I would just tell her that you understand itās what she likes, let her know you support her in whatever she likes but itās just not appropriate for school & she could get in trouble. Iām not sure if schools have a ādress codeā for make up but her being 12 im sure they have something about it.
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I mean she can though š¤·
How isnāt it appropriate? Sheās expressing herself
Let her express herself 
Let her express her self. Iām sure you did something as a kid to help you express yourself
You let her go through her phaseā¦ I mean chances are sheās redoing it in the bathroom before school and then washing it off before coming home. Let her work through her phase. If itās inappropriate the school will let you knowā¦ and then she sees there is a actual reason for you telling her versus her not 
some schools are a no make-up allowed some are ok with it
Let her, why canāt she be goth? Encourage her to be comfortable in her own skin.
Let her express herself.
My grandma did what youāre doing and it back fired and my mom ran away
Let her express herself.
Ha my mom was just like uā¦ and I didnāt give FUCK what she thoughtā¦ I did meā¦leave her alone and stop judging her and stopping her from expressing herself
We werenāt even allowed to wear makeup until we were 13.
Let her express herself
I stop projecting on my kids long ago. She should be able to express herself and you treat her and tell her sheās as beautiful then and without
Why canāt she? Let her be herself.
What makes it crazy? Cause I remember seeing both makeup from way back when I went to school. And never thought anything of it?
Is it against school policy? My daughter wears it to school and the school is very supportive of her self-expression and so are the other students.
I did, and I turned out fine. Still goth and it isnāt hurting anyone. Donāt suppress her expression of self, she will pull away.
Let her as long as the school doesnāt have an issue.
Kids have to be able to express themselves
I totally am all for thatāphaseā sheās expressing herself Iād let her
If the school allows it then why not tho 
wearing black lipstick in elementary was a highlight of mine haha
Just let her be herself. If thatās what she chooses, support her. Sheāll figure out if its what she wants or not. Probably a phase. I definitely went through it.
Why cant she? Is what she wearing going to affect her learning?
I mean if the school isnāt complaining then leave it be. You gotta pick your battles and I just think kids should be allowed to be who they are
Sheās expressing herself and making her change it because you donāt like it will only lead to her to do it behind your back. Help her fine tune the looks sheās trying to achieve, make sure she is building the skills to do her makeup well what ever look she is going for ie blending and what not. Expression and experimenting with looks is part of growing up.
I agree with the above . I think unless the school doesnāt allow it then just let her be her.
Most schools donāt allow heavy make up at that age . Have her wear it on the weekends
Why canāt she? Itās not your face and she is the one that has to wear it and live and learn by what she does, I donāt believe itās hurting anyone as long g as she is happy.
Itās just makeup, she is beginning to express herself. Allow her. Be supportive of her, donāt change her. It may just be a phase. As long as she is happy, I dont see the harm.
Why canāt she? She shouldnāt have to stifle who she is for others. Teach her itās okay to be unapologetically true to herself instead of trying to make her conform.
I mean a pic of how sheās doing her make up would be helpful. Goths kind of have their own thing without it being āto muchā in my books anyways
I wasnt allowed to wear make up til I was 16š¬
Make up at school? This is difficult for me to understand. We werenāt even allowed clear nail polish.
Sheās 12 ā¦ You are the adult and she is the childā¦ period point blankā¦ Thatās why these kids todayā¦ She can express herself and do what she likes when sheās able to live on her ownā¦
Let her go to school and seeā¦ if make up is allowed goth is too if you are coming from a. Place of protection and wanting her to not experience bullying and exclusion you canāt protect her forever unfortunately 
best to let her try and be happy and just let her know you are fearing that she may be bullied because it was common back in your dayā¦ however thereās also some really cool accepting kids thesedays who are being raised right.
Personally, I donāt think you should wear makeup until at least 14. I had to wait that long. But it should only be light makeup until 16 but thatās just my opinion and if you donāt agree, that doesnāt make you a bad parent.
But I do agree. I donāt think thatās appropriate for a 12 year old girl at all not just at school.
i am goth and have been for a very long time. i got in trouble at school for my make up a lot. my mom sat me down and showed me a few simple and undertoned but still very goth makeup looks i could use for school and let me do my crazy looks at home, and showed me how to improve them. maybe scroll google for some undertoned looks she can use for school and help her pick some she likes, and let her do her wild ones at home.
If the school allows it and it isnāt hurting anyone, I fail to see why youād make her take it off. Your kids arenāt you and they should be allowed to be their own people. So let them.
