Any advice on how to get my son who just turned 4 to go po0p in the toilet? He will pee but he won’t go #2. Anytime he has to go #2 he will ask us to put a diaper on, and we’ve tried the method were he just goes in his pants hoping he would not like the feeling. But he doesn’t care he says he will keep going in his pants. Peeing in the toilet is not an issue, but going #2 is. And he doesn’t wear diapers anymore other than when we have to put it on so he can go #2. Please help, I don’t know what to do
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My now 14 yrs old nephew used to be like that around that age. I remember my sister would take him to the loo every morning & she would read stories to him or let him play games or watch videos on the ipad. The practice took weeks & a lot of patience but it did work. They made it a routine. He finally started doing it on his own until he did not have to be ipad-dependent. Well, now teenegagers seem to cannot take #2 without their phones, can they? 
My daughter didn’t potty train at all until that age. I put her in underwear for one week on and one week off. Mostly because it’s definitely a big mess and a lot of stress if you have other kids as well. She would go in her pants for a week. Then we would have a week off. Then underwear again for a week. I don’t remember how long we did that for. I just know that one day she decided she was going to use the toilet and that same night she stopped going in bed and that was that. She never looked back.
Sit him on the toilet when he says he has to go. And make him sit til he’s finished.
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My son did the same thing until kindergarten he finally out grew that phase and know goes no problem. I was so scared he would be using diapers forever lol
Following… My 6 year old daughter refuses to poop in the toilet as well. She pees in it fine. She demands and cries for a pull up so she can go. She tells me when she has to go, and doesn’t have much trouble going and when I ask why she won’t go in toilet she just says she doesn’t want to or she’s scared.
I did a sticker chart. After so many stickers, I would reward them with something special. Usually their favorite candy, maybe one thing from the dollar store, etc
Literally going through this with my 4 year old. Pees fine, but I have to make him sit on the potty throughout the day and I tell him to do butt pushes (got him to figure this out by telling him to fart lol), and over a couple days he got the hang of it! He still doesn’t fully recognize the feeling of having to go until he’s started going so waiting for him to tell us wasn’t an option. I talk to him each time he goes on the potty now about recognizing the feeling and ask if he feels it in his belly beforehand and he’s starting to get the hang of it.
Edited to add in; I don’t agree with not letting him go in a diaper if needed; constipation is worse than a mild setback. You could start having him go to the bathroom to put the diaper on, get him to stay in the bathroom while he poops, then after a couple days make him sit on the toilet while in the diaper while pooping for a few, then see if he’s comfortable going without.
If you still use a potty chair try putting the diaper in the bottom of the potty chair, tell him to poop in the diaper that way.
I would refuse to put the diaper on him. He will eventually stop
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I got washable markers and sit them backwards and let them draw on the toilet lid.
Try getting to sit on the toilet, with the diaper on. Once he does this consistently, cut a hole in the diaper (hopefully without it being noticeable) & have him sit on the toilet. Once he starts doing this, you should be able to remove the diaper all together… this is a strategy that was told to me by a behavior specialist. I haven’t tried it yet, because he has some GI issues we need to get to the bottom of first
Following bc I have the same issue with my child, whom is now 6