How can I tell my family I don't want to house hop for the holidays?

I know it’s just now Halloween but the holidays have me stressed again. We have four different houses for Christmas, and i honestly don’t want to do it all in one day. I just want to spend time with my kids, but I don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings. Thoughts on how I should approach this?

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Im always honest and tell my family that we are staying home and they are more than welcome to stop by. That I want to enjoy my lil family at home bc before you know it they will be grown and making their own traditions

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Spend Christmas day with your family. Make your own traditions, maybe boxing day have a open house and people can come and go. Do appetizers and small sandwiches

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Remind them that there’s a pandemic?

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I’m with you. You just have to be firm. I had a crazy year last year going everywhere. I told everyone I am not leaving the house and neither are the kids. I would allow my in laws to come over for dinner on thanksgiving (begrudgingly) and dessert for Christmas. It’s just too much being pregnant with 2 kids during a pandemic. Use the pandemic in your favor.

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We do our small Christmas with just us and the kid in the morning and then offer the other families to stop by throughout the day. Otherwise we tell them they can plan on us coming over a different day, but we want to stay home for our Xmas

Be honest. When my daughter was born i told everyone the same thing. The holidays are spent at HOME. Anyone that wants to come to our home is welcome

Mmm let them all know straight up this year you want to spend it with your family and they need to understand that

I’ll have a newborn for Christmas so I just told everyone, see ya thanksgiving and then we won’t see ya again till 2021 :woman_shrugging:t2:

One of the first things I learned as a married woman and mom is that you have to stand up for yourself and your own primary family. It might take some adjusting from the extended family but they’re used to you doing what’s best for them, you have to do what works for you and your kids.

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I told my bio and sisters that we can meet before ir after ,they get it . Im sure my mom will too if not sucks for her

Honestly, this year is not the year to be house hopping (in one day, or one week). I think this is the perfect example of when to use Covid as a reason (not an excuse, because it’s a legit REASON) not to run around to multiple houses. I realize this is hard for a lot of people, but cases are exploding! The more people decide to relax their safe-distancing measures, the worse off we’re all going to be come January. I would simply say you’ve decided to stay home with your immediate family because you’re tightening your “bubble” due to the pandemic.

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Just say… this is what we’re doing

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When my sister had my nephew she stopped hopping because she had parents/step parents and grandparents and sisters and it was too much. They said if you’d like to see us let us know and we can arrange for you to come over. Everyone was super understanding :woman_shrugging:

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Tell them you’re staying home. It’s your life, your kids

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Are you kidding? I just flat told my family they won’t see me until 2022!

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There is no easy way! One way or another someone is not going to be happy. I have 4 kids and it is literally exhausting not only for me and the hubby but for the kids as well to bouncing around to see everyone. The kids get bored, they barely have a chance to play with anything because they are being rushed to pack up and move along! We flat out told everyone a few years ago that we are taking on Christmas dinner for the family and anyone else who we normally would visit (who doesn’t come for family dinner, like my side of the family) were more than welcome at any time to visit

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We used to house hop for the holidays. But when we had kids i decided I didn’t want to do it any more. We simply told everyone we could come boxing day or even new years, but Christmas would be spent at home all day. All are welcome, but we don’t travel Christmas day.

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Just do it. We were nervous about it last year but some family were glad they didn’t have to stay in because of us and the rest understood. We are staying home again this Xmas x

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We started this 3 years ago when our youngest was born. We have the holidays at our house and whoever would like to come is welcome. Christmas was so stressful because our oldest would get to open her gifts and then we left for the rest of the day. There is some family we do not see on holidays but they do not stress us out anymore.

We do Christmas Eve with my family, and my husbands family doesn’t live here so we get to spend Christmas at home with just the kiddos. But I know a lot of people do Christmas Eve with extended family and the they do their own Christmas! Maybe try that? It’s early enough to suggest it still…

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Have dinner at your place and invite everybody, or spend Christmas eve one place Christmas day another, and next year hit the other two places. Just make it clear to everybody that is what you are willing to do because of splitting time being difficult.

just say no u dont want to do all that. i quit doing that once i had kids. it was more special with just my immediate fam ((hubby & kids))

If they want to see you tell them to come over to your house. Be straightforward that you want to stay home with your kids and take it easy not jump from place to place.

Last year we had the same thoughts and we decided to stay home for Christmas Day with no visitors - we did all our visiting Xmas eve and Boxing Day and it was great we are doing it again this year
Just tell them and be honest if they don’t like it it’s tough x

I finally told my family that we decided to start building our own traditions and bond with our children rather than make trips here and there. Told them what days we were available but that Christmas Eve and Christmas were going to be for our family. It went over okay. Everyone needs to take time to build those memories and traditions and bonding with their spouses and children because life is short and they grow up fast.

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Christmas is all about your children enjoy them while you. can x

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Stay home mail the gifts facetime.

I would just tell them ury ou are staying home for christmas so the kids can enjoy their new toys and relax, visit those houses before or after christmas day

Use your head there’s a pandemic going on don’t go house hopping

Were just scheduling out time with everyone in the family through dec. n I’m also planning on not participating in certain people’s activities due to personal reasons

That’s way no fights no bs n were spending Christmas just the 3 of us.

Blame it on covid restrictions! Oh I’d so LOVE to but can’t this year bc of covid! We have to follow the cdc guidlines, have to set a good example for our children. Hope you all have fun and send us pictures!! :joy::joy:

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After I had my son i told my family if they wanted to see me they had to come to my house. And so they did. So I always made the holiday meals.

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Every since my kiddos were born I said Christmas day was for us and us only. I think once we went and saw my dad or something cause of crazy schedules. It is nice and so relaxing. :grin:

My family growing up is really huge. We’d go to my great grandmother’s during the day on Christmas Eve, and then my other grandparents that night, and then everyone can wake up at their own house with their kids and spend the morning privately , and then everyone would meet back up at another grandparents house and have Christmas dinner and more gifts then. We split it up

Make it about your kids invite everyone to come to you different times of the day and if they can’t they can’t.

Covid. You are going to spend Christmas at home, no visits, no visitors.

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Invite them to your place . Or just tell them you want to stat home this year.

Don’t do it then life is too short

Invite them all over to your house

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