How can I get my toddler to sleep in their own room?

How in the world do you get your toddler to sleep in their own bed? I made the mistake of co-sleeping, and now my baby will not stay in his room. I feel like I have tried everything. Help?

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I would try putting them in there room and either lay in the bed if it’s big enough or sit next to it until they fall asleep.

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They will when they’re ready🙃

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Would wait till they fall asleep in their own beds…

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I’m also asking this for my almost 9 year old…

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Same, mine cluster feeds off and on ,am her pacifier but they grow up so fast …enjoy the little moments ,yes its exhausting

My daughter is 6 and we had this problem. I bought her a weighted blanket and I lay with her until she falls asleep once she is asleep I move and cover her with the blanket. It has worked well so far. Just make sure if you do this you get a weighted blanket for there age. As the adult ones may be to heavy for some kids.

The only think u can do is place them in bed with toys and leave the light on I know it sound stupid but bubs will soon get comfortable and fall asleep. My daughter is 8 months old and she is sleep all the way through the night in her cot no problems. Even if u just try it throughout the day for nap time teaching bubs to self sooth is the best my girl goes right off to sleep without any problems shes been in her cot now for 3 months sometimes you just have to let them cry for 10 mins then go in and calm bubs back down dont talk just cuddle then back down repeat it’s just a waiting game really

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This weighted blanket is awesome! Our 8 year old has it and she stays in her bed with it.

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My youngest, 3, has been sleeping in her own bed for almost a year. But every so often she climbs into my bed with me still. Embrace it, before long they won’t want to cuddle with mom.

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Stay with them till they fall asleep, then scoot out.

Co sleeping is never a mistake :heart: make them their own toddler bed in your room then slowly transition to own room. Co slept with mine for two years! Doing that and they now sleep great in their own “big kid room”!

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My parents and grandparents co slept with me and I wouldn’t sleep alone until I was 13 or so… Good luck momma… I would sleep with my little ones until they are between 3-6 months (just depending on how their sleep schedule is) and then transition them into their own bed. I have found that the younger you start the easier it is. Maybe try sleeping with him in his room the first week and then after they feel safe in their room try to slip out once they are sleeping.

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We made it a big deal that he had his own big boy bed in his own big boy room. We got him a twin bed and a bed set that he was super excited about. Told him that if he stayed in his own bed all night until the sun came up then he could come snuggle with us in the morning until it was time to get up (especially on weekends when we have time to just lay in bed for no reason). Within a week he stayed in his bed since

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Honestly stay with it. The first week is the worst when my last was born our 5th baby was no way we can do this our son was 2 1/2. We would sit with him on his bed till he fell asleep then about a few months in we did the 1. Tell them no it’s bedtime, and would walk him every time not carry back into bed and would keep getting out we just kept walking him back in no talking. It worked! Took 2 days of that, if the odd time he gets up at night we still bring him back in his bed every time. Was a huge change for him, so our first thing was his own bed we wanted then got rid of the bottle, then went to a cup, and then on his own falling asleep. We just tuck him in say our goodnights and such and shut the door. Also he never went to a toddler bed he always had a single I think he couldn’t get comfy in it.

I had this problem, my daughter just hated her cot so I brought her a single bed and she’s slept in it every night since, the trick is to get them to sleep, move them to their own bed and if they wake up just lay with them until they’re asleep again. Also get a side rail so they don’t fall out

I watched a behavioral specialist once give advice to a parent going through this. It can be an exhausting battle. But you lay them in bed and tell them it’s time for them to sleep in their own bed. Anytime they get out you put them back in their bed and don’t acknowledge their behavior, stay quiet, and let them throw a fit in bed and just ignore them. Keep doing it until they go to sleep. I know a couple who were up for hours doing it but after a few days the kid got it and found out mom and dad weren’t giving in.

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I literally just achieved this. I lay my boys down and sit in their room until they fall asleep. I suggest bringing a to tablet or something with the brightness on low because it may take awhile. Once they are asleep ditch quickly lol my room is upstairs so I slept on the couch for almost a month because they get up all throughout the night and crawl into my bed and because I’m out I don’t wake up to it and they get away with it. So I slept where they wouldn’t fit and every time they got up I walked them back to bed. For the first week they threw fits but you have to wait it out. Then they started accepting being walked back to bed. And eventually stopped getting up at night. Like I said it took a month. It all stems from a need of security from you I believe and once you show them that you’ll still be there to meet their needs without sharing a bed they stop feeling the urge to.

