Sounds like she is acting her age but must be consist y punished for bad behavior. CONSISTENCY is key. I swatted my kids on the butt when they misbehaved. She will outgrow this IF you teach her there are consequences to bad behavior
The one thing that worked really well was giving them a count down… not 1,2,3. If we were out somewhere, playtime before dinner or bed time we would say, “15 more minutes, 10 more minutes, 5 more minutes before xyz. This way they see it coming and it isn’t just “ok. Let’s go”. It gives them the ability to adjust change.
I’d consider an Early Intervention Program. You usually can find one through the Y. Sounds like she is a bit out of control already.
Shes being a normal 2 yr ild that why they call it terrible twos I wasn’t beyond smacking lil ha f when they get stuff there not suslose to… but if she has a fit about someing let her sit there and have it but don’t guve her what she want then when the fit is over take something away she likes like tv or a toy and explain to her what she done wrong and why your taking it even though she’s two she’ll understand… just jave to stand your ground and not give in
Warn them before leaving where you are. Get her excited for what’s next. “Ok in a few minutes we are gonna have to leave the park. We need to go home and have lunch and play with your toys.” It’s also helpful to say bye bye to wherever you are. “Say bye bye park, we will see you next time. Byeeeee park”
Been there, 5 times! I hate to scare you but I thought age 3 was worse!
Here’s an adage I had as a guide: pick the fight I HAD to win. They want to wear PJ’s to preschool? Fine! We are leaving? Yes we are, with or without you. And I would walk away ( but could still see the child. Sea World was one such incident like that!)
You can’t reason or argue with a two year old. IT IS NOT A DEMOCRACY, it’s a beloved dictatorship, and you aren’t their friend. Period
I had a zero tolerance, zero acknowledgement, zero reaction policy with tantrums, fits, and mood swings. Once the little ones learned and accepted this… like it or not… I did not have issues other than pouting. 
Set up boundaries and age appropriate punishments and, most importantly, stay consistent. Follow through with the punishments even when there is crying and bartering.
Also, positive reinforcement works wonders. Reward the behavior you want to see.
Toddlers can be like a storm. Be patient and be consistent, you’ll get through it and she’ll get better! #HardestJob
Apparently “Whoop her ass” is frowned upon. So my suggestion would be when she starts throwing a fit, ignore her.
With my kids, I always tried to redirect first, then time out. If that didn’t work, then if I had to, they’d get a spanking.
Make sure u give time warnings. That gives them time to prepare. Like 15m til leave. 10 mins til leave. 5 min and 2 mins. Does wonders! I used an egg timer when they was young like that. Now we use the clock and still countdown
Yes and I saw all the time out suggestions! Absolutely! And don’t interact with them in any way. If they get up, timer starts over
Try not to lose your temper…you are the parent, sometimes disregarding behavior can diffuse it…sometimes.
My oldest son was like that. He still throws fits sometimes but it’s not as bad because if he would throw tantrums we would leave or he wouldn’t get whatever it was he wantes. He also hated time out so he would do time outs and now he is 5 and knows if he throws fits he won’t get what he wants so I guess my advice is just try not to cave to make things easier for yourself. She will learn or she will miss out.
Tbh though, I mean i cave sometimes so do your best haha
Throw water on her when she is having a fit. Worked on my son.
I always say “are you tired?” He says no because he knows where this conversation is going.
I say… “okay well you need to act better because if you are tired, we have to leave and go take a nap.”
He straightens up immediately.
Always be consistent! They learn eventually that what mom says goes and you wont budge on it from tantrums!!
Ignore her fits, teach consequences and bust her butt or I sent mine to a “naughty chair”…let them sit where they cound’t see tv, One minute per age and be consistant. Also if you tell them no,meqn it…everytime. Don’t say no unless you’re really going to enforce it. This is what ruins so many kids…they will throw a fit, beg, cry, scream…the answer is still no.
Time outs. Explain what the bad behavior is and that if it continues, there will be a time out. Then follow through! Once the time out is over, explain again what the bad behavior was.
Someone asked this question on a Dad’s only site once and hilarity ensued. Some answers included fight club references and adoption. It was great.
the main thing is being consistent. When you say no to her then that’s what it means there is no if you cry a little bit I’ll give you what you want. The moment you do that is the moment you’re going to have to backtrack in your parenting. I say firmly be consistent your mama she’s the child, get down on her level and communicate with her she’s 2, she understands, let her know this is what we’re doing we had a good time it’s time to go now we’ll come back another time. Or I understand your feeling sad or I understand your feeling angry, but let’s do this… Always kneel to her level where you’re eye to eye so she doesn’t feel inferior to this big tall mama. Consistency is key, you got this!
