I walked away and thankfully both kids realized I wasnt messing around and followed me after a minute, also if they acted out and we were out somewhere they loved to be I would just pick them up and tell them it was time to leave and they lose out on having fun because I was not going to have them act like brats while out. They soon learned they needed to behave like nice humans if they wanted to enjoy going places.
Kids hate time outs if you keep up with it. Every fit every tantrum or throwing something hitting something just ignore it and tell her time out make her sit even if you have to sit quietly with her. Shell hate the process which is why it might help you.
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A lot of kids have tantrums, because they have a hard time expressing their feelings at that age. Obviously you need to find what works best for you, and be consistent. But keep in mind, just because they can’t express themselves, doesn’t mean they don’t know things. They’re smarter then most adults give them credit for. My 2.5yo is my strong-willed opinionated child. If it’s a tantrum, I try to ignore and do what I need to do, when they calm down we talk. I ask questions, and he responds as best he can. We can figure out the problem, fix it, and move on. If he’s being naughty, he get a time out if he doesn’t listen when I tell him to stop, then, after time-out (good rule of thumb: one minute time-out for every year old they are 2yrs=2minutes) we talk again, and correct the misbehavior. I also make him apologize for whatever he did. He understands. It can be sooo frustrating sometimes, and embarrassing when in public. Keep at it, it’ll get better.
How ever you discipline or correct a behavior… Just BE CONSISTENT. If the consequence is always the same eventually they will understand. Otherwise they will push boundaries because they’ll know sometimes they can get away with it.
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At two you can pick them up and carry them up and out of a situation . Also fit throwing is something they can do in their rooms when they are done they may come out and be appropriate with the rest of the family .
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I let my daughter sit in a comfortable room and finish the tantrum. After that, I go in and talk to her to find out why she is angry.
If he/she throws a fit when leaving a place, hire a baby sitter the next time you go there and tell him/her why a babysitter was hired.
Welcome to TWO! Pick a consequence and stick to it… even if you have to do it fifteen times in a row. Time out, corner, bed, whatever… the key is consistency. Soon she will understand any of those bad behaviors will get her a consequence she doesn’t like.
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I currently live this with my 3 yr old. I find ignoring the tantrum in the moment works best. Walk away let them get it out and then redirect them once they’ve calmed down. I’ve noticed she is at her angriest when she can’t tell me what she wants or needs. Letting her know it’s okay to be upset has helped when she starts to go into tantrum mode. If I can I tell her to smell the flowers and blow out the birthday candles to get her to breathe a bit to calm down, but when she is full blown meltdown I ignore it because that is not how we communicate. As for saying no before I tell her to do something I give her two options that will end in the result I need. It gives her ownership of making the choice rather than me constantly telling her what to do. And hugs. Lots and lots of hugs. I’m not an expert by any means, but I hope maybe something from this will help you as I know how frustrating it can be!
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Put her in a time out. Or in a room that is safe in those spaces. Allow her have her tantrum. Then when she calm talk to her/him. Just be patient. Toddlers don’t understand how to express their emotions. They are learning.
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Kids this age are just starting to take notice of other people and how things work. Understanding that we get to make choices (everything from what we eat to where we go) is exciting for them but also frustrating because at such a young age the choices are usually being made for them not by them. Parents absolutely need to be in control and be capable of putting their foot down. But a toddler’s reaction can sometimes be mitigated by offering them clear choices for things that are appropriate. She may not get a choice in where you eat but she can choose what to eat. She doesn’t decide when you go home but she can decide what she wants to do when she gets there. For example, “Sally” doesn’t want to go to the park. Instead of battling it out over whether or not you’re going you say, “Sally, we are going to the park. When we get there what would you like to do first: swings, sandbox or slide?” Then when it’s time to go and Sally doesn’t want to leave, “Sally, it’s time to go home. When we get home would you like to play with your barbies or watch a show?” Doesn’t work with all kids, but worth a shot!
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If there was one answer that fit every child in every situation, child raising would be easy! What I did probably won’t work for your child so all these suggestions are just that…raise your child with love and consistency. You’ll be find and so will they.
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I usually walk over them ignoring it or ask them to do it in their room. They eventually tire out and either fall asleep or stop. It can go on for awhile. I feel like the more I give attention to it, the worse they get. If they throw something, I have them clean it. It takes a lot out of me as well, and it is not easy at all.
