How can I make my 3-year-old feel more involved since having a baby?

What can I do with my almost 3yr old to make her feel more involved ? I just had another baby a month ago and I feel like my oldest sweet baby feels left out and it breaks my heart. I spend a lot of my time taking care of the new baby and pumping because I exclusively pump because baby won’t take to the breast, so it’s really hard for me right now, and pumping takes up so much of my time. It takes like 30mins to empty my breasts sometimes; I feel like my oldest thinks I don’t care for her the same, and I DO. She’s my princess, but I want to do more with/for her. My heart is torn, and I want to be a better momma for her because I feel like I’m not doing the best right now since this is such a big change for all of us. She doesn’t even come and cuddle with me in the mornings anymore but goes and turns on her show in the living room. (She just recently taught herself that) and it just tears me to pieces. I try to get up before her. I get up at 830, and she’s normally not up, so I make her breakfast and stuff, but today she was up when I got up, and she was watching tv, and it broke my heart that she felt the need to do that. I just want to be, there for her and be the mom she needs. I don’t know how to explain it. Just any tips or suggestions would be nice.What can I do with my almost 3yr old to make her feel more involved ? I just had another baby a month ago and I feel like my oldest sweet baby feels left out and it breaks my heart. I spend a lot of my time taking care of the new baby and pumping because I exclusively pump because baby won’t take to the breast so it’s really hard for me right now and pumping takes up so much of my time. It takes like 30mins to empty my breasts sometimes I feel like my oldest thinks I don’t care for her the same and I DO. She’s my princess but I want to do more with/for her. My heart is torn and I want to be a better momma for her because I feel like I’m not doing the best right now since this is such a big change for all of us. She doesn’t even come and cuddle with me in the mornings anymore but goes and turns on her show in the living room. (She just recently taught herself that) and it just tears me to pieces. I try to get up before her. I get up at 830 and she’s normally not up so I make her breakfast and stuff but today she was up when I got up and she was watching tv and it broke my heart that she felt the need to do that. I just want to be there for her and be the mom she needs. I don’t know how to explain. Just any tips or suggestions would be nice.
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Cuddles cuddles cuddles and chat…involve her with everything you are doing for your new baby, make her feel involved x

Newborns don’t need so much attention as a 3 yr old so pay more attention to you older children sense they tend to understand more play time and alone time with them is key

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Would formula be an option? It would give you the 30 Minutes back to spend with her and also with Bubs. Other ways is reading a book before bed. Bubs would need something to be entertained like a bottle or being in a bouncer/swing. Reading a book your attention has to be on your daughter and then if you can ask her questions about the book. Why she likes the book, what her favourite page is, what happens in the book ect.

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I’ll be watching a new born soon with an almost 3 yr.old. I was always told to spend more with the oldest. Baby doesn’t know better as long as she’s fed and diaper changed. But I don’t know! I think me showing the oldest with a doll is a good idea. Try to involve the oldest with the Baby as much as possible. Turn the TV off!

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Have her be your helper.
Fetch the diaper and wipe for changing.
Have her read to you to help pump.
Every one is big enough to do something.
:woman_facepalming: Daniel tiger
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Let her help you by getting diapers and wipes and stuff and maybe hold bottle when you are feeding

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Involve her with everything you are doin for baby, ask her to get her diaper for her or ask her to touch the bottle to see if it’s not to warm just any little thing like that even let her hold buns and feed her( fully supervised of course)Get her, her own baby with all the accessories and when it’s time to do things with real baby get her to do the same with her baby change nappy, get dressed, bath feed and bed time she will love it and be right beside you chatting away the whole time

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I have a 2 month old ans a 2 and half year old. Both girls. The older one likes to “help” me pump and she just holds her hand one the top of the pump while i use it. U can ask her to get u a napkin to wipe with, even if u dont need it. I always ask her for help, getting baby a blanket, give me the remote, put something on the table for me, and give her alot of praise after. Hugs and kisses. I will give the baby to hubby and tell my older on to come cuddle with me, even if it’s just 5 min

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Whenever you pump ask her to tell you a story? Or let her climb up on the other side and read a book? Ask for her “help” with everything she can possibly try to do. Have her help you tidy, help bring you dishes, help you fetch diapers, watch baby when you have to pee (littles love “super important” jobs)
Anything and everything that pulls her back into your world and focus even when it is really just to make her feel involved.

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Keeping trying it’s tough.
When I had my last my youngest daughter was 3.5, she regressed a lot we had to change things around to accommodate her (she goes to speech we were working on potty training) but over time she came to.
Now he is 1.5 and she is 5 she goes from loving him to tolerating him. Just make sure she still feels loved.

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Buy her a doll and all the gear to go with so she can mimic your activities when attending to the baby, make a point to tell her to go grab her baby and her babies things so you guys can both get your babies and give your babies a bath etc. get her the golden book - Baby Dear

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When i had my son my oldest was 2.5 n i had her help with everything. Had her bring me diapers and wipes. I let her wipe the babies butt if she wanted to lol she picked his outfits out. When id make bottles id shake it up then let her. Id hold bottle n let her ‘help’ hold it. Just involve her in EVERYTHING.

Dedicate some lets say 15mins morning tome just you and her, 15 afternoon and 15 evening. More minuted if you can. Also get her involved with baby eg she can hold the bottle with you while you feed the baby.

The more water you drink the faster the pumping goes. Does everyone take a nap at the same time? Baby goes in the crib & you & the older one snooze together. Plan a time every day or every week when you can spend time just with the older one so she has something to look forward to. And get her involved with everything you do, as mentioned by others.