Since before my daughter was even born, I’ve asked people not to kiss my child and made it clear that I didn’t want people kissing her. She is almost 3, and people have run over the top of me and never respected that. Out of fear of causing family conflict and hurting feelings, I have overlooked this issue for so long, but with Covid coming to its peak in our area, I’m starting to worry more and more…and honestly, I’m just tired of people blatantly disrespecting me in my face knowing they know how I feel…how can I get the point across to family and especially in-laws that I don’t and won’t allow them to kiss her or ask for kisses? I’ve politely reminded in-person & also shared posts on FB hoping people will take the hint.
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Honestly just sounds like your gonna have to say it bluntly if their straight not listening too you! “ I understand you love my daughter but i DO NOT want you kissing her! Please respect my wishes! “
Stop being polite 
obviously that isn’t working.
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Tell them point blank If you keep kissing my kid after I said it isn’t allowed than you are not allowed to see her anymore. Some people act like you aren’t serious until you snap then they play innocent.
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Sometimes you just have to hurt some feelings and tell folks exactly what’s what…if they wanna be mad thats on them but you gotta protect you and yours.
I am just wondering why this is. A stranger I can see. Why family?
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In my opinion, at 3 it should be up to your daughter. It’s never to young to teach her she is in control of her body and it’s her choice if she wants affection or not.
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Well honestly… if you’re that worried about covid, why are you going and taking her around everyone anyway? I mean i get they should respect your wishes, but you must not be that worried about covid if you’re around them
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A kiss on the forehead. But mouth is a big no no!
If they aren’t baby sitting her, then may fewer visits
Stop letting them run you over 
“I have overlooked the issue” means that you’ve been letting them get away with behavior that you aren’t comfortable with. Unless you blatantly tell them not to kiss your child and put your foot down, then they aren’t going to take you seriously.
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I understand now with covid. But why not before? Like no type of kisses? Forehead, cheeks nothing??
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Be upfront, say she’s your daughter and you’re sick of being ignored. It’s not a joke and you really don’t want anyone kissing her. Then let them know that if anyone disobeys your wishes again you’ll cut contact with them
I once told people if you don’t listen to me and respect my parenting I will not have my children around you… It worked.
I’d be saying you either respect my decision as a parent for you to not kiss my child or you won’t be around
Step in between your child and the adult. Explain to the child (if old enough to understand) kisses causes causes germs and could make ppl sick. Teach them to say NNNOOOOOO! Don’t worry about hurt feelings. Your child comes before their butt hurt.
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Be as firm and blunt as you can be. That’s your child. Who cares if they end up getting butt hurt.
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I agree that you are being rediculous. Why are you so paranoid? You can use COVID as the excuse but this attitude started before COVID. We’re you abused? I think you need to look at your own issues!
You are the mom. STOP THEM!! STOP THEM!! STOP THEM!! THEY WILL ONLY GO AS FAR AS YOU ALLOW THEM TO!! BE A BITCH IF NEED BE, BUT STOP THEM!! Lord, some people.
your weird. unless there is something about your family members or are you talking about the virus. raising a howie mandell.
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Loud and Proud, f their feelings if they are that slow
K first of all - forget feelings. The answer is no !
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You want to teach your child that her body is her own and that others should not kiss her without her permission. Also, due to covid you want to set boundaries for her health. I know it’s hard but I would remind family and friends that this is not just about health during a pandemic but also about her consent and bodily autonomy.
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First of all your choice, your rules, do what you want set your foot down and if they don’t like it tough. Second of all and this is just me, but when did it become wrong to show affection to children? Yes I get health concerns and all that but I’m telling you from experience, teaching your children that affection is wrong and shouldn’t happen only turns them into adults that also don’t know how to show affection.
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I think it’s important to teach your daughter consent from a young age and if she likes the platonic hugs and kisses then roll with it. If not then you can keep putting your foot down. My daughter loves all the affection but my son doesnt. He often tolerates affection from family members when it makes him uncomfortable. I hate it. I remind him regularly he can say no x
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You child is so lucky to have a family who love her, family is so important to children, the more who love her the better, stop pushing people away,
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Sounds like family drama. If you don’t want family loving on your kids then don’t associate with family. If I told my mom you can’t hug and kiss my kids I’m pretty sure she’d let me have it.