Whatever you do as punishment, be consistent with it and let her know that you are parent and she is the child, keep boundaries!!
FOLLOWING!!! Have a 4yo that STILL throws these fits. We blame it on her Native American/German/Irish heritage but MAN!!! I am at my wits ends!
I gave opinions to take mind off not getting what they want …makes them feel like big girl to help with choices rofl
It is called lose the attitude or I will give you something to really think about and bring out the spoon My mom and dad did that with us and so did my grandparents and we learned that when we were told to do something we did it
My line was stolen from good ole dr Phil: “I can’t hear you when you talk like that” and walk away. Broke my son real quick of tantrums and whining.
Seems she already knows who is boss.
You need to take control of it now or it’ll get a whole lot worse
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Spank her. My parents spanked me and I loved them. After age 5 or 6, I obeyed and no more spankings. I spanked my son. When he went through preteen and teens he never gave us any problems. Also it is good advice about looking a child in the eyes and saying no.
She’s has just learned she has voice. Just go with it itll pass lol dont worry about it so much…same way when kids discover they have feet they play with them forever. She’s two!
When I say no it’s no… when I say it’s tome to go it’s tome to go I very literally will pick my two yr old up and carry her back to the car … if we are at home and any of my 4 start tantruming I point and they go to their room
The most effect is ignoring if you ignore the tantrum then she’s not winning because you not giving attention to the negative behaviour turn around and co tongue what your doing with in reason obviously
Well welcome to having a 2 year old! Positive reinforcement and repeated direction are big here.
Sometimes I literally do the exact same thing and they look at me like I’m nuts and they stop doing it. Ooor I tell them flat out that they can freak out all they want and that I don’t care(about them freaking out) and they stop. But that’s just me.
I’d spank her ass an put her in the car. the smaller fits give her 2 chances to act better or she would get a spanking. you dont have to hit hard just so she knows you mean business.
Teach sign language to her, just enough. They dont talk to well so they have tantrums, I’ve also ignore…
I did the counting, now she counts with me 
so I really can’t help, I’m at my wits end with my daughter. It’s been like this for the past going on 3 years. Starting to just ignore the behavior
Im Having issues with my soon to be 2 yo son. Screaming matches between him and dad, throwing heavy/hard items at his older sister and the overall “not listening” attitude.
Following even though I have 5 older children. Never had such a meanie lol. She bites and hits etc
My sister would flick my nephews lips. 
I saw it in action and all she had to do was threaten them with it after a few good flicks.
If you do not hold your ground then you’ll have a 9 yr old acting like a 2 year old. I wasn’t consistent and it is biting me hard. She gets mean. Yells at me and throws fits like a brat. So I finally got a white board are down rules and chores and if she breaks rules, or her attitude rules as well or no lies, back talk or yelling then everything get taken away. And she pulls yrd duty. Seems to be working now as I’m and her family are consistent now. It’s not easy
Scoop em up and throw over your shoulder… They can’t move. And get going! Don’t prolong that screamy crying stuff. Works with gramdkiddos too except NOW I think ITS funny:joy:
Ignore the tantrum and redirect. Don’t feed into the behavior. Once they realize that you react to it, or bend, it never ends. Stick to your guns, you’re in charge. This will teach them to respect your leadership as a parent, and that the final word is yours. Standing your ground now will
Teach them lifelong lessons about respect for authority.
If out in public tell her that is not good behavior warn once and follow through trust me if they don’t get their way and you warn with what will happen ie: we will leave and follow through if she continues she will know you mean business but do not warn more than once without the follow through because she will k ow in the end she will get her way
time outs work in a time out chair, or ignoring it, or explaining its not appropriate behaviour
I spanked mine n sent her to her room where she could come out if she was gonna be a good girl
Spank!!! I spank my kids to let them know they don’t run the show. Start it now or you will lose control very fast. All I have to do now is count down from 3, they stop throwing a fit once I get to 1 because they know whats coming next. Don’t give in to their attitudes or fits. Unless they are in actual danger or hurt. You put a stop to it now. Don’t let them become little assholes.