Persistence… sleep training is sleep training regardless of the age.

Consistency is key.
Y’all are the adults, in control of the situation.
Set your boundaries and expectations and carry through with them.

Leave the tv on the pbs kids station they just don’t want to be in the dark or feel alone sometimes. And set a routine.

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Night lights and maybe stay with them until they fall asleep?
Read them a book without pictures so that they don’t try to pull it out of your hands lol
I did this with my toddler! Routine is also important but don’t be discouraged if it doesn’t work on the first or even the tenth night

Keep with it! I cant say anything to help I’m afraid as I’ve only co slept a couple times ( work done outside our flat diggers all day) my 7 month old is in his own cot in his own room, just be strong and set your own rules and keep to them, no right or wrong. Good luck

It will take a week or so of taking them back to their bed every time they come to your room at night. Take potty, give a hug, reassure them you are close by, and snuggle them back in their own bed. Dont give up, and don’t give in…

Warm bath before bedtime, have them choose a book for you to read, set up a time, same time every night if you can, have them take a blankie, or favorite stuffed animal, small rewards for sleeping in bed all night

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I tried everything under the moon and he didn’t finally stay all night until he was 7. He’s 9 and will still occasionally get up overnight and come in.

Put a night light or leave a lamp on in his room , I agree with Tamara

Kind of in the same boat.

we r the same with my 2 year old try winding down an hour before bed time lavender bath story’s and cuddles

Keep taking him back to bed

I reassure mine that he is safe and I tell him when the sun comes up you come get me in the morning. He usually sleeps until 7:30 -8:30am. If you’re already going to be up in the morning tell your toddler to come get you but not until the sun comes up. So far mine is sleeping for the most part in his own room but I do have a night light on for him as well.

I worried about this to. For the longest time my kids shared a room with my husband and I. We just bought a house and the kids got thier own room. I got then sheets of some of thier favorite things. My son needed a bigger bed he went from a toddler bed to a full bed. For the first few nights I left them sleep in the others room. But i filled their room with things they loved, got bed sets of their favorite movies and such. It helped putting up wall stickers of their favorite characters. My son has superheros on his my daughter has moana. I’m not sure what you have tried but maybe try the sheets and stuff.

I did the same thing with my youngest. At 2 years old still couldn’t get him to his own bed. Couldn’t leave the room without him crying. Needless to say he was very spoiled. One morning I gently slipped out of my house coat and left him to go make coffee. Expected to hear screaming and crying. He just slept soundly. After that I discovered I could leave him with a fuzzy clothing article and he stayed asleep. My fuzzy housecoat became his blanket and restored my sanity.

My oldest would start out in her bed. But every morning she was between my hubs and and me. One night he stayed up late reading in our bed. He said she came into our room, walked around to my side of bed, said mama. I set up, she crawled in behind me and got in middle and we went to sleep!
I stopped letting her do that, and she started wetting the bed! I would change her, and she would go get in our bed! One night, I stopped her and told her I was changing the sheets!
Changed them and put her back in HER bed! I can’t remember how long I had to do that, but she did start staying in her bed!
She is married and has 2 boys, 12 and 10!

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We put a twin mattress on the floor by our bed. Over several weeks we moved that mattress down the hall. Then onto his bed. Got special fun sheets. A flashlight. And a cuddly stuffed animal. Worked like a charm.

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I had a Dutch door for my little ones bedroom. It was perfect! He stayed in his room but I could still see in.

Take him to a book store and let him pick out his own bedtime stories. Read to him until he falls asleep. Or try laying with him in his bed until he falls asleep. Just reassure him that you are near. I never co-slept with mine but still had a problem with one of my boys. These helped. When he gets up and gets into your bed in the middle of the night just put him back in his bed. Be firm and patient.

