Ok…I have a question. But please, no negative comments. I’m just wanting to be honest and would like some honest feedback. Do any of y’all ever do your kid’s school work for them? I have. I feel wrong about it, but I also get SO tired of arguing with my 13 years to get it done. I’ve homeschooled her for three years. It’s been wonderful, but sometimes she just slacks off too long, and so I step and do some of her work.
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Posts a question about cheating…asks for no negative comments…priceless 
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What’s the point of school for her if you do it?
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I catch myself do in my my kids at time…I get so tired of fighting with them…
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You are the parent not the student. The teenager needs to be responsible and held accountable for actions. You are not helping the teenager with life skills doing it for them. They will expect it in real life if you continue. Tough love is tough but the teenager will grow in character. You can sit and help and guide. Or take away privileges till they are making better choices.
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She is going to keep slacking off as long as she knows your going to do it for her. Before you know it you’ll be doing all her work for her. Not a good thing!! She has to learn responsibility of handing her work in on time and completed. As a parent its are job to make sure are kids go to school to get an education, how she gonna do that if she’s not doing the work.
Thats all. I’ve done my kids work for them a few times. So I understand where your coming from.
But I do know doing there work does not help them.
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I understand the want, but in the long run you’re hurting her. Education that’s she’s “pretending” to get, is education she’s not getting and that’s NOT GOOD.
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Also, behaviorally, this is a big mistake. You’re teaching her that if she argues long enough or throws a big enough fit about something, you’ll give in and TRUST ME that is not something you want to start…
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Sounds like homeschool isn’t working. 
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Well, on the bright side, you won’t be paying for college. 
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I just did my 10th graders 3D model, argon project. It was stupid and just for show. The first year teacher had this assigned during midterms, while assigning other class work. I’m a teacher, and I can say it was truly poor judgment on her part.
That’s not educating the child in any way, except that lying, cheating, slacking, off is acceptable!
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I made that mistake years ago it was the wrong decision don’t do it.
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So for 3 years, you’ve been homeschooling your kid and doing the work for her? So she will have no real education, other than learning that being a brat will get her out of responsibilities. Great plan. Here’s an idea…if she won’t do her work, take away all her privileges until she does. Enough time in her room without a phone or computer or TV should do the trick.
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If you’re doing it then whats the point
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Recipe for lifelong welfare recipient… And mommy cooking, paying for phone, and roof over their head during their adult life too
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Damn, a bunch of grow ass women bashing instead of giving her advice or helpful information (not directed to all of you) 
who would have thought smh 
I have a 13yo daughter as well and she’s been home since March due to school closure! If she doesn’t do her work then she looses privileges! I don’t take shit however (she can have her phone,tv,computer what ever) they are hers! I’m the mom that cuts the internet or puts her phone on pause so NOTHING WORKS. That way she still gets to see it and knows what she’s lost. Trust me she’ll give up and do it, don’t do it for her! Stand strong and be firm!
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Lol! Glad I don’t have a child!
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No. Perhaps it would be beneficial to investigate the “why” of both her struggle to complete the work (power struggles may indicate learning disabilities or anxiety) and your “need” to have a task completed (despite it not serving the original purpose of educating your child). Best of luck.
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Setting her up for failure!
She wont learn anything if you do if for her she should be doing her school work herself other wise it will affect her later in life
Google enabling bad behavior
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I’m homeschooling my 2 kids too and it’s been a real struggle. But if they don’t do their work I really do put failing marks on them. Nevermind they fail now, but they have to learn to do the work. It doesn’t affect their grades much in the final but theyve come to realize that mommy teacher won’t take them slacking off.
Maybe you should send her to public school? What exactly is she learning if you’re doing the work for her. Isnt the point of school learning? Be the parent and tell them to get it done. Grade them according to the school work. Which would be a ZERO if she isnt doing the work.
Be the adult and tell your kid to pull her head in. Send her to regular school ifvits to hard to teach her. She is probably bored to rears being with you 24/7.
Unless there’s a really good reason to home school. Parents shouldn’t. Kids need to be with other kids
I have never done it for my kids but lately I have been helping my 9 year old son too much. Things I know he can do but just pretends he can’t. It’s always a meltdown when it’s time for home work and I always try to teach him but I notice sometimes I give him the answer without trying to. He goes to school every other day and on his off day they just give him 3 hours of work to do. So if he doesn’t get it the day he goes to school then he is shit out of luck. I’m definitely not a teacher so I do my best but it definitely gets over whelming. No judgement from me mama. We are All doing the best we can!