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Of course I never did anything like that. 
But if my daughter did, we would go outside the place, have a stern talk and either leave completely, or go back in quietly. Once we were home, privileges would be suspended until the behavior got better. She was also rewarded ( with non monetary rewards,ie time together doing something, an enjoyable activity, ) if improvements were made. We would not take her with us to special places if she was not showing improvement. It’s a long time to fix that type of behavior. It took a while to develop and allow that to happen. Good luck
Do not spank. Just be consistent and when you say something, mean it. Do not let the child gets his or her way. If she doesn’t want to leave somewhere you just pick her up and leave. Don’t give in to them after you already said no
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I agree dont spank,they don’t know what that is yet. Just be consistent when you tell her her behaviors not good I don’t know how you discipline her but stick to your guns eventually she’ll understand our he you may want to try a reward system something simple a lot of times that will help with a girl boys I don’t know about but I prayed a lot
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She’s old enough to learn about a “naughty chair” time out and consequences, as well as reward for good behavior.
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Mine would get a smack on the ass (when in public, I’d ask him, do you want powpows, he’d usually calm down, if not, hed get taken to the car for powpows and then we’d go back in), when that still didn’t work, we’d completely leave, id carry him out kicking and screaming if i had to… most other parents understand it, people without kids might give you looks, but, what do they know? They don’t have kids lol never reward bad behavior, take things away when necessary, and be stern… you are the parent… its your job to teach them that the way they are acting isn’t acceptable, they usually learn pretty quickly… even 2 year olds…
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I agree with telling them what is expected and I also agree with this is what’s going to happen we’re going in the store we’re not buying toys today if you throw a fit we’re leaving and I’m spanking your butt. That works most of the time for my grandkids
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I always gave my kids a 10 minute warning that we would be leaving. Then announce, 5 more minutes guys. As the time was winding down, I let them know that they needed to finish up what they were doing and get ready to leave. Kids are like adults, they don’t want to be suddenly pulled away from whatever they are doing. If a temper tantrum ensued, I would carry them to the car. Any kind of tantrum in a store or restaurant resulted in us leaving immediately and if we were with someone, we waited, strapped into car seats, without talking or music and I would explain to them that we are sitting here like fools because you decided to act like a fool in the store. Went to Disneyland one year. My oldest was 8. He threw a fit over a stupid toy. He and I went back to the hotel and sat staring at each other the rest of the afternoon. Rest of the trip was golden! You just have to follow through with whatever works for you and eventually, they realize that you are not a push-over.
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Give her consequences time outs or taking things away or whatever you feel comfortable with and stick to them don’t give empty threats … that’s how they get you … you can talk and talk and talk but if there’s no action taken they will run all over you . Do not give into her … my dad always said “this is gona hurt me more than it hurts you “ and it’s true , it hurts you more to punish them because you feel guilty but you HAVE to give them consequences for their actions …
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When redirecting doesn’t work whoop that butt. Keep in mind that there is a difference between beating and discipline.
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Just started my 2 yo with time out, now when he misbehaves or starts screaming like a wild child - I ask him if he wants to go in time out. He shakes his head no and corrects the behavior for a little while.
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I did time out I didn’t care where we were . I’d sit my kids down and after two minutes ( once calm ) I’d ask why were u in time out and is that behavior ok . Eventually they got the idea I wasn’t playing u act a fool u get time out
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She’s 2, you are the adult, she throws a fit… let her. And when she’s done, tell her you weren’t impressed and she still can’t have what she wants and walk away.
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Read the book 1 2 3 magic… i wish I would have read it when my kids were 2… i have read it and used it and it has helped… but i know it would have saved alot of heartache if I had read it when they were 2… good luck
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With my youngest I discovered “time out bottle”. A plastic bottle with lots of fine glitter and filled with water. When he acted out, I would sit him on a chair, shake the bottle and explain that when the glitter settles, he can play again… Took a couple of weeks of persuasive persistence but eventually he understood it and it worked. Tip: glue the lid on the bottle or a tantrum leads to a very pretty mess. It didn’t take him long to figure out that grabbing the bottle and throwing it only made time out last longer.
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Pick her up and take her , are you afraid of a two year old and when she gets home , she goes to bed . Who in hell is in charge ??? You are bigger , choose ???