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You can’t have it both ways. Either put your foot down and who ever doesn’t like it can go fuck them selves or avoid conflict and keep dealing with people kissing her. I have a daughter too and NO one Is allowed to kiss her and people have tried before I called them out on the spot and took her from them. Haven’t happened since then. From beginning i made it clear if your don’t wash your hands and put mask on you’re not holing her. Only the close close people don’t wear masks but they must wash hands and keep their face and mouth away from her.
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Id have your husband talk to his parents first then remind them if it happens again if they can’t respect your wishes for your child then they can stay away and you don’t want that but this is what you want and if they can’t respect that you’re sorry but their safety is first during COVID and flu season.
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For me I leave it up to my kids. They are 4,2 and 1 and when my mother or MIL leave they will tell the kids they are leaving if my kids go up and give them kisses and hugs ok but I don’t make my kids do it or have them be chased down. Trust me I am careful my daughter at 5 months old had RSV and pneumonia and it was horrible.
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I honestly worry about you not wanting your child to have affection. It’s very possessive. The reason I state this is because you mentioned since before she was born which means before covid so all the women backing this up because of covid need to please re read this. Is it maybe because you resent these people some how? Or maybe growing up these people didn’t give you attention? This is a REAL and heartfelt question NOT a attack. The reason I’m asking hun, is because I think there might be another problem and this is how you feel you might have control over these people not hurting you maybe? are these people respectful to you? Or in every day life de value you? Are you setting healthy boundaries and sticking to them? Or is this all because of a health issue with your child? Which by what you stated you felt this way before her born so I highly doubt this notion. I guess what I’m trying to say is, with more information I can better serve you with help and zero judgment only concern for you and the health of your little one. I hope you find the advice you need to feel good. We all deserve that. Being a mom is so hard. Especially with other people crossing lines. So if you need help feel free to message me.
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My niece can hug but kisses are reserved for parents and grandparents only even before covid
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Say it loud and proud, no hugging or kissing until covid is over and when it is over, they’re to ask your daughter’s permission for a hug or kiss. My parents were firm believers on not letting anyone family or friends hug or kiss me. I was the type of kid to say no to hugs and kisses to even my own parents lol 
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I let my children decide but I would never say to family don’t kiss my kids before they are born if my kids want to kiss family then they can and often will when we/they are leaving it’s an affectionate thing to do I still kiss my family when we are leaving
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Y’all are blowing this wayyyyyy out of context. My kids get kisses from their aunts and uncles and grandparents. And they know right from wrong. I will not deny them affection if that’s what they want. 
It’s harmless. You took a simple opinion and turned it into something perverse. And btw, their pediatrician said that they are the least likely to contract COVID. 
Give it a rest.
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With my daughter who is now 5, I have alway told/teach her that family (only family) it’s a must for cuddles (hello, goodbye), but for kisses it’s her choice, she make up her own mind, mummy always gets kisses and cuddles and she’s 50/50 with other family members sometime she does and other time shes chosen not to…
my daughters family has always respected that it’s her choice
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My kids are taught they can high 5, handshake, hug, kiss whatever THEY feel comfortable with and when family or friends disrespect MY childs boundaries I HAVE NO ISSUE with stepping in and saying back off.
I’m sorry your family isn’t as respectful of your wishes speak up mama put them inline
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I don’t understand… Why don’t you want them asking for kisses? The first year and Covid aside, because those I 100% agree with and have had similar concerns about.
But other than that, why not? Like really, I want to know. Specifically asking for kisses, forcing kisses is also a no no.
Consistency. Tell them EVERY SINGLE TIME! You teach people how to treat you, every single time you let it go or let it slide or bite your tongue or keep the peace. You may be keeping the peace around you but you are adding chaos to your soul everytime you allow someone to do something, such as not respecting your boundaries. Your daughter will learn that. She will either learn to put her foot down and say no or she will learn to let people do whatever they want to her body to keep the peace.