Let her be her self
If the school isnāt complaining then whatās the issue
Iām sorry just my opinion but why dampen her creativity?
And why canāt she? Is the school saying she canāt or you? Let her express herself the way she wants to.
Is it against the school rules or do you personally disapprove?
Her age also comes into play here. Personally once my daughters turn into young adults (maybe 15? Weāll see what happens) they can do with makeup what they please. Iām more concerned with they attitude and how they treat themselves and others.
As parents we canāt control their every action. The more we try the more weāll lose their respect and trust.
Edit to add: I just saw she was 12.
Thatās tricky.
Personally I feel thatās too young to be playing heavy into the makeup.
However I stand by what I said above.
Sheāll likely put it back on at school and then take it off (or not, just to piss you off) before coming home.
It will also lead to her feeling comfortable doing things behind your back.
Give her an age like 15 or high school when that is allowed. At least she could look forward to it??? Too young for that kinda thing???
Iād just let her (coming from someone who has that lifestyle) sheās going to do it anyway.
I just took my make up to school and washed it off before I got on the bus.
Itās time for her to find herself and express herself. Donāt dim her light.
Unless the Student Code of Conduct says otherwise (which I doubt it does unless itās a private school, etc), she definitely can. There were no restrictions on makeup when I was going through school, and donāt really see why they would ever change that. Sheās 12 years old which the normal and perfect age of a young lady to start finding herself - let her express and enjoy herself finding out what style she loves!
Just tell her the truth. 
Most people wouldnāt care but your mom doesnāt approve so you canāt wear it and you need to wash it off. Itās self expression. There is zero reason why she shouldnāt be able to wear it aside from your own personal biasā¦
Why canāt she wear the makeup?
If the school allows it. I donāt see the point in stopping her.
I was her once!. Went from the goth phase to the emo phase and it was so much fun getting into make up and such!. Let her be.
You donāt have to explain, just lovingly tell her it isnāt going to happen !
My 11yr old likes make-up. I let her do what ever she wants at home or if weāre going to friendās homes.
For those of you not understanding why she feels this way, let your child get picked on over it and have to pick up those piecesā¦
Why canāt she? I fail to see the issue here.
I donāt see why she canāt? I mean she 12 yeah thatās a little young but sheās finding herself. Sheāll do it either way in the long run.
I did! I went through my phase, and I got out of it sometime in high school. If the school doesnāt care, let her be herself. Itās not hurting anyone, and youāre only causing a problem when youāre not allowing her to openly express herself for school.
Unless the school has a rule against it I donāt see a problem
Find a makeup artist n have you go to one. They can show her ways to apply to her liking (correctly) n proper prepping n care for faceā¦
Make it an adventure, maybe for a friend n her or even a daughter mom dayā¦
I think the better question in , is she allowed to wear makeup to schoolā¦yes, or no. If she is allowed to, then I wouldnāt micro manage the look.
I think personally it will cause more problems and issues with her self esteem and trying to find out who she really is if you try to change her. No judgementā¦I get it. But the pre-teen in me has to side with your daughter on this one. This was me at 14, and my parents let me embrace it. I look back and those were some of the best times for me. It may be uncomfortable for you, but to her, sheās trying to find out who she is 
Why not? Sheās her. Make up isnāt a distraction unless you make it that way.
To be honest by you making her remove it it says to her that you donāt accept her and it will make it to where she will keep things to herself because she will feel like either you wonāt understand her or wonāt approve of her. I know this from experience so i would suggest that if she can express herself and work on her makeup skills then let her, who knows she might be one of the next beauty gurus or top makeup artists.
I donāt think the problem is goth looks, I just donāt think any make up outside the home is really appropriate at 12.
If itās too wild the school will make her remove it anyway
I wouldnāt be taking away her way of self expression. That may come back to bite u in the ass later on.
You donāt say where you liveā¦
Anyway at 12 years old itās normal to play with makeup.
But also you may need to explain to her that people judge easy and maybe itās not a good thing to extreme makeup at school
But she can if itās not against the dress code
Just explain to her that you like it and she can do it on weekends and after school but the school may not be accepting of it.
Every parent has different rules. My daughter is 10 and she will not be allowed makeup until 16 and minimally. Occasionally weāll do a beauty facial night but at home is different from school. Just my parenting rules.
I think we all go through that phase. Just like with the crazy hair parts that we cringe over when we see our old photos. Help her understand how to apply and properly clean her face. She will get out of that stage soon!