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You have to stand your ground. 2 is the age where they push you to see if you will bend ir break. I also give warnings when it’s getting close to time to leave. A 1hr, 30min and last 10min warning. I found this let’s the child know she needs to get her playing in it finish what she wants to do. There will still be a fuss to leave but it softens when she has checked things off her list b4 leaving. At this age I also did popsicles as a reward for good behavior. Ice cream or something. You know a sweet treat for sweet behavior. At home it’s best to give her a space ti hash out her feelings. They begin to understand a lot more and get very frustrated with us if we can’t figure out what they want. I always let mine go have a good emotional cleansing in her room. Come out and talk to me when your calm. Worked wonders
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Just make sure not to reward bad behavior and follow through on your “promises”… be prepared to turn and leave a place when the little one melts down in public.
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i use to tell my girls bye im leaving…and they would usually run after me…and if that didnt work u got 2 options u get to walk with me or ill pick em up and carry them and they are punished with nothing to do the rest of the day…my mom had her side eye game strong and would say hmph keep playing with me i would beg for my life even though my mon barely hit me lol but she was scary…shes 2 she dont run you…i know sometimes you can feel bad…but after shes calm u can explain to her about what shes doing and how it makes u feel
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Don’t want to leave, we pick them up and leave. 2 throws fits walk away until the kid calms down but be sure the kid is being safe.
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Even though i never had to spank my child because she had never gotten
on my nerves, spanking is not bad, violence is something else. But if you’re against it. Take away whatever she loves the most for a few days or several days, depending on how serious it is she did… It works!
My son through one tantrum while in a store. He caused a small scene and it happens that I stated loud and clear the following. If you continue to throw this tantrum you can work for the store to repay them for the trouble you are causing. He got up and followed me to the car. Once I had him calmed down we had a nice talk. He did not like the embarrassment of people watching him. He has since not have a tantrum. Sometimes standing your ground might need to embarrass your child to get your point across.
I disengage when mine displays negative behavior. totally disengage. no eye contact. no speaking. just go through whatever motions my intentions were for. it is amazing how quickly she changes
I always made my kids go sit on their bed and think about it. They weren’t allowed to have a toy or lay down or fiddle around. They were to sit and think about whatever it was that landed them there. Then they had to come and let me know what they thought about and how they would avoid the problem the next time. It worked out pretty good, my daughter does this with her kids now.
My dr. advised me, however inconvient, take her straight home, put her in her room and tell her she can come out when she can act like a human being. Believe me it wasn’t convient and it was a hard fought battle but she learned to play nice.
#1 don’t react, whatever you do, show her that her bad behavior doesn’t affect you at all (like an I don’t care attitude as if you don’t even hear her)
#2 if it’s at home ignore her when she does that behavior ( continue cleaning, cooking or whatever your doing) and when she realizes your not reacting/giving in to her, she will calm down. When she does, assertively without emotion let her know screaming, kicking, throwing toys is unacceptable. Ask her to do a small task and when she does it, praise her ( similar to a puppy lol)
#3 if your in a public place, drop everything your doing and head home. Ignore her the entire time she is doing bad behavior ( don’t look at her, talk to her…nothing). When you get home and she calms down again let her know her behavior was not ok and reinforce good behavior with a small task and praise
Anytime my kids tell me “no” I say excuse me… You don’t tell your Mom no. I’m in charge here, not you… As for tantrums, usually they do it for attention or to get their way. If I’m at home I pick them up and put them in an empty room and tell them when they are done they ate welcome to come back out and we can talk. They catch on pretty quick that throwing a tantrum isn’t going to benefit them at all.
Stand firm. When my
Son threw a fit I dragged him from the store. I told him the store wasn’t the place for fits. He could be nice and go shopping or keep being angry and stay outside.
And there is nothing wrong with swatting kids. Especially young ones. Sometimes that is the only thing they understand.
I had her sit in time-out. The key is consistency. You can’t say no one day but then laugh when she’s naughty another time. My daughter sat on the naughty step one minute per year. Some days, she sat there 3-4 times. I also praised her when she was being good. Today, my kids are respectful, kind teens who know their boundaries.
Time outs and remove from situation. Always follow through. If fits are thrown at home I would ignore them and let them cry it out alone in the room. It’s amazing quickly they act right without an audience.