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if you voiced your opinion and even tried to say it in a nice way by sharing something,then i would tell them you guys aren’t going to make the family gatherings! there is no better time (literally) then right now to tell them to stop!!! we are in a pandemic! i 100% understand your feelings and it’s your child!!! if they can’t respect you or her,they don’t see you guys! for your own safety. that’s it!!
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When it comes to both my kids if I’m not okay with something it’s not done. I try new things/ways of handling things. However if I say no. It’s that simple. No.
You can’t respect me as a parent you lose access to my children.
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Don’t let them do it especially now. I mean if they don’t understand how this virus spreads they certainly should not be kissing on YOUR child
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Stop caring about their feelings dear, your kiddos health matters so much more than the potential for conflict. I made the mistake of letting people run all over me. Put a stop to it the second you see it.
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If they can’t respect your parental boundaries then they shouldn’t be around your child. Simple as that. Make that clear
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Make it a point to loudly say remember I asked no kissing we are in a pandemic and I am not joking and if they can’t follow the rules tell them they can’t be around her point blank ! Just remove yourself from the situation from happening
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Stop being polite. This is YOUR child. Sometimes you have to be the “B” in order to get your point across to some people. Just own that. It’s for your child’s health and we’ll being. I’d rather someone not like me and know that I did right for my children.
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WTH? The more love your child recieves from her grandparents the better! I think that’s really cruel! Glad you are not my DIL or daughter! 
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When you figure it out let me know. Trying to figure out the same issue. I just had my son in July and typically there shouldn’t be any kissing but especially not during covid… no one wants to listen to me no matter how many times I’ve said something. I’m to the point now where we aren’t going around anyone anymore.
Let them know that if they kiss your child you will immediately pick her up and leave. And you will do that every single time they do it.
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I never even make my kids hug/kiss another person if they don’t want to. I was always forced to hug & kiss as a child. I hated it.
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Sometimes you have to be blunt. Sharing articles or joking about it isn’t working.
Be blunt and stand firm; if you don’t then they will continue to walk over you. They don’t care about how you feel about the matter so why bother caring how they feel ?
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Stop your kids from being around them .
Quit sugar coating it to them. Say it and stick to it
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Tell them no kissing, and if they don’t listen tell they can’t see her.
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From me to ur baby no mask necessary 
Be blunt … I’ve done it with my MIL don’t kiss my kid
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Remind them before they get to you.
She’s your child and they should respect your wishes
You have me at no kissing newborns you lose me at “she is almost 3”. So is she never allowed to get kisses then. If covid is a reason, noone should be around anyone with covid. Other than that she is 3 and her immune system should be perfectly fine. Infact keeping her in a plastic bubble away form germs just weakens her immune system.
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Forget about hurting their feelings. If you don’t want anyone kissing her than that’s what needs to be respected! I don’t let anyone kiss my son and it’s on his terms if he wants to give hugs. His body, his say. Especially now days you don’t know if someone has something or is sick. Better safe than sorry.
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If your that worried about covid don’t bring her around people
Simply don’t let them in unless it’s for babysitting duties
No kissing means no kissing put your foot down and stand up for the safety of you and your child your her mother and what you say goes
Why don’t you want family to show affection to your child ? Do you hug or kiss her ? Children need that
I’m not judging, buuuut 
I am of no help because I find that extremely odd to not let Grammy and Grampy, Aunties and Uncles kiss your babe? My children are smothered in kisses from me and their dad and my family and his family. I don’t let random strangers kiss my children but I’m fairly certain it’s extremely beneficial for children to have hugs and kisses from family other than just mom. Love life and live life. Also to those saying wait until Covid is over, Covid ain’t going anywhere, it will visit us every year just like the flu because it mutates just like the flu. I’m sure you’ll all inject the vaccine but won’t let family kiss your kids
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First always stick to your guns mama. Don’t worry about hurt feelings, it’s your baby. I don’t let people kiss on mine either and 1 is old enough to say yes/no to affection and I back him up 100%. I think part of the problem is you overlooked it for so long, no bodies taking it seriously. Reestablish the rule and stick to it. Good luck.
I don’t kiss my great grand babies but I do muzzle there next I don’t allow anybody to kiss me on my face
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