Does anyone else have a teenager that cannot be bothered to do simple things around the house? Take out the trash, clean the toilet, dust, sweep, mop…thats literally all I ask to make sure the house is clean for their dad when he comes home from work since I also work…but he cannot be bothered…all he does after school is play video games…It makes me wonder how he is going to function as an adult…any way I can get him to do these things?
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Ummmm yes be the parent, take the video games away for starters lol take everything away. If he doesn’t want to help, he doesn’t deserve any electronics or privileges. My children are 3, 4, 8, 8 and 10 and they all have their own chores to do based on their ages. And if they don’t do them, they don’t get to do what they want.
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video games would be locked up and if he doesn’t help don’t wash his clothes it’s amazing how quick he comes around if he has to do stuff for himself.
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Not sure what all the OP does cleaning wise for the home but by the post it kinda sounds like they’re wanting the child to do the majority of it. I’m so confused by the people who expect their kid to be their housekeeper because “they work.” Does your child not go to school for 7-8 hours a day too? Then also have homework to do once they are home? That is work, and sometimes more difficult and stressful that a typical job! Cleaning up after himself is expected, but you shouldn’t be expecting them to do more at home than what you’re doing on a daily basis.
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You’re the parent, set the boundaries, no video games, phone, internet, hanging with friends. He doesn’t like it , he can sit in his room… take away the tv and computer he probably has in there too
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Idk I didn’t have kids to lessen my or my partner’s load. I expect my kids to pick up after theirself and do things for theirself and that’s it. I also don’t want to invalidate my kids and ignore the fact that they just got up really early and spent their day having to learn a bunch of stuff, just to likely get sent home with even more homework. I hope my home is a safe haven, Where my children can relax and just play a video game after all of that.
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Too late. You should have started them when they were three like I did. Never had a problem.
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Shut his internet off until his chores are done. They usually do them pretty quick like that.
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Okay a few chores to help out sure clean the whole house everyday after school by himself please get over yourself! How about making a chart and for all of you to have a few chores after work/school to keep the basics up 
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Unplug the game system works pretty fave for my teens. No chores done no games cell phones electronics they are rewards
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My kids are still kinda young and they do chores but when they get older I’m thankful I can cut the internet off with an app on my phone until stuff is done I want done
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Take the video games away until he does what he’s asked to do?
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Seriously? You got to be the … Nevermind… it’s called taking video games away or turning internet access off. You don’t even need to take the console away just take the plug out of it and put it somewhere. You should’ve started the chore thing way earlier instead of waiting till he was a teenager. So you’re partially to blame for this if he can’t function as an adult because you didn’t prepare him or teach him how to do these things. So take the video games away. My teen is same way but he knows how to fold laundry wash n dry it, do dishes, vacuum, sweep, cook, clean a whole bathroom, take garbage and recycling out etc, mow lawns, shovel/snow blower the snow, etc but that’s because I taught him for he doesn’t fail and he’s also going to be working this summer at 15
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I don’t let my kids have electronics until thier chore is done (they are younger so only one a day right now) you have to start preparing them early and get those habits established before they become to old or it just gets harder. I even have my kids watch an help with cooking as well bc its a needed skill. You gotta make an effort to get the effort …Talk with him explain why he is expected to do these things an why they are important for him later in life. Make it more about him learning to take care of himself instead of just do your chores. I dunno if your expecting him to do all the chores or not but lead by example show him everyone has a part in keeping up the home.
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My girls are teenagers and if they want to do extra activities and keep their phones they have to do one chore a day and it’s simple. One does the dishes and one sweeps.
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Turn off the internet change passwords. Most games can’t be play with out the web.
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I have never expected my kids to do chores other than occasionally taking out the trash or unloading the dishwasher. They are responsible for keeping their own rooms presentable. My oldest is 20 and he knows how to use all of the appliances so I have no fear that he will live in squalor when he moves out. He has even gone grocery shopping for me when I was busy one week. He volunteered to do it and he did a great job.
Take the video game away, make him earn the internet by doing chores, make all the kids take part in age appropriate chores to earn privileged things such as games and internet, tv time ex…
You have to set boundaries. Waiting until they are a teenager is a little late.
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No more video games if he doesn’t help.
Take the main power cord to work if it’s not done when you get home. Or the controllers
Take the Xbox away until it gets done
You’re really expecting too much. How about yard work every other week, take out trash, keep his room clean, his own laundry, wash dishes twice a week? Besides keeping up with his schooling, and teenage years, kids have a lot on their plate already.
Yank those video games from him. I bet he will do chores then.
All you ask?
My teen has to do her own room and dishes.
The toilet??? Dust, sweet? Let them be kids. They have there whole grown up life to do that.
And do you have kids Or maids?
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Kids these days have it way to easy.
You have to be the parent and start teaching them early, you taught him how to walk and talk, it is also your responsibility to teach him how to take care of himsled. My son is 13, gets up for school at 6 and leaves by 7, has practice till 530 pm, when he gets home we eat dinner and he helps clean up after, then we all spend family time together and he knows to straighten up his messes and get stuff ready for the next day before bed. He also knows how to do literally every part of the house work and yard work, does he do them every day? Nope, but if asked he knows he will lose his stuff if he doesn’t do it. He has his set things like trash day and stuff like that or putting away his own clothes. I am a firm believer in the fact that I did not bring my children into this world to take care of the house and things like that but they will help me and will learn to do things so they aren’t running to mommy when they are on their own and need clean clothes.
Take the video games away - plain and simple!
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Hide devices and the cables to his console 
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I take the computer/phone/electronics when they don’t. I do offer a small allowance but only when they do it properly without being reminded. They have a chore list, they know what to do and when to do it. They know how to do it. Most of the time they do a halfway decent job but forget a thing or two which means no allowance but I won’t take the phone etc. I won’t pay allowance for normal household chores you have to do living somewhere when they’re not even being done properly lol. Now if they want to do an extra chore I will pay them for that.
Yeah you take the video game cords away, change the WiFi password and if it still isn’t done you start taking other things and grounding or whatever works for your kid. Going forward, they come home do their chores, do their homework and then get the WiFi password. If the game becomes an issue again you take the whole console until they can remember what they need to do.
Take video games away tell him can u please help around house as need and continue if help and continue I’ll give u video game back if can’t help and stop after give back take away and keep .all kids anymore in my opinion are on all forms of electronic anymore. Phone,video games,computers I’m talking living on them
Simple fix… take the controller away until a chore is done. I don’t think they should do everything, but I don’t think it’s asking too much to ask them to clean something.