Its sad that you’ve been doing this for 3 years! You clearly shouldn’t be homeschooling her.
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Maybe time for her to be in school
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How is that helping to prepare her for the real world? When she gets her first real job and doesn’t wanna put in the work are you gonna show up and clock in for her?
No… My child would fail before i would do their work for them. Lazyness has consequences and condoning it is teaching her it’s okay. Not bashing just giving my opinion!
If you are doing her work - she is learning nothing! Be prepared to constantly fix all of her life problems because you are teaching her that she can slack off and still be rewarded. 
bad idea
Maybe you shouldn’t be homeschooling…
The STUDENT is supposed to do their own work, doesn’t matter if it’s homeschooling, distance learning, or regular in person school
You aren’t doing your child any favors by doing their work for them
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No.
Now I do sit with my 10 year old guide her through homework and help her figure out on her own
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I think it’s normal to want to help our kids with everything in life. That being said we aren’t actually helping them by doing things for them. You can’t take her tests in college for her, right? If she doesn’t learn the material your actually hindering her.
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yep!!! if its something i know how to do…ill sit with her and do it…half the time when we do math i have her use the calculator…
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Girl, I do what I can with my kids. But I have three that are doing virtual school, 14, 8 and 7 as well as a two year old. We own two homes, in the process of building a third. I did not become a teacher for a reason. I did not decide yro homeschool my kids for a reason!!! I already have enough on my plate without teacher being added. Yes I do my kids work! I make sure they understand the basics and move on.
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Yup, I’ve got more than one kid and things to get done. I can’t sit at the kitchen table for hours fighting with one child to please keep going and get it done. I did in the beginning of distance learning but when there was no end in sight, I stepped in and sped things up.
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I have! I’ve done research for him but he’s had to type it out. I’ve even typed out his assignments but he’s told me what to put with my input. If that makes me a bad mom, oh well 
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Doing her homework teaches her nothing. Shes learning that being lazy doesn’t have repercussions.
I know as moms we want the best for our kids but you’re actually hindering her. Not only is she going to fall behind because you’ve done her work, but you’re also teaching her a bad thing.
Let her fail 
when she does, punish her. Laziness has repercussions. She can either slack off and remain punished or get her act together.
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I haven’t but my cousin is constantly doing her daughter’s because she’s refusing to do it and the school sent her papers saying that they were going to file charges and court if she continued to not turn her assignments in. My cousin works two jobs and with the kids having to do the virtual learning she’s stuck between a rock and a hard place she’s damned if she works and she’s damned if she don’t.
You should not be homeschooling. You’re not doing your child any favors. You are hurting them more in the long run.
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Oh heck no i can’t do it for her she’ll end up getting a F for fail 
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No. Never. The most I do is read, help type, and guide… “Maybe we should read this paragraph again and see if you can find the answer.” Never once have I done the work. They learn nothing and it defeats the purpose of the work.
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When my husband helps our teenager in math he has a tendency to just take it over🤣
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And on a side note, I did this for my husband. I did his language work because I’m kick ass at writing, reading, grammar, etc and he failed. He failed the entire class because he didn’t know the work. He didn’t understand it. Had to drop out.
It didn’t help him one bit.
Now, I write things for him since I write nicer than him, but I won’t ever hinder him in that way again
Your kid will go back to school and what has she learned? Nothing because you’re doing her work. I totally get it, but that’s a repercussion you both will face when she does go back and doesn’t understand the work
It’s ok to help but not do their work for them
No definitely not. It won’t help them in the long run. They need to learn what they are being taught, and need to learn to be responsible. It’s definitely not always easy, but he it’s you’re job as a parent to make sure they are doing it.
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I have 3, oldest does all her work on her own, my middle is having the worst time with virtual, so we go round and round all the time. I have to help with understanding some of the assignments but I’ve had to step back and say you either get it done of fail and repeat your grade. Then I have , youngest, who was recently diagnosed with dyslexia. I have to help her a good bit especially with large reading assignments. I told her teacher upfront, that I would be doing this because this is something would happen at school with her IEP. However, I don’t feel guilty at all helping my kids out because the school system where we are has failed them time and time again since March.
