Ok y’all I need advice on a number of things.
First I have a 4 year old daughter. And I am seriously stuck on potty training her! I’ve tried everything! She will pee just fine when it’s time to go. Very few wet accidents! But for the life of me I cannot get her to poop on a potty. She will go and drop a tiny “turd” but then as soon as she’s done and has her pants up she lets the rest out and says she “doesn’t know how to poop”. My mom and I are frustrated about it. I’ve got a referral to a sensory doctor since we’re thinking it may be a sensory issue. Has anyone dealt with this? Any tips?
Second my 18 month old son hardly eats regular foods. He won’t stop the bottle either. He’ll take a bite or two, chew it up really good then he just spits it out. He does that over and over and doesn’t really swallow much food. One day he may eat a pancake, actually eating it. But the next he takes a couple bites, chews them up and spits them back out. He does this no matter what we feed him. I don’t know how to get him to actually eat consistently. And how do I get rid of the darn bottles?? He hates any sippy cups I try. He’s not a fan of learning to use straws either. What in the world can I do about these things? He has an appointment in February for his check up and I’ll bring this up then as well but I’d like tips or advice to help until then.
Lastly this is about me and my fiancé. I’m on SSI and food stamps/cash assistance. We’ve put off getting married because we can’t find any information about how it would affect both of those things. I was wondering, at least with the ebt stuff, if I take myself off and leave the kids on, would they still receive the money? With my cash assistance they do but it’s just them on the case. If I take myself off the food stamps would it be the same? I know I have to be on as their guardian but I don’t have to be a part of their case. With the SSI, what would happen if we get married? I’m almost tempted to say screw it and drop it and just get a job so we could get married. But it’s what little income I get and it helps with all the expenses especially with my kiddos. I’m just at a total loss right now. I don’t want to jeopardize our financial standing as it’s not that great right now anyway.
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Yes!! Honestly it took my little boy forever but with my second child I was told to have them set on the potty 30 minutes after meals! Also if it’s a big potty have a stepping stool for them to have their legs up high bc most the time if you’ve noticed when a child goes to the bathroom they bend down and squat!
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Sit in front of her, and take her hands in yours. Between thumb and index finger , massage and talk about other things. It worked with all three of my kids. Also, in the middle of the night, pick your child in your arms and whisper in the ear, that it’s you and I’m taking you to go potty. Then set them on the toilet and tell them it’s OK to go potty. Keep doing it, soon they will wake up on their own and go.
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Have her go to the bathroom when you go…then tell her its your turn…make it a game…WHO GOT THE BIGGEST POOPIE THE FASTEST?? THEN WHO POOPS FIRST WINS…RACE TO THE BATHROOM🙄SOON SHE WILL WIN😀
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pooping always takes longer. just make her sit longer. if she poops immediately after in her pants make her sit back down and tell her this is where the poop goes. your son if you just refuse to give a bottle he will take it and get over the cup issue. my pediatrician told me this with all my kids. if you dont give him an option to drink out of anything else he will get thirsty enough to drink from that cup. the food part is a phase just keep encouraging him to eat. when he does eat tell him how proud you are of him. i know it’s fustrating but it will work. deep breaths and patients you can do this. if no one has told you lately you are an amazing momma and you do everything you can for your kids.
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My daughter LOVES suckers so one bag of dum dums placed in a container labeled “poopie pops!” With the promise that every time she used the big girl potty to poop she got one of her choice no questions asked… took about two days then she used the potty kinda late where I wouldn’t normally give her candy but she said “I have poopie pop now mommy?” “YES BABY YOU CAN!! GOOD JOB!!” And that’s been that. Didn’t even get thru a whole bag of fun dums. Maybe about 1/2 way and she’s been accident free completely. Including having diarrhea she made it to the potty.
And she was stuck in bottles and pacis pretty hard too. Eventually we just had to stop giving them cold turkey. She fought it for about a day but when she was hungry/thirsty, she took what we gave her. Wasn’t as bad as I imagined it would be.
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And you could just go legally change your name without getting married…
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Mark Ketron, it’s a challenge. Lol
Pooping took forever for my 4 yr old. We fought with him, praised him when he did go and we bribed him. Truth be told though, he only started doing it all the time when he was ready. He just sorta woke up one day and just stayed going.