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Ok make a bed for them next to yours. Be firm when you tell them they will sleep there. Then when they sleep there a few nights move their bed toward door then a few nights more move bed closer to door. Then just move it to their room. Always have a routine for bed times will help also

My son refused to sleep in his room for years until we moved. Now he’s fine. There was something about his room, even I couldn’t sleep in it. Good luck…

This is why from day one from bringing them home I never let them sleep with me. 1, I was afraid I would roll on top of them, and 2, my bed is my bed, not there’s. Put him in his crib, or bed and close the door and let him cry and have his tantrum. Eventually he will fall asleep.

Put the child in his bed and tell him good night. Sit in the middle of the room, Indiana style with your head down. First time he gets up, get up, put him back in bed and tell him good night. Go back to middle of room, repeat. Second time, get up and place him in his bed. Say nothing and don’t make eye contact. Go back to sitting. Repeat as necessary. Might take a night or two but it will work!

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I have no advice seeing how my son never slept in a crib! And he’s very independent & a hard worker. I’m currently co sleeping with my 18 month old grandson. I love to be close to him, even when I end up on the very edge of my bed.

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Depends on the child… my oldest co-slept. Shortly before her second birthday I showed her to her bed. Told her she was now a big girl and she is going to sleep in her big girl bed. And she did. My second was in my bed until 6 yrs old, I was single and didnt mind her being with me. My 3rd and 4th daughters are close In age. I set their toddler beds up in my master bedroom… they seldom crawled in my bed. But i would find them both in one bed… and even when moved to their own room, they slept together until ages 6 and 7. Now it’s pretty common to find a grandchild in my bed, I’m perfectly content to have them with me.

I had this problem with my youngest (4 yrs old ) nothing seemed to work, new bed comforter, new bed, she shares a room with her older sister ( 8 yrs old) I tried everything, she’d always find her way back into my bed in the middle of the night. I bought her a weighted blanket (baby shark ) and she’s been sleeping in her bed all night, it’s awesome.

put him in his own bed when he falls asleep. then start putting him in his bed at night and sit on the floor or near the door until he falls asleep. It will take time and patience but it will work!

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I’d lay her down and read her to her. I’d also play classical music in the background.

I couldn’t do it with my Grand Daughter, so, I have no clue. Nothing I did helped, Nothing, she slept with with me until she was 6. And then I started sleeping with her in her bed, mind you, she lived with me, I was raising her. To this day, she cannot sleep alone, and shes 16! Her Sister shares the room.

I rock my son til asleep then put in his bed. I have done this since birth and hes almost 3. Hes getting to where he will lay down in his bed with me in the chair beside him and go to sleep

Lock your bedroom door. He will get to the door and bang. Just ignore it. You’ll find him on the floor in front of your door asleep. It worked for me with my 3 year old.

I didn’t have a problem because I had a large snuggly dog
When they graduated from a crib to a toddler bed the dog was so happy.

Bribery. It worked for my 2.5 year old to get sleep in his bed rather than the floor.

Just enjoy that you are his safe space.

he has to learn that no means no, otherwise he’ll always get his way and you will lose control

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This is Super Nannys advice from tv

Put something scary on your bed it will keep him off

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Get a twin bed for them. I laid down with mine until they fell asleep & thenni moved to my bed.

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It’s not co-sleeping that does it… I have two children. The first I co-slept with and the second wanted NOTHING TO DO WITH CO-SLEEPING. He preferred to sleep in his crib, playpen, bassinet or whatever by himself. Then one day when he was around 2 years old… just hopped into bed with us and decided he was staying there. I got the oldest out of our bed by buying a toddler bed and putting it pretty much next to ours and slowly moved the bed closer to the door week by week. By the time it came for him to move to a twin sized bed in his own room, he was just too use to sleeping on his own bed and loved his Superman bedsheets. As for the two year old, he just sleeps with his brother now. So I am hoping when it comes time for him to get his own twin sized he’ll just want to go.

Buy a more comfortable bed. Imagine going from sleeping on a nice comfy soft bed and then boom, mom kicks you back to a hard stiff toddler bed ( obviously take into consideration the age of child, but if they’re ok cool sleeping they should be fine on a softer mattress). Also lay in their room with them until they fall asleep, if they come to your room walk them back to their room and once again lay down until they fall asleep. It’ll take some restless nights, but it’ll work.

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