Welcome to the club! I had to let that shit go years ago because i pretty much experienced the same go about you just explained and decided the stress wasn’t worth it. Men die and men leave and the system isn’t always going to get us out of problems. Sorry you’re going through this 
One call to his company commander will have you taken care of
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If you are in the income level can go file for food and cash assistance even if you dont need it once you are on state assistance they will open a CS case on him weather he gets served or not they will just send paperwork to his address and if he dont respond they will just proceed without him
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Call the base he works at. Tell them his information and ask for his Sgt major or his commanders number. I am going through something similar although not exactly. His Sgt major or commander should be able to give you information. If not ask them for the jags number. Whatever you do get a copy of the papers they are serving him and hire a private investigator to serve him. It’s not as expensive as it sounds and he is more reliable to attend court then just getting some random person.
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call the base comander they will send u his whole check
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I agree with getting ahold of his commanding officer! The army doesn’t take kindly to soldiers not taking care of their kids(or so I was told, I don’t know personally). They’d make him deal with it.
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Ur gunna NEED a lawyer. Then contact his commanding officer.
I’m not sure if RI has it but in MA If they continually refuse service you can request to serve notice by publication and publish in their local newspaper.
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Call the military get in touch with his Superior and talk with them. I had to do this. They had me get my paperwork send it to his office then they had the military police serve him if he refused he was gonna be arrested by the military police.
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Find his commander at the base he’s at!
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Apply for tanf the money part and they will go after him for child support.
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I thought when your divorcing they talk about custudy and child support in your divorce case. At least that has happen with couples I know who got divorced. But anyways. I say just let it go. And ne happy he not bugging you.
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You can file online. Im not sure what state you’re from, but i believe most of them will send you the paperwork. Itll ask you some basic knowledge on the father…fill it out to the best of your knowledge & send it back in. You’ll mostly need to know his place of employment. He will be served papers & youll both be issued a court date. I only needed to show my income, as did he. The state (Illinois) handled everything & i didn’t need to hire a lawyer.
As long as he signed the birth certificate, it should all fall together pretty easily. I highly encourage you to file tho. I struggled for years before I finally brought myself to file, and getting child support has made things financially much better. The kids deserve not to see their mother struggle.
A crime victim advocate can help. They can service by publication in the area that he is through newspapers.
He also has rights for enlisted service members. You can make this civilian or military court. I’d get a good lawyer and follow up with DEERS…benefits…legal of the military department on what your children are owed. Often members recieve what’s knows as dependence pay. Money per dependent. If you have 50/50 cant be touched. If you “legally” get sole legal and placement things can vary depending on circumstances. Another route is to call your state senators office and explained. If you know location of solider they can service him that way
Contact his company commander. Or call the JAG office on the base that he’s stationed at. Do you still know his SS number? That will be very helpful to track him down. When he finally starts to pay the military will probably garnish his paychecks. Good luck.
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Hire processor server to serve his ass
Definitely call his chain of command
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How are you sending the papers? You can use a courier. Put it in a Amazon box and ship it signature required. Or you can hire a court document server.
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If he is in the military you would go to them for support and if he doesn’t comply he will loose ranking
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Call the CO and go through them. So much faster and he looks like an a$$hole haha.
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I’d get a lawyer and revise your divorce papers.
You have to wait to go to court and then everything will kick in
Go through the military chain of command
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The military will handle it, get ahold of his command
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Call his posts I.G. They don’t play. And he gets no say.
Speak with his COC he had to pay child support
Call his unit commander and talk with him. Your ex can’t hide forever. He’s owned by the army now.
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Contact his commanding officer. They will take care of him and pay u directly. Military takes child support seriously.
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If you know what base he us stationed at you can contact the chaplain on base. Tell them what is going on. They will get in touch with his commanding officer and get the ball rolling. That’s what I had to do with my ex. He also got in deep trouble and lost a rank for behavior unbecoming of a soldier. He was doing what yours is, refusing service and refusing to care for his kids. Not only do I get child support now, the kids have the medical insurance as well.
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Call his CO at his base…that’ll get his butt moving
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If u know his name last name birthday and Social security number call the IG u can google it and straight up tell them what is going on and the will ask for prove as birth certificate of the kids with his name and what not but the will help u out without a lawyer…
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This should be easy being hes in the military. Get ahold of the right person (co) & his butt should be served real quick.
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Find out who the highest rank at the base is and send that person the papers and a note about the situation. Bet he’ll be doing push ups for quite a while
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As many said, contact his unit in the military!