No. You’re doing her more harm than good. A teacher uses school work to gage how well your child is learning. Not only is she not getting the practice you’re also making it harder for the teacher to teach her. Also with her being older how well she does in her school work has an impact on what classes she gets in the future. You don’t want her in harder classes because you did it for her. Or lower classes than she needs
I’m just going to add this… I’m not bashing this lady or anyone else but I under her frustration. Being home schooled for some isn’t a choice they have to homeschool their children because their children’s school shut down. It’s not an easy task especially if you have more than one kid.
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No !!! & for those of you who say I didn’t sign up to be No Teacher… YES … YES you did!! You are your child’s First and Most Important Teacher ever… I do stay on top of what is turned in & what is Not… What needs to be done when & where … for back up to make sure they are doing their job & occasionally look up HOW TO DO something to Remind child that there is answers, videos, how to do things or find out explanations on how to do something that they are not understanding and it could be different ways to learn it… one way dosen’t fit each child & I let it be known if you can’t learn it or understand it that way then look for alternative ways to learn it. But No i do not & will not do their work… that absolutely would teach them nothing… & The biggest thing that needs to be taught right now is Responsibility and Not taking the Easy way out… These kids now days have already learned too many ways to have things done for them with no effort involved.
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youtube, wolf ram alpha and so many resources to help your child understand. i have learning disabilities, i get it. i was also homeschooled until 8th grade. if she doesnt get it done she can be held back. period. i persisted even with learning disabilities and am a college graduate! DO NOT do her homework.
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I think I would rather my child be in a lower grade till they fully understand the work then to do the work for them , maybe consider a lower grade of work ?? Goodluck I know this is hard but remember this vary important thing …
You are in charge of your child and thier education, schools, school work and teachers are only a tool in your tool box to assist you in this quest, if a tool is not useful dont use it choose a tool that works . Dont let " they " dictate how you educate your child .
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Yes I have done my sons, these times are extremely different and difficult.
Never lol I’ve read over work with her and we talk it when she doesn’t know answers.
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Oh hell no. I help them as much as they need, but there is no way I would do their work for them. My two teenagers both failed some classes this semester because they didn’t keep their priorities straight while I was working 16 hour shifts to keep them fed, warm, and with a roof over their heads. That’s too bad for them. They didn’t put the work in, they fail. Good luck repeating those classes next semester, sisters 
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If you’re doing the work for them, then they aren’t properly learning the skills and education they may need for the future.
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Nope, I’ve sat with him and helped him come up with ideas for his writings but I make it clear that I wa as not going to write it for him. If he isnt wanting to do the work then I ask “Is not wanting to do it the reason you want to fail? Are you going to be happy repeating this grade level next year with your brothers? Because it will same me money on buying you another set of uniforms.” Note that each grade level requires a different color polo shirt. I will always help when he asks for it but if he just ignores it then its on him.
Yup.! When the pandemic first started my child had 4 big packets for 3rd grade. Doing all that work while NOT having a teacher to explain was ridiculous. Even skipped a few pages too😂 for those “color and glue pages” as again she’s in 3rd and should be passed that. Do not let people mom guilt you.
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I did once. It was hitting bedtime and my daughter is above grade level but I would give her the assignment and overlooked one…so.i quickly.did it. It was a page on pronouns and she already has it down so, I’m not worried.
In your case it sounds like your child is being lazy and I’d suggest you don’t let them off that easily.
No. If she fails, then she fails and has to repeat the grade. If u do it for her now you’ll have to keep doing it cuz she won’t learn it and it only gets harder each year. And this is coming from someone who had to repeat 3rd grade. (It sucked having to repeat, but going to fourth with no learning what I needed to in 3rd would have been worse) Sometimes they need it. I apparently did I went from straight As in second grade to Fs in third grade because I didn’t understand anything. And that’s with no one doing my work for me. So doing it for her will only enable her to continue to fight you so you’ll just do it (I hope this doesn’t come across as negative)
I have to help my 7 year old (has IEP) but it’s only if we are falling behind and it’s the writing that I help with, if he tells me the wrong answer I will put it and then go over it to get the correct answer with that written next to it. I have never done his work so he doesn’t have too. My parents never did for me and that would mean I have to help all 5 of my kids HELL NO.
Well… When you do it for her she learns she don’t have to.
