When i was a kid and we caught in a lie. We got spanked and grounded. Now that I am a mother, the same goes for my house. As the children get older if they still feel the need to lie to me then their punishment will be different. But definitely for now a spanking and electronics taken away, o and thr infamous “I will not lie again” written 100xs
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I’ve punished for it while also explaining if you tell the truth you won’t get in trouble but if you lie you will get in trouble even if it’s because someone else told you to lie to me. I’ve also explain how what would it make you feel like if mommy lied to you. You wouldn’t like it. So don’t do it to mommy. We need to be able to trust each other. Honestly worked from age 4 to 12 she wouldn’t lie to me at all during those years. She would come home and tell me everything that happened in her day. Then recently the lying started up again which I believe it’s because of her cousins lying and seeing them get away with it by their mother. Also think it’s the hormones,/time of the month/ her becoming a teenager and testing boundaries all over again.
Whatever you do, don’t give up on trying to stop the lying. Yes it is hard to keep on fighting over it but stick to your guns. Don’t let your child get away with it. Lying over something little will turn into lying over something big. Parenthood is never easy. Everyone does it their own way which is fine because every child is different. Just like if you have more then one kid somethings might work for the one while it doesn’t for the other kid. No parent is perfect. It’s all learning as we go. Best of luck to you.
Tell her the story of the boy who cried wolf and that if she lies all the time and then you won’t be able to trust and believe what she says and when she tells the truth about something and it could be really important you won’t believe and she will have to suffer the consequences like the boy in the story.
My six year old is doing the lying thing too she thinks if she tells the truth she’s going to get in trouble when I know she’s lying I tell her if I find out the truth you didn’t tell me you’re going to be in so much more trouble and she tells me but that doesn’t work for every kid
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My 4yo started lying recently. Anytime he lies he gets a privilege taken away. I also explain that when you lie people won’t believe you when you tell the truth and how he feels when he is lied to. Also that he will get in more trouble for lying than he will for telling the truth. So far it’s working. He still tries to lie here and there but then he remembers so he then tells the truth. Persistence is key.
When my daughter was 4/5 she started telling lies. I told her if I found out she was lying I would spank her on the butt. But she insisted that she was telling me the truth even though I knew she wasnt. I brought the evidence of the lie to her attention and spanked her butt. Next time I asked her if she did something she told me the truth she asked if she was going to get a spanking I told her no because she told me the truth. But that she was still in trouble for whatever it was that happened. (Was a different form of punishment, I think I took something away) My daughter is now 6 and hasn’t lied to me since the first time. I’m not saying beat your child but sometimes a spanking is needed, depending on the situation. Lying can lead to bigger problems.
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Not sure what to do, but definitely don’t stop until it is fixed, even if it means having to get professional help.
Lie to her in return so she knows how it feels. My grandpa did that to my mom and me around that age never did it again I didnt like how it felt
I think it’s a 6 year old phase tbh
It’s pretty normal for kids to lie at that age. Just remind her that it’s not good to lie, because nobody will believe her. Then, wait for her to grow out of it. My dad always called it “an active imagination”, instead of lying. Lol. They say it’s a sign of intelligence. 
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