Give notice before leaving somewhere she enjoys. Don’t give in and punish accordingly. She’ll get the message
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Give her very clear time boundaries. Like were leaving in 5 min. We’re leaveing in 2 min. Go do your last fav thing bc its time to go. Also give choices. Do you want to leave now or in 1 min? She will like being in control of choosing and it’s win win for you
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One thing to remember is if you don’t have control of your children by the time they are 3 or 4 you probable never will. Do not give into them and let them no the next time they want something they will not get it. THIS IS VERY IMPORTANT, don’t say you are going to do something if you don’t mean it. Always carry through with what you tell them you are going to do. My son reinforced that in my mind when he was talking about a teacher. His commit was he always says he is going to such and such but he never does. None of us pay attention to him anymore. He is just talk.
Mrs. Hand met Master’s butt. Only took once and the threat of it was enough from there on out. He’s 28 now and a great guy.
I ignored her ignored her
If we were in a store I walked away from her but was watching her
I used calm down bottles while in time out. It’s a bottle filled with water and glitter 
When mine were younger I would walk away, not give them the attention they are trying to get… I would still be able to see them but ignore it
I’m 84 raised 4 and if you can’t deal with a 2 year old wait till they are 16 they will tell you what to do. Your the parent.
Go with your instincts. All children will push just to see how they can push. You just have to be consistent.
My generation turned out respectful and had values cause our family spanked us
It is normal. So a couple of swats on the butt gets their attention as well as lowering the tone of your voice and giving the the look. Make sure you work with love at stopping that behavior or they will end up like the rioting “protesters” we have lately.
My daughter is 5 I just let her work it through I would walk away and she wouls would stop her tantrum
Mine just get the look and they calm down. They know mommy doesn’t play around.
It is not called the terrible two’s by accident. They are just exploring their new power, “words”. favorite one is NO. the good news they will out grow a lot of it. But this is the time to start disiplin. Leaving: take hand and say we are leaving now. Having a fit: pick up and move to chair explain in a few words why behavior is not acceptable. sitting in time out is usually 1 minute for each year of age. Acting out in store, restaurant, public in general, take hand, come with me. and remove from area. To car is best. in a few words explain the unacceptable behavior… Yelling/ throwing? etc is not allow in restaurant / park,etc. When you are ready we can try once more. But, never give more than one more try for each event. Try working on telling child what you want them to do. not NO don/t do that. Like walking feet please, inside voice please, or you want to play, stay.etc then you have to behave. do not tolerate misbehavior at 2, If in doubt about what to tolerate, ask yourself if you would think it is cute when they are ten.
Oh I remembered those days, they use to be so embarrassing. Well, I use to tell my daughter if she doesn’t behave in the store, the next time I am going shopping I am not taking her. After, I
dropped her off at my mother’s home a few times and went shopping without her, she started to behave whenever we went out.
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She’s a baby still trying to figure things out they are all like that at that age, it’s your job to teach her different
Take all toys and electronics away and make kiddo sit in room her room and think about what she’s done. She can stare at the wall. Also only come out to only use the restroom and to eat. 
Ignore it …turn and go the other way .she drops herself on the floor ,walk over her like she does not exist
Stand your ground and be the parent. You are not her friend nor a negotiator. No means no!
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Be sure all the people in child’s life role model the proper attitudes.
i sent mine to thier room till they were done it ended quickly ignore them when you at home they do it for attention soon as you stop they relise they are not getting the attention they want
Toddler’s do connect bad deeds with a spank on the hand or bottom. You should never abuse your children however you must establish a fear of repercussions from parents for future more intelligent tantrums.
123 Magic, Its veeeeeery effective for me and you have to discipline yourself as well not to give in.
A good spanking usually takes care of the issue
Stick to your guns. Don’t ever give in to tantrums. Pick the child up and remove them from the situation. Time outs are amazing - but they suck at first. Get a time out chair and put the child in it for the same number of minutes as their age. If they get up, put them back without talking to them. Even if it takes 700 times putting them back - eventually they will stay. My son is almost 6 and is super well behaved now. I’ve never hit him and it’s EXTREMELY rare I even have to threaten a time out anymore.
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I’m still trying to figure it out myself and my daughter is now three lol
Choices . call its time to go home now . attitude starts …i guess you dont want to…give a choice …like if we go now we can have a treat …or if we have to stay longer we will need a nap
Everyone who has said be consistent and follow through knows exactly what they are talking about.
Stick to your guns on the NO … you give in once and they know they own you !!!
