How can I help my friend who is going through a divorce. We don’t live that close to each other and I try to check on her as much as I can. I just don’t know what to say or do sometimes.
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Just be there for her as best you can. Listen and hold space for her until she can get on with her life. Lend her your ears for listening, your arms for hugging, and send her motivational verses to help her get by. Meet up and do something fun together.
Just make sure she knows you are there for her whenever she needs you
Sometimes there just isn’t anything you can say. Being at a distance can make things hard, the best advice I have is to just be there as a listening ear and support.
Her solicitor is suppose to take the burden off her. Hope she has a good solicitor x
Send flowers with a note " im here for you, your an amazing strong women. Love you."
Just listen . Even if they mention something a million times. It’s cause she need to work it out in there head. Just he patient. Be kind
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Sometimes people just need some sense of normalcy when they’re going through it. Not knowing the “right” thing to say is completely natural. Just tell her that. Something like “I don’t know what you need but I’m here for whatever it is” is a good way to encourage an open conversation. Let her know that you are there to talk OR NOT TALK. She will appreciate that you aren’t pretending to know what she needs and allow her to take the lead. The fact that you are asking only demonstrates that you are a good friend and she’s lucky to have you
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Send a care package. Bath stuff, a good book, some candy, a gift card, coffee or tea, etc.
If she wants to talk, then listen. But remember she is more than her divorce, she is still a person. So many people always ask about my divorce and not me and it’s frustrating that is what everyone wants to ask about.
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You are already doing what is needed… Or you can just go get her for a night out. Get drunk. Eat good food. And just be.
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