Simply put- let her fail. Allow her that natural consequence now so that she understands if she doesn’t do what she’s got to do for herself later in life then she won’t get things done or have the ability to take care of herself. I know it’s hard to do but fr- let them fail.
Then once they really in their feelings about it, and fully comprehend what they’ve done, let em know your there to help guide through the mess but never do it for them. I made that mistake with my oldest years ago- it did her no favors.
Lol are you going to do her job for as well when she is an adult if the answer is no. Then you best let her get a zero or two no work no pay/reward.
You are shooting her in the foot longterm and enabling her behaviour
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I don’t. I help them, if they need an example for a math problem etc, but I won’t do this. They have to be able to understand that they have to take responsibility for certain things. Even my Kindergartener has to do his work.
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My kid wanted to homeschool and the only condition was that she gets her work done without arguing, she didn’t and now she’s in school you aren’t doing her any favours by doing her work for her
If it were temporary and they were going back to school soon it wouldn’t matter so much
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I feel this! I’ve contemplated it honestly but my son is starting kinder so I feel I would only be hindering him as he needs to learn this not me. So tempting tho on those long ass days I don’t feel like doing homework with him after a long day of work home cleaning dinner bath etc smh
Bad Mom ! At 13 and You feel the need to do Her home work. What will she do when your gone? Let Her be responsible for it. Your not doing her any favors !
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Not everyone goes thru the same things. Right now I’m currently in a battle with my senior and sophomore to log in and do work. I wish I had time to help them or atleast be there more to help but I work 2 jobs 80+ hours a week. I also have a jr that very rarely misses logging in and school work is done more often but she also has times where she slacks off. No body is perfect and we do what we can when we can. Your not the first parent and won’t be the last.
That’s not teaching her anything.Need to go through the work with her.
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My son is in his 4th year of online school. He’s now a junior. He’s difficult much of the time. I have not and will not but I understand the temptation. My kid had to work 8-10 hours a day 7 days a week during this past semester because he really dragged his feet. There were definitely times I wanted to just do his work because it would be SO MUCH easier than fighting him.
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No, never. He’s 9 years old. He works independently and I check at the end of the day. However, if there is an assignment with a lot of typing I will type it for him. Or of I want to end the day b/c it’s beautiful out and we’re losing daylight, he dictates and I’ll type. Mistakes and all. It’s his work. Just my fingers answering faster😬
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My jr. in high school is seriously struggling. She has managed to bring her grades up to A’s and B’s but math is still a problem. Just wanted you to know that I have thought about just doing the work as well. I haven’t because she needs to learn it or next year will be awful, but I have been so tempted. This year is a nightmare
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I have to do a lot of writing, reading etc for my 7 year old autistic and dyspraxic daughter, I get her to write when I can bit she really struggles with writing, reading she can do but only very basically so I have to read a lot to her say there is an article she has to read and answer questions on it, I just ask her the questions and write her answers down. Also with maths I will help her work out the answers, explain it to her while doing it and then I write the answers! She gets intense 1 to 1 support at school so there is no way I could give her a page of work and say ye sit down and get on with that, it just wouldn’t happen!
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Nope, I help them but I do not do their work for them. I am the learning coach for my youngest who’s in an online charter school and I teach her the material. She does all the work
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NO guarantee your hurting your child in the long run. I know it’s tough and that I’m blessed to be able to be home with my 13 yr old with autism while he does remote learning. Trust me I understand how tempting it is but they need to do it. Keep doing the work and your child will push your buttons on purpose knowing you get frustrated and just do it. The only thing I do is I type sometimes for my son. It gets hard at times for him to both concentrate on typing and put his thoughts together. So I sometimes type as he tells me what to say.
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Doing her homework myself no but I have had to read the book and explain it to her. She has ADHD and has never been able to just read it herself and comprehend it. She has to listen to it.
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No judgement…but try to work with her…that’s her “job” and she can get help but she has to be productive…lessons for life! It is hard but she has to do the work to learn…don’t give up! You’re not alone!!! You can do this!
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I have idc some of the bs the teacher gives for work is busy work for the stay at home moms who don’t know what to do with their kids… I don’t have time for bs work when my kid already knows this bs and just giving busy work (now I’ll make her do it is she doesn’t know how or what it is) mind u shes in 2nd grade
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My son just went into high school . He barely passed. I helped him support wise but ill never do their homework. Especially when I had my own
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I can understand the temptation, but in the long run it’s not helping them. Not only is your child not learning anything, but all children need to learn to suffer the consequences of their actions. If they don’t do the assignment they get a bad grade. They need to learn these kind of things.
