How can I feel more comfortable in my own skin?

I’ve recently been feeling more and more unattractive and less comfortable in my skin. It’s been that way for a few days now. I’m 29 weeks pregnant, and I’ve never felt this way. In my first pregnancy, I loved my belly, loved everything about it. Now I just want it to be over. I want the belly to go away. I feel absolutely terrible about feeling this way. I stand in front of the mirror looking at my belly, and I can’t stand it. Don’t get me wrong, I’m aching to be holding my baby boy, and I’m so excited to meet him soon. But seeing my belly makes my skin crawl, which makes me feel like a terrible person, I’m growing a life I should love it. My husband tells me all the time that he still thinks I’m attractive and sexy but I don’t feel like I am. Has anyone gone through this? Was there anything you did through out the remainder of your pregnancy to help you get over this feeling?

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Lol you will be fine your prego and if it that bad don’t look in the mirror it will be over soon good luck

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I went through the same thing with my third pregnancy. From not being able to find clothes to wear (had a closet full and felt like nothing fit right) to couldn’t stand to look at myself. It does go away. You’re going to be just fine. It’s a stage we women must endure during our pregnancies.

Chemical imbalance maybe, if you have any feelings like this after baby born it could be postpartum depression, do not just stay silent and brush it off, tell your doc, dont be ashamed, happens to the best of us. But please, get help if you have it.

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I’m sure you are beautifully glowing,you’re carrying a baby,the belly will go down after birth

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Best Advice! Wear clothes that works according to your body shape while you are growing through Divine Miracles! Enjoy this bliss! Just take care of your self physically, mentally and emotionally! Who said you cant be fashionista while you are pregnant??? You got this! Good luck! :smiley:

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Mention this to your Dr. I’ve seen this happen & can be helped

Get your nails done. Try a new hairdo. Buy some maternity wear that you feel minimizes your belly and accentuates the smallest part of your torso, and your fun new cleveage. Get some new sexy shoes… they might hurt, but they are just for wearing while sitting down. lol
Otherwise… there’s not much you can do until he’s out.

Remember you are doing the most precious thing you can do and you will be so happy to hold that little miracle in your arms you can work on your body afterwards use your child to help exercise once you are up to it

I feel the same way! I’m currently 38 weeks and I haven’t felt myself in months due to the weight gain. I already have a stair master and a jogging stroller ready for after baby lol

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I dont know you but you are growing a human inside you and that is amazing. You are amazing. Look back in that mirror and have mad respect for yourself.

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I dealt with it for close to 3 years after having my daughter. May try speaking to your dr about it. So sorry you are dealing with this.

It is ok to feel this way. You aren’t alone. I am 27 weeks pregnant with my 3rd and having similar feelings. I felt beautiful and feminine with my first 2. This time I just feel old and tired and giant. I feel better if I do something special for myself. Do your makeup, hair, nails. Find an outfit you feel cute in. Remind yourself that this is temporary. Don’t let yourself get overwhelmed by feeling guilty for feeling this way. Your feelings are real and valid and normal.

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Try getting a henna tattoo over your belly. Embrace it and know you WILL miss these days some day :heart::pregnant_woman:t2:

A mother bringing lice into this world is beautiful all mothers who love their children are beautiful

I would say there is some body dysmorphia going on, which we all go through at some point. Talk to a professional, I agree there is a reason why this pregnancy is different than the other for you.

Prepartum depression is real. I had it with my second child. It did spill over in to post partum. Please talk to someone.

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I’m so sorry you feel this way. Pregnant women are beautiful. Your are creating life, one of the most amazing things we women can do.

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This is my 3rd, I’m 31 weeks in and I’ve hated every part of it since day one. Hyperemesis gravidarum to this day, many other health issues, weight gain all over, the giant belly, and barely being able to move it hurts my pelvis and hips so bad. I can’t wait for her to be here and to get fixed

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I 100% feel this! Ill be 29 weeks Monday and with my first (who I gained waaayyyy more weight with) I felt so gorgeous! This time I just dont feel comfortable with it. I was looking at myself getting out of the shower the other day and I just feel like I look nasty. Not because of my belly just because of myself I guess? Idk. I wish you luck momma :heart:

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What are you feeling differently about with pregnancy compared to your first?? You are beautiful!! Talk to a Dr

I had a really hard time with this myself when I was pregnant. I had a different reason as to why I was feeling that way. I had lost a whole bunch of weight and was feeling so amazing about myself and when I got pregnant I felt very defeated. I agree talking with someone would probably help bunches! But I remember when i started to dress up and do different things that i felt a little better about my body. Sometimes doing things for self care can help tremendously! Just remember you are so gorgeous and know its all worth it for the little one growing inside of you. Good luck :heart:

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I’m feeling the same exact way… 34 weeks along here with my second… I absolutely love being pregnant and can’t wait to see my little one, but I don’t feel attractive at all. Avoiding mirrors and everything. But I keep telling myself that it’s temporary and I’ll definitely never take my unpregnant body for granted again. It helps.

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Sweetheart go see a counselor best thing I ever did.

It takes time to adjust.

Please speak to a medical professional.

Speak to your midwife…please.

There’s a great podcast that speaks about these issues. It’s called Outweigh. Hope it helps❤️

Don’t feel the way u do…your child will feel unwanted… pleeeese

There is such a thing as pre natal depression. Maybe talk about how you feel with your midwife?
It might just be impatience to meet baby. Only 11 weeks to go…

I’d talk to your dr and let them know how your feeling emotionally. Maybe it’s a hormone imbalance. Maybe you need to do something special for yourself to bring that sexy feeling back. Pregnancy is rough, I’ve never been pregnant but I know it’s hard on the body and mind. You are beautiful and strong.

Sweetie you are as beautiful as you have always been and probably even more but your body is changing to accommodate the baby and the fear of it not returning to what it was is normal. Eat healthy and you will be fine and after the baby remember it took nines months to gain it so it will take that to lose it. Moisturize your belly.

I dealt with this with all 5 pregnancy & after. My youngest is 7 today, & unfortunately I still feel this way. I M still trying to love myself & the skin I am in. I will prY for you mama! It is a very hard struggle to get over.

I didn’t like looking at my pregnant stomach either. But that had zero effect on how much I loved my daughter! I didn’t mind the bigger breasts though, :laughing:!!