I found out that my husband cheated when he traveled for work recently. I was told this by someone who knows the girl he cheated with and when I checked his phone I found pictures he took with her, and there were many calls to/from her number even after he returned from the trip. I asked him about it, he denied but eventually said he met her through some friends of his colleague that he’d traveled with. He said they all had drinks together and that’s how they ended up taking pictures (although it was just her and him in the pictures that I saw and they were sitting very close). He apologized for entertaining her but still denies that he had sex with her.
I have been through all kinds of emotions since I found out, and I feel like if he doesn’t own up to everything that he did and be honest about it, I don’t know if or how we’ll be able to move on from this.
We’ve never had any issues of cheating before this, but the fact that he’ll have to go back to the town (for work again) where this girl is, really makes me uncomfortable. And at this point I’m starting to question what he’s been up to all the times we’ve been apart since he’s traveled quite a lot since we’ve been married. We have 3 small children, married for 5 years. I’ve basically told him that if anything like this happens again I’m taking my kids and I’m leaving.
I need advice on how I can get him to admit his wrongs and how to recover from this. Also would I be crazy to tell him to find a way to get out of the trips to that town? TIA