I met a guy & he is amazing. He’s 20 years older than me, though. (I’m 27) I’m a bit nervous about introducing him to my family & children. We agreed to wait on introducing my kids to at least a year of us seeing each other. But, I’m really afraid of the judgment of my family. Anyone else has a spouse with such a large age gap? How did your family react? I’m terrified of my parents not approving because he is almost the same age as my father. (My dad is two years older than him)
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Does he make u happy
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Well if you guys marry, he will die way before you.
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Go for it! My aunt married a man 2 years older than her mother. They’ve been married 25 years! If he treats you well and can support your dreams, his age isn’t going to matter. Hopefully your family will see that too. Best of luck!!
Honestly your a grown ass woman. At this point in your life if he treats you right and makes you happy. Then age ain’t nothing but a number!! Do YOU!
My late husband was 16 yrs older than me. We married at 24 and 40. No one had a problem with the age difference.
yes 12 year age gap and not much maturer in many aspects if you ask me 
but my parents didn’t mind surprisingly. my mom was worried he would be controlling but no. Ask yourself many questions like why isn’t he with someone his own age and go from there. IMO
After a certain age I think age is pretty irrelevant, life experience takes over and the age gap isn’t so much of an issue, if he makes you happy they will get over it!
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My boyfriend is almost 10 years younger than me. I was afraid of what people would say initially, but at the end of the day -who cares?! It’s your life! You deserve to be happy.
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My spouse is 10 years older than me
My husband is way older than me. We have been together for 12yrs & married for 8. If u love him & he loves u & y’all treat each other right, it doesn’t matter what the age gap is
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My husband is 13 years older than me…we have been together 20 years!
My parents are 14 years apart. 
Does it matter? If you are happy it doesn’t matter how old he is or what anyone has to say
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At your age, you should do what makes you happy. Your family’s judgement doesn’t matter as long as you and your kids are happy/healthy. If they aren’t happy for you, then screw them. Do you and follow your own heart!
I’m 20 and my boyfriend is 35. My family was very accepting. We have a good relationship and he treats me well. That’s all that should matter in the end.
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It really shouldn’t matter what everyone thinks. How do you feel? My parents are 20 years age gap. It wasn’t weird growing up and my parents had a great marriage.
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My husband is 10 years older than me and my family has fully supported me and was just happy that I found someone who wanted the same things in life as me
Am 28 and my husband is 43 we love each other age don’t matter
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Well I can honestly say that I would be against it too seeings how he is old enough to be your father🤦♀️that’s fucked up in my opinion…
Screw anyones opinion but yours. Im 30 so is 42 happiest ive ever been
Well, you’re waiting a year to introduce your children. Maybe wait awhile to introduce him to your family. It’s your life, as long as you are both happy and the relationship is healthy, that’s what matters. Just do you!
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I’m 34 husband is 49. Been together 9 years and still in love 
My spouse is 16 years older. Just follow your heart.
I’m 22 and my husband is 39 and my parents were accepting. He loves me and treats me well, that’s all they cared about.
I was married to a man 27 years older than I. I didnt divorce him but we are still great friends. Take your time just like every relationship to get know them and nothing wrong live taking time to make sure everything works before you introduce family into it but he’s really doesn’t matter especially I mean if you really have feelings for each other and you love each other take your time the song advice I could give
Been there, did that, my family accepted him but didn’t like him… it was too awkward for me to continue…
Age is nothing but a number and love is love
If your happy and he treats you well, than your family should be happy for you
27 with kiddos your family should only care if he treats you and your babies like you should be treated! 
I dated a guy who was 33 when I was 19 my father knew and he was a fellow truck driver
don’t let other people make your decisions for you
You’re both consenting adults. If it works, it works. I almost exclusively dated older. I’m now 35 and the current is a week younger. Age doesn’t matter and your parents should be glad to see you happy.
I’m 29 my husband is 50 and my mom was accepting we been married for 5 years and we are pregnant with our 2nd child
I’m 27 & my man is 50. Honestly, I don’t give a damn what people think or feel. He makes me super happy, my toddlers love him and call him dad. And things are very serious between us. He isn’t with the games & our love is so strong:smiling_face_with_three_hearts:
My ex was 10 years younger. No one really had any issues on my side. His family on the other hand were complete c*nts about everything to do with us for the whole 8 years we were together. In saying that, they didn’t even meet me for the first few years and they were still judgmental shitbags. Just all around nasty peopl, so hopefully yours react better.
The part that jumps out at me is waiting a year to introduce your kids to him. They’re the most important people in your life. I’d want to know how he was with them long before I invested a year into him.
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My boyfriend is 23 years older than me, I wasn’t nervous at all. I knew some wouldn’t like it, but I also knew that if they truly loved me, they’d accept whoever I chose to be with.
Go with your heart. If you’re happy, that’s all the matters.
Wishing you the absolute best 
My boyfriend is 16 years older, I’m 35, he is 51. Everyone likes him, no judgement. You do what makes you happy, it’s your life. They’ll except if they see that he treats you good and makes you happy!
