What are some ways I can get my kids to help me out around the house? I am always stuck doing everything on my own and i am exhausted…asking them to help with anything gets me no where
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Help a mama out and respond anonymously on our forum. How can I get my kids to help around the house?
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tell them you’re going to start charging them a fee for things like, laundry, cleaning up after them, etc. Heck! I charge my son $40 to clean his room. And I’m not joking! He pays it too 
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Take everything away from them and make them earn it back. 
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Take away video games/phones/ favorite toys. Decide which things are most important to them and make those things worth the most points. Make a chore chart and give each chore a point value. They have to earn points to get their things back. It’s better than telling them what they have to do, this way they get a choice, do a little math, and help you around the house too.
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I don’t let my kids play with any toys or Xbox until they help clean the living room mainly because they are the ones who are there most of the day making it a mess lol. As well as any trash they have left on the stairs or bathroom. It helps alot
Take the toys away let them earn them back
You make them help. Stop asking and make them help and if they don’t help then they have consequences.
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Consequences that need to be enforced. Don’t do it and start losing things. But don’t give in and give them back or they learn you’re a fraud.
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Should of started when they were 1
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I told my kids its .10 everytime I have to pick something of theirs up be it their clothes, toys or trash. They’ve been doing much better. And cause they like to name call each other they have to pay .25 every time to the person they call a jerk or stupid so on…it’s helped a lot after the first couple days. Kids ages are 13, 9. And 7
Tell them, don’t ask
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Change the wifi password
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You give consequences or you make it fun depending on age really. My 4 year old knows when I tell her to clean up she is to clean up or she won’t be having any more fun or snacks lol
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Depends on age if they are younger give each one a jar each time they complete a chore give them a token to put in their token jar each at the end of each week reward the one who earned most tokens a small gift wrapped up your choice it doesn’t have to be expensive gift for younger children if older children a $20 bill should suffice some may think it’s wrong but I can tell you it works my children are 49 45 &43 my sons are the best house cleaning men they ever seen daughter as well it works & has carried over into adulthood
Mine are under 6 and help clean the house I pick one thing for each of them to pick up and they do it I turn on some music and they love it … and I wouldn’t give them money
We started doing a chore chart that changes out weekly …they don’t get paid they get to have 1 on 1 time with a parent alone . But to get that reward you have to have your chores done for the week…it was a game changer…they like that 1 on 1 time.
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Are you able to pay them an allowance? Yes kids should help regardless, but kids will help more willingly after they’ve already started helping and realize it’s not the end of the world. I’ve seen ppl write chores on a popsicle stick, with an amount of money on it when it’s completed, and they pick it out of a jar without seeing what it is. 
People need incentive, at least until it becomes habitual.
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My children were like this…
Now I print them off the jobs I would like them to do, they like ticking them off at the end of each one they completed.
My 3 year old loves wiping the kitchen cupboard doors, the fridge freezer, tumble dryer and washing machine down with a wet cloth, he makes is own bed, tidys his room & uses the dust pan and brush when I’ve swept the dirt up in a pile.
My 4 year old son who has autism and has very little understanding and is non verbal but he puts his teddies on his bed, & he understands the word bin so anything that needs to go into the bin he does.
My 7 year old folds the washing out the dryer and put the piles into everyone’s bedrooms. Drys up and puts away when I’m washing up, makes his own bed, opens his curtains, puts the recycling into the correct bins/bags.
We even played a matching game a few days ago making matches with the odd socks I had collected up over a few months in a bag.
If I asked them to do it they would moan or roll their eyes at me. So I print off a jobs list with their name on. I always give them something rewarding at the end of helping me.
Extra tablet time or a small pack of sweets out the cupboard before lunch.
I like to get everything done in the morning so I’m not spending all day cleaning there’s never more then 10 jobs on the list xx
From day 1, 6 months old or so. I worked with each of my kids. Showing them how to drop toys in a basket when playtime was over. By 18 months or so they were picking up their own toys. And of course it progressed from there. By 14 they did their own laundry. As well as household chores, cleaning their bathroom etc… of course I had to remind, complain and sometimes threaten or flat out flip my lid but it always got done. Start early!! My son with special needs contributes too. Things on his level but he does his part or atleast trys. Some of my mom friends get very little help from their kids.
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I still struggle to get mine to do chores at times. I have found the ability to earn money toward big items he wants is a motivator. My daughter is only 1 she’s still learning what no means so we’re working on cleaning up still 
. But my 11 year old I find is complacent about chores if he has everything he wants and doesn’t need to work for anything. But when it comes to games for his system or game cards for them I consider that a want not a need so he needs to do something to earn that money. However if he chooses to not do his daily chore then the new one he chose replaces it.
