How do I get over losing a best friend to another friend? We’ve completely lost all connection to each other she began getting super close and doing everything with her new friend (mind you, we were best friends for about 10 years) and now everything has changed since she met her. They are like sisters at this point they do absolutely everything together we’ve talked about how it hurts me, we’ve fought and now I’ve just completely excused myself from the friendship and haven’t spoken to her in months. She is no longer on my social media because it hurts too much to see that I have been replaced and it doesn’t affect her one bit. And to clear a few things up i am okay with her having other friends I’ve always been okay with it but when she stopped inviting me, when she stopped texting me, when she kept rubbing her new friendship in my face via social media after I kindly explained I just miss her and our friendship that’s really all it didn’t do me any good. I still miss her but I don’t see how we can fix all the hurt and I don’t know what to do. I figured she would at least message me by now since I was always the first to reach out to her it got exhausting being the friend that always went first. She hasn’t. So what now?
Welcome to adulthood. None of my long term friends are my friends anymore. People change and so do their social interactions/settings and it’s ok. It’s called growth. Nothing wrong with it. Sounds like you don’t do well when breaking routines. Find a replacement… quick
This isn’t going to be easy. This will be a loss in your life. You can do this, you can grow from this even. Go with it. Feel the pain, acknowledge it, move forward, do your own thing, stay grounded. You got this
Unfortunately your friendship is over. She is purposely hurting you. Love is kind. People who love you reach out and make time for you.
you say how you feel I’d if dicontributsted move on and be happy no one is excepted to make you happy girl go do it and live it
Really wasn’t you best friend to start with. Friends to do each other that way. Find new friends !
Be happy she showed herself to you and that you did not lose more in the process. Let her go. Find a friend that treats the friendship with the same courtesy that you do. Good luck
Exactly how it happened to me, as well. It’s a heartache that feels as heavy as losing someone to a death. I don’t think you’ll ever get over it or whatever… and neither will I, bc it fkn hurts. You expected so much more from this person, as did I. I dream about my ex best friend almost nightly and have for a long time. I guess that’s bc I miss her but I know how the story ends… it is what it is. Literally nothing you can do, but keep telling yourself, you deserve better and so did I. That’s why we have both cut ties bc we knew. The saying is “you’ll do it till you don’t” sorry for your loss. I hope one day you find a best friend who’s a best friend just like you! Stay strong
Do you have other friends you can connect and interact with? I know she was your best friend, but she has move on and don’t sounds like she care or concern about how you feel. Make new friends.
Look at it as your friendship is complete. Appreciate the good times and walk away gracefully. There is a lot missing from this story but ultimately you two grew apart. Yes it can hurt but you can’t force someone to make you a priority. People evolve every couple of years. Maybe you and her had less in common now. You cannot be territorial with people. I’ll give you an example. I look at my friendships as tiers. Top tier is my best friend, my confidant, best friend. If she is going through a transitional period and I can feel her distancing herself, I send texts, invites but distance myself as well and place her in the second tier. my 2nd tier friendships are the friends that I don’t speak to on a daily bases but go out to lunch or hang out every couple of months. My third tier friends are the ones I communicate mainly on social media. Those are the ones I’ll probably see 1 or twice a year for lunch or I bump into them at an outing and have a great time. The rest are acquaintances. My friends usually slide in and out between tier 2 and 3. They are allowed into my life when they can and if they put in the effort. If they don’t, then they must have other things going on. There should be no reason you are making a grown woman include you when you two have obviously drifted apart. This is not a relationship like a husband and wife. My best friend and I work together. She has her own group of friends that she hangs out with almost every weekend. I do not like going out. I will make an appearance here and there and we have a blast. You have to rethink the way you invest yourself into a relationship because the truth is, your feelings are for you to deal with and change, not hers.
Move on with your other friends. You will definitely get over this. Don’t think about what was. That’s your past.
You’re going to go thru the grieving stages like you do with a deceased loved one but instead it’s with a living person which is harder cause there’s always a chance you’ll bump into her. You’ll need to do the same steps as you would with the grieving process as hard as it is. Keep your mind busy. Find new friends that share the same interest and hobbies as you do and of course they won’t be able to replace her but at least you’ll have someone there. Journal out your feelings. Seek therapy if you have to. If you have a driveway or garage move your vehicle out of the way and throw some glass plates or cups on the ground (that’ll help release some of the hurt and anger from within) and just clean the mess up afterwards. Write letters to her but never send them and just burn them or tear them up.
Get a new bestie. Mine dipped out too.
A FRIEND who truly respects you would never treat you that way.
Just remember sometimes we out grow people too.
I had a best friend just like this. News flash… she stopped being my bestie. Kudos to all she did when we were friends, but the tide turned and I didn’t like the way she treated me… you have to grieve the loss of the friend you THOUGHT you had. It hurts, but at least you are out of her games.
Move on,find a new friend. Friendships change its sad I know. Don’t dwell on her,go on out there & find new friends.
I feel ya. Same thing has happened to me. It hurts and it sucks. I had to remove her from my social media as well. And I was the one who introduced them! No advice, but here if you need to talk. Hugs.
I don’t give a shit what my friends do who they hang out with if they talk to me one a week twice a week dosnt matter. I know when I see them we just pick up where we left off. Never understood people acting like they are in relationships with their friends like these people owe them anything. When you’re an adult you shouldn’t be possessive over people in your life like that. let people do what they want there’s no reason for you to he jealous you should be happy your friends having a good time.
If she can walk away like that she was never your real friend. You will find another better friend…
Let it go.
It hurts and sucks, but it is time to move on. People will come and go in life and that’s okay. Find new friends!
Just move on there’s not much you can do about it
No advice. But to say I sorry.
Adulthood. But also mature conversations help. If you are feeling so left out and it’s taking this much of your day I think therapy would be good. You may have abandonment issues ( I do)
She never was your friend,she is phony peace of s…t!
Forget her…it happens. X
Build a bridge and get over it