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“Call the military” lol there isn’t a specific number. The base commander can’t be bothered and I would be surprised if even his OIC could be bothered with it (if you’re even able to find out who that is). The Army doesn’t care, the kids probably aren’t even registered in DEERS.
Might as well file for abandonment 
as hard as that is to face.
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Being in the military papers need to go to commanding officer and that person does not have to serve the papers
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Get in touch with the commanding officer.
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Sorry to say this but I wouldn’t give him rights he doesn’t care to help u and his mother isn’t helping you get ahold of him so why let the kids see his mother unless it’s in your custody agreement you don’t have to let her see the kids I might sound mean but Ive had some experience and I guess it depends on the state
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You can just pay a process server ! Not the police department! They are obviously not going to serve him you can also have anyone do it as long as they aren’t involved in the case
Cut off all contact with his mother until she helps you. She apparently doesn’t love her grandchildren enough
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If you know where he is stationed you can get ahold of his CO. The Army takes a pretty hard stance against shirking your parental duty. They should help you serve him. Good luck.
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Do you have a child support claim on him? If so you can revamp that into a custody case I do believe just as if you are asking for a raise in support only it’s also custody of children
I got almost $1000/month for 4 kids and that was back in 2000/1 at army rank E4 Specialist
I know this is hindsight but why did you sign divorce papers without child support?
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Just do a congressional on him. That will at least get the Army’s attention in the matter.
Call the Army, they will see to it he pays
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Family court in your state.
Send the serve papers to his CO
Contact the bases Officer in charge.
Children & Families services will help you if your children are young enough and you apply for assistance. Find a lawyer that will take the case and you make little payments and once he has to pay the attorney would get his cut 1st
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Contact the army and get them involved. In the Air Force they’re called first shirts not sure if it’s the same in the army. But you call, find out who his direct report is and get them involved. Have the military serve him. They have 0 room for this crap. And they will garnish his wages to send to you once an order is in place.
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Call jag at the the base and tell them your dilemma. He has to follow the law and will be in trouble through the military for not accepting papers. Jag will take those papers and serve him.
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You can go to your local DSS office and file for child support help. They will track him down and make him pay it.
Contact his chain of command
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The army WILL make him sign
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Yep! All of the above. Your in luck that he’s in the military. He’s must be an idiot, because he makes more with dependents.
Exactly call his chain of command
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I have been trying to get child support for 11yrs now for my youngest and I still dont get a dime. We both live in the same state of Vermont an nothing has been done nor will be done so the best thing I can do is just bite the bullet an go about my business. Maybe that is what you need to do! Just bite the bullet and let it go. Let him be happy an live his life freely without the responsibility of a child…Just do you boo an raise your child on your own. An if the grandmother doesnt want no part in her son paying for his responsibility then she doesnt need to see the child/children either
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Do u not have maintenance enforcement in the states?
Contact the military!!
Read the following. It may be of some help. 
Contact judge advocate general (Jag) and his commanding officer is what my husband said to do(retired navy/army) as they will get to the bottom of this. Tell them everything that happened and is going on . Good luck!!! Also hubby said you could contact the navy there in your state they be about get you numbers for the army in his state.
I second all the people saying contact the army. They will make sure it gets taken care of. Even if he refuses they will take it straight out of his pay.
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If you really cared about the CS and not his current situation, you would have filed for it during the divorce.
Call the commanding officer at the post he is stationed at. You can usually find them thru the chaplain of that military posy!
You ger in touch with his Commanding Officer and let him know that one of his people are shirking his responsibilities. They normally don’t bide by that and will fadt track him into being responsible.
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Go to your nearest Military Recruitment Office and see if they can help you.
I agree that the army or military will help you get child support but he still has to be served and child support has to be court ordered in order for the military to enforce payments or take it out of his paycheck
Terminate his parental rights
If in service get hold of commanding officer in charge of him. They can usually get it done
Call the IG on his base.
Contact his command.
Your last part makes you sound jealous because he’s remarried and “well off with another child.” You should have left that out because him moving on shouldn’t trigger support.
And since you didn’t sign your divorce papers with a child support order it seems that you only want it now for the wrong reasons.
If he wants nothing to do with the kids and youve let it go that long until he has another youre just as bad as he is after all it is his loss and then you chqnce putting the children in uncomfortable situations anyways. You requesting support, he is automatically granted visitation if he wants it and not many people will pay for a child they don’t see. You also chance a nasty custody battle because he has money for a lawyer and you do not. Unfortunately money controls situations like this because courts are corrupt so i would honestlu leave it alone qnd take the win that you got the babies qnd hes a p.o.s.
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The military will make this right