There is a great book called ‘Transforming the Difficult Child’. Basically over praise the good stuff she does and do not react to the bad behavior. Stay neutral and even and when she’s having a fit. When she’s doing what you want her to do, tell her how awesome she’s doing and be very animated. It’ll will feel weird at first. People crave attention, good or bad attention doesn’t matter. So give her a lot of attention for the good stuff
When my daughter was around 2-3 she through a fit in Walmart. I simply walked just out of her eyesight, I could still see her. 30 seconds and she stopped and came looking for me. Once she realized I wasn’t playing she didn’t do it again. Side note, this did not work with my son. 
I’ve never had to deal with tantrums, thankfully, so I don’t have any tried and true advice other than stick to your limits. Sending patience from one momma to another.
Make consequence and reward system…rather it be at home or out in public…my kids have been taught theres a reward or a consequence for every choice you make in life…rather it be immediate or down the road and have give them examples. My teenager knows the first thing to go is the video game. If his school work and house chores aren’t completed…my 6 yr old gets her barbies taken away and has a time out to sit and think if shes going to continue to have a meltdown or be good and get her barbies back! To each own mom…hope you find a great system.
I let my almost two year old throw his little tantrums and I walk away. I don’t give him any attention. He cries for about 5 minutes and then gets up as if nothing happened. I got beat as a child myself so spanking is a last option for me
Ive always been stern with my kids. No means no. Time to go means time to go. If they would throw a fit, they sat in the thinking chair to calm down on their own time. If not at home, removed myself and child to a quiet place with just us and did the same. After they calm down talked it out. I said no because… Throwing a fit doesnt get you what you want…I’m not giving in…
when I would sit them down and I dont speak or let them get up until they are done crying. After the 1st couple times they stopped. They knew they werent getting the attention they wanted and I was not changing my mind
Repetition is key. Stay consistent
You have to find what works with you and your child. When you find what works, be consistent. With my 3 yr old, I have to change up the consequences every now and then because something might work for a little bit and then stop working. If you are somewhere and they act up, leave. That gets them everytime. Hope you find something that works for both of you.
I also am dealing with my 4th and final toddler lol. She doesn’t like to be taken from preferred activities, can become quite angry if hungry/tired and wants me to watch everything she does but wants me to stay in my lane and let her be independent lol. What works for my husband and I is trying to figure out what triggers her and what her understanding actually is and work with that. Good luck you will get through 
I use the timer on my phone to let my grands know when it’s time to leave. If they throw a fit about something, I count to 3 and if they aren’t done, into timeout. Also talk afterwards about why and then hugs
I set my kids up to fail a couple times. Knowing we would leave the minute he acted out. It took a few times… but from then on he would do what i ask.
My nephew pulled this once. Thank goodness my girls only did at home. First thing is do not pay attention to her. That fuels it. Stand strong you are her mother not her friend. I left my nephew work through it. I said look at all these people looking at you. There wondering what’s wrong with you. I said don’t pay attention he isn’t getting his way. Well after telling him he wasn’t going to get anything and he wouldn’t be allowed to come over if he kept it up. He didn’t like that so he got up and NEVER pulled another fit again with me. Time out in the middle of a room time according to age this way they can’t reach anything. She gets up before time is up you add minutes back on. It worked for my girls. No TV either.
I get real quiet and tell them to behave in their ear if it continues I’ll pick them up and leave. if they throw things they get hands smacked if they continue fits they get a butt smack and in a time out. but I do not tolerate throwing fits under any circumstances. my youngest is 2 and already knows she can’t get away with that.
Tell her to sick it up and do as she is told. They get it eventually. Its called the terrible 2s for a reason
I completely walked around my tantruming toddler and kept shopping. She got the hint when I said “bye” and kept moving. Sometimes you just have to wait them out and just stand your ground. If you remove them from the place it shows them they can get their way by manipulating you to change your behavior. You want them to change theirs.
My youngest will be 2 in Sept and I dont remember his siblings being this stubborn. He throws fits I just reach out to hug him and tell him why he cant or why we need to do something else. He cries for a second and then hugs me back and complies most of the time. Other times I have to physically pick him up or let him have a moment on the floor until he realized the redirection is his only option. I wouldn’t spank him at all. He is just a little person with a communication deficiency right now.
