How do you get your child through homework without the daily temper tantrums?
I’m so over homework time. I am not one of those parents who believes kids should not have homework. My child has learning difficulties, and we use homework time basically as extra practice for the things she learned in school. She did fine with it all last year, but this year, it’s been a complete battle. And I’m reaching a point where if she doesn’t want to do it, fine. But when you fail, I won’t care, because it’s your fault you failed. Consequences of your actions.
It sounds harsh and cruel, but at the end of the day, I can’t physically make her do her homework.
Everyday, it’s…
“It’s not fair my sister doesn’t have to do homework.” And I explain that when her sister gets older and eventually starts school, she’ll have to do homework too.
“Nobody loves me.”
“If you cared about me, I wouldn’t have to do my homework.”
The back talking. The never ending ridiculous comments. The constant daily temper tantrums. I’m so over it to the point where I don’t care if my child passes or fails. I just don’t.
We’ve tried a reward system. We tried putting her into her room until her tantrum was over. We tried doing one problem at a time with multiple breaks in between. We tried giving a break between school and home. We even went as far as asking what would be easier for HER, and even caving and doing what she wants doesn’t help. Nothing helps, and I’m over it.
Fail for all I care. And at the end of the day, when you don’t achieve anything later on, it’ll be your fault.
How do you get your child passed the aggravation of nonstop temper tantrums and just getting them to do their homework?
On the rare, and I mean maybe twice a semester, she comes home and actually does her homework without the tears, she grasps the concepts better and passes her tests.
99% of the time, it’s just spelling words she loses her mind over. We get 10-12 a week, so we write 3-4 a night. This way it breaks it down into a smaller amount Monday-Wrdnesday, and then on Thursday, she just writes the ones she doesn’t remember how to spell. And she only writes them on 3 lines.
So it’s not like she’s being given hours upon hours of homework. 99% of the time, every single night, it’s writing spelling words she loses her mind over. The easiest thing in the world, and that’s what causes the mitigated tantrums. And I just don’t care anymore.
Sorry it’s long, but my God! Just write the freaking words.
What do you do if your child refuses to do their homework? Or screams their head off every single night?