Just start doing it. Start scratching, biting and act crazy! Do everything that gets him going, kissing on the ear, sloppy toppy (lol) etc and start saying that nasty shit lol smoke some 420 or have a few glasses of wine to get rid of that shyness. And when he finally gets the hint….DONT RUN SIS
Say it during the moment when he is motivated
You have to do it at the moment you are having sex , you can tell him “ harder “ do this and that , try new position, you know you can take the initiative.
Get some sexy baby doll outfits and lingerie, and try new places, the floor , the stairs, in the car , in the bathroom etc
Ask if there’s anything he’d like to try
Just say hey let’s try this, he will probably be very pleased
Jalapeño prior to oral Sex…quite stimulating…
You won’t be able to not make him feel like crap- good luck with that though girllll.
Mock abduction and grueling marathon of animalistic debauchery combined with restraints ,blindfolds,video cameras safewords and livestock culminating in a supprisè birthday celebration with only your closest friends,family and business associates.
Yall drink a little. Let him get that “whisky d**k”. Lol. Drink enough to know/remember what your doing but all your worries and your insecurities go away. Promise…always works wonders.
If you’re watching a movie that has what you like in it tell him to do that to you lol
Illicit hallucinogens of the highest quality advanced bondage crossdressing costumes and a carefree weekend working as a $ 4.00 ho in a house of prostution catering to the recently paroled.
Tell him what you like.
Tell him to pound that sh** girl.
Amazon has games for adults as well, that can make the “room” more interesting. Who knows, he may like dirty talk too.
In the moment, ask for what you want and respond to what you like
Ride him hard and tell him to ride you like a dog
Watch something like fifty shades or 365 days on Netflix together.
Just do it. Maybe he wants that too but he respects you too much.
Samantha Owers they’ll definitely be pouncing on each other,slamming each other about and …oooops sorry wrong hole!!
It really depends how you approach the subject. Sex is an incredible thing…it can make us feel amazing, confident, pleased, vulnerable, intimate and passionate but it can also leave us feeling shame, embarrassed, brought down, not worthy. Sex is talked about like everyone is meant to just naturally be amazing because it’s natural but the reality is that rarely is anyone just good at it. Sex is good because we learn, we communicate, we research (even if its just years of masturbating to porn, we still absorb) but if we don’t talk…things can’t get better. I was married for 5yrs and not once did I orgasm…thought it was me. But when I talked to me ex husband, he got embarrassed and just didn’t care. He got his so he was happy.
My now husband…he is the WORST sex I’ve had in my life…but he asked what I liked and he learnt and now I can honestly say he is the BEST sex I’ve ever had. Try approaching the conversation and make it about you, not him…“hey, I’m just feeling like I’ve become a bit habitual when we have sex and I’d love to shake things up a little bit for you. I know that I have some fantasies and desires that I’ve always been curious to try, but is there anything different that you would like?”
It’s not telling him that he’s stale, it’s bringing the focus of you wanting to please him and you mentioned you want more which leaves an openingfor him to ask about it.
Tell him what you want
Buy a book of positions and different things to try and read it together and point out things u wanna try
Ask him if he wants to try something new and spice it things up a bit just to see how it goes. Be excited about it and talk it like it’s an exciting adventure you want to take with him and share about what you were thinking. That way maybe he will be excited to and you can ask him what he wants to try and stuff too.
Girl, you have to be blunt in order to get them to understand us, lol. Ex: breath stink? “Hey, baby, I’m bored; let’s go gargle some mouthwash.”
I basically make about $12,000-$14,000 a month 0nline. It’s enough to comfortably replace my old j0bs inc0me, especially considering I only w0rk about 10-13 hours a week from home. I was amazed how easy it was after I tried it.
You sound shy so just start by watching more explicit things on tv and just go from there wear more sexy clothes and just let him know youve been feeling a certain way and you wanna try some positions you read on the kamasutra or whatever
You don’t involve his performance. Just tell him you’d like to try new things so you guys have more options in the bedroom. That opens room for him to tell you things he’d like to try. That keeps you guys on the same level and his performance isn’t a factor.
Men don’t read minds, I just need come out and say it to mine happier to make u satisfied then if you just keep quiet. Be like I want to try… Or just say harder or faster or choke me ect.mmin moment
Can we try something new that I think we might like?
You are participating… make it that way. I’m willing to bet he’d be more excited about it than you’d be
Go to a naughty store together…pick out some lingerie…sevuo candles
…take a shower together…go out to a hotel!
Ask him if he wants to try something new next time y’all get started
Just tell him what you like, men like that. Or you take control and spice it up and he’ll catch on.
Don’t even mention it to him. Just start doing it.
Just tell him you want to try some rough sex. I’m sure he would like it
I feel the same way maybe use some sex toys together to spice things up I told my boyfriend how I feel about our sex life
“ yeah right there”
“Give it to me”
I could say more but I don’t want to sound too Rated X on here
I’m more into sensual, passionate sex……but talking dirty helps.
Prepare your freaky phrases before hand if it doesn’t come natural to you!
