I had my baby a little after midnight on Sunday. My husband only has a week off to help me with both the baby and our 2 year old. That being said baby sleeps and is so quiet all day (feeds every 2-3 1/2 hours) and then is up every hour or 1/2 hr at night. How can I get him to switch? I know he’s still going to get up at night which is fine but I can’t be up every hour once my husband goes back to work knowing I need to get up at 7ish with my toddler and watch him all day… I will be exhausted
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That’s the way most new babies do. Getting them on a schedule takes time.
You’re on a newborn’s schedule, not the other way around.
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Your baby is still on “uterus time” 
When you move, baby is rocked to sleep. When you sit still baby is able to wake & be active.
So. This stinks, but…
This week try to stay up thru the night, holding & tending to baby to foster their sleeping.
Then lay around during the day, and interact with baby to keep them awake a bit longer.
It will get easier. But your baby needs lots of sleep & feeds right now, & for the first few months, so a “schedule” is not going to happen quickly.
Don’t be afraid to be up at night & lay around during the day. That’s just life with newborns. & Your toddler will be ok as long as you include them. Let them grab diapers & wipes, premade bottles, blankets & clothes, ect.
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You just had the baby. Get over it. Harsh I know. But even with a toddler you can rest when the baby does. I was 7yrs old and completely raising a 2 yr old and a newborn, cooking, cleaning and going to school. Our mother was a dead beat. And when I was in school the neighbor would watch them for me. Or look into a local day care or play school and drop the toddler off once in awhile so he/she can play with kids their age and you get time to rest. My son slept all day and was up all night for quite awhile. You figure it out and make it work. They take time to adjust. Mother’s (and fathers and single parents) do it all the time. You need to be on that baby’s schedule and your toddler will have to adjust as well.
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Is just waiting game. You have be on newborn schedule. My now nearly 9 wk old cluster feeds so up alot and low weight so demand feed. I’m up with other kids and chronically ill unfortunately is joys been a mum. Though i solo parent. Maybe your partner could let you sleep abit at wksnd
Wake baby during the day they will.still wake every 3 hours at night to eat
Leave baby in a noisy atmosphere through the day where everybody is talking and noising that way he won’t sleep too much and will soon learn the difference between day and night.
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This is normal, especially at this age. You won’t be able to “switch” night and day. It’s not that baby’s days are mixed up, it’s just more active at night. Eventually it will level out. In the mean time you will just have to deal with it. Being a mom is exhausting. I’ve had 4. Didn’t have someone to help at night (husband working immediately after I gave birth) just had to work with what I had.
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My kids are grown but only 15 months apart. You just deal with both baby and toddlers schedules for about 6 months or so once baby is sleeping through the night. ( my youngest got up once a night from 4 months old till she was a year old 
) It’s tough in the beginning but eventually everything will sync up
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Keep him awake after dinner, like around 6-7pm then when he get use to that move it to 5-7pm. Then feeding around 7pm, bath he will sleep little longer
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Newborns won’t really stick to a schedule til about 3m I think. Only thing you can do is start preparing him by keeping daytime and night time separate, during the day keep tv on, noises and lights going, night time sound machine, no lights on etc. although he still will sleep through both. Try to get 2yr old to nap while baby naps and you can nap as well. My Hubby works 3rd shift so I get the dealing with kiddos at night alone. You can maybe also give him a little more milk at night to stay fuller. But for the most part, it’s normal for him to be up every 2 hours or so to feed. It’ll get better though. Good luck💙
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Uummm, ya, buckle up and hold on! Your going to be on this roller-coaster of no sleep, and exhaustion for quit some time. It could be 6 months to a year or longer before they sleep ALL night. Most babies will slowly sleep longer between feedings.
Try to keep him awake during the day making noises playing with him and such it may take a lil bit and then right before bedtime feed him a hefty meal .be my pediatrician told me as a parent they would put a lil cereal in there bottle to have them sleep longer he said as a Dr I’m not suppose to tell u that . He said but I have to do what u have to do .
I’m sorry , but he is just a newborn, you need to adjust to his routine not the other way around.
Try to nap when he is napping and include your toddler.
If you get extremely exhausted and have the means try to hire a little help 1-2 days a week for a couple of hours
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You accept this is an exhausting time probably for the next 6 months to a year
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It sucks I know, but my now 6 year old didn’t sleep all the way through the night until she was a year old. Also don’t stop being quite, do your day as your normally do. I never was super quite when my baby slept, so she had no issues w/ vacumming etc. Wait if you have a toddler you should understand that you are on the baby’s schedule as much as it sucks. You got this.
That is an infant that is exactly what they do. Mom up
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You’re kidding right??? You literally just had him a few days ago and already trying to put him on a schedule??? Try after a couple of months!!! And you have a 2 year old so this isn’t your first rodeo
Try to keep your baby awake during the day. Otherwise nap when the toddler does . It’s really tough and it might not improve for a couple of weeks. I used to nap in the evenings whilst my husband looked after the baby. He’d then wake me to do the feed and then we’d both try and get some sleep. He also found our baby slept vastly better with an extra blanket…
There’s no scheduling a brand new infant. They’re still getting used to the outside. In a couple months it’ll be easier.
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Much like with your first, you just roll with it for a little while.
Definitely try resting when toddler and baby do I agree go about daily routine much as you can baby will adjust unfortunately most moms are exhausted 
babies and kiddoes are exhausting
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