I have 3 girls. Different things worked better for each. Time outside or grounding worked for 1. Redirection worked for another. And a treasure box reward for good behavior worked for the other.
I had what I thought was strong willed child. Nothing worked. I couldn’t control or redirect my 18 month old. I read all the parenting books, especially, Dr Dobson’s “The Strong Willed Child” I went to parenting meetings. Zip nothing worked. I had my son evaluated for everything- learning disability, hearing, speech language issues, psychological issues. I was able to illicit help from the results. I hope this isn’t your situation but I thought it might help.
Consistent is the name of the game. Talk about it before you leave the place and tell her if she can’t be a big girl you won’t be going to fun places anymore and keep your word!
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2 choices, both work in your favor but gives her “control”.
Use if and when, after and before when asking to do something.
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I just didn’t allow it. I told them that they can’t always get things they want. I would just continue one with what I was doing, checking on them of course, and that was it.
Uuuummmmmm I hate to break it to those of you commenting about the not spanking thing but have you looked outside at some of the teens and young adults lately. Whoop that ass and put the fear of god into them at the moment they throw a tantrum. Then after the child and yourself have calmed down, talk to them about the incident and how they’re not respecting what you say and so on.
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- Stop worrying about what other people staring think!
- Ignore her tantrums when you can, then talk to her about it once she’s calmed down. (When you can’t ignore it, pick her up and leave- even if temporarily) I preferred the one sided dangle hold
, that way she can’t kick/hit you - Stop her from hitting you. Period. Remove her to an area where she can’t get to you if need be. (I put my kids into time out in their rooms at that age)
You got this! Hang in there and stand firm! These years fly by and are truly the most precious 
(I know it may not seem like it, but it is)
My girl was pretty easy. We did time outs in her bed. My son…I tried literally everything. He is still wild. Unfortunately the only thing that gives him pause is a single swat to the butt.
Ignore her. They only throw fits for the attention. Once she sees it doesn’t get a response she will move along. What really helped with my kids, I give them one warning before entering the store. Act appropriate or we will leave everything in the basket where it sits. Only once did my son test that, I did as promised and we walked out (without the toy he wanted). Now he is the most behaved child in the store.
I had a cry chair I sit my young two’s daycare children in and sit with them and told them when they were finished they could get up. even if they didn’t understand me we’d talk about what happen and hug them .As they got older I would tell them to go take a time out and sit in the cry chair and they could get up when their finished they could get up and we can talk . As they got older I called it the think it over chair it got to the point where if they were upset they would sit on their on . ( young two’s to three’s ) I worked in the daycare for 19 years its a struggle sometimes but it gets easier but threes could be worse . Good luck mom you got this .
They don’t call it the terrible 2’s for nothing. Be as patient as possible don’t argue and never try to reason with a 2 year old. Be firm and fallow through! If you say this will happen if you do that again! Fallow through!!
Consistently is you best friend right now. Good luck!
I have smacked the back of my daughter’s hand and told her no, if we were home put her in the corner for 2 mins
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I remember one time trying to leave my sister’s house. My daughter would not sit down in her car seat so I could buckle her in. I said fine I’d leave without her! Set her down on the sidewalk and started to drive away a bit. Made a second try and she still wouldn’t cooperate. Set her out again and drove up the street a ways. Turned back and that time she got the message. And no I didn’t leave her on the sidewalk by herself, my sister was right there.
Don’t give in. Just make sure she’s not in a place where she can hurt herself while she’s thrashing around on the floor. When you go about your bussiness she will get the message. Also it helps for you to talk
about it while your giving her a snack or a treat. Just bring up the subject while you’re both in a good mood. Have a snack with her and have a talk about things in general. Then you can bring up the conversation. Talk
About when you were her age and how big girls don’t throw tantrums. How it really helps you and Daddy when she acts like a big girl.
So on and so forth . It’s a nice quiet conversation between the two of you. This is also good for potty training. Talk about it first, it gives them a chance to wrap their heads around it.
I mentioned the bathroom or the spoon, they disliked both and straightened up, they rarely got spanked but new to behave, and of course there was the look that required no spoken words.
Just constantly stay on her. And I mean constantly. No is not an option in my son’s vocabulary. He tried that a couple times but was shut down very sternly. I know it is hard, but you are the boss mama. You have to take control and show her that. If she throws fits, make her go in timeout over and over and over. Explain to her everytime why she is going in time out, and then talk with a calm voice after about what she has done to put herself there. You have to stick with staying on her behavior or she will know that she runs you.
