 
My daughter said this at around the same age, turns out a teenaged family member said it to her out of jealousy. Possibly someone has put the idea their head.
Emotional manipulation
My daughter said âmommy, you just love Aiden?â Cause I gave him a muffin- that he was throwing a tantrum for 
I just gave her a hug told her no I love her too and handed her her own muffin.
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It just could be something sheâs heard from school and copying there really good at doing that at that age even if sheâs been in trouble recently could just be a tantrum thing
Yes she says I only love Brayden her 7vyear old brother and alaynah her 4 month old sister when she doesnât get her way
Heâs too young to understand what heâs really saying⌠it only gets worse. My 7 year old boy will get upset with having rules and scream âyou hate me mom, you hate me, you donât love meâ. It hurts but I know he doesnât mean it
Kids learn how to manipulate really young. Donât allow it to get to you. Just reassure that you love them and acknowledge that itâs okay for them to be upset, frustrated,ect.
My 3 years old already say they hate me. Itâs not to hurt us âŚI donât think lol itâs something they e heard thier older sister say a few times and now itâs out thier mouth everything I say no and do anything to disrupt them.
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My daughter is four and goes through this when we donât let her do something she wants to do âI guess you donât love meâ things like that. I told her I always love her. Love doesnât mean I let her do anything she wants. Love doesnât mean sheâs never corrected. Love doesnât mean that she will always be happy with me or Iâll always be happy with her. I tell her I always love her and I donât want her to say that because it hurts my feelings. Which sheâs big on feelings so she relates to that statement well.
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Sheâs 4 hun. It happens. My kids have told me Iâm mean. Theyâve told me they donât like me. Theyâve said I donât love them.
They were angry because I said no and they reacted.
I donât like hearing itâŚno one does.
But itâs okâŚTheyâll understand one day.
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My 4 year old has said it too. He doesnt understand what it means but weâve explained itâs not true and weâll always love him and hes stopped saying it
My 4 year old tells me (every time I make her mad)
I donât love you mommy
You not making me happy mommy
I donât want you mommy.
I just tell her âwell I love you anywayâ then later she crawls in my lap and tells me how much she loves me lol
My 4 year old tells me Iâm a mean mommy and I tell her âgood. At least I donât give in to your wants because i make sure you have what you needâ. Then that shuts her up and she runs to her room.
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Iâm going through this with my 6 and 8 year old - when I (or anyone, really) donât let them get their way, itâs always âWell, you hate me!â 
normal phase. At first, it did hurt but I got ânumbâ towards it after it has been repeated over and over again.
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All the time. My daughter and my oldest son tells me this.
My daughter is 8 and thinks itâs alright to tell adults (including myself) they are fat, ugly, and is just flat out rude/mean to everyone. She thinks itâs funny to watch sensitive adults (me, I just a baby and recently had a miscarriage, so Iâm very sensitive) But heaven forbid your correct her because it gets worse when you do⌠If looks could kill everyone would be dead.
My oldest son⌠Heâs 4 and thinks oh my sister does it so I can do it. He isnât as mean as my daughter but he will tell you he donât like you or youâre mean and once he even told me his heart was broken because I yelled at him for being bad.
But donât take it to heart⌠Yes itâs hard not to but just let her know you do love her and it will be alright.
Listen to their heart; they may say that because you are not âfilling their love-cupâ each day with touching not with your timeâŚ
BUT! If they are saying it out of anger - do not let them say it! Kids naturally pick up on what works when it comes to manipulation âŚ
LET THEM BE ANGRY but let them know how to express it⌠right?
4 year olds are the toddler version of teens! Terrible twoâs donât even come close to the fours.
You kid wants you to validate her feelings and tell her you do love her.
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My son might say that when he doesnât get what he wants
probably doesnt even know what it means
My 5 year old frequently says nobody likes her. Itâs of course not true. She is surrounded by people that love her. She has some mental issues we are in the process of getting addressed.
Kids can be dare I say it⌠assholes?
They donât know it hurts your feelings. Iâm sure your child doesnât mean it. My daughter would get mad and say âI hate youâ after I had her brother and sheâd get in trouble but she literally loves me to pieces and the feeling is mutual
Even teenagers say it. I donât know what kid doesnât say these things.
Sheâs just testing you. She wanted you to reassure her. She may have heard someone say something mean to someone else and needed to hear the words.
Mine tell me they donât love me but usually only when I tell them no
My 3yo son sitting on the couch next to me said⌠youâre really pissing me off mom 
my bad
Not that you donât already have a ton of comments but my daughter does this and I was really bothered at first until I realized I say it to her dad when weâre goofing around. Like Iâll be talking and he wonât here me and say âwhatâ or something. So Iâll say âsee I knew you didnât love meâ lol its all in humor so I believe my daughter is saying it in humor as well.
Humor or not, I always reassure her that I do love her and I typically will make joke out of it so itâs stays a joke 
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I remember being a little kid and telling my parents I hated them. Now as a parent hearing your child say that literally shatters you. Just remember that children donât understand that what youâre doing is out of love for them. They are kids and the world is big and confusing in so many ways. Just remind her how much you love her and even though things may not be fair right now, itâs because you love her and want to keep her safe.
Mine is 5 and she says it. Mostly when she is in trouble lolâŚ
You said no to something
Your love language may be different from what shes needing and there is nothing wrong with that. We all need different things 
but I would probe her to see what broght her to say those words tho (asking if if there is a reason she thinks you dont⌠but in 4 yr old language lol)
Respond with something like âI know your feelings are hurt right now,. Or you seem angryâ. But mommy loves you. Let me know if you want a good hug or talk it out
My 3 year old daughterâs been saying that kind of stuff. Says I donât love her, but also says she doesnât love me. I think itâs just a phase. I keep showing her love anyways.
Yep they just say mean stuff sometimes
Out of the blue? She probably just want you to say you love her randomly out of the blue sheâs just looking for reassurance haha