I was worried when my 4 year old didn’t want to use the potty. I told him if he could go a week without using pull ups, and without any accidents, he’d get a big boy pool. This child never had another accident, and i was out a few hundred dollars a week later to hold up my end of the bargain. I felt manipulated😒
Not trying to be mean but if you’re screaming at her about not going in then you just scared her more. Now she might not even tell you she had a poop accident because she knows you’re going to yell at her. As much as it’s frustrating to you how do you think she feels quite honestly? The divorce was probably hard on her and due to that trauma of one parent leaving the home of course she’s going to regress. Try play therapy to help her thru her emotions and do reward system. Make it fun for her. Talk to her on her level in words she can comprehend and ask why she’s scared to go poop on the toilet and tell her it’s okay and that you’re sorry for yelling at her and you won’t get mad for any reason at all. Give her paper and ask her to draw out why. But you really need to stop yelling at her because just as frustrating it is for you it’s frustrating to her more cause shes the one who has to do the potty part and if she doesn’t she gets yelled at.
My son is 6 almost 7. He has autism and pee’s in the potty but screams and cries when I try to get him to poop in potty. His doctor put him on miralax once a day. He gets diarrhea a lot now so I lowered it to half a cap. He still thinks the toilet is going to eat him. He’s been saying this since he was 3. I thought forcing him to sit there until he pooped was the way to go. But nope he screamed and cried and so forth. He also regressed with peeing in the potty because he was scared of the toilet. Well with consistency and rewards he’s peeing in the potty again. But still wont poop. Also have you tried privacy? I have to keep the door open but sit in the hallway my back to him and read books and sing. We also count to 100 every time. Just be positive and remember screaming and yelling makes your child resent us and fear the toilet more. Also remember patience and understanding and just show love. If or when she poops even a small piece praise and reward her. With something as small as a handful of candy or a small toy. Or just let her pick a movie for you both to watch together. Also you can print or make your own reward chart and lots of stickers your child loves. And remember there will be days it doesn’t get any where because if she is constipated it hurts bad to poop. I’m an adult and I don’t like being constipated. My sons doctor said to add fiber to my son’s diet and just be ready for a big mess to clean up. I wasn’t potty trained until I was 6 because I was shamed to poop in the potty. If you force it be ready for years of dealing with fear with pooping in the toilet. Love is much more appropriate. Good luck momma just take a deep breath and remember every child is different.
It’s a medical thing , I can’t remember the word. She should outgrow it by 8 or 10 yrs old. My daughter did same thing
At 6 why not use a toilet??? Bit big for a potty
Take away pullups and diapers even at night. Going in her panties will be more uncomfortable for her. Take her a potty chair into the bathroom and have her try to go when you do even if you have to sit there for 30 minutes maybe read to her while she tries and always tell her she did a good job trying. Screaming at her won’t do any good. At night time put a reusable chuck pad(they are the washable pads some hospitals use under patients in a hospital, under her so if she has an accident at night it doesn’t get on the sheets or bed and you can throw them in the washer in the morning(you can buy them at medical supply stores or online). Keep trying and trying. Your going to screw up about not telling at her you just have to try again just like she will have accidents patience is key even if you have to physically bite your tongue and walk away until you are calmed down. Have her help clean herself up when she has accidents and have her help with her laundry and explain this is what you have to do when she doesn’t use the toilet. It will work out in the end but yelling at her for it will cause more trauma and make matters worse. Also try making a game out of using the toilet
Stop screaming stop worrying let her clean up her self she will realized it gross
Hang in there life is hard.
She isn’t using the toilet so she is probably backed up from holding it in until she finally poops.
She may be doing this due to belly issues and not a fear. At six she should be vocal and talking with her about the issue will help both of you.
Try to incorporate apple juice into her morning or night time routine it will help regulate her adding more water to the bowels making it easier to go and less painful.
My oldest didn’t have issues with potty training but she did have constipation because it hurt to go so she would hold it in. Miralax is the doctors go to which it did offer help. However adding lots of fruits grapes melons etc into snack time gave her the added water naturally to help her go more regular.
When she poops take notice does it seem so big n round it amazes you a child produced that, very stinky, the runs etc any of these are cause for concern and could be a gastro problem more so than a fear causing the regression. The timing of divorce may just be coincidence
Some really abusive mums in here
Why do most of you leave potty training so late! Come on! There are baby potties available everywhere now that are comfortable and safe for toddlers. As soon as a child can sit (at 6 months old) THAT is when potty training should start. There are potty’s that even support the baby’s back. As soon as baby wakes up, you put him on the potty for 10 to 15 minutes. Three or 4 times a day…Place the potty in front of the TV… or in the room you are in. Show baby whatever is collected and show appreciation when there’s wee wee or poo. Eventually baby will understand what’s happening. By age 2 the child should not be wearing diapers at all! They’ll be able to tell you they need to go potty and you help them. Watched my mum do this for 6 of my nieces and nephews. I did it with my son who is now 14. I last bought diapers when he was 27 months old! There’s no reason to wait till a child is 4 to start training them! None at all.