Surfboard carry them out. No reaction, into the car seat, straight home.
Put the child in a corner for a little time out no tv no toys it worked with mine
Ye old potato sac over the shoulder or on the hip worked well at 2… lol
If you think terrible twos is bad, you just wait for the 3s … they’re plain UNREASONABLE but then they grow into cool little people after that… lol 
U explain at their height why and use time out it works and b calm dont yell
problem today is to many parents are trying to be friends and reason with the child That wont work
Hey if you are not carrying a screaming kicking toddler surfboard style your not parenting
Acting like a parent and not letting your child be in charge.
Wow all these no spank people. No wonder why we have a bunch of disrespectful assholes children/teens. I was spanked, and my siblings. We are all great, with stable jobs, and no trouble. We feared getting our dads belt. I have 3 kids, no belt, but soankings with explanations. I have a 7, 5 and almost 2yr old. Great kids!
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Mines 5 an Its got order since I won’t back down lol
My 4th pregnancy and never had morning sickness with none pregnancy
My toddler is the same way lol it’s normal toddler behaviour haha
Choices. 2 yr olds want controll so give them control when you can. Give her 2 choice you are good with. Example " do you want to walk out like a big girl holding my hand or do you want me to carry you?"
Stand your ground and don’t give in otherwise she will get worse. YOU ARE THE MOTHER AND YOU ARE IN CONTROL
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reminding them of 2 things 1 we won’t visit again if this is how your goons act and 2 there will be spankings involved.
It’s the mothers job to raise her, Jihoon is not parent in any way
Who is the adult here? 
its what you say not what she says.
Consistency. Do not bribe to behave. Do not cave. Leave where u r go sit in the car til they calm down if u have to shop that day.
Five five minutes warning of when you will be leave
Ohh fun. 3?? Set your rules and be consistent. Pick something you are going to doxus bbn on eCh week and let some small stuff go or you’ll go batty
Try to remember you were that age once. You were learning your emotions and boundaries and they were confusing and scary and exciting. Get on her level don’t expect her to be on yours. Earn her respect, do not demand it. Do not use physical discipline, you’ll teach fear not respect because 2 year olds don’t understand it. They understand it hurts and makes them scared and sad. Be kind. Worked for all three of mine and they’re some of the sweetest, loving and happy kids.
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For the disobedience I used consistent boundaries and consequences communicated in simple terms in advance along with predictable routines. When that failed a smack on the butt or stern “no” got the job done. When its time to leave kids do better with a transition period so I used a five minute warning. If kids still have issues next time try a countdown. "We are leaving in five minutes so hurry and go down the slide one last time. Yay! Wasn’t that fun?! We should do it again sometime. Let’s go buy groceries now. What kind of cereal should we get? " Instructions. Emotional acknowledgement. Let them know we can do it again sometime. Redirection. Choices.
Sounds complicated but it is mostly just based on my Mommy instincts.
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Who is the adult/boss here?
If you can you can bargain with her. Take something away until get pulls herself together. Or you coukd,just cut all that talking and bargaining and time out chairs… and just slap her on the back of the hand. Not hard because thier little feelings will be hurt and not thier hand. She will straiten right up. Or you could torture yourself for hours trying all those other techniques. Just get her right and take control. You are the parent.
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Oh mama it is so hard my son was a beast at 2 & 3. He was so wild & aggressive and would hit. He is 5 and still working on dealing w his anger & emotions at times. I would try to remain calm, I know it’s hard. Give her 5-10 minute warnings and say we can look in this section for 5 more minutes then we r headed to frozen foods. Set a timer even so she can hear or see the bell go off so it signals her to know time is up. See if u can keep her in the cart so she isn’t walking all over the place. Or do what I did and barely EVER if u have a choice bring her to the store. Bring her to parks and stuff but avoid situations like stores & restaurants bc it is just way too hard for little ones to be in those environments. They are best fit to play at that age not be expected to shop or sit for a long meal. And I know this is “forbidden” but we got my son an iPad or give him our phone and he watches a show to distract him. He is super smart and not addicted to it. Would rather play than veg out on it. But it is a good distraction for when U need them to sit still.
Mine got a whipping.
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wait til she’s 3 or 4. My daughter copies her very bratty 5yr old cousin. 
we don’t spank, although I’ve threatened to. I just firmly talk to her and tell her to go to her room. I also make sure I’m talking to her, not down to her.