Ours is going to be 3 in a couple weeks and she does this all the time. Anything that transitions her from one thing to another, she has a hell fit over. Even if you tell her no on ANYTHING. She freaks out and throws a fit. She’s being evaluated for autism though so that might be why. Developmentally she’s scored at 12-18 months so…idk. I wish I had some advice but I don’t because we go through it too…good luck!
I would just walk away, from the fit if at home, if we were somewhere out then I would get down to her level and tell that was enough and we were leaving and then I would pack up and we would leave. Once at her Aunties she didn’t want to leave so I said I wouldn’t be back for a week, and I said good-bye and started to leave and her Aunt reminded her that she had no clothes and Auntie did not have a washer so she would have to wear the same clothes for a week and wash her undies by hand, she was in the car before I got there! Never again did she cross me.
Sounds like a normal toddler lol just stay consistent in your parenting. Even as simple as saying no will eventually become effective if you always follow through and don’t give in my oldest is almost 10 and he was definitely a tantrum throwing as a toddler. My youngest is 2 and I’ve always tried to make sure I set clear boundaries with her and stick to what I say. She has tried throwing a few tantrums but didn’t get her way and now she just said awwwwww and pouts if I say no. But no tantrums. Generally she will just move onto something else without complaint. But you just have to find your own way, you know? There a reason they call it the terrible twos lol
My 5 yr old still throws tantrums an when I punish him for it the tantrums stop for a while.
I have two boys my oldest never threw tantrums and his 13 now, so with the baby it’s so new to me these tantrums and I don’t spank my boys punishing works better for me whereas my mum is quick to spank an as kids I always got spanked being the oldest even if it wasnt my fault so I decided that’s not how I’m raising my boys
They listen when they have been punished an I always talk it out with them so they understand y
She’s testing you to see how far she can get with the tantrums. Sit her in time-out and hold onto her favorite toy. If she misbehaves then it’s probably time for a nap. If shes good, then when times up, give her her toy back as a reward. Make sure she can see you at all times so she knows your watching her. Facing her towards the wall makes it seem like you don’t love her anymore at that age, and that you don’t even want to look at her anymore. It worked for my little terror of a girl. Also make sure you talk to her about her behavior and why it isn’t acceptable to act that way. If in a store, leave the cart and go home. Try again when the other half gets home or again tomorrow.
Time out - if it works for your kid… time out can be more of a hassel for you if it doesnt. Spankings and ignoring. If you dont react to a behavior then it no longer works in their favor. Ignore things you can, spank things that require immediate reaction like biting, and time out when you can for things you can.
I had one do it one time in the market. I walked off and left him. He realized I was gone and stopped the fit. I was watching from around the corner. He never did it again. Scared him.
Persistence, patience, punishment and reward system. Mostly persistence and patience. I’ve been battling a bad attitude from my son for over 2 years now due to his dad and I separating. It is by no means easy but hang in there momma you got this.
Consistency is key. Never give in to a tantrum. If you do they learn that to get what they want, throw a tantrum.
58 years ago Ihad my 2and daughter and oh boy she was good at throwing tantrums and holding her breath all I ever did was say to her if that’s the way you want to behave go ahead I don’t want anything to do with it. I then went to the livingroom picked up my knitting and before I got to finish the first row she would be in the livingroom with me saying she was sorry. Then we would talk.
Time outs! Did it with my 12 year old and now 3 year old… started both at 2 years old… now with my 3 year old all I say is if u do not stop doing “whatever” ur going in time out and he stops hardly ever have to put him in time out anymore
At home for my daughter the corner worked when in public Walked away until was out sight for her but I could still see her she would eventually follow because she didn’t want to be left alone she eventually came to the conclusion when I say let’s go she would come and when she was told to do it she was to do so it it didn’t matter if it was her way or not
My son was a different story and way more stubborn and had to be a taught the hard way cuz the East way did not work nor did talking or corners he had to be spanked so at home he was spanked in public he was threatened to be spanked once we got home if he didn’t do as he was told and both my kids were eventually put on backpack leashes anyway when we were out in public
Positive reinforcement.
When my kids act up. I ignore them or timeout. We talk about it and Then I explain what they could have done instead.