Set boundaries now, as in āgoth make up is fine for fun, and not appropriate for school.ā This will be very helpful for you all during her teenage years of testing your authority. Donāt back down, pick your battles, and good luck. She will thank you one day.
Please let her express herself. If sheās not hurting anyone and it makes her happy, I donāt see why not 
I swearā¦ You white people crack me up. And YESā¦ itās a white thing. Thereās no way in fuckin hell that a 12 year old should be wearing make-up. Bet yall let them cuss too. Probably knock on their door before entering their room in a house you paid for. Smfh then wonder why theyāre undercover slts. Stop letting your kids do and say wtf they want. Bet they even have a car at 16 that theyāll get drunk and crash too
Why can she not? What country do you live in?
If the school is allowing it then canāt she? Or is this your choice as a parent then. Thatās settled. But seems as if your reaching out for advise soā¦ Here I go. Roll with it. As you said a phase. If you donāt let some phases be as they are it could become who they are as a person to the tenth power. That alone isnāt a bad thing by the way but it could backfire against your beliefs. And if it just isnāt a phase you may even learn to love who your child is becoming goth or not. Personally Iād just let her do it how she pleases. Itās her body, style, and self expression.
Why not let her do the make up she wants and not the make up you want sheās expressing herself and trying diff things. Let her find out who she wants to be.
All of you saying to just let her do it I had that phase and was bullied and wished my parents told me not to do it
Why canāt she?? Let her express herself, it isnāt harming anyone. And it makes her happy.
I pick my battles. Especially w the teenagers. Hard. Thereās so many other hills to die on ya dig.
Why canāt she? I was goth goth - finished school at 16ā¦
Iām 35 - still got purple hair and Iām a great person
As a child who was allowed to self express and do thisā¦ tell her to keep it as a hobby only. Who she truly is, is the beautiful girl she sees in the mirror without makeup without peer influences. While at school she should be focused on school work and creating friendships.
The nice approach aside LORD I WISH MY MOTHER WOULD HAVE STOPPED ME 
so many priceless photos ruined by a phase.
Let her be herself 
Why canāt she do her make up the way she wants it?? I mean I could see you having an issue with short skirts or revealing tops but not her make up. Let her experiment. Let her figure out who she is.
Explain to her that school is a lot like work, when you are older. You canāt wear whatever you want at work. You have to look professional. That way itās teaching her something as well.
You tell her no. Youāre the parent and sheās the child
Compromise with her because sheāll start sneaking to do it anyway. Its just a phase mommaā¦sheās going to outgrow it soon enough~
Best of luck 
You donāt, let her go! If the school donāt approve they will say
Unless the school complains I wouldnāt even mention it. Let her express herself
Sheās 12 & you are the parent! Simply tell her she is not allowed to. Itās that simple. Many adults have dress codes at work, kids have dress codes at school & as a parent you can guide your child on how to dress appropriately.
Let her express herself, sheās going to resent you later on if you try to control everything she does. Everyone goes through phases, itāll be fine. And if she doesnāt grow out of it. Just embrace it, sheās not hurting anyone. If sheās happy let he4 be happy 
Um I went through that phase Iād take my clothes and makeup to the school bathroom then change before my mom picked me up let her be
As someone who was rebellious during that age, just know sheās going to do it regardless. Sheāll hide it from you and the secrecy will continue. Sheās figuring herself out and my recommendation is to continue being her safe placeā¦ otherwise, be ready for the distance.
Lol. Sheāll get smart and start redoing it in the bathroom before school. Jfc, let you kid be theirself.
If school will allow it there is nothing wrong with letting her express herself. If not, let her know it is school rules and must be followed and help her tone her look down so it is still her look but follows school rules.
Just let her do it. She has about 13 years starting at 3 to figure out which box in life she fits in. Let her find her box before society tries to shove her in one that she doesnāt fit into
I went through a goth phase in high school. I think I turned out fine. Lol. I was really weird and awkward for a while, some may still consider me that way, idkā¦ Why not let her express herself and figure out who she is without too much interference?
Ummm shes 12, dose she really need make up yet?
Why canāt she? Thatās creepy that you try to dictate how someone else gets to look.
Let her go and have the school decided. I feel like there are so many other things to fuss about. If you truly hate it, she will sense it and want to do that much more.
Self expression, itās probably a phase (I went through one as well before yāall come at me with itās not a phase) but either way if you do not let her express herself you will have a bigger issue later
You donāt. Let them express themselves in the safety of your home.
12 years old is to young for makeup at school. She should still just be playing with it at home.