Depends on age. I’ve had my children helping on picking up since they can walk. I started by making it a game. Now ages 14, 12, 11 and 7 they keep their rooms clean and if I ask will wash dishes, do laundry, vacuum etc. The 7 year old girl not so much. She is kinda dramatic when it comes to it lol. I just stay on her or I start removing toys.
Quit asking them, tell them they have to help.
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Stop asking.
Tell them.
My kids want their devices or cartoons? Chores first. Period.
I’m not their maid. They’re old enough to help. My oldest and I have had several conversations about this.
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No TV, no electronics until chores are done.
My oldest keeps asking for money and I’m like go do this and I’ll pay you.
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We do daily task/chore charts for my kids. They earn money each week front doing chores and if I need them to do something extra I’ll normally offer them an extra dollar. So bribery… I bribe my kids, and I’m not even sorry
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You don’t ask them to help. You tell them to help. I have a 13 year old who’s only job is to take the trash out daily. I have a 9 year old who’s only job is to scoop the cat box. If their ONE chore isn’t done by the time I get home from work, I collect their remotes and controllers for the day. If I’m cleaning up and they have made a mess somewhere, like my 9 year old likes to “forget” to flush the toilet or lets her cereal bowl sit on the table, I call that child to the mess and make them clean it up.
I’m a full time employee, a full time student, a full time mother and a full time wife. I don’t have time to be cleaning up after everyone. Repetition, consistency and enforcement are key.
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Honestly… I whole heartily believe that you should’ve started them off young…… doing little simple things to help you out around the house
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Don’t ask. It’s än expectation. They live there to and they need to do their part .
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You give them an option? 
If chores aren’t done, devices are mine. Don’t ask to go anywhere. Nobody is coming over.
They’ve been grounded bc I will not ask 1,000x. They live here and will live on their own one day.
You decide the consequences and stick to them. They’ll be mad, and? They’ll also get over it. Parent them. They deserve you putting their future first. My 20yr old keeps his place spotless. He even dusts. My 12yr old does her room all the time. She even cleans the bathroom.
Momma, you can’t wait to start discipline. It’s harder when they’re older. Set the standards now and enforce them. 
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Don’t ask, I tell mine, “I need you to take out the trash, clean the kitchen” etc. They would not get spending money if they don’t do what I told them to. It’s not just your house!
Stop asking, and tell them to get off their butts! How is this even a question??? You ARE the parent! Act like it!
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I’ve had them helping since they were little. It started with helping me put dirty clothes in laundry baskets, handing them a single washcloth to put in a drawer, stacking shoes on the rack having them put spoons in the dishwashers, etc. Now they are getting older they just help because they are part of the tribe and our tribe works together to make our space comfortable. If one of my kids finishes their tasks first, they’ll help the other kids so that it gets done twice as fast. You just have to start somewhere and keep encouraging them to help and if they refuse, then don’t give them the wifi password until they do help.
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Chores lists. Make a daily chore list for each kid. If their chore isn’t done they cannot get screen time, outside play time… basically nothing until chores are done for the day
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Stop asking start telling them start taking tv phone and things like away
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Take away their phones and games until they do their chores.
Age? Warn time on electronics
Family meeting weekly to pick and choose a daily chore including one supervised cook each
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Nothing until chores are done.
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Reward systems
Money … snacks … treats n toys
My 15 year old we give him an allowance for helping do stuff around the house n at the neighbors
My five year old has a sticker reward chart
She help all week cleaning n earns most stickers from the week she gets a candy on Sunday n if she earns her stickers all month she gets a toy
Age appropriate chores. There are charts giving examples of what kids should do at ages. Sorry at these young ages they can’t do much yet. They are watching you so let them/ teach them that trash goes in trash can, put milk cup back in frig, clothes in hamper,etc
Just start throwing things into their routine one at a time. But I’d make sure it’s part of an everyday routine. 2 and 3 year old can help pick laundry up and put them into baskets, toys, garbage. The child whose more like a 4 or 5 year level can start helping you with dishes with supervision. Sweeping, dusting, vacuuming, and swiffering are all good chores for 4 to 5 year Olds without help
Keep reinforcing to the kids to put stuff where it belongs…take 15 minutes a day where everybody helps, no excuses! A,e a list of things that need done every day…….(wipe counters and sinks, sweep floors, etc) I have always planned my meals on Sunday for the week……meat,veg,potato,rice or side, and dessert…that way I knew what we were having and it made my life easier. Laundry….maybe toss a load in before work, start the dryer as soon as you come home……even the youngest can help fold…maybe sat am an hr or so that everyone helps…dust, empty trash, damp mop, clean bathrooms, etc. Sunday have a family day…… church,a crockpot or sheet pan meal, relax,read,o,at games,family walk,etc. There are days it all seems impossible, but once everyone is in a routine,it will work! And the years fly by! Keep us posted! Best of luck!