When they chose to do something positively or do it the way I said, I praise them for it by saying “thank you for coming to me and talking…” or whatever it is they did.
If I say we will leave if you continue yelling and not listening to mommy, I leave.
Really with kids, you gotta follow through, praise the good, ignore the bad but still address it(unless it can’t be ignored cause of safety or something like that then address it immediately)
Tone of voice is important too. Stern doesn’t equal mean; just tells them you are bein serious.
It’s hard to establish but once it is it’s a breeze! And at 2, that’s the establishment phase
Don’t give In…you will create an even bigger monster!!! Drag her out kicking and screaming. I had 3 toddlers at one point…I never gave in to their tantrums. Never yelled. Just ignored their awful toddler behavior. 17,14, and 11 now!! We all survived lol but now trying to survive the teenage years is a whole new ball game 
Every kid is different. Spanking did not do anything for my oldest but time outs and taking away electronics did. My daughter is different time outs do not work. One swat and she’s done. Now I will say I didnt spank my children till they were 3 but I also didn’t have cause to before that. Every kid and parent is different. You just have to try and see what works for you and your daughter.
I talked to mine explained what it was they were doing wrong in easy to understand terms and asked them if they would like watching other kids act like that. I explained other ways of getting their opinions across.
I’m a person who believes in spankings and time outs, etc. but the most important thing is that when you speak to your toddler SAY WHAT YOU MEAN, & MEAN WHAT YOU SAY. consistency is key. If you just ~say~ you’re going to spank, & dont- they won’t take that seriously. Same as if you ~say~ “we’re going to leave” but don’t, they won’t take you seriously when you say that either. Just be consistent and follow through with whatever it is you want to execute.
I stepped over them and walked away, saying I am leaving now if you stop the fit you can come too. Then walk away…they will get the idea you are not going to react to the fit and will stop
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I would tell my son what we were going to do and talk about behavior I expected and if not we leave. My boys got so tired of hearing my behavior expectations they would tell me what they were. If they didn’t abide we left. My boys needed to know we were the boss and they had consequences for bad behavior.
When my son was 2 he threw a fit in the store so I took him out to the car and drove to my mother’s and asked her to watch him ,then went back and finished shopping and did not get to go with me again ,lol
I always just turned away and ignored him. It always worked until he stopped
I used to walk away when my kids acted up like that… Obviously not out of site but when they see you walking away and not giving them the attention it will soon stop.
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Honey stick to your guns don’t give in to her what you say goes she will learn I know it’s hard when your out and about as people stare but they will get over my granddaughter is going through the same she’s 2 pushing her mum to the limits but my daughter in law is like no you will learn when I say time to go we go or no sweets it’s no sweets it’s hard but you can do it a few weeks and she will know to listen to her mama good luck honey let’s us know how you get on don’t stress about it all mums go through it and those who say I don’t well then I would question their parenting skills 
I have heard softly talking to your child saying I understand your feeling upset or angry but would you like some hugs to make it all better. Apparently distracting them with this positive love helps 
Give her options. “You can choose to leave with us right now OR you will sit your butt in your quiet area when weYOY WILL are home” do NOT engage after you’ve forced her (yeah - it sucks big time) into her carseat. Just keep repeating yourself- “You can choose to leave now OR you can choose to sit in your quiet space when we get home. Nothing else.” When she is done, hugs and talk about choices. “I love you, next time do you think you’ll choose to leave? I bet when we get home after that we could have strawberries and creme!”
Well it’s got to be a voice as in firm and low toned and you don’t plea bargain with a child it’s just NO I hear a lot of parents modly coldly their children and give in buy the toy they want just to keep the peace or stay longer so the child doesn’t scream or make scene it’s just NO so consistency and firm you are the parent they are the child
With my youngest, transitions were an issue. Leaving the house to go to the grocery store seems perfectly logical to an adult. To a toddler, a big person just grabbed them away from their toys. Get on eye level; develop a system. In 5 min, we will leave and you can come back and play later
“But I don’t want to leave all my toys.” O.k. would you like to pick one toy to take to take to the car or leave all of the toys here until we get back…The baby now has a (limited) choice and an illusion of control.
Fast food rule! It sounds silly it feels silly when your doing it but it helped so much. It’s from the Book Happiest Toddler on the Block