As far as the 18 month old goes, just quit giving him a bottle. As long as he knows he has bottles in the house, he knows mommy will cave and give him the bottle. So that option needs to be removed. As far as the food goes, if he’s hungry he’ll eat. He won’t starve himself.
Your situation, if you and your SO live together now and you’re following the law and including his income on all the paperwork and still get the benefits then that shouldn’t change if you get married. The only way it would change is if you aren’t including his income.
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Pooping is hard for them get understanding of in potty. My granddaughter is 4yr still has pooping accidents. They get hang of in time. Just be patient and scold when poops on panties
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Every other night take an Oz of milk out of bottle . Soon it won’t be enough to satisfy then offer him cups only get rid off all the bottles, let him see you put in the trash. Tell him they are broken if you have to. 18 months ,he is smarter than you think. He will eat when the bottle stops filling him up. Give him a cup only halfway in his meal not at first till he eats.
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Take your daughter and sit her on her potty as you go do your business. Works every time.
Stuck on the last part here…you are capable and willing to work but don’t want to give up living off of other peoples hard work…smh
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It is normal, VERY normal for this step to take longer when potty training. Don’t worry yourself too much. It is another scary/new thing for them…something we just think is so easy. Rewards help, like others have mentioned. Good luck!
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Sounds like you may be having a hard time addressing the situation as the parent. If your child isn’t swallowing food… you need to speak to a specialist but they need to be getting nutrients or you will have much bigger issues on your hands. Maybe let your 4y/o be nude when its just you and her so that there is no safety net for her to use the bathroom in her pants.
Have you tried 360 cups with your son?
1st part… My daughter was the same way she still has accidents what helps her is me sitting with her in the bathroom just softly talking to her. And alot of high fives! And “good jobs” she loves getting that “way to go”
2nd part I literally just threw the bottles away and started on nuby soft sippy cups and others like them. My daughter transferred very well to them. I plan on doing same with my son soon as he turns a yr. He’s only 10 months right now so he loves his bottle lol but I have introduced sippy cups to him. No interest yet…If ur son crys he will sooner or later get thirsty and will use the sippy cup…
3rd part …for food stamps where I am it is everyone in the house hold income no matter if your married or not. (If the kids r both of your guys) I live with my bf but only myself and daughter was on food stamps until mine and my boyfriend’s son was born. For ssi my daughter receives it due to her heart condition and if me and my bf were to get married his income would matter on how much she got.
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Well for the 18 month old you simply take the bottles away, remove every single one from the home so you cannot cave and give it back, and don’t give him an option. When he is hungry he will eat if he has no other choice. A child will not starve themselves unless there is a serious medical issue. You are the parent so you need to put your foot down.
For your daughter when she goes in her pants make her help clean it up. Have her help dump the poop out of her pants into the toilet and flush it and help scrub them. Also have her sit on the potty for longer even when she squeezes a tiny bit out.
The financial part essentially seems like you are asking about fraud. The way to keep the most free money without actually working for it or claiming his income to be honest and get only what you are entitled to… Sounds like a good way to cause yourself trouble later on. Sad that anyone would just not get married simply to get more free money…
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So even if she is in the middle of a poop grab her and put her on the potty also empty whatever piece of poop in the potty and cheer for it being in the toilet. Also, if she is constipated (my youngest had this problem,) use a glycerin suppository and it will make her instantly poop, sit her on the potty. This seams like a common problem with both boys and girls…you are halfway there 
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My daughter didn’t start until 4, I tried everything…I think one day they just realise and it will happen! Xx
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Iv heard giving them a bubble wand while sitting on the potty to blow bubble helps open the bowels up
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My youngest daughter just turned 4 in November and was the same way. But we finally told her that other girls in her Sunday school class went on the potty and it clicked with her and she hasn’t wore a pull up since. And that was probably 3 months ago. All kids are different. My oldest was 3 and a half before she was fully potty trained.
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I’m currently potty training my 2 year old and she picked up the pee within 2 days of introducing potty to her and yesterday she finally got the hang of pooping in the potty. I bought $1 toys and snacks and put them in a basket and everytime she used the potty she got a prize as a reward. Now that she got the pee down were only doing prizes for pooping it has helped a lot.
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