Take control and be honest with your husband
I mean you are half of the equation, take initiative, do some leading some suggesting and some encouraging. Men love when you tell them what you like and what you want as well and ask him the same, because maybe he’s doing what he thinks you want. Ask him if there’s anything he would like you to do that you don’t already do. People don’t read minds you have to communicate.
there are 2 options here. A) TELL HIM you’re telling tons and tons of people on facebook that aren’t close and personal with you. your husband can’t read your mind tell him this information!!! and
B( TAKE CONTROL. it takes 2 maam:wink: take over and i bet from then on he’ll get the clue
Cannabis sex is better with cannabis
I’m guessing your there during this time, make it happen. Surprises are the best.
If you don’t tell him how is he to know what you like or want he may also want you to take a running start and do a handstand is.lol.
oneextraordinarymarriage.com is an awesome podcast with tons of resources on this exact thing and how to improve all the intimacies in your marriage.
So my fiance and I dated in middle/highschool. Our sex was amazing. We separated for about 9 years. And he was the most vanilla back boy I had ever met. Bc that’s how his ex was never wanted to do anything other than your general missionary position. Anyway that got old quick bc I’m a vixen and i need things to be a little rough and wild with a splash of sweet. I am still working with him but I got onto Adam and Eve and just started purchasing new toys. (Plus over 500$ in free toys you get after your first purchase) I got toys for him toys for me. That we use on each other. New gels that do different things and some free dvds came in so we put them on sometimes. But we aren’t really watching. With all that said he is becoming way more of a “freak in the sheets” and it is satisfying rather than drull… sometimes you just gotta be the one to say something.
“Choke me” is a good way to start. Then progress from there.
Watch fifty shades of grey movie with him and say that looks like fun let’s try some of that
What wrong with you making it happen!!! Climb on top and rock his world!
you just told the world, now tell your man!
Just jump on & show him
Show him what you want!
Take Control!! Get it started. He will pick up on it IF he is into it.
He’s your husband, just tell him.
Just tell him that, tell him the sex is good but you’re craving something rougher rn.
…… I’m just gonna sit this one out
Well during it , tell him how your feeling in the moment like feels so good harder or faster in a sexy way that makes them feel good and you get what you wanted.
“F#@! Me harder daddy” problem solved.
tell him exactly what you want him to do. But you can do it while you’re making out and guide him
Tell him what you want. Men don’t read minds you can tell them in a sexy way. Text him while he’s at work and tell him how hard do you want him to pound your brains out
Start off with I want to light things up for us in the bedroom in a text then tell him how you want to be under his control. He will get the hint and love it. It’ll spice up from there.
Men love direction!!! We want to please you so tell him what you want him to do
Don’t enjoy what you have and be glad you are not alone
Just tell him.
Tell him you wanna role play.
“Hey babe, you know what might be fun to try?!”
Don’t tell us both of you will have to work that out together.
Just be like, be rough with me tonight go hard when you fuck me tell him while he’s in you to do it harder , choke me, slap me etc… be vocal.
Add red pepper paste and garlic
Send dirty texts while he’s at work explaining what you want him to do to you. Send him sexy pictures to get him ready and excited for when he gets home
he’s YOUR husband don’t be afraid to speck with him he may wanna be rough er in bed also but he might be afraid that you may not like it or find him weird, bottom line you have to communicate with him .men don’t read minds tell him I hope he rocks your world
Plan a fantasy night.
Sit and talk about fantasies you both have and how “hard” you want him to be. Lay out some…accessories (handcuffs, blindfolds, whatever), devise and discuss a safe word and let him have at. It’ll likely take a few times. Maybe spice it all up and reverse! Tie or handcuff him! Blindfold him. Tease him with whipped cream and strawberries…SHOW him how you want him to treat you (at those times) and how pleasurable it can be. Time and mood and sensory deprivation and the unexpected stoke of a finger along the inner thigh.
Ask him what he likes! Absolutely converse!
You be the one getting rougher…wear something aggressive…he will catch on unless TV or video games are more important to him…
Porn gifs help. Send him a dirty gif at work and be like I want this
Tell him go harder or faster lol simple
Tell him you would like to do some role playing and tell him you are a naughty girl who gets off on rough sex. It coukd be he is afraid he will hurt you, show him it won’t. Tell him you want to see what it is like and you will arrange a safe word so he knows to stop if you cannot handle it (more for his sense of security if he is afraid of hurting you). Or tell him you want to dominate and tell him everything you want him to do. Make it a game to start. When he sees how much it turns you on, how much you are enjoying it, etc…it may make him feel good and will make him take not to do that more often. This way you are not emasculating him and making him think he is not satisfying you and you give him the power to enjoy discovering new ways to please and you get what you want too.
My bf and I kinda wordlessly go back and forth being dom/sub not necessarily being BdSM but definitely either voice in the moment what you want or tease by dirty talking about what you want prior to actually doing anything as a form of foreplay. I get what I want every time cause he gets riled up imagining it beforehand.
Have a talk with him… He may be feeling the same way!
You expressing what u want in the bedroom shouldn’t make him feel like crap. That’s part of a healthy relationship
“Hey babe, you wanna try something different in bed tonight”?
Tell him you love making love to him. But you have some deep desires and things you want with him. That you desire him so much you want all the experience you can with him…and have a conversation about things both of you may want. You never know what he may end up wanting too. It’s not uncommon for the same activity to get boring. I hope you find that spice your looking for.
communicate; show him
When ur in the act with him spank his ass and tell him ,”giddy up potna!!” be a slu7 for him ijs
Step one: piss him off
Step two: grab his crotch
The rest will work itself out from there.
Take the lead! And as long as he isnt against it…TOYS!!