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I haven’t my son does his work. But if the struggle was bad enough I’d consider
You’re setting her up for failure. My cousin did that with her oldest son and when he went to public school for hs he failed and eventually dropped out. He got his ged finally but it took him longer than it needed to be.
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Honestly in my opinion I won’t do there homework for them but I’ll will help them if they need the help but if you do it for them they not gonna learn like that but it’s always good to get advice keep strong mumma you will get thru this
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Absolutely not. They have to fail on their own to learn how to succeed.
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I make my kids do theirs I will help them and explain it the best I can even google ways to help explain stuff but just like I tell them “you have to pay attention and get your work done because when you go back to school I won’t be there to help you “ it’s hard and it’s very tempting to just do it yourself especially balancing work and everything else but if they don’t do it themselves they’re not going to know what they’re doing when they go back
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If my son won’t do the work, then he can get a failing grade. Doing the work for them teaches them nothing other then they can get away with anything and have no consequences
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I have helped my kids with their work and showed them how to do it. (Common core math sucks the old way I’d easier and faster) I however never done it for them. It doesnt benefit the child. I understand these are tough times but maybe do it together not for them
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I guarantee you it’s easier now to just do it for her, but you’ll be doing everything for her for the rest of her life including paying her bills if you do. Keep in mind this is going towards her education, to learn so she can learn to do things for herself when she’s an adult. This will backfire and bite you in the toosh later on.
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DO NOT DO THE CHILD’S WORK. This is cheating and a disservice to the child. A bit more discipline and less free time will make them better students. This is how kids get participation trophies. Make them winners, make them take responsibility for their work and if they slack off then they fail.
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I’ve helped get it and my mom did it for me too. I graduated my kids that are old enough graduated. I mean 3 of the 4 kids I have I couldn’t get past 4th grade with all this new style of teaching but I’ve definitely helped them catch up
I was having trouble getting my 7 year old motivated as well once. I did reverse psychology, and let them fail for a day or two. They did not like it at all. Of course, the consequences of them failing is up to you, aside from them knowing they “failed”. It may work with yours, but if anything it is a lesson in consequences and leads to deep talks about life and why an education is important for THEM. Mom will not always be around…
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You can sit down with them and help them in some questions kinda give out the answer but not do their work for them. That’s what I do with my 7 year old which I have trouble for him concentrating on doing school work.
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My son is 7 and I have done the job of typing in the answers he gives me on one of the apps he has to use for remote learning. I help him that way sometimes, but he is the one figuring out the answers so I’m not technically doing the work for him.
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No, I will sit with my kids and help walk them Thur it , if my son doesn’t do the work he fails on his own I’m not gonna do it for him, it’s his responsibility, if I do it he won’t learn and this is his first year in middle school and it’s tough and my daughter is a kindergartener hard enough to her attention on her schoolwork 
My daughter is a senior and yes I wrote her paper for her last week. It was easy n only took me an hour
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So many judgemental people here. The post was asking if any parents have done the work for their child. It didn’t ask for people to tear other parents down. Every family is different. Every child learns different. More families are struggling than not. At this point in time I myself take it one day at a time. One day I might not have to help at all but there are other days where I overly help just to get my son off the screen after 6 straight hours. We should be supporting one another. These times are unknown and very difficult. As long as the child is learning then we’re making it!
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No… never will nor did. They learn nothing besides being lazy & irresponsible. Thats a shame some of u parents do that… should be ashamed of yourselves! Unbelievable… what had this world come too?!? 
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Absolutely no judgment. I’m just saying that you can’t take care of everything hard because she doesn’t want to. Your setting her up to fail later when you can’t be there to fix it for her. Just food for thought.
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I help my son a lot. If there’s very much reading I read it to him because he has a reading disability. We work on that separately and so I read for him in the mean time. I also help him a lot with writing, probably too much. But for the most part, besides the reading, he comes up with the answers on his own. I actually feel like he’s learning a lot since I am helping him understand and he’s not getting so thwarted by the reading part. He has severe ADHD. I guess it depends on what is the reason you’re doing stuff fir them and whether it helps or not. I don’t help my daughter at all and she’s basically failing. But she doesn’t want help