My daughter leaves August 17th to go to college. Omg how do I handle it?
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Volunteer helping kids that are less fortunate.
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You remember sheās doing something so amazing for her future 
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Get new hobbies. Surround urself with kids/animals . Whatever you like. Iām 2 years into my only child leaving the nest and I still feel lostš
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its time for her to vengure of in her life
Breathe, wish her the best, give her love and support and tell her to have fun, study hard. Then for yourself after a good cry, find stuff to do in your community, maybe be a mentor for a girl who is struggling in high school.
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Cry alot. Write a letter for her to open after you drop her off. First weekend you canā¦go out and party ā¦ you have one crossing the first finish lineā¦
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I cried. Mine left 3 years ago. It was so hard. But, shes doing amazing, has a great group of friends, they are now living in a house instead of a dorm, all working plus school.
Its a huge sense of pride watching her succeed
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Iām right there with you! My baby son goes on Aug 9th. Will be 5 hrs and 2 states away. I broke down Saturday just looking at him. I have no idea how Iām gonna handle this!
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Think of the positive. She is healthy, sheās maturing and sheās learning new things.
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Itās gonna be hard, I wonāt lie! When my son left I sat in his room and just cried myself to sleep. This happened several times. Lol But I knew it was him going out there to better himself and make a future for himself and a future family. As long as theyāre doing good, happiness is all thatās felt. They will make mistakes like we did, but we as parents can always be there to help them up and cheer them on. Just be proud of how far sheās gotten and how far she will go. No one ever told us that the hardest part of parenting was going to be letting them grow up.
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One day at a time! You have to TRUST that you taught her right from wrong and how to make good decisions! Itās time for you to have faith in yourself!
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Ask her to call often! That helped me.
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Itās a bittersweet time for both of you. She is probably scared as well. This is the beginning of her journey. Make sure you keep looking and traveling yours as well . Life is always changing, find yourself again. Prayers for you both.
My daughter went to boarding school from 6th grade-12th. I didnāt think I would have any issues. But, 8 days after high school graduation she was in a serious car accident. I spent 3 months by her side every single day and night during her rehabilitation. She started college in a wheelchair. The day after I dropped her off at college, my panic attacks started. She graduated college 3 years ago. To this day she contacts me every single day to let me know she is ok.
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I hope you handle it better than I did. I went through a period of time my Mom called āEmpty Nest Syndromeā. I sit in my sonās room everyday, for at least an hour, and cried for months. My best advice, KEEP BUSY. Find a hobby, hang out with friends, and donāt text or call him/her several times a day, that annoys them.
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It is one of the hardest things I ever had to do. Leave my firstborn at a college 2 hours away. How could I do that? What if she needed me? I cried like a baby and cried the whole way home. I cried every time she went back to school after a weekend home. But she got her wings and flew! She grew so much that year and it was amazing to watch her turn into this amazing young woman.
Donāt let anyone tell you that you canāt text your child, FaceTime your child, etc. you do what works for you. We FaceTime usually once a week (both of us initiates it) and we text at least once a day. It isnāt to be in her business, but it is a genuine caring call or text. Once in awhile I send goodies from a local bakery to her and her roommate just as a thinking of you.
The second year was much easier but it is still hard. You do what works for child and you momma! You know your child best! Hang in there. It will be tough but you will get through it and she will be amazing!!
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When I dropped my first born in East Lansing at Michigan State, I was very proud. I cried all the 45 minutes home, but she knew right from wrong. She is a lovely, young mother of 2 of my grandchildren.
This is probably the hardest part of motherhood. Letting goā¦Be proud of yourself, that your daughter feels comfortable enough to move away. You did your jobā¦You created an adult that can fend on their own. You gave her the confidence to go out there. My oldest moved away last October and it was hard not seeing him daily, but he comes to visit when he can. I just keep reminding myself that he is happy and living his own life.
Something you can do to occupy your free time now is find a hobby. Maybe you loved doing something before you had kids, get back to it. I went back to school to become a teacher. I also volunteer for the Big Brothers Big Sisters program. They matched me up with my little who is now 11. Itās not the end of your life as a mom, but a new chapter in your life. Your kiddo will always need you <3
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We bought a cottage and that gave us something different to do. She was about 9 to 10 hours away. We all survived. We had 2 younger boys at home and they kept us busy which helped. Good luck!
It is hard letting, the hardest part of being a parent is letting go. Tell her how proud you are of her, how much you love her & send her on her way. Make sure she know she can call you at any time.
Find new hobbies, volunteer somewhere. Remember you raised her, taught her what she needs to survive.
Itās hard at first but u will get used to it it was hard for me to take my last baby to college but I got used to it I would call or text him all the time but then I slowly backed away and I always looked forward to him coming home on breaks u will be ok I promise from one mom to another mom now my baby is a junior in college
Let her go, encourage her, brag on her to your friends, let her know you are confident in her abilities! Youāve done your job! Let her fly high! I speak from experience.
When I dropped my first one off at her dorm and I stayed to help her get settled she looked at me and said mom itās time for you to go . I got this. At first I was hurt and then thought back when I went away to schoolā¦ yup best years of my life ! My parents did a good job raising me as I did her . Let them fly
Remember that the best things we can give our kids are roots and wings to fly. Itās hard letting go but be proud of her. You will be fine !
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Itās all about growth. This means success for you and your child. Breathe and enjoy this as just another stage. Each stage is precious.
Just be proud that they have found independence. Part of growing up. You will get used to it. Dont put any guilt in him/her for fleeing the nest. It is all good
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Think of as a new adventure for both of you. Pat yourself on the back for getting her to this point. She will always need her mom but let go and let her try her out wings now
Let your daughter know she will meet her best friend in college. It will last a lifetime.
Well, I coped by having two more kids. 20 years between my youngest and oldest.
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Letting go is very hard
Finding something to do with your extra time helps
Sheās just spreading her wings
She will be back
Try sending your kid to Marine corps boot camp and all you get is a few letter for 3 months. Then we can talk.
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Try fostering a kiddo or do respite! So many kids need some love!
Suck it up this what they worked so hard for
You raised her, sheāll be fine !
Carolyn Mitchell give some advice 
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Great advice from mothers! I know how you feel. It is so extremely hard.
For starters you might consider waiting until August 17th to get your knickers in a twist. Donāt ruin the time you have left together by living in a future that may not come to pass.
Mine is going into 9th grade and Iām already having a hard time with it 
I felt greatā¦they were ready, I was ready.