My hubby is 18 years older than me … We have been married 11 years … Most of my family was accepting and supportive … Only issue was my grandparents
My husband is 12 years older than me. We have been together since I was 26. My parents never had an issue.
Yes we are 30 yrs apart but would not change it for the world
I used to judge people for an age gap. The man I am with now is 15 years older than me (I’m 28). My family thinks nothing of it.
I am 27 and my husband is 43. My parents were happy that i was happy but my dad still has some issues with it he just makes dumb comments n stuff sometimes. But my family was happy that i found my other half💗 and also been married going on 7 years.
I had a boyfriend that was 22 yrs older than me I was 45 at the time…He didn’t look his age or act it. People were surprized I had become involved with a man of his age, but we were very happy with each other.
In my case the gap isn’t that big. My husband is 11 years older than me. I met him when I was 18. And he is the best decision I ever made. My family loves him as well. Everybody thought at first he only wanted me for sex since I was young. And many people thought I was in it for the money.
Here we are now. I am 22 and married to him and have two sons from him.
My dad was 20 years older than my mom, they were married for 38 years until my dad passed away
My boyfriend and I are exactly 20 years apart and my family likes him more than me!!!
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My parents are 18 years apart and have been together 22 years. 
My boyfriend is 17 years older than me. We were together for 5 years, 20 years ago, and have been together 4 this time. We’ve only had a few negative comments, and none from our families. My family loves him, and vice versa.
My oldest daughters dad was 10 years older than me. He died in a car accident 2 months after our 2nd baby passed away. We had a great relationship. Unfortunately his ex wife took my bonus children and move far away but I found them once they were grown and I am very very close to one of them she actually lives with me! People judged us at 1st but they saw how much we loved each other. We went to places that thought we were father and daughter it was hilarious
20 year age gap with my spouse. Been together for 20 years. At first family had issue but once they got to know him they have no issue.
I’m 31 my bf is 50! Best relationship I have ever been in! By far! Were going on 5 years strong! Our families are totally accepting!
I dated a man 20 yrs older than me when I was 30. We got along great and had a great time. I also dated someone about 12 yrs older than me and it was good until he became controlling. I don’t do well with that lol. Now I’m 44 and married to a man 13 yrs younger than me. We’ve been together for 6 yrs and it’s worked better than any other relationship. We have a 2 and 3 yr old together and I have a 17 yr old from my first marriage, he was a year younger and controlling lol nope. You do you and do what makes you happy. My parents didn’t like any of them but hey they are controlling too so I stopped letting their opinions affect me. They do like my husband now. They finally gave him a chance after we got married and were expecting our first baby together. They saw what a hardworking guy he is and he’s a great provider.
My husband and I are 14 years apart. My parents didn’t care about his age as long as he made me happy and treated me right. If he makes you happy and treats you right who cares what they think. They might be caught off guard at first but they might just love him.
It shouldn’t matter in this situation.
My ex-husband was 16 years older than me and it was a nightmare being with him! It was ok until we got married then he changed for the worse! Got really possessive and controlling, abusing me and my two kids, i was unable to get away for years because nobody would help me…not saying your man is this way, just make sure you know who he really is before marriage. Good luck hun
As long as everyone involved is over 18, then it doesn’t matter what people think. Two consenting adults are allowed to love eachother, regardless of how many years are in between.
I’m with someone 10 years older than me!
There’s a 25 year age gap between my boyfriend & I. I’m 28 & he’s 53, we’ve been together 3 years & have a 1 year old. Both of our families are supportive of us. My family didn’t care as long as I’m happy & taken care of. Honestly it shouldn’t matter in the end as long as you’re okay with it & you’re happy.
My husband and I are 15 years apart i married him when I was 18 we have 2 kids together we are 17 years stronge its the love and respect that counts
I’m 52 hubby is 32…never been happier.
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The guy my sister dates is like 22 years older then her. And she is 30. He also have a daughter 4 or 5 years younger then her. She is a grandmother already!!! But we don’t care. She is happy and thats all that matters.
Im 24, husband is 40. Best thing I ever did was marry him. Age difference would worry me at first but the more we got to know each other, the less I thought about it. People around you will support you if they care about you and he’s a good man to you.
I also started dating a guy 11 years older then me when I was 18. Not with him anymore but they didnt care. There was 20 years difference between my grandmother and grandfather too
My husband and I are 12 years apart. My parents made a bit of a deal about it at first but they are ok with it now. They like to pick on me about the fact that I’m a step grandma at 27.
I’m 29 hubby is 52. We have 3 kids
5, 2, 10 months. He doesn’t act or look his age and I’ve always been more mature for my age so we just kind of meet in the middle. My parents love him.
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my husband is 15 years younger than me. he after 4 months dated me and my children our families are great we have been together for 25 years now and stronger than ever
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I met my husband when i was 19 and he was 32 we are now 28 and 41. My family was ok with it but he kind of saved me from a dark path.we now have 3 kids 10 ,6, and 5 months. And he’s closer to my parents age than mine 
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I’m 29 and my boyfriend is 42. Not a 20 year age gap but is the best relationship I’ve been in so far. If he makes you happy and treats you good that is what matters.
Age aint nothing but a number as long as he treats u and the kids right
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Im 25 and his 38 as long as you’re sure thats his going to be a great daddy… I met him while he was at my family home lol
My fiance is 13 yrs older than me. His parents had concerns my parents had concerns but they saw us interact with each other and how we treated each other and they gave consent
You’re grown. You don’t need your parents approval. Obviously you want their approval and you want them to like him. But if you really want to be with him and they don’t approve, it shouldn’t change anything. I would be more concerned about your kids approval. I wouldn’t wait a year to introduce them. After a few months that’s long enough. You need to see how he interacts and gets along with your children. That’s more important than your parents approval. Age is nothing but a number. If you love someone that’s all that matters.
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My boyfriend is 14 years older than me, I’m 22. We have been together for almost 3 years, we have a daughter together. My family accepts him
My husband is 21 years older than me my mom and step dad called him a pedophile I flipped out and didn’t talk to them for 3 years but my dad took him in right away we have been together for almost 8 years and have a 2 almost 3 year old … if you really love him so will your family eventually
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My daughter married a man who is 20 years older than her and they are happily married and she didn’t involve her child until she was sure he was the one.
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My husband is 15 years older than I am. I have never been happier in any other relationship. As far as your family goes…they come around. If he is good to you and for you that is all that matters!
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Me and him our 18 years apart and my parents where fine and family my mom had some concerns but not do to the age difference
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My husband is 16 years older than me. We’ve been together 11 years married for 8. My parents like him as a person and never had a problem with it.
My husband is 14 years older than me. I’m 31 he’s 45. My parents LOVE him!! Him and my dad clicked right away!! My husband is only 6 years younger than my dad. But I’m happy and he treats me like a queen and I think all my parents ever wanted was for me and my sisters to be happy and treated right. I wish you the best and hope it all works out for the best!!
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My husband and I 19 years apart. Best decision of my life. My family very supportive because they know how good he is to me and he’s a great guy!!!
My boyfriend is 13 years older. My family loves him.
My husband is 26 years older than me I am now 41 and he 67 , age is just a number , I was a bit nervous about telling my family when I did my mum wasn’t to keen but got over it , I’m old enough to do my own thing and make my own decisions and mistakes , I got the usual a mother would say “he’s old enough to be ur dad” etc… but we have been together 8 years now and happily married for 7 , we have 10 kids between us last 2 kids we had together , don’t worry about what others say do what makes u happy and feels right 
good luck for the future
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I am sure that as long as he makes you happy and treats your kids well your parents will be happy for you. And good job on waiting to introduce him to your kids. You were responsible enough to wait until you knew for sure he would be in your life. Last thing you need is your kids getting attached and it not working out. Kudos to you!
My dad is 50yp dating a 30yo… my mom is 43yo her bf is 30yo … I don’t judge.
I was 19(almost 20) when me and my now husband met. He’s 13 yrs older then me. We have been together almost 14 yrs and married 11 this year. He has helped me raise my 3 children (yes I was a young mom) . Our children are 16 , almost 15 and oldest will be 19 in Aug. We are currently 34 and 47 . Age is just a number darlin. His family and mine never really accepted us so we moved on and created our own little family . Don’t walk away just because of others opinions. The family you create is the most important
We’re 26 years apart. Together 6 years. Our families have been great, and I could honestly care less about what anyone thinks. We now have a 6 month old
I’m gonna be honest and I don’t usually put my business on the internet but my boyfriend is 44 years older than I am. I’m 29 and he’s 73. We have been together for 7 years and have a daughter together. At first my family was shocked and went through a judgement stage but we stood together through all that. If you really like each other and want to make things work I have faith it will happen cuz it happened for me.
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A year is too long to wait as far as the kids. My best friend from hs has been married to a man 20 years older than her for the last 20 years. Nothing wrong with it. You do you! Be happy!!!
My husband is 13 years older than me . He is the best man I have ever been with as far as your family they should approve if he makes you happy and is good to you. And as far as my kids and my husband they respect him more than they do their Soren donor ( their real dad )
I have and it never worked out.
I married a man 15 years older than me and that was 27 years ago my parents weren’t thrilled but grew to love him. If you know he’s the one than go for it!!!
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I’m 23 and my fiancé is 30 almost 31 and my brothers love him to death. And girl do what makes you happy
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Mines 11 years older than me
My mom said she wouldn’t care how much the person is from me 
Kids don’t need uncles that run in and of there life’s
Tiffany Duarte you should know
Year gap is 11 years family jus accepted to make me happy but when am around they say hows ur grandpa doing
My grandparents were 20 years apart and my stepdad is only 1 year old than my sister.
Nearly 12 year age gap in my relationship, my mam and dad love my hubby to bits and we had our first child when he was 40 and second at 44. I can’t see a problem with